# Those who are willing to criticize you are the noble people in your life

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**Published on:** 2022-05-06
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When you are criticized, you will feel unhappy. When a person criticizes another person, he also knows that the other person will be unhappy. Therefore, few people criticize you, and you rarely talk about others directly. The end result is that you don't know what your problems are, and then you don't make progress. If you are an ordinary person, you will offend him by criticizing him, so you can't offend the other party by criticizing the other party. People with a strong relationship will also be offended if they don't understand when they are criticized. Only when you think the other party is a person who has an iron relationship and understands, can you directly criticize the other party. So the person who criticizes you is a noble person in your life! When I was young, I was arrogant and thought I was the best person in the world. In the face of other people's criticism, I often thought it was provocation, finding fault, making trouble without reason, and rarely looked at my mistakes quietly. In retrospect, who is the most critical person from small to large? It's our parents. Which parents don't want their children to be successful? Who criticized you most at school? It's our teacher. Which teacher doesn't want his students to be promising in the future? Similarly, those who criticize you today are also for your own good. They think you are still a talent! Everyone likes to listen to the words of affirmation and praise, so there is the ancient motto of "loyal words against ears are conducive to action". Only those who are responsible for you will criticize you; People who think you are "teachable" will criticize you, those who treat you sincerely will criticize you, and those who are willing to worry about teaching you and helping you make progress will criticize you... Good medicine tastes bitter. It's not easy to really hear others say something to you these days, and others criticize you for your growth and improvement! Therefore, once someone criticizes you, you must cherish it. When you refuse, after one, two or three times, no one will criticize you. That's why when they finally hit the wall, many people asked, "why didn't anyone tell me earlier?" In fact, many of our relatives and friends reminded us at the beginning. At that time, maybe they thought to themselves: "what's the cost? It seems that no one knows such a simple truth!" At that time, perhaps he had "closed" himself up and didn't know what was called "arrogance". Criticism should have the following meanings: First, criticism, judgment and evaluation, pointing out advantages and disadvantages and evaluating good and bad; Second, it specifically refers to putting forward opinions on shortcomings and mistakes. In the face of criticism, we should be happy, but why do some people resist criticism? There are no more than the following two points: First, I feel that I have done it completely right. In fact, there is no perfect person. Even if it's a small thing, you do it perfectly, but it can't be the most perfect. Understand that there is no best, only better; Moreover, good ideas are often hidden in objections. Therefore, we should be tolerant in the face of criticism. Even if we have done well, we should listen to the opinions of many parties—— "If you listen at the same time, you will be clear" Second, fear of losing face. Some people think that being criticized is a disgrace and hurts self-esteem! I think this is a misunderstanding! In fact, accepting or not accepting criticism from others has nothing to do with your self-esteem; If you really want to be strong and have self-esteem, you can receive voices from many parties. You can not only understand and analyze other angles of things, but also broaden your knowledge and enhance your judgment! If you don't correct small mistakes, it's a shame to turn small things into big mistakes. Anyone will make mistakes, and no one has ever made mistakes. It's a good thing for someone to criticize and correct you. What is your attitude towards those who criticize and accuse you? Anger? Disdain? Or retort? Please don't do that! Because the person who can point out your mistakes should be most grateful, because he provides you with a valuable opportunity to get rid of your shortcomings and improve yourself. Facing criticism directly gives you a chance to admit your failure. Be serious and sincere, that is, prove through language and enthusiasm that you have taken the best way you think. Please don't defend yourself! Those who criticize you are those who pay attention to you. When you hear criticism, you can do two things: First, try your best to do what you should do and prove that you are right with facts, so it doesn't matter what others say. If things are really not done well, it is useless to spend 10 times of time and strength to defend yourself; The second is to talk to your critics and listen to their opinions. Maybe you will know where you are wrong. Criticized: The first is an expression of being loved, which shows that you are still popular. If something goes wrong, so many people care about you. Secondly, you can make yourself less detours, quickly get out of the shadow of life or work, and easily move towards a normal life. Thirdly, it can be regarded as a kind of treatment. The more criticism you receive, the fewer mistakes you make, the faster progress you will make and the faster growth you will make. At this point, you can say "thank you" to those who want to criticize you. The person who can bluntly point out your shortcomings is your great noble! The person who flatters you all day and often blows you to heaven is often the one who is really watching your jokes. Be aware of yourself and don't dance with it, otherwise you will fall miserably! Strict is love, loose is harm. Criticism is a kind of strictness. Therefore, criticism itself is a kind of love, but a kind of high-level love. Criticism and opinion is a kind of "loyal advice against the ear". To really "pull down the face" to criticize a person and a thing is to trust and expect the criticized person, and also show the excellent quality of the critic's open mind, openness and sincerity. Such a person is a good teacher and friend in our life. Criticism is sincere love, Criticism is valuable support, Criticism is a noble reward, Criticism is a precious gift!

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