# Interaction in emotion By [Logan](https://paragraph.com/@logan-16) · 2022-04-23 --- Only when you learn to love yourself can you be the beginning of romance and live up to your life. Writer Su Qin once said: “Choose a man or someone who hurts you. Love, originally a very empty word, is not only a simple metaphysical, but also some real care.” I think so. Every woman hopes to get the real care of her lover. She hopes that person loves herself and pays attention to herself, so as to experience sweetness and happiness and make life more complete. But hope is not reality. In the relationship, many women are passively waiting for men’s love, thinking it is a natural thing, but in fact, the truth of the relationship is an interaction and game. Therefore, if you want men to love you and care about you, you still need to move your mind and use the routine, especially learn these three “no”. Not “sensible” We often hear people say that “a coquettish woman has the best life”. That’s because most men like to be the “strong” side of their feelings, hoping to be relied on and worshipped by women, so as to stimulate the most instinctive desire for protection in their bones. But some women don’t understand this truth. They always behave very sensible in a relationship. It seems that they can do well everywhere and don’t need to give men trouble. For example, you can swallow the grievances in your heart, solve difficulties by yourself, cut through thorns and thorns outside, be a good wife and mother at home, and carry everything alone. In the face of such a woman, the man’s desire for protection has nowhere to release. Over time, he will put away his love in his heart. They will feel in their hearts that they are not needed, and you can live well without him. In fact, a really smart woman often knows how to “show weakness”. As Li Shanglong said: “A smart girl with a strong heart will show weakness, especially to the boy she likes. Or, she will only show weakness to him in her life.” Reasonable “showing weakness” is not really weak, but gives men more opportunities to protect themselves and cherish themselves. Timely “sensible” is not really unreasonable, but easier to get the favor and consideration of men. You should know that the more mature the ears of rice are, the more you know how to bend down and learn not to be “sensible”, which is also a kind of wisdom like a fool. Not “complex” We can often see that many women in life do not directly communicate with men when they encounter problems. They wait for men to guess and realize. In the end, one does not say, one does not ask, one does not chase, and the other does not wait. The two will only drift away. Writer westo said: “To be frank is a positive attitude to face the problem directly.” This sentence applies especially between the sexes. Because the more intimate the relationship is, the more contradictions will arise. Only direct communication without escape can the contradictions be truly solved. I remember a saying on the Internet that is very good: “The best way to live in life is to live simply and love truly.” Yeah! To live simply is to live freely; Only when love is true can we reap happiness. Therefore, women should learn to simply deal with all kinds of problems in their feelings. What do you want men to do, you should directly ask for needs; If you want a man to give you more attention, you should directly tell him your desire; If you want men to understand you, you should learn to analyze yourself without hiding; If you are in trouble, ask him directly for help. Don’t think that if a man loves you, he will have an insight into your heart. Simply, if you give your heart to him, he will deal with it more calmly and suit the remedy to the case. Remember, real long-term love depends not on freshness, but on authenticity. Because only simple and true, everything you have is the most practical! No “fear” When everyone is in love, they are afraid of losing, being disliked by each other, and being tired of each other. They always want to show their best and try their best to keep each other. Because of this, many people will lose themselves in a relationship. Nevertheless, women must understand that no man will like a woman who has lost himself. The reason why you will be loved is because you are worth it, because you have an independent soul and attract each other to love you, not because you ask for it in a humble way. Love can’t be exchanged with humbleness. Even if you can, it may not be what you want. So don’t “fear” anything, let alone face love with a “please” heart. In fact, many times, the reason why we are “afraid” is more from our inner desire for love and the fear of losing love. The only answer to this problem is to face up to yourself, love yourself and try to be an “unexpected” woman. As the saying goes: “You are not the whole of my life, and I am not your only hope. You have your gorgeous life, and I have my future to look forward to. We can keep warm together, and we can each be wonderful.” Therefore, before “fear”, let us first learn to love ourselves, because in this world, it is difficult to get the love of others, but it is easy to get our own love. I think only when people learn to love themselves, can they finally start romance and live up to their own life. Finally, may we all love each other and love ourselves more, because only when you love yourself with your heart, will someone love you and get more love around you. --- *Originally published on [Logan](https://paragraph.com/@logan-16/interaction-in-emotion)*