One of the hardest things I’ve realized is how difficult it has been to say hi to me.

If you don’t understand what I mean, let me explain.

Saying hi to me means having a conversation with myself. Checking up on me. Asking myself how I’m doing and actually taking the time to listen to the answer.

We’re always setting notifications for apps, keeping up with updates, and checking on our friends and loved ones.

But when was the last time you checked up on YOU?

I’ve been so caught up in the noise of life , survival, making money, traveling, pursuing a higher degree, and trying to figure things out, that I forgot to pause and listen to myself.

Sometimes, you don’t need much to experience that big breakthrough. Sometimes, what you need is to sit with yourself long enough to hear what you’ve been trying to tell yourself all along.

But we hardly listen.

Think about it. Most of us can barely stay away from our phones. We’re always building, working, watching videos, scrolling through social media, or looking for the next thing to do.

The only time we’re truly unavailable is when we’re asleep.

And honestly, that’s sad.

I realized I could barely spend time with myself without feeling the need to do something. Even when I was alone, I wanted to be occupied.

But somewhere within me, there was a version of myself that had so much to say.

Sometimes, I felt it through my body sickness, fatigue, joint pains, and exhaustion.

It was as though my body was saying:

“Listen to me, man. Take a break. Sit down. Hear me out.”

And for once, I decided to listen.

Learning to Listen to Me

So, what does it mean to listen to me?

For me, it means finally spending time with myself away from all the noise.

It means personal meditation, introspection, and having the courage to face my truths.

It means asking myself difficult questions, acknowledging how I feel, understanding what I want, and being honest about where I am in life.

It means making room to hear my desires, revisit my vision, and reconnect with my ambitions.

Every day, I want to say hi to me.

Not because I have everything figured out, but because I owe myself that much.

I believe we get so caught up in survival mode that we gradually lose our spark and creativity.

We become so focused on making ends meet, chasing opportunities, and trying to become somebody that we forget the person we were before the world became so loud.

We lose sight of our initial drive and ambitions, not necessarily because we’ve stopped caring about them, but because we’ve stopped making time to listen to ourselves.

And sometimes, the answers we desperately seek outside are waiting for us in the quiet moments we keep avoiding.

Staying Connected to Who I Am

Saying hi to me reminds me why I am here on earth.

I Went Back to Me.

It reminds me of what I want to do, the paths I want to walk, and the kind of person I want to become.

It brings me back to my roots.

And even if I’m not where I want to be yet, I know the noise of life won’t make me completely forget who I am.

Why?

Because I’m still making time to reconnect with myself.

I’m still checking in.

I’m still listening.

I’m still saying hi to me.

I’m learning that I don’t have to lose myself while trying to find my place in the world.

I don’t have to abandon my dreams just because survival has become a priority. And I don’t have to wait until I’ve achieved something significant before I give myself permission to pause and breathe.

I am my source.

Everything I need to become the fullest version of myself begins with understanding, nurturing, and being honest with the person I already am.

I cannot afford to become so distracted by the world outside that I lose connection with the world within.

So, my friend, in the middle of all the noise, the pressure, the dreams, and the endless pursuit of becoming more…

Right now, close your eyes, take one deep breath, and ask yourself: “How am I, truly?” 👋🏽

Ever since I can remember, I have spent so much of my life worrying about things. Worrying about school, my grades, whether I was good enough, whether I was smart enough. I have lived my life trying to be the good person, the nice one. Trying to look good, act right, say less, and always obey without voicing my disapproval.

I have been living my life to the point where I feel like a stranger to myself.

I can barely remember the things I used to love. The colours that made me happy. The hobbies I abandoned because they did not meet society’s standards. The career paths I gave up on because they were not considered professional enough by university standards.

I remember how much I loved drawing as a child. How I always loved talking and talking, expressing myself without a second thought. But being shunned and silenced all the time made me withdraw into my shell. Slowly, I became an adult who speaks only when spoken to, an adult who no longer knows how to speak freely and openly.

I remember how I cried whenever I felt hurt as a child. But as I grew older, my mind became conditioned to believe that men are not supposed to cry. Men are not supposed to be sad. We have to stay strong, keep going, and always appear happy.

