# HOW TO LOVE 2

By [tsaml](https://paragraph.com/@tsaml) · 2024-12-24

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Loving couples respond like this: The wife says to the husband, "I had a dream last night." The husband is very interested and asks, "What did you dream about? Did you dream of me?" The wife smiles and says, "Haha, you just hope that I dream of you!" The two have a pleasant chat, and this is an emotional response. Unloving couples usually respond like this: The wife says, "I had a dream last night, and it was scary." The husband says casually, "What's the big deal? It's just a dream!" The wife immediately realizes that the husband is not interested in what she is saying and is impatient to listen, and she doesn't want to talk anymore. This is a non - emotional response.

The higher the frequency of emotional responses between husband and wife, the better the quality of marriage. If there is no emotional response, or emotional responses are often interrupted, then the couple will often feel lonely, anxious, and uneasy in marriage, because they feel that the other person doesn't understand them. Conversely, this will strengthen the assumption of the ideal partner in their minds: "My husband (wife) doesn't understand me because the person I chose in the first place is not ideal enough." They feel that their investment is a loss, and like an investor evaluating an entrepreneur, they become more and more picky, and a small disagreement can turn into a big fight.

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