# Bad luck, because you slept with the wrong person

By [不就是感冒](https://paragraph.com/@0xb7b9f924bdd958642fa1c058b4441c33cb9403e0) · 2022-06-06

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There are many factors of fate, but what is the key to the first place? You may not guess. The answer is: spouse, the person you often sleep with. Most people have a bad fate because they find someone who can destroy them. One of the most important reasons why Wu Dalang failed to open the Shaobing store to the Song Dynasty chain is that panjinlian brought him destruction. Similarly, half of those who have a good fate are those who find someone who will inspire them. The person next to you has a crucial impact on your destiny, because more than 50% of your achievements are in the hands of the people who sleep beside you. Even if he or she does nothing, he or she can "hypnotize" you. The people who sleep next to you are either here to destroy you or your motivators. From day to night, from night to day, day after day, year after year, his or her expectations and words to you are deeply imprinted in your subconscious, and ultimately determine the success or failure of your life! The opinions of others will affect our perception of ourselves. The people who have the greatest influence on us are parents in the first half of their lives and people beside us in the second half of their lives. The people beside us will decide our destiny, but we choose the people beside us. Your destiny depends on the people who sleep beside you. They either help you build better relationships or destroy your relationships; It's not to tell you: "you are the best, you must be able to fulfill your dream." Is to tell you: "you do not deserve to have such a dream." "I'm married and have children, but my other half is still working tirelessly to destroy people. What should I do? Is it difficult to find another one?" Please understand that when your spouse chose to marry you and grow old together, it must be because you are excellent in his or her mind. Otherwise, if he or she knows you are bad, how can he or she decide to live with you forever? Similarly, when you decide to marry him or her, you must feel that he or she is excellent, that you can give full play to your abilities and that it can help you succeed. Otherwise, how can you decide to spend your life with him or her? So why have you changed since you were able to motivate each other? First of all, because you have changed, so he (she) has also changed! What should I do? First change yourself to become a positive person who appreciates and appreciates your spouse. Your tolerance and gratitude will make your spouse become the same person as you. In short, the people who sleep beside you are the first key to your destiny. You must let him or her become your help rather than resistance. Please remember: she (he) will either help you soar or knock you down. You are the one who decides what your spouse will do! In our life, we will meet three people who can change our destiny: The first person is a teacher. How excellent a person is, his tutor is very important; The second person is a companion. What kind of road a person takes, how far he can go, and who he walks with are very important; The third person is himself. What is a person's destiny? Confucius said: if you are kind to others, you will be rewarded. That is to do more good deeds, such as helping, encouraging, praising, protecting animals and plants, voluntary blood donation, publicizing good deeds, helping the poor, helping out of school people, and so on. As long as you keep doing it, your blessings will get bigger and bigger. Fate will get better and better.

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*Originally published on [不就是感冒](https://paragraph.com/@0xb7b9f924bdd958642fa1c058b4441c33cb9403e0/bad-luck-because-you-slept-with-the-wrong-person)*
