# Want. Have.

By [jer979](https://paragraph.com/@jer979-2) · 2025-06-30

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> Crying is just grief leading the body.
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> \-Dr. Robby, [The Pitt](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt31938062/) (HBO Max)

There are things we want.

Then, there are the things we have.

I’m not talking about a 3 year old throwing a tantrum inside a toy store.

I’m talking about the bigger things.

The jobs we thought we’d have. The lifestyles. The kids. The marriage. The people who died too young. The big stuff.

That leaves a gap.

The gap is grief.

And grief, if it doesn’t get cleaned out, can become toxic, like sepsis.

Crying is one way to do that.

I’m not very good at crying.

But, like anything, I can get better with practice.

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*Originally published on [jer979](https://paragraph.com/@jer979-2/want-have)*