# When we feel insecure By [planet](https://paragraph.com/@planet) ยท 2022-11-09 --- ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/06847c6ebddc6fb963d4887645a04689cad2ec14ab2c81a6b36c9bcf716619e8.png) When we feel insecure, fearful or dissatisfied, we want to judge. Lovers in love seem to embrace the whole world. It is happiness that allows them to cross the barrier of separation consciousness and feel the underlying unity of nature between all things. Even if this feeling of love only leads to a momentary sense of oneness, it shows that we are capable of bridging the gap between our outer world and our inner self. Looking at her newborn baby, a loving mother wondered what separation was. There is an invisible power of love between mother and child, which binds them together as one. But where does this sense of separation come from months or years later, when the mother is yelling or accusing at the child? Why do some mothers become suspicious and hostile towards their children? Why is it that couples who once swore to be together can no longer keep their promises? Where does the estrangement, the suspicion, the indifference that divides us come from? Why would we want to part with someone we once loved and were close to? The answers to these questions are both simple and complex. If we try to find an answer from a single cause, it is complicated, because behind each cause there is another reason. It seems that there are a lot of things we can blame ourselves for, such as an unhappy childhood, violent parents, abusive teachers, social constraints, economic downturns, etc. But in truth, these events are just a few of life's many troubles. ![](https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/ea53f515ee01f9f4eb4f5ec75d20f5c90027bb0fdf9a745bf06699110da05a69.png) What all of these events have in common is that they are experiences of our separate consciousness (apart from the higher consciousness). For so long, dissociative consciousness has taken us away from our true selves, we have been searching for our true identities. Questions like "Who am I?" and "Why am I here?" have become almost cliches of the New Age movement. Even so, they are life topics that haunt everyone, even if some people don't realize it. There is an old proverb that tries to lead us to the answer we want. It consists of two questions. One, "Who am I". Please don't use a person's name, qualities or appearance, because these things are fleeting. The only meaningful answer is "what the true self is" (the true self), because the existence of the spirit does not die with the death of the external matter. What am I doing here? The answer is similar to the above: "Get back to yourself." In other words, we don't have to do anything to realize our self-worth or change the world, just be ourselves. We are all things because we are one with all things, but only when we enter higher consciousness can we feel this oneness and use it to serve the whole. Beyond that, nothing makes us truly satisfied. Most people describe themselves in terms of occupation, wealth, religion, political affiliation, age and gender. No one would think of describing themselves in terms of level of consciousness. Whenever we say "I am an artist", "I am smart", "I am a loser", "I am a winner", "I am your friend", "I love you", etc., we are separating ourselves from our "true self" (from oneness consciousness) and viewing ourselves and our character, wealth, feelings, love, etc., in a narrow light. Our sense of separation is so real that it's perverse not to see it that way. The feeling of being one with the people in the street, the flowers blooming in the field, the birds flying in the air, the clouds floating in the sky, the mighty earth under our feet, is more than we can imagine. In fact, this feeling does not come from a thought or concept, but from our higher consciousness. It is a state of being. Even the most remarkable and charismatic person or achievement in history is not enough to describe our "real selves". Although gold bracelets, gold rings and gold teeth may have different looks and uses, they are all made of the same material : gold. The appearance and form of things often obscure their true nature, without their meaning or use, you can see the true nature of the gold. Let go of the roles and meanings that we or others have assigned to us, and the one that remains is our "real self." In this "letting go" process, you may initially feel afraid, even lost and lonely, but when we face and move beyond the fear of losing everything, when all the cause and effect is over, we gradually realize our fundamental connection to everything. When the illusion of separation and all the stereotypes and pain that come with it are gone, we achieve the ultimate freedom -- freedom. In order to rediscover our "true self," we must discard all beliefs that stem from our separate consciousness. All the unreal identities, including "I'm not good enough," "I'm afraid," "I'm angry," "I'm poor," "I'm rich," "I'm entitled," etc., apply only to the world of separate consciousness. They make no sense to our oneness. --- *Originally published on [planet](https://paragraph.com/@planet/when-we-feel-insecure)*