# Yet another cancellation attempt By [Mars Robertson](https://paragraph.com/@dearmoon) · 2024-03-15 --- What travels faster than light? Memes, culture, rumours… _(also the imagination, dreams, telepathy, quantum entanglement, astral plane, higher dimensions, wormholes,_ [_non-euclidean geometry_](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kEB11PQ9Eo8)_)_ * Reputation matters to me * Situation is bizarre _(on multiple levels)_ * I really wish I could simply “let it go” * But the rumours are spreading _(small community)_ * Clearly not good for business ![The Hero University pledge: https://draperuniversity.com/pledge](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/94bab16582e032a3bcd9abc49d1b4dc106081dd8c6c30a4fda70f554459c55a9.png) The Hero University pledge: https://draperuniversity.com/pledge Instant lessons --------------- * Know the full story * Context matters * Show empathy No mistakes, lessons in disguise. Remove mistakes = lessons with be removed too. Factual record of what actually happened ---------------------------------------- ### Interaction 1 Hammocks. Night. Tight distance as not that many trees on the campsite. There is person A on hammock 1 and person B on hammock 2. From the context it is clear that both hammocks 1 and 2 are here to stay, so is the person A and B. Because the distance is tight, a small move on each side causes a ripple effect. You can think of silent coordination game. Luckily both parties understand the rules and throught a series of collaborative moves an equilibrium is reached. Everyone is able to sleep well. ### Interaction 2 Morning. Sun. Good morning. Me waking up. Organising stuff around the tent. Stuff. Food. Water. Electrolytes. The usuals, standard operating procedure, getting ready for the day. And since I had loads of items / stuff / gadgets that are practical and usand the other person was awake as well - sharing is caring. Including two books. I was told “these are my favourite subjects” ![My intention was simple - reading a book is better for mental focus than doomscrolling.](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/e177af2af5b5ebb56a317bf3cd7ef145a52b42f89a8500d3ee4e59075c7269fb.jpg) My intention was simple - reading a book is better for mental focus than doomscrolling. ### Interaction 3 Socials. Doomscrolling aside, since it was early during the day, people alraedy asleep, signal strong anough to follow each other. The actual wording in the bio: > Spread LOVE for FREE & with CONSENT🫶🏼 I’ve noticed that and we had a conversation about consent, consent is sexy. BED = bureau of erotic discourse. ![Photo taken at Love Burn in Miami](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/7b253b641cfd3006c42e575acc66aebb2f38931864516abdfad05c14241dd56d.jpg) Photo taken at Love Burn in Miami ### Interaction 4 I went into town. Outside of festival = internet much faster. I was able to view the profile. Previously in the night / hammock / morning setup = I didn’t even see the person fully. Seeing the photos online = **IMAGE WORTH THOUSAND OF WORDS** _(not sharing not to abuse privacy)_ Tried with AI objective assessment but I guess I’ll need to try a better prompt or a different model. ![I guess it is highly subjective... Wish I could run some #DeSci experiment](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/21b218c832c43a45e5334ad0889b5715595e1ac0be9d4db4908be961edf91814.png) I guess it is highly subjective... Wish I could run some #DeSci experiment I came back from town. The conversation resumed at the consent level but this time around I already met the digital avatar (checking some online photos and finding them interesting). As we were having conversation on this level I mentioned a personal detail - truthful, playful, cheeky, authentic, vulnerable, genuine: > _“to discharge my sexual energy a few days ago I masturbated in a tent”_ That’s true. Also true that I said it. And there is science behind it… It helps with my sleep. I also use brain.fm binaural beats, eye mask… Wish I had melatonin. Every little thing helps. Sleep is my favourite substance, something money cannot buy (love, happiness, time is also in this theme). Without context = not appropriate. In the context of multiple interactions and conversations we were having = it was likely referring to a hygienic procedure. That should be end of story. **What I did not anticipate was unresolved trauma, trigger, freaking out, crying, OUCH** **🤯 🤯 🤯** ------------ Something completely new, unexpected, something that never happened to me before. I responded truthfully: > I spoke the truth. From the heart. Sorry. Not sorry. That was a mistake. In my cultural circle people say “sorry” even when they are not sorry. Do you have tissue / chewing gum / fire / lighter / rolling papers / long rolling papers? Sorry… I’m not sorry, I simply don’t have the requested item. But in this particular context I should have expressed genuine apology. Expressing an apology is compatible with “the truth from the heart”. Another (potential) mistake further down the line was avoiding eye contact and keeping distance. I thought the situation already resolved itself and I didn’t want to resurface the drama. I mention it as (potential) in brackets because it didn’t appear as a mistake at a time. ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/186f814b7b9a23ed1d03beec2ebb56c7d48ef90b99f27fdf999ca49e5df5224b.png) Security intervention (48-72 hours later) ----------------------------------------- That’s entirely separate rabbit hole. They forcibly removed my tent and made me wait at the security HQ for around 1.5 - 2 hours and then… Boom. Done. Gone. Bye. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungry\_judge\_effect](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungry_judge_effect) New shift arriving. Noone spoke with me. But even if they did - how to explain the energy flow of balancing hammocks? I think it was game over from the start, especially given the fact that my wristbands entitling me to entry were forcibly removed to begin with. [#MeToo or #MenToo](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/10608265211035794)? ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ There is so much drama I don’t have energy to watch it… Literally after a few opening scenes I already have enough. ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/3d3206635fe9b55b6ce86b55d73d51b0fcfc50da591754bffe36ba95bc536731.png) ![34 pages of drama: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depp_v.](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/762f3091da3b29d850d23161342ccbe2d80e8b0b1a32d29bcfbbc336cf60a271.png) 34 pages of drama: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depp\_v. Matter close to my heart (family law in the UK) ----------------------------------------------- [https://fnf.org.uk/](https://fnf.org.uk/) [https://www.fathers-4-justice.org/](https://www.fathers-4-justice.org/) [https://transparencyproject.org.uk/](https://transparencyproject.org.uk/) [https://www.voiceofthechild.org.uk/](https://www.voiceofthechild.org.uk/) Having some experience with family law, I started exploring an opportunity of engaging in criminal justice - much better standards of the evidence, comes with loads of perks and benefits. [https://mirror.xyz/dearmoon.eth/hbYvYPwbbCFJ7vVXs4CmYoBliufQPNvqYJdx2aX4Lno](https://mirror.xyz/dearmoon.eth/hbYvYPwbbCFJ7vVXs4CmYoBliufQPNvqYJdx2aX4Lno) [https://mirror.xyz/dearmoon.eth/\_cd46SMeDdlBLnAO0OUS0gC71\_URVWeNjnUCBl3XaJ4](https://mirror.xyz/dearmoon.eth/_cd46SMeDdlBLnAO0OUS0gC71_URVWeNjnUCBl3XaJ4) It is an infinite energy drain, that’s why I left the UK. I’m not the victim of my circumstances, I’m the result of my circumstances. To arrive to a new continent and start from accusations = that wasn’t on my bingo card for 2024. Persona non grata (some people do not like me) ---------------------------------------------- [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persona\_non\_grata](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persona_non_grata) ![Note the spacing and punctuation ?? ](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/60f5e608593432118a58c4cd858074659e86f622bc10031588cdadf969d193f0.png) Note the spacing and punctuation ?? I replied to this comment saying “I agree with this sentiment”. I assumed that ?? punctuation indicates an emotion. I honestly thought the same, $20 per meal is a decent restaurant price, not volunteer run community effort. ### Someone confirmed 1️⃣ ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/31b069bed724e9acff8d4477f53dcf49bc6d79734a43617a40e66a7f0ea3471d.png) ### Someone confirmed 2️⃣ _(I wasn’t aware about the number of upsells, including premium VIP camping)_ ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/85250f096b077974559936240b4cddd7f7980a0933b71eed2e4808b375d0558c.png) I am keen to go regardless. But then I was told not to go, so I guess I will need to comply. I wish the food was treated like a community ritual. It would be so much nicer for the vibe, as opposed to 1st 2nd 3rd class citizens. I also made a point about “organic”. My assumption was that in Costa Rica there is growing season around the year, local produce, not many air miles, “organic” as marketing gimmick, I understand that agriculture requires additional input and I’m OK with non-organic whenever practical. _(in other words it’s totally fine with local even when non-organic)_ **EDIT / UPDATE:** Actually I wasn’t aware of the extensive pesticide use. ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/cf2e49acd7e809dc687c1639ca434e974909d89b4ff427804f0851c756af31da.png) Enough drama, not playing trauma ping-pong ------------------------------------------ [![]({{DOMAIN}}/editor/youtube/play.png)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QgglTik6G4) Be like gazelle, shake it off: [![]({{DOMAIN}}/editor/youtube/play.png)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfWlot6h_JM) People are sensitive: need more empathy --------------------------------------- The situation would be handled much better if I had more empathy and imagination. Me telling the truth how I see it = not compatible with the current world. ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/31d17457cf429da2ac40ef46399809ab81ae5f0684110841c1444799d2168906.png) AI fixes that. I can still tell the truth and ask the AI: _“use politically correct wording”_ It’s not manipulation. It’s adaptation. --- *Originally published on [Mars Robertson](https://paragraph.com/@dearmoon/yet-another-cancellation-attempt)*