#  Can you even do this with friends? (Yes, you can)

> Newsletter #Week31

**Published by:** [Sara Endestad](https://paragraph.com/@saraendestad/)
**Published on:** 2025-08-01
**URL:** https://paragraph.com/@saraendestad/can-you-even-do-this-with-friends-yes-you-can

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Listen, I had sooo sooo SOOO many ideas for what to write to you this week, but this one won. Why? Cuz the more I think about the phrase “the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our life”, the more I realize how true it is. There isn’t much that affects me more than the people around me. They shape my mindset and my choices. I did an exercise this week — to figure out which relationships in my life I actually want to invest in/invest less in/not invest in at all 🧹🧹😅. And I wanted to share it so you can, too.Here’s how you do it:Find pen and paper and make 3 columns.Write A, B, and C at the top. Then close your eyes and envision the best possible version of yourself 3 years from now (this is your future self).Ask this person: “Out of everyone I have in my life right now — who do I still have a strong connection with?” → Write them down in A.Ask: “Out of everyone I have in my life right now — who is still around, but we’re not that close anymore?” → They go in B.And finally: “Out of everyone I have in my life right now — who isn’t there at all anymore?” → That’s C.Now that you’ve done that, you kind of know who you should invest in and who you shouldn't: A: Be proactive. Message them. Ask how they’re doing. Do something fun/interesting/nice together. B: Let them take the lead. If they message you and want to hang, say yes if you feel like it. No expectations. Just chill. C: Ok, I’m not a fan of ghosting — so depending on your relationship with them, I’d do this:If they’re a close friend: message them. Give them that respect. Tell them you’re grateful for what you had, but you’ve outgrown each other, and you genuinely wish them the best.If they’re not that close: let it fade. Don’t message them. If they message you, you can kindly say you’re not interested in meeting up. They’ll probably stop. Or — if you’re more extreme (like me) — just tell them straight up that the relationship doesn’t feel right for you and you’d like to end it. But of course, wish them a happy, gorgeous, and kind future.Hope this was helpful. It gave me immense clarity — and also peace — once I had this overview. And remember, you´re allowed to be picky. It´s your damn life. 📢 Life update: Life is so cool, man. This week I’ve niched down even more in my business — who I want to work with and what I want to build. And it feels so goooood. So, shortly: what I’m currently working on is becoming a strategic partner for business owners. I only want 2–3 clients on retainer here, where I help them with strategy and decision-making in their business — but I also want them to feel like they have a co-owner (without me having equity in their business — at least not this early). 💼 And here´s how I´m niching down. I’ve decided to only focus on beauty 💋/fashion👠/style💅 businesses. The reason is simple: this is the one thing that never leaves me (if you remember the last email). I loved it before I loved anything else. And also — I love creating content. So if I’m a partner, I’d genuinely love to show off their products and create beauty content for them too. I’m a little scared. And very excited. And that’s how I know I picked the right goal. If it’s scary → it’s not too easy. If it’s exciting → you know you truly want it. Okkkkk — talk next week. Until then, keep facing the things you’re scared of. Expand your comfort zone. The bigger it is, the more opportunities you'll have. /Sara <3

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