And so, I became a packaged adult, or should I say, a humanoid robot? Someone who knows how to mask his emotions, hide his pain, and wear a smile no matter what life throws at him.

I remember when I loved genuinely, when I loved with all my heart. But hurt, betrayal, and excessive consumption of social media slowly turned that love into fear and doubt. They made me question the sincerity of romance and begin to see love as a lie.

You are not supposed to say that. You are not supposed to dress like that. You should not look someone in the eyes when they speak to you.

All the rules and regulations. All the dos and don’ts. All the courses considered worthwhile and those dismissed as useless. The cultures and traditions, the politics and religion.

Somewhere along the way, all these things began to distort the picture of myself I had in my head.

Slowly, I started forgetting who I was.

I silenced my desires to fulfil the expectations of family and friends. I gave up on my ideas and abandoned the version of myself I had always wanted to become.

I got lost. I forgot me.

Instead, I started creating a version of myself that people would like. A version that obeyed all the rules and regulations. A version that acted nice, forgave those who hurt him, and kept smiling even when he was falling apart.

I became a version of myself that was constantly in survival mode, blinded by scarcity, difficulties, and the endless struggle to get the things I wanted out of life.

I was told I couldn’t eat my cake and have it too. I was told I couldn’t always have what I wanted.

I remember asking for a flashy toy when I was little, only to be ridiculed for being greedy and lacking contentment simply because I wanted something I desired.

Somewhere along the way, I learnt to settle.

I became complacent. I settled for whatever I got, even when it was less than I deserved. I accepted the bare minimum. I struggled to be bold enough to ask for a salary raise or a promotion. I found it difficult to voice my desires because I was afraid of being rejected, misunderstood, or labelled ungrateful.

I forgot me.

I read books and attended seminars, trying to improve myself, learn new things, and unlearn the patterns and habits that had contributed to my losing myself.

But somehow, I seemed to lose myself even more.

I learnt new concepts and discovered new terms to describe certain behaviours and experiences. I found explanations for things I had struggled with for years, but sometimes, those explanations only gave names to my struggles without helping me understand who I truly was.

I kept learning, but I only became more confused.

Until one day, the message finally reached me.

Not from a distant place. Not from a motivational speaker or a self-help book.

It came from my sister.

We were chatting one day when she said something that would stay with me for a long time.

She said, “Unique, you are a people-pleaser. That’s one thing I’ve noticed about you. You are my brother, and you are amazing, but you would be even better if you stayed true to yourself. Find your truth and own it.”

Those words struck a chord in my heart.

I became silent that night, lost in thought.

I began to reflect on my life. I had read books to become a better man, a better leader, and a better developer. I had spent so much time trying to improve myself in different areas of life.

But I had never truly learnt how to be a better ME.

I had not learnt how to listen to my desires, honour my passions, and pursue the things that genuinely made me happy.

I had not learnt that I could stand my ground and say NO to people without constantly worrying about whether they would be offended, angry, or disappointed in me.

I had spent so much time worrying about other people that I carried burdens nobody had asked me to carry. I always wanted to be the mature one, the understanding one, the person who seemed to have everything figured out.

I became so consumed by other people’s emotions that I allowed myself to drown in them.

I could hardly say NO to anyone. I feared that people would hate me for it or stop liking me afterwards.

And that became another turning point in my life.

I had to learn that saying NO does not make me a bad person.

I had to understand that I could love people without always pleasing them. I could care about their feelings without making myself responsible for them. I could disappoint someone without being a disappointment.

I had the right to say yes, and I had the right to say no.

And I did not have to feel guilty about either.

So, I started choosing ME.

Not just through words, affirmations, or motivational quotes, but through the little things I did every day.

If I wanted coffee, I would go and get it.

If I saw someone dressed beautifully and felt like complimenting them, I would.

If something made me happy, I allowed myself to enjoy it. If something hurt me, I allowed myself to acknowledge it. If I disagreed with something, I learnt to express my opinion instead of suppressing it just to keep everyone comfortable.

I started listening to myself.

I started honouring my feelings and emotions.

I stopped trying so hard to be the person everyone expected me to be and started embracing the person I genuinely was.

I began to understand that being authentic did not mean being perfect. It meant being honest with myself. It meant allowing myself to grow without losing my identity in the process.

It meant giving myself permission to be human.

To feel. To speak. To create. To make mistakes. To change my mind. To pursue the things I love, even when they do not fit into society’s definition of success.

To exist without constantly seeking permission.

So yes, I went back to ME.

I fell in love with myself again.

I started doing the things I love. Speaking. Writing. Creating. Using my skills and knowledge to make an impact on lives around the world.

And for the first time in a long time, I began to feel fulfilled.

I feel blessed. I feel free. I feel great.

Not because everything in my life is perfect, but because I am no longer abandoning myself in an attempt to make everyone else comfortable.

I am learning to live life on my own terms. To embrace my individuality. To pursue my passions. To speak my truth. To choose myself without feeling guilty for doing so.

And honestly, choosing ME and learning to stay true to myself have been among the greatest decisions I have ever made.

Looking back, I realise that somewhere along the way, I became so focused on becoming a better person that I forgot to ask myself a very important question:

Am I becoming the person I truly want to be, or am I simply becoming the person everyone else wants me to be?

That question changed the way I see myself.

Because the truth is, you can spend your entire life trying to meet expectations, following rules, pleasing people, and becoming everything the world tells you to be, only to wake up one day and realise that you have lost the one person you were supposed to be living for.

YOURSELF.

And I don’t want that for me anymore.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life being a stranger to myself. I don’t want to keep suppressing my dreams, hiding my emotions, or shrinking my personality just to fit into spaces that were never designed for me.

I want to live. Truly live.

And that begins with choosing myself, every single day.

So, my friend, let me ask you something.

When was the last time you did something simply because YOU wanted to?

When was the last time you said NO without feeling guilty? When was the last time you pursued something you loved without worrying about what people would say? When was the last time you looked at yourself and recognised the person staring back at you?

Do you still remember the things that make you happy? The dreams you had before the world told you to be realistic? The person you wanted to become before you started living according to everyone else’s expectations?

Or have you, too, become a stranger to yourself?

Perhaps it is time to return.

Not to the person you were before life happened, but to the person you have always been beneath all the conditioning, expectations, fear, and need for approval.

The person you silenced.

The person you abandoned.

The person you forgot.

Perhaps it is time to go back to YOU.

And this time, don’t leave yourself behind.

So, my friend, are you going to choose YOU?

Blockchain was born out of distrust.

Distrust in governments that could inflate currencies without accountability. Distrust in financial institutions that controlled access to wealth. Distrust in corporations that owned our data, our identities, and increasingly, our digital lives.

The promise of blockchain was beautifully simple: remove unnecessary middlemen, redistribute power, and create systems where communities—not institutions—owned the future.

For many, that promise remains alive.

Across the world, thousands of developers continue to build open-source software, founders dedicate years to solving difficult problems, and communities voluntarily contribute their time because they genuinely believe they are helping create something bigger than themselves.

But every successful movement creates its own economy.

As Web3 matured, another economy quietly emerged alongside the technology. One built not on smart contracts or cryptography, but on attention, influence, optimism, and human emotion.

An economy where communities themselves became assets.

Where participation became a metric.

Where narratives became products.

Where hope became something that could be harvested.

I call this Narrative Farming.

Narrative Farming is the practice of extracting value from a community's hope, participation, attention, or belief while creating disproportionately greater value for the project, founder, influencer, or ecosystem than for the people who made that growth possible.

Unlike scams, Narrative Farming is rarely illegal.

Unlike rug pulls, it rarely happens overnight.

Many projects that fall into this pattern begin with genuine intentions. Some eventually build meaningful products. Others simply become trapped inside an incentive system that rewards visibility more than value, announcements more than execution, and engagement more than outcomes.

This article is not an accusation against any individual or project.

It is an examination of incentives.

Because incentives shape behavior far more consistently than intentions ever do.

Building For Communities or Building On Communities?

One of the most repeated phrases in blockchain is "community first."

Every project claims to be community-driven.

