# Acts of service

By [Estelle](https://paragraph.com/@estelle) · 2022-08-15

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Just like the name suggests, you probably either like doing acts of service for your partner to show them you care, or, when your partner does acts of service for you, it makes you feel most loved.

“It means that you either feel loved by or enjoy caring for your loved ones by doing practical actions that will help them in some way or that you believe that they will appreciate or enjoy,” says Samantha Kingma, a licensed marriage and family therapist at [Rest + Renew Therapy](http://restrenewtherapy.com/).

Importantly: “These helpful actions may be done with or without the other person having specifically asked for the help.”

Now we get into specific examples of what this could look like below, but when we say "practical actions," we mean doing things like switching their laundry, making their bed in the morning, cooking dinner, etc.

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*Originally published on [Estelle](https://paragraph.com/@estelle/acts-of-service)*