# Those who smile and lower their heads are smart people

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**Published on:** 2022-04-20
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## Content

01 In line to buy tickets at the cinema, in front of me was a pair of young lovers. Just after they lined up, a mother led the child to rush over and directly rushed to the ticket lady and said: Our has already started. Let's issue tickets for us first. The girl in front of me is not happy. Would you please line up? The mother ignored it completely and handed the money directly to the ticket lady: the child is in a hurry. Please give it to us first. The girl has a fire. Reach out to block it. Seeing that there was going to be trouble, the young man next to him gently pulled the girl and said with a smile: let her. Then she motioned the ticket lady to issue tickets for the mother and son first. The girl is angry. The young man smiled and patted her on the shoulder: it doesn't matter, we're not in a hurry. I suddenly thought the young man was so handsome. ——Sometimes, if you have to be serious with someone you hate, you can win by reasoning and fighting, but if you win a small thing, you lose time and mood, which is not worth it. Why don't you lower your head and let her pass. What's important is that when you lower your head, you don't twist your heart, and you're happy to do what you should do. This is a realm. 02 One year, a friend Dani raised money to build a house. After the house was built, everyone divided the house by lot. Dani was lucky and caught the third floor. Zhengmei, the leader came to her and said that an old sister of the unit caught the fifth floor and felt that she had to change when she was old. Would you like to change with her? Dani said that my child was only three years old and it was hard to climb the fifth floor. The leader was very embarrassed. He said that the eldest sister was very difficult and called every day. The key is that her brother-in-law is the direct leader of the company. It's not easy to offend. Dani thought about it and said change it. The leader is a little sorry and says he wronged you. Dani said it's all right. She should draw lots for the fifth floor, and she can climb two floors more every day to lose weight. It's not a matter for her child to climb the fifth floor after two years of age. That's it. After changing Dani, she didn't feel wronged. She was still happy with the old sister and got on well with her. Elder sister was very moved and told everyone that Dani was good. Her leadership also appreciated. Later, there was a place to study in the UK, which was sent to Dani without saying a word - there may be other elements in it, but the house change event contributed a lot. In fact, people are not sages. For Dani, the interests she gets should be handed over to others. She can't do it without a little mind and pattern. And it's not easy for me to think about it after I go out without complaining. But when she did, good things followed. Life is a big game of chess. If you detour here, you may accumulate strength there. If you should give way, you won't lose - in the words of Buddhism, blessing comes later. Those who can smile and lower their heads in the face of interests or right and wrong will surely live a more comfortable life. 03 In the past, we always stressed that "even with tears, we should hold our heads high". Life really needs this unyielding strength. But the head should be held high and lower. Smiling and lowering your head is also a beautiful gesture. Many times, we actually need to have this attitude. In the face of non principled things, bow your head, do not compete, do not be paranoid, give way, and make some compromises that do not hurt your muscles and bones. This is a rational control over the objective reality. After giving in, I don't feel twisted and smiled calmly. When things haven't happened, I don't hold back and lose balance, and my heart is still peaceful. This is an effective maintenance of internal spiritual peace in sensibility. In life, there are many people who can lower their heads, but most of them lower their heads with resentment. They are unhappy in every way. They secretly hate others for being unreasonable and blame themselves for being cowardly. Thinking that I remember this, I will find it back one day. It's not good. Think about how stupid you are to give others convenience and let others go, but you can't live with yourself and won't let yourself go. Subjectively, it's ok if you don't want to fight or objectively have to give in. If compromise is a better way to deal with it, let's take one step. If in fact they have given way, the heart should naturally put it down. Entanglement and resentment will only increase troubles. May you learn to smile and lower your head.

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