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            <title><![CDATA[Who can't succeed]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 29 Jul 2022 14:34:18 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[In life, everyone hopes to make contributions: you don&apos;t have to make great contributions to the world, but at least you can leave behind the "three immortals" of speech, merit and virtue. Everyone hopes to make contributions to the society and the countryside. Unfortunately, many people seek contributions and benefits, which often backfires and is on the verge of success. So, who can&apos;t succeed? First, people who receive rewards without merit cannot succeed. If you want to get a rew...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In life, everyone hopes to make contributions: you don&apos;t have to make great contributions to the world, but at least you can leave behind the &quot;three immortals&quot; of speech, merit and virtue. Everyone hopes to make contributions to the society and the countryside. Unfortunately, many people seek contributions and benefits, which often backfires and is on the verge of success. So, who can&apos;t succeed? First, people who receive rewards without merit cannot succeed. If you want to get a reward without credit, it&apos;s like asking for fish from a tree on the edge. How can you get results without cause? When we see some people succeed, we should know that they all become famous after a lot of hard work. In life, as long as you can make meritorious contributions and deserve it, history or the public will not treat you badly if someone fails you; On the contrary, people who have received no merit, such as relatives in previous dynasties, cannot succeed even if they are enfranchised and others are unconvinced by nepotism. Second, people who are eager for success and profit cannot succeed. Making contributions is a matter of life, not a moment. Some people are impatient and hope to get lucky for a while, so they are eager for success and profit. In fact, the value of rapidly growing trees and flowers is limited. Third, people who are proud of their achievements cannot succeed. Some people originally established credit and were respected, but he was proud of his credit and was punished for it. For example, aobai, because of his pride, made Kangxi unbearable and was finally eradicated. People who are proud of their achievements should take this as a warning. Fourth, those who are greedy for success and provoke trouble cannot succeed. Some people are greedy for fame, create right and wrong, provoke trouble, and let others fight each other, so that they can benefit from it. This kind of person may get lucky and make profits, but in the long run, people will know his tricks and be cautious in dealing with each other. Even if he is successful for a while, but he is alone and has no friends, what fun is life? Fifth, those who ask for merit cannot succeed. Heroes of ancient and modern times hope to win awards after they have made contributions. Han Xin asked Han Gaozu to be appointed as the Deputy king of Qