# You just take charge of the wonderful, God has his own arrangement

By [先跑跑看](https://paragraph.com/@0xc77b1448d157f25bf9699bee477cdf16cf9744b3) · 2022-03-01

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A few days ago, seeing the 20th Anniversary Party of college graduation put on the agenda, I knew I couldn't hide it any more, so I confessed to my classmates that I had long been divorced at an appropriate time. My classmates were in an uproar. I thought that at the beginning, I gave up the provincial capital and followed my college classmates back to his small town in Northern Hunan. I was really surprised, and I was once regarded as a romantic couple. Unexpectedly, in just 20 years, it has long been the separation of labor and Yan, and the kindness is no longer. These days, when counting the list of classmate gatherings, I called Yu's father and asked him if he would attend. He first refused, then hesitated. I smiled: "it doesn't matter to me whether you participate or not. I won't comment on the past." Today, I received a message from my roommate asking if Yufu didn't attend the classmate party because he didn't dare to come, for fear that the students would scold him? Another classmate called me and mostly hoped that he could participate in the activities together. I explain one by one, explain and comfort people. Some time ago, the netizen "Ju Chunlei" broke the news that Yao Chen cheated first in her marriage, which led to her divorce from Ling Xiaosu. Yao Chen then made a voice and forwarded the microblog sent by Ling Xiaosu to ge SANGHUA in 2009, with an attached article: "full of absurdity, things are right and people are wrong". It has attracted heated discussion from netizens. All kinds of opinions are rampant. At this time, the world becomes very noisy. Black and white cannot be distinguished, and beauty and ugliness cannot be seen clearly. Some netizens questioned why Yao Chen did not announce to court, so they judged that the disclosure might be true. This reminds me of many dusty past events. Many times, when things happen and pass, forget it. Those who are entangled in the past must be the weak in life, just like Ling. After Yao Chen left him, his career of getting married and having children was booming. He never mentioned his past life, nor attacked his ex husband and his junior three who had already been seated. On the contrary, Ling and his stepwife Tang hyped the past from time to time, which made people despise. Not to mention who is right and who is wrong, you can see everything at a glance. I have always believed that there is no winner in a failed marriage. Similarly, a broken marriage is not one's fault. Both men and women didn't want to divorce when TA planned to enter into marriage. The love that began in the university is always simple and beautiful. We should be grateful and cherish if we can get married. However, it is true that things are right and people are wrong. Some people always lose their way on the long road of life and forget their original intention. Finally, they can only go their separate ways and go their own way. In the face of the righteous indignation of my roommates, I comfort them that they don't have to investigate the past. This is my heart. Just like if I were Yao Chen, I wouldn't fight a long-lasting and high-profile lawsuit because of an article by the informant, put my past and present, my family, relatives, ex husbands and love enemies in the spotlight, and let many kind or malicious eye comments to help a group of garbage people win attention and attention. I will just turn a deaf ear and continue to live my own life. I am only responsible for my own excellence, and the rest of the people and things are left to God. I once heard a true story about a 40 year old woman named plum. She was intellectual, elegant, exquisite and studious, but she was still robbed of her husband as a leading cadre by a young woman. Plum got divorced cleanly, cheated on her ex husband and didn't say a "no" behind her back; The former husband held a wedding to marry the new couple, and she also advised her friends to attend. When more time comes out, plum goes to practice yoga, learn painting, and make-up is more exquisite. After the divorce, she was stunned and didn't show the scene of failure. Many friends are worried about her future. Can a woman of nearly 40, with a teenage daughter, marry a young talent of the same age? Plum firmly believes that true happiness is given by herself. Sure enough, soon after, Oscar, a foreign teacher from the United States who was two years younger than plum, fell in love with plum. Now, plum sent her daughter to the United States to study in advance. She is also going through various procedures. She will fly to the other side of the ocean when Oscar's teaching expires. America's expectant father-in-law has helped plum apply for a good university. After arriving in the United States, she plans to study for a doctorate in psychology, and Oscar plans to inherit the family business. Think about it. The reason why life makes such a big joke on plum is that the man around her still doesn't match her anymore. Of course, we should change her, otherwise even God doesn't like it. Such stories are staged all the time. If I were arrogant, my own life would be the same as plum, and I would also get a better life, a better man and a better love. So, being old, lovelorn, divorced, not promoted, misunderstood, framed and excluded can't be the reason for you to abandon yourself. If you can't get up on the ground, it's equivalent to burying yourself. I once confidently said to Cang, "if one day you abandon me, it can only show that you don't deserve me at that time." Because I always believe that fate will not treat people who sincerely love it badly. You just have to be responsible for the wonderful. God has better arrangements for you

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