# People who can't control their emotions don't deserve a good life

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**Published on:** 2022-04-21
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If you can't manage your emotions well, you are always angry and impulsive, hurting others and yourself The murder case in Wuchang railway station a few days ago triggered a heated discussion on the Internet. After eating noodles in a noodle shop near the station, a young man waved a knife to each other because the boss slaughtered and insulted the guests. The bloody picture was shocking. If this knife goes down, it will kill two lives and two families. For this little anger and grievance, do you hesitate to fish to death and break the net? My cousin ah Hua went to a big city where she didn't know her family well when she changed jobs a few years ago. I can't find a job in a short time. I don't have any savings in my hand. I'm sorry to open my mouth with my family. I can only cook cakes and boiled water every day. He later told me that one day he was so hungry that he wandered like a ghost in the street and hit a bicycle in the bicycle lane. The young man on the bicycle got off and said something about him. He didn't look at the road when walking. His hunger, anger and grievance all broke out. At that moment, he wanted to find a kitchen knife and chop the man into meat immediately. He said to the owner, you wait and I'll kill you right away. When he rushed to the nearby breakfast shop, he saw the quarreling boss grabbed him and said, "young man, it's not difficult for us to close the seven foot man. Come to uncle and invite you to have porridge and meat." The boss filled him with a bowl of white porridge and a plate of sauce beef. Ah Hua said that after the steaming meal, the beast like anger in his heart disappeared. He apologized with the car owner and walked slowly back to his rental house. The boss may never know that he saved two families. Everyone has a beast in his heart. Love and tolerance are its cage, and anger and paranoia are the only key. Many drivers have "road rage", that is, when they are a little unhappy with other cars, they get angry and want to kill each other. The car in front started slowly, honked desperately, others changed lanes irregularly, and the turning distance was not enough. They opened the window and scolded others. In fact, how big a thing is this? If you allow yourself to be emotionally unstable and bump into your head, you will be relieved of your anger, but if you scratch the insurance and confirm the responsibility, which should not delay time; In case of a serious car accident, he goes to the hospital, and then in case, his life will be lost. If you loosen the accelerator for a few seconds, smart people will settle this account. As the old saying goes, "speak slowly and be angry slowly". If you are slaughtered, you won't come to this store next time. Call the Administration for Industry and commerce when you have time; If the road is jammed, slow down and give way. In case there is something urgent, think about the wife and children in the car; In business, harmony makes money. People just look at it and don't give it a good face. Don't let your emotions get out of control and become monsters that bite people everywhere. Build an iron wall with love and tolerance, so that the beasts in our hearts can stop fighting. If there are fewer disputes, there will be more smiles and happiness.If you don't manage your emotions, your EQ will become lower and hurt others Xiaomei is an old employee of the company, but she always stands still in the most grass-roots position. The little sisters who enter the company together are either promoted and raised, or transferred to a better city. She is straightforward and careless. The reason why she has never been promoted is that she often can't manage her emotions well. She works on her own will. She is unhappy and can't make others happy. In this way, she offended many people. Once, the company received a customer complaint, and the leader asked her to deal with it. If it was handled well, he intended to promote her. As a result, because the customer complained a few more words, she felt very annoyed and blurted out: "Why are you so unreasonable? Our company will compensate you and annoy me. It's no use complaining with me!" With that, she actually hung up the customer's phone directly. That afternoon, the customer angrily came to their company and asked to see the general manager complain about Xiaomei. His colleagues also talked about it one after another. They felt that Xiaomei spoke regardless of occasions, did things but had a brain, and her EQ was too low. In this way, Xiaomei's another promotion opportunity is in the soup. Psychologists have found that the oldest limbic system in the human brain is in charge of emotion, while the latest evolved cerebral cortex is in charge of cognition. After anything happens, the limbic system will produce emotional reactions for the first time, such as fear, anger and joy. After about 6 seconds, the cerebral cortex can make cognitive processing. In other words, everyone will have a variety of emotions, but smart people with high EQ will better manage bad emotions and vent them appropriately. Therefore, no matter what happens, you must