Every ecosystem celebrates builders.

Every roadmap speaks about empowering users.

Every founder thanks the community for believing in the vision.

But somewhere along the journey, an uncomfortable question begins to emerge.

If a project's community disappeared tomorrow, what would the project actually lose?

Would it lose people whose lives were genuinely improved by the product?

Or would it lose engagement, impressions, content creators, moderators, ambassadors, and unpaid marketers?

There is an important difference between building for a community and building on top of one.

A project built for its community measures success by the lives it improves, the problems it solves, and the opportunities it creates.

A project built on its community often measures success through social metrics—followers, impressions, wallet addresses, Discord members, transactions, or engagement rates.

These numbers can look impressive on dashboards and investor decks.

But dashboards do not necessarily reflect impact.

Communities should never exist merely to increase the valuation of a project.

They should be the reason the project exists in the first place.

Grant Farming

Grant programs are among the greatest innovations in modern blockchain ecosystems.

Without them, many wallets, developer tools, public goods, educational platforms, and open-source infrastructure simply would not exist. Ecosystems such as Ethereum, Base, Optimism, Celo, Solana, and Arbitrum have collectively invested millions of dollars into developers because they understand that healthy ecosystems require builders.

The problem, however, is not grants.

The problem is what grants sometimes begin to reward.

Some projects gradually stop building primarily for users and begin building for grant committees.

Instead of asking, "What do our users need next?" they begin asking, "What would improve our chances of winning another grant?"

Pitch decks become more refined than the product itself. Announcements become more frequent than releases. Partnerships multiply while development slows. Beautiful roadmaps replace measurable execution.

A project secures funding, celebrates publicly, and receives congratulations across social media. The community shares the announcement, believing this new funding will accelerate development.

Months later, little changes.

The promised features remain unfinished.

The roadmap quietly shifts.

Community updates become less frequent.

Support channels grow silent.

Then another announcement appears.

Another ecosystem.

Another grant.

Another opportunity.

The founders continue progressing professionally. Their network expands. Their visibility increases. Their résumés become stronger.

The community, however, often remains exactly where it started.

Winning grants should never be the finish line.

Communities benefiting from those grants should be.

Community Farming

Perhaps the greatest irony in Web3 is that communities were meant to own the internet.

Instead, many communities have unintentionally become unpaid growth teams.

Every day thousands of people dedicate countless hours creating memes, writing educational threads, producing videos, translating documentation, moderating Discord servers, hosting Twitter Spaces, inviting friends, completing quests, testing beta products, and defending projects during moments of criticism.

Most do this voluntarily because they believe they are helping build something meaningful.

Many are told that ownership will eventually follow participation.

The token is coming.

Governance is coming.

Recognition is coming.

The rewards are coming.

Sometimes they do.

Many times they don’t.

By the time reality catches up with expectation, the project has already received enormous value through community-generated content, engagement, visibility, and user acquisition.

The community believed they were owners.

In practice, many functioned primarily as volunteer marketers.

This isn’t exploitation because contributors weren’t paid.

It becomes exploitation when projects continuously extract value from community participation without creating proportional value in return.

Engagement Farming

Attention has become one of the most valuable currencies in Web3.

Every ecosystem wants active users.

Every founder wants engagement.

Every protocol wants growth.

As a result, participation increasingly becomes gamified.

Users collect points.

Earn XP.

Complete quests.

Mint NFTs.

Refer friends.

Post screenshots.

Like tweets.

Comment under announcements.

Join Spaces.

Everything begins to feel like progress.

Yet an important question is rarely asked.

Progress toward what?

Many users spend months participating in elaborate engagement campaigns without any meaningful clarity regarding what those efforts ultimately lead to.

Sometimes the engagement itself becomes the product.

A project announces a campaign.

Thousands participate.

The campaign trends across social media.

Metrics increase.

Investors notice.

The ecosystem celebrates "growth."

Whether participants actually benefited becomes a secondary conversation.

Communities should never confuse activity with ownership.

Engagement alone does not create value unless it eventually translates into meaningful outcomes for the people generating it.

The Influencer Economy

Influencers have become one of the most powerful institutions in blockchain.

