# Self-Tenderness

By [jer979](https://paragraph.com/@jer979-2) · 2025-06-09

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It feels like so much of our days are filled with moments of non-tenderness.

Frustration at other drivers. Tough feedback delivered coarsely by a boss, colleague, or a family member.

It can be exhausting.

One of my yoga teachers, during the final resting period of _savasana_, will frequently come and adjust my…eyebrows.

She’ll just kind of massage them down to a more relaxed state.

It’s not as strange as it sounds and it’s helped me become aware of how much of my defenses, my armor, manifests itself in my eyes and face.

There’s not much I can do about how others treat me.

But there is something I can do about how I treat myself.

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*Originally published on [jer979](https://paragraph.com/@jer979-2/self-tenderness)*