# At what moment did you grow up?

By [好样的](https://paragraph.com/@0x49301a4fbce4e2a9c75d446664fcb0e811b89223) · 2022-02-26

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When my best friend was just born, I went to see her. Her husband was busy, either coaxing the children or serving tea and water. Taking advantage of her husband's carelessness to hold the child out, she stabbed me: "what's the matter? It seems that you are absent-minded today." I was stunned and replied, "I can't say it, so I feel... Your husband is a little strange. I can't say how strange..." Her best friend and her husband were classmates in college. In order to get angry with her ex boyfriend, she deliberately chose the most honest and unlikely person in the class to play with him. I didn't think so. I ordered tofu in brine, and one thing fell to one thing. Finally, it was the graduation certificate of the left hand and the marriage certificate of the right hand. From an unintentional game, there was a big play of unmarried pregnancy after getting on the ship and buying tickets. Once the three-month danger period is over, it is followed by the wedding. At the wedding scene, my best friend's mother took us and poured out bitter water: "both of them are still young children. Now they even have to take young children. I think what they should do. The work has not been decided yet, and father-in-law and mother-in-law are also not in charge. How can I take children? Even she grew up with a nanny..." Several of our good friends looked at the groom who had just walked out of the campus and had a green face. They could only sigh after him. "Do you feel grown up?" My best friend winked mischievously at me. "Really!" After only half a year, the man is still the same person, but he looks different: his voice is low, his walking is slow, his posture is strong, and the boy's green and astringent is completely faded between his hands and feet, like pebbles in the sun after ebb tide, warm and appropriate. My best friend smiled sweetly, "I was very disappointed with him when I just got married. I felt that I was looking for a husband. It was obvious that I had a son. He didn't work in a methodical way and didn't have a sense of human sophistication. It was said that he was still angry and played games all night at the weekend. The baby was about to be born. He was still a temporary worker in the unit, and didn't want to have a good relationship with his superiors and become a full-time worker as soon as possible. Later, I didn't have the energy to care about him. That's it. They all say men are childish. Who knows, suddenly a person has changed, the game has stopped playing, and the books compiled for the examination have begun to read. A while ago, he just turned positive, and he knows the importance of talking to his parents. It's better for me than college. I was curious and asked him how he suddenly became so good. After questioning for a long time, he refused to say anything. Later, I pretended to be angry, and he told me that the moment he held the bloody baby in the delivery room, it seemed as if a burden fell on his shoulder. He couldn't help bending down. When he straightened up again, he felt that he had grown up all at once, just like waking up from a dream. " "So people grow up in an instant." My best friend stretched out and concluded with a smile. One year after the winter vacation, my college classmate Xiao a came back and looked like a different person. In the past, she was a typical "Starlight family". She spent all her monthly living expenses in the first week. In the next few weeks, she began to endure hunger and satiety. She is also a typical night owl. Every night she pursues dramas, plays games and reads novels until late at night. She wakes up and continues. We never know when she went to bed or when she woke up. Anyway, we formed the habit of taking turns to bring her a takeout after lunch every day. On the first day of school, when we woke up one after another and were struggling with the quilt, little a broke in, which was more sobering than the biting cold wind. "Come on, big slackers, have breakfast!" We stared at each other for a long time. We didn't return to our senses until breakfast was finished. We still thought it was a dream. I don't know. It's just the beginning. Then little a surprised us again and again: she not only goes to bed early and gets up early, has a regular work and rest, but also sits in the front row in every class, listens carefully and takes notes, and doesn't spend money recklessly. On women's day and father's day, she also shows off the big gifts she saved money to buy for her parents. Finally, under our "coercion and inducement", little a sighed: "let me tell you a story that is not a story..." During the winter vacation, little a went out with his mother to buy new year goods. As the new year approaches, the streets are busier than before. Xiao a's family is in a new third tier city. Many transportation facilities are not perfect, and many intersections don't even have traffic lights. I didn't pay much attention to it a few years ago. In recent years, the economy has developed rapidly, and more and more people buy cars. For a time, there are heavy traffic and people and cars competing for roads. Little a, as always, rushed forward heartlessly until... He met a touch of roughness on the back of his hand and pulled her with both hands. Looking back, my mother smiled: "there are many cars, I'm afraid." "Yes." Little a turned his head, pretended not to care, took his mother's hand and walked carefully through the intersection with tears in his eyes. "Across the street, I finally resisted the urge to cry and shed tears, and the front became clearer than ever. I felt that I had grown up all at once, and it was time to be sensible. I couldn't muddle along like this." Little a smiled shyly, as if the spring breeze was blowing and the flowers were like brocade. In the summer vacation of my sophomore year, I didn't go home because I was too hot. I stayed in the dormitory all day, turned on the air conditioner, chased American dramas and ate takeout. My life was not pleasant. Suddenly one day, he received a call from his father. He hesitated for a long time on the other end of the phone and said: "... Your mother and I are sorry for you. The factory at home collapsed. Do you think you can apply for a financial aid from the school teacher to pay the tuition. Ask the students to borrow the living expenses for a week first, and we'll call you when we get together..." "..." I was stunned for a while before I realized what he said, "Hey, Dad, what do I think is the matter? I'll pay for my tuition and living expenses after I'm 18 abroad..." I jokingly amused my father, hung up the phone happily, squatted down all of a sudden, and a round tear "pa!" Hit the ground. After squatting for a while, tears never came down. I quickly contacted the counselor about applying for financial aid, contacted several part-time students, helped recommend part-time jobs, planned the balance of bank card and stood up. A gust of wind blew suddenly. At that moment, I felt my back cold, empty and helpless, so I had to straighten my waist. Next, I worked frantically and lived frugally. Having never worried about money since I was a child, I finally realized the feeling of breaking a penny into two flowers. The most unforgettable thing is that the temporary salary is still a week away, and I have less than 50 yuan left. Apart from the fare from work, I can only eat the cheapest steamed stuffed buns for three meals a day. Later, I, who was never picky about food, had the least favorite food - steamed stuffed bun. Later, on my parents' birthday, I gave them a red envelope of 1000 yuan each. Later, he never asked his parents for a penny and assumed nearly one-third of the family's debt. I always remember the moment I stood up, like a montage in the movie. In the previous frame, a little girl squatted, but in the next frame, she was a quiet adult. Grow up, often in an instant. Because of helplessness, because of responsibility, because of love

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