Many genuinely educate.

Many expose scams.

Many help new users navigate an increasingly complex industry.

Their contributions should not be ignored.

But influence creates incentives.

Social media platforms rarely reward accuracy.

They reward attention.

A post saying, "This looks interesting, but please do your own research," rarely reaches millions.

A post saying, "Don't miss this opportunity," often does.

Over time, urgency becomes content.

Every protocol becomes "massive."

Every campaign becomes "free money."

Every points program becomes "early alpha."

Communities rush to participate, bridge assets, spend transaction fees, complete tasks, and invite friends.

Some opportunities become successful.

Many quietly disappear.

The influencer, however, often loses very little regardless of the outcome.

The engagement has already been generated.

The impressions have already been counted.

The audience assumed the financial and opportunity cost.

The creator captured the visibility.

Again, this is not an accusation against every influencer.

It is an observation about the incentives created by platforms where engagement is rewarded more consistently than accountability.

Following the Money

One of the simplest ways to understand any ecosystem is to follow the flow of incentives.

Money tells stories that marketing cannot.

When investigating a blockchain project, asking whether it won a grant is only the beginning.

More important questions quickly emerge.

How much funding was received?

What milestones justified that funding?

What was eventually delivered?

Did contributors benefit?

Did users experience measurable improvements?

Did the roadmap evolve into a functioning product, or remain a collection of promises?

Similarly, venture funding deserves similar scrutiny.

Raising capital is not inherently positive or negative.

It simply provides resources.

The more meaningful question is how those resources translated into outcomes for the community that believed in the vision.

Funding should create products.

Products should create value.

Value should improve communities.

When that chain consistently breaks, it deserves examination.

Promises Versus Reality

Perhaps the strongest evidence available in blockchain is not hidden on-chain.

It is often sitting in plain sight.

Projects announce ambitious visions.

Community-owned governance.

Revenue sharing.

Creator economies.

Decentralized ownership.

Permissionless participation.

Years later, those same communities frequently discover that the governance never launched, ownership never materialized, revenue sharing never arrived, and participation primarily generated engagement rather than influence.

This does not automatically imply dishonesty.

Roadmaps change.

Markets evolve.

Building is difficult.

But transparency demands acknowledging the distance between promise and reality.

Communities deserve to know not only what changed, but why it changed.

Trust grows through honest communication.

Not perfect execution.

Measuring Activity Instead of Marketing

Blockchain loves numbers.

Wallet addresses.

Followers.

Transactions.

TVL.

Downloads.

Discord members.

Hackathon submissions.

These numbers are useful.

But they are incomplete.

Perhaps we should begin celebrating different metrics.

How consistently does the team ship updates?

How active is development?

How many issues are resolved?

How frequently is documentation improved?

How many community suggestions become actual features?

How many contributors remain active after one year?

These questions tell us far more about a project's health than social media impressions ever could.

Marketing creates expectations.

Execution creates trust.

The Cost of Narrative Farming

The greatest damage caused by Narrative Farming is rarely financial.

It is cultural.

Every abandoned roadmap makes communities slightly more skeptical.

Every broken promise makes contributors less willing to volunteer.

Every delayed reward makes participation feel increasingly transactional.

Eventually, even genuinely ethical builders inherit distrust they never created.

Entire ecosystems begin suffering from reputation fatigue.

People stop believing.

Not because blockchain failed.

But because expectations repeatedly exceeded delivery.

Trust is incredibly difficult to earn.

Remarkably easy to monetize.

Almost impossible to rebuild once exhausted.

The Other Side of Web3

Despite everything discussed throughout this essay, this is not a pessimistic view of blockchain.

Because another Web3 exists.

There are founders who quietly build for years without chasing headlines.

Projects that publish transparent updates even when progress is slow.

Grant recipients who exceed expectations and openly document every milestone.

Communities that genuinely influence governance.

Influencers who disclose partnerships and admit mistakes.

Teams that reward contributors fairly.

Builders who understand that trust compounds more slowly than hype, but lasts significantly longer.

These people rarely dominate timelines.

Yet they represent the future worth building.

They remind us that blockchain's greatest innovation was never simply technology.

It was coordination between strangers built upon shared belief.

That belief deserves protection.

Research Methodology

This article is intended as the beginning of a broader investigation rather than its conclusion.

The next phase of this research will examine blockchain projects across multiple ecosystems—including Ethereum, Base, Celo, Optimism, Arbitrum, Solana, Polygon, and others—by comparing public promises with measurable outcomes.

The investigation will review grant announcements, GitHub repositories, product releases, governance activity, funding rounds, community engagement, roadmap execution, and user adoption over multiple years. Rather than attempting to judge intentions, the goal is to identify recurring incentive patterns where community participation generated significant value while long-term benefits for contributors remained limited.

The purpose is not to identify villains.

It is to better understand the systems that shape behavior across Web3.

Conclusion

Every generation inherits technologies capable of changing the world.

Blockchain may be one of ours.

But technology alone has never been enough.

Healthy ecosystems require more than smart contracts.

They require integrity.

They require accountability.

They require communities that are treated as partners rather than marketing strategies.

Narrative Farming does not happen because every founder is dishonest.

It happens because incentives quietly encourage behavior that prioritizes attention over outcomes, visibility over delivery, and storytelling over measurable impact.

Recognizing these patterns is not an attack on Web3.

It is an attempt to protect what made Web3 worth believing in from the very beginning.

This is Part One.

For Part Two, I want to investigate real experiences from builders, contributors, moderators, grant recipients, and community members across different ecosystems.

If you've ever supported a project that promised ownership, transparency, meaningful rewards, or long-term value but failed to deliver, share your experience in the comments. Every submission will be independently verified using public records, archived announcements, onchain data where available, and project documentation before being included.

The goal isn't to expose people.

The goal is to understand the incentives shaping our industry and to ask whether the communities that built Web3 are truly sharing in the value they helped create.

What you feel, you attract.

What you imagine, you create.”

— Buddha

One thing I’ve discovered in life is that the way people act and behave is largely shaped by their mindset.

A mindset is a collection of attitudes, beliefs, and ways of thinking that influence how we see the world and respond to it. It affects our decisions, our relationships, and ultimately the direction of our lives.

When someone speaks to you, your reaction isn’t determined only by their words. It’s determined by how you think. The same situation can produce completely different responses because no two people share the exact same mindset.

That is what makes us unique.

Too often, we question everything around us except ourselves. We challenge circumstances, criticize others, and blame situations, yet we rarely examine the beliefs and thought patterns guiding our own actions.

Growth begins when we start questioning our own mindset.

Train your mind to see possibilities where others see impossibilities. Every great achievement was once considered impossible until someone believed differently.

Change your thinking, and you’ll begin to change your life.

Every Win happens in the Mind first

I completely agree. 🙌

I remember back in high school during our annual sports competitions. We were divided into different teams, and during one of our training sessions, I joined the high jump group.

One of my teammates was called up to jump. The bar was set at about 1 meter, and he cleared it with ease. Full of confidence, the coach raised it to 1.2 meters, and once again, he soared over it effortlessly.

Then the coach raised the bar to about 1.4 meters, roughly 4 to 5 feet high.

In that moment, everything changed.

His expression dropped.

The coach noticed and asked, “Are you okay?”

“Yeah,” he replied quietly.

The coach smiled and said, “Alright, go ahead.”

But instead of running toward the bar, he looked down and said, “I can’t jump this.”

The coach encouraged him and tried to convince him to at least give it a try, but nothing worked. In his mind, he had already decided that it was impossible. Before his body even had the chance to try, his mind had already accepted defeat.

That moment has stayed with me.

What am I trying to say?

Every victory in life begins in the mind.

You first see yourself earning that degree. You first see yourself completing that course. You first see yourself building that business, launching that project, or achieving that dream.

Your actions follow the picture you’ve created in your mind.

If you can’t see yourself winning, you’ll struggle to take the first step. But when you believe it’s possible, you give yourself permission to try. And every great achievement starts with someone who was willing to believe before the results ever appeared.

How can I have a mega mind?

A mega mind doesn't happen overnight. It's something you build every day.

Here are a few things that have helped me:

Guard your mind. Be mindful of what you watch, read, and listen to. Everything you consume shapes your thinking.

Never stop learning. Read books, ask questions, and stay curious. Growth begins when learning never ends.

Watch your self-talk. Speak to yourself with belief, not doubt. The conversation in your mind becomes your reality.

See possibilities, not limitations. Every opportunity starts with someone believing it can be done.

Focus on solutions. Don't spend all your energy talking about problems. Train your mind to find answers.

Surround yourself with growth-minded people. The people around you influence how you think and what you believe is possible.

Take action. A powerful mindset without action is just a good idea. Growth comes from doing.

At the end of the day, a mega mind isn't about knowing everything. It's about thinking differently, believing bigger, and becoming better every single day.

Because the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thinking.

My today is the product of decisions I took yesterday and my tomorrow will be a product of the choices I make today.

If i want a healthy body in 6 months. I have to make up my mind to hit the gym daily and eat healthy meals. Everything is a choice. And me not making a choice is already a choice in itself.

My life, my choice

I believe in the power of choice. I always have a choice. Not making one is already a choice. I am absolutely RESPONSIBLE for the outcome of my life.

To manifest what I desire, i must make a choice to do everything possible that'll position me for that manifestations.

It's always you vs you. If you don't decide that you've had enough no one can make that choice for you.

It is the day you get tired and make a decision to change the course of your life that you will gain the superpower to effect the changes you desire.

Every of our actions are products of the choices we make.

It is me that limits me

How further I can go is determined by how further I've seen myself. Have you ever participated in any sporting event?

Let me use high jump for instance. Before the athlete jumps over the hurdle he/she have already seen themselves jumping it even before their body move.

Any battle you've not won in your mind can't be won physically. You must first conquer that challenge in your head .

Only you can limit you. No one else can. You got so much potentials but laziness, lack of motivation are killers of great destinies.

If you believe you can, and you see you can then you can become it.

I showed up every day.

Set my alarm at 4 a.m. every day.

Sent 30 plus cold DMs every day.

I did all this.

So… why am I not seeing the results I need?

At the time, I felt I was doing everything right. I believed that showing up every day meant things would fall into place for me, even without taking the necessary actions.

But that wasn’t the case.

When Effort Didn’t Equal Progress

I remember how depressed I was.

Three months went by. No job. No work.

I felt lost.

Hot tears stream down my cheeks.

I lost my drive.

I lost my sense of purpose.

I kept asking myself, why is life so unfair to me?

The people seeing mind blowing results, are they not the same humans as me?

Why don’t I ever get rewarded for my efforts?

Those questions broke me.

One faithful day, I sat down to think about my life.

The turning point

There was this burning zeal to succeed, an unquenchable drive to excel that wouldn’t let me quit.

I told myself, I can’t quit.

Even if I have to show up every day with tears and hunger, I will until I start seeing results.

That drive turned me into a book addict.

I became obsessed with self growth and development.

I read every book about growth I could find.

Atomic Habits by James Clear.

So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport.

The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel.

And many others by great men and women.

My brain became a sponge, absorbing every lesson, every wise saying, everything I really needed.

Those books transformed my mind.

They transformed my thinking.

The lessons that changed me

I learned that I can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result.

I learned the art of strategic planning and presentation.

And most importantly, I learned the power of making instant decisions and acting on them immediately.

Right now, I’m not exactly where I want to be, but I’m grateful for where I was, where I am, and where I’m heading.

Because the moment I got tired of being stuck,

the moment I sincerely started seeking answers,

was when it all began to make sense.

The vision became clear

I felt direction.

I felt purpose.

I found my passion.

I saw a vision of who I am and the path I’m meant to tread.

And I discovered something powerful.

I am responsible for the outcome of my life.

From that point, I made a decision to impact lives.

The birth of Unique Minds

Millions of people around the world are struggling.

No sense of self.

No direction.

No guide.

Misplaced priorities.

I cried because millions have not yet discovered the unlimited potential within them.

And I made a promise to myself.

To change lives.

To bless others as I have been blessed.

To help as many people as I can.

