# Instead of facing your fears, face your rage.

*It might be the missing key that finally moves your business forward.*

By [Walk with Mi](https://paragraph.com/@0xd4ef680defc5951839d65db082bbab02c48efc70) · 2025-11-25

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When people ask me how my 2025 is going, I jokingly tell them it’s been my rest year.

Because I learned the hard way in 2024 that if I _don’t_ rest, my body will do it for me…usually by shutting down completely (_I was sick almost every other month…fun times_).

So near the end of 2024, I decided 2025 would be the year I slow down, rest, and just see what unfolds.

Turns out, a deep spiritual journey was waiting for me.

_For context, spirituality isn’t new to me…it’s something I grew up with back home in Taiwan (story for another day!)._

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### 2025 has been a year of letting go

At the start of 2025, I heard from some of my other spiritual friends that 2025 is a “year 9” in numerology—a year of completion.

It’s a year for letting go of people, identities, patterns, and places that no longer fit who you’re becoming. To clear out your karmic debts and contracts. To shed your old identity, habits, self-limiting beliefs, false narratives, and more.

Personally, this meant confronting a lot of things I had stuffed under the rug. It didn’t look pretty down there.

I had to make peace with the fact that some relationships in my life would never go back to the way they once were. That everyone has their own journey. And that I can no longer keep trying to save people who don’t want to be saved.

The spiritual practitioners I engaged with this year, on separate occasions, all unanimously told me I’m at a crossroads this year.

I was holding onto my old identity (_ex-b2b saas marketer_) and reaching for my new identity (_to be shared in another post!_).

There was fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of being judged.

But the longer I cling to the fears, the more I stalled my business.

So I worked on facing what I _thought_ were my fears, regulating my nervous system, and rewiring my mindset.

And yet… my closest spiritual friends kept telling me:

_“You still haven’t faced your actual fear.”_

??!!

Believe me…I was very confused about what was going on.

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### Beneath fear is…rage

It wasn’t until last week that I really understood what was at the root.

Last Wednesday morning, I woke up with a question in my mind:

_“What if it’s not fear that you’re supposed to face?”_

Then…_“Okay, then what the heck am I supposed to face?”_

And that’s when I heard a very confident voice say:

_“Rage.”_

Once again, I was confused. I didn’t feel angry. And I didn’t _think_ I had unresolved rage.

So later that evening, I decided to figure it out.

I took out a blank piece of paper and, on one side, I started free-styling and writing down all the fears that came to mind. On the other side, I started writing down what I _think_ are the things causing this “rage” within me.

I got to the middle of the page, and I noticed my chest started tensing up, but my hand just kept going and writing the words.

Then the tears started to roll down my cheeks and I was shaking…

_“Why does no one love me even after all I’ve done for them?”_

I _felt_ the rage deep in my bones for the first time.

And that’s when it started to click for me… why things weren’t working, why I couldn’t devote myself to my business, why I kept thinking I had to work hard, give more, and be my best.

Because no matter how hard I tried, as a child and as an adult, I didn’t receive the kind of love I longed for.

My body learned a simple equation long, long time ago:

**_If effort doesn’t equal love…why bother trying at all?_**

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### Fear can be a disguise for anger

I asked my ChatGPT for some further analysis and its response made me tear up even more:

> #### **Beneath fear, there’s often anger.**
> 
> You’ll see this in people who:
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> *   Had to be “good” and “well-behaved” growing up
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> *   Were punished, ignored, or shamed for showing anger
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> *   Grew up in high-control households
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> *   Were taught “anger is wrong” or “anger makes you a bad kid”
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> 
> In environments like this, anger gets pushed deep down. So what you show on the surface is fear, anxiety, tension, and people-pleasing.
> 
> But anger is actually a healthy, primal energy:
> 
> 👉 “You crossed a line.”  
> 👉 “This doesn’t feel right for me.”  
> 👉 “You hurt me.”
> 
> When you’re never allowed to express that energy, your body hides it.  
> Then it starts showing up as:
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> *   Inability to say “no”
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> *   Freezing or shrinking around certain people
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> *   Fear of conflict
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> *   Constantly predicting others’ reactions
>     
> *   Shaking, racing heartbeat when triggered
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> 
> So the real issue isn’t fear. It’s **“I was never allowed to be angry.”**

And underneath it all sits the original wound:  
**_“Love is something I must earn.”_**

### Healing starts when you acknowledge the wound

Healing doesn’t have to be a 10-step protocol; sometimes it can be as simple (_and as hard_) as…

*   unlearning “love must be earned”
    
*   learning “love can come without performance”
    
*   learning “my effort counts even without validation”
    
*   learning “I don’t have to sacrifice myself to be loved”
    

It’s a daily practice I’m starting to integrate and embody. And this post is a good example.

Because honestly, at first I was apprehensive about writing and sharing this post as I wasn’t sure how it would come across or whether what I really wanted to say would be conveyed properly.

But as I sat down, looked at my laptop, and asked myself what I really wanted to share today, this was what came out.

I realized my experiences could be helpful for other people’s business-building journey.

Many of you reading this might have tried the courses, the coaches, the templates, the challenges, the hacks…and sure, they helped, but were they sustainable solutions?

Because without healing the root, everything else becomes a band-aid.

Maybe for some, the root is indeed just…fear.

But for others, like me, it might be the rage you’ve buried so deeply you forgot it was even there.

And just in case you need this today…

**Here’s your permission slip to be loved without proving your value.**

### The light at the end of the tunnel

Here’s what most experts out there won’t tell you…

> **_Your business can only rise as far as you’re willing to face the parts of you that were never allowed to speak._**

Some of us are trying to build the next version of our lives while carrying wounds our parents didn’t even have the language for.

Some of us are learning to rest, to feel, to rage, to choose differently.

And some of us are breaking cycles our younger selves didn’t get the chance to break.

And…that could be all of you, too.

**_Healing becomes a revolution when we do it together because healed people heal people._**

**And your business, your purpose, your abundance will rise from that truth.**

### Before we part ways…

I want to share two new resources in case it’s supportive or you know others who would benefit (_feel free to share or tag them in the comments_):

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*Originally published on [Walk with Mi](https://paragraph.com/@0xd4ef680defc5951839d65db082bbab02c48efc70/instead-of-facing-your-fears-face-your-rage)*
