# LOVE YOURSELF

By [tsaml](https://paragraph.com/@tsaml) · 2024-12-29

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After a girl falls in love, she wants to act like a child and expects her lover to unconditionally tolerate her “acting - up” behavior, just like ideal parents. However, this is very unfair to her lover, and the relationship is often ruined because of it.

Conversely, if she realizes her own problems during the process of falling in love and starts to learn to be her own parent, unconditionally accepting and loving herself, remaining at peace within, no longer expecting her lover to meet her needs like a parent, and no longer criticizing herself like a drill - sergeant, then such a relationship, even if it doesn't end in marriage, can still benefit her for a lifetime.

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*Originally published on [tsaml](https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/love-yourself)*