Unique Minds was born out of that promise.

A platform to help young people around the world discover purpose and impact their generation.

It’s here to reignite lost zeal and passion.

To remind them that they are human.

It’s okay to fail.

They are not alone.

No one is perfect.

With time, they too can become whoever they imagine.

Welcome to Unique Minds

This is where transformation begins.

Where purpose meets growth.

Where stories like mine become sparks for others to rise.

Welcome to Unique Minds.

A home for dreamers, builders, and believers.

This is only the beginning.

Engagements on cast haven't been favouring lots of people.

You cast something solid, something that should do well… and it flops.

Not just “eh, underperformed”

I mean vanished into the void.

Meanwhile, the “drink water, touch grass” crowd is somehow hitting 10k plus impression breathing.

I get it.

It’s frustrating.

Especially when you’re putting thought into your content, testing formats, showing up daily, and the platform decides to give you a week’s worth of tumbleweeds.

But here’s the thing most people won’t tell you:

EVERYONE’S engagement has dropped at some point and they didn't just start with high engagement and views.

Even the big accounts. They just don’t talk about it.

They keep casting through it.

And that’s the difference.

The ones who keep going build momentum.

The ones who panic, disappear, or start casting about “how the algorithm hates creators” lose it completely.

Here’s how you don’t become one of them:.

Your numbers aren’t you. They’re just feedback.

They’re messy, unpredictable, often inaccurate feedback.

The moment you start defining your worth by likes and impressions, you’ve lost control of your voice.

Your numbers aren’t you. They’re just feedback.

They’re messy, unpredictable, often inaccurate feedback.

The moment you start defining your worth by likes and recasts, you’ve lost control of your voice.

You don't need applause to be consistent.

In fact, the best growth happens when no one’s watching.

Every “dead” post still signals to the algorithm that you’re active.

And that is worth so much more than any viral “drink water” post.

When engagement’s low, that’s your cue to experiment.

No pressure, no spotlight, just freedom.

Try that weird idea.

Cast at odd hours.

Write something less polished and more honest.

Low reach seasons are where voices sharpen.

I tried casting at “weird times” myself and my average likes around 100/post.

But this time it was sitting at around 10-15. literally 1/20th.

But don’t let that stop you.

Seriously.

Go comment, reply, and talk to people

Most creators underestimate how much visibility comes from being part of the conversation, not just trying to start one.

People ask me “how did I reach 1.6k followers?”

Simple, I forced to be seen, I didn’t sit and wait for others to come to me.

Here’s the truth:

Engagement drops aren’t a punishment.

They’re a filter.

What do I mean?

They separate the creators who post for numbers from the ones who cast for value.

If you can stay consistent while no one’s clapping, you’ll be unstoppable when they start again.

So yeah, engagement might suck right now.

But it’s temporary.

And if you keep creating with purpose, you’ll outlast every algorithm update, every slow month, and every viral trend.

Momentum doesn’t come from metrics.

It comes from movement.

Stay Strong.

I'm happy but then I'm not happy. I laugh all the time, I ask myself. Am I really laughing cause I am happy or I want to use that as a way to forget my pains, my woes and my bad days.

It's kind of hard to accept that true happiness comes from within when our lives forces us to interact with our environment (whether onchain or offchain) which to some extent influences us.

No wonder a psychologist said "if someone laughs more frequently than normal, it shows there are hiding lots of pain'. So, that's why I'm writing this for myself and if you can get a message from this then I'll be happy to know my gibberish resonates with someone.

It's okay not to be okay. It's okay to feel down, left out or neglected. It's okay to feel bad, disappointed or ignored. My feelings are valid. It's okay to feel the way I do but I tell myself it's not okay to wallow in these feelings.

I am in charge of my feelings. They don't control me but i control them. So when i breakdown. It's cause i want to let it all out. To relieve myself from certain emotional burdens. But I won't stay down. Still have to get up and face the world cause I am an overcomer.

So, it's okay when things don't go the way I want it to. I just have to restrategize and use a different approach.

It's okay when people don't like me or what I do. Cause everyone is entitled to their own opinions. So their opinions don't invalidate me or myself.