control your impulse, take a deep breath for 6 seconds, and then choose the countermeasures. You will often get a more rational and correct decision. The so-called "a good word is warm in winter, and a bad word hurts people in June". If you allow yourself to speak fast and spread your anger on others, you will only be impulsive and act recklessly. Don't make decisions when you are impulsive, and don't promise when you are surprised. In the workplace, in life, we think carefully about every sentence and weigh every behavior carefully. We will reduce many mistakes and regrets, be more trustworthy and make more friends.No one likes the negative energy of anxiety and pessimism Yueyue used to be in the same office with me. She always looked worried and sad. The first thing to get up early every day was to open the computer and check her email. She mocked herself as a patient with "mail anxiety disorder". Because whenever she sees "unread e-mails", she will rush to eliminate them in an instant. Even subscription e-mails, spam and advertising e-mails will be checked from time to time. If she doesn't do so, she will feel that the work arranged by the leader has not been completed, and she must have made some major mistakes. She told me that she was too tired to work every day and the competition was too fierce. She felt that she couldn't do anything well. When she was in a hurry, she couldn't do it well. She was depressed every day. Yueyue once had many friends. They traveled everywhere together, but as Yueyue's work pressure became heavier and heavier and she became more and more anxious, her friends rarely contacted her again. Yueyue admitted that it was because she always had a bitter face when chatting. After a few words, she began to complain that she couldn't finish her work. Modern society is not only the workplace, but also competition everywhere. In this state of pushing up and down, it is easy to feel dissatisfied with yourself, nervous, and then cause anxiety. This anxiety can give people motivation and improve efficiency, but if you fall into this anxiety and pessimism for a long time and feel that "I can't", "I can't finish the task", "what should I do? I'm finished", you will be blinded, delay your normal work and life, and completely lose yourself in the abyss. In the workplace, leaders will not hand over important work to people filled with pessimism; In life, you are always full of tension and anxiety, and no one is willing to get along with you. People always like to deal with spring breeze, because it's a good attitude to deal with people like sunshine.Take care of your emotions and you will gain the initiative in life People who like to play billiards should know that Louis fox, who once scolded the colorful stadium, has won many world championships, but the last game of his life was lost because of a fly, as well as his own life. That was in 1965. Louis's score was far ahead of his opponent. As long as he played steadily and scored a few more points, he could pocket the championship trophy again. However, just as he was ready to go all out to win the game, an episode happened and a fly landed on the cue ball. Louis didn't care. He waved away the flies and leaned down to hit the ball. But in a few seconds, the hateful fly fell back. In this way, Louis finally lost his calmness. He no longer used his hand, but hit the fly with a club. As a result, the club hit the mother ball and violated the rules. In the billiards game, two players played alternately. When one side made a mistake, the other side could come on stage. Louis couldn't hit the ball again this time and had to go back to his seat and wait. John Dirui, a competitor who thought he had lost the game, firmly grasped this opportunity. He not only won this game, but also surpassed the score one after another. He never gave Louis a chance to make a startling reversal. Louis left the game in frustration and his body was found in the river the next morning. He threw himself into a river. A little fly defeated a world champion who attacked the city and occupied the land. It just lost a world champion, but directly chose to give up its life. It is not only lamentable, but also shocking and thought-provoking. In the face of all kinds of emotions in our life, we should learn to manage them, dominate them and not be slaves to them: Manage bad emotions and transfer them skillfully. Find an outlet for your bad emotions, and try to take more exercise or cultivate hobbies to resolve your bad emotions; When angry, slowly count down from ten to one and take a deep breath. Keep your voice and speed steady; Write your dissatisfaction on paper and pour out your bitterness to your confidants and girlfriends. Then tell yourself that everything is over and it's time to concentrate on your work, then everything will be fine. Keep a good mood and have a positive attitude. Give your heart a bath. If you don't like people and things you don't like, just go through them. Don't get angry and ask for trouble; Open your eyes, see what is stronger than yourself, move forward in a direction, see what is weaker than yourself, and know contentment in your heart; Life is not panic, everything is calm, think about the benefits, and tell yourself that everything is OK.

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