# Style

**Published by:** [Serra S.](https://paragraph.com/@serra-s/)
**Published on:** 2023-05-29
**URL:** https://paragraph.com/@serra-s/style

## Content

There is that person who draws admiring eyes to them, exuding comfort, confidence, style – without even wearing anything expensive, necessarily. There is also the opposite. That person who wears things by the book. Their shirt, pants, shoes are in line with what’s fashionable and “approved” by others. Yet, something doesn’t fit. They can’t carry it. It just doesn’t work. What makes someone the former? I think it comes down to internalizing who you are, what you like, and confidently telling that story to the world. To restate a cliché – being comfortable in your own skin, and delighting in sharing that with others. My wardrobe got smaller and smaller over the years. But I felt more and more comfortable with what I was wearing. I got rid of everything that didn’t fit and hung around like mental baggage, no matter how beautiful they were. I donated many gifted items I did not feel comfortable in. Donated the overly expensive items purchased on a whim that did not fit what I did or how I lived. Got rid of the severe or blank items with manly cuts that I’d gotten for “client meetings,” thinking that I didn’t need to stand out with what I looked like or what I wore. Trying to fit into clothes (or roles) that didn’t resonate with me didn’t work out very well, no matter how stylish or coveted they might look from the outside. I only felt less confident and more invisible. I did not want to show up to the world that way. I asked myself honestly: What do I like? What makes me feel comfortable? How do I want to show up to the world? For me, style – and life, for that matter – has become increasingly about questioning what makes me more inspired, alive, and able to stoke others, instead of accepting and wilting within the conventions of how things should look like. Find your style. Find your story. ** **

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