# Feeling needy in love? Please read

By [Goddess Moon Eth](https://paragraph.com/@goddessmoon) · 2022-11-23

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Today is the day you stop feeling sorry for yourself. Because why? Stop living in loneliness when there are 8 Billion people on this planet. Why are you lonely? Is it because you don’t want to be friendly? TD Jakes said, “in order to have friends, you need to be friendly.” My mother has been saying the same thing since I could hear, you understand? There is nothing worse than a needy person; Eckhart Tolle and many greats before him said, “love does not want,” Floetry wrote, “…love has no expectations….” The true issue is that you want love to come to you in one form only, you are blind to the love all around you, and you have not become love. You don’t realize you are love.

Are you looking for someone to fulfill your needs and your desires? You are dangerous because you want to take what you don’t have within. You want to take love because you are missing it within; you are depleted. This is not love. This is a thirsty soul. You say you want someone to share your love with. Do you share love with your neighbor, your mailman? The Starbucks barista? You pass on these opportunities to love every single day. Love can be a simple smile and “Good morning!”

You want to share your love with only one soul now and forever. That’s great, please know addiction to another person is not love; Neediness is not love either. Love is freedom. It is not about squeezing the ocean into a thimble, as OSHO says. Love is full; love is complete. Love quenches. Love spills over; it shares what it has, which is love. It splashes love here and there, painting the world with love.

My inspiration behind this post comes from needy people who want to make someone else's life miserable and trap them with a false substitute of love. They are miserable and don’t know. Hopefully, after reading this blog, they will have an epiphany and call me because I can help. Let me give you a few clues to review if any of the following sound like you:

1.  You are looking for someone to love
    
2.  You are lonely
    
3.  You don’t have any friends in your life (and you want some)
    
4.  You are sexually frustrated
    
5.  You can’t have an orgasm
    
6.  You can’t last long in the bedroom (and you have no previous or current medical condition)
    
7.  Either you or your partner stopped enjoying making love
    
8.  You have a negative mindset overall
    

I could continue to list how to know if you are miserable and probably projecting a false sense of love. Yet, the good news is that even if you are, this is an energetic issue that can be resolved by incorporating more acts of self-love. Here are some things you can start doing to come out of this dark place:

1.  Look in a mirror and repeat, “I love you” over and over every day
    
2.  Take yourself out on a date
    
3.  Spend time in nature
    
4.  Start treating yourself like you would like to be “treated” lovingly!
    
5.  Start learning about your body and what turns you on
    
6.  Be friendly! Stop saying you don’t like people
    
7.  Forgive the past and stop living in the future
    
8.  Open your eyes to gratitude
    

Of course, you can always reach out to me; these simple tips may help you now.

Photo credit: This card was pulled from my numerology deck after doing a live community reading on Youtube. It just so happened I was talking about self-love before the card was pulled.

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*Originally published on [Goddess Moon Eth](https://paragraph.com/@goddessmoon/feeling-needy-in-love-please-read)*