# ALONE

By [YOLO](https://paragraph.com/@yolo) · 2024-08-10

alone, study

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The writer has met many people when their inward turning becomes strong, they often tend to want to be alone (a pure desire without mental struggle). It means that even though the body is sick, even though life's uncertainties happen, the soul is still comfortable with being alone, and is never miserable, never weak.

For women, they need to learn to be independent to free themselves from the thought that they need a strong shoulder. Saying that does not mean that they have to force themselves, but they need to free themselves from the false belief that they are the weaker sex. Women are often sensitive, often easily hurt, when immersing themselves in emotions triggers illusions that have become a habit within them. They often want to have the privileges of the weaker sex like men... need to take care of them, pamper them, must put them as a priority in the relationship, and by doing so, women often get angry, easily push themselves into a miserable situation, because life is never set up to satisfy that selfish desire.

During the years of being alone, there is a deep feeling that as long as the mind can be calm, can be fixed inside, then all the illusions, all the thoughts that arise when falling into difficult situations will not appear. And at this time, people will feel a calm, strong and open inner self instead of being immersed in a play of being a victim, or being pitiful. All the emotions that arise only come from the play of the mind, do not seek satisfaction there, be sober and look inside, feel the relaxation that is inherently an extremely great power. Take advantage of solitude, if the universe is giving you that reward, to go deep within, so as not to fall into complaining, into complaining, into the illusion of being a victim. One of the most important lessons of spiritual practice is not to complain. When we are attached to the image of ourselves as weaker, we often complain to others in order to gain some comfort, encouragement or attention from them. But inner strength can only be experienced when we are directly aware of pure reality, not when we seek temporary satisfaction from the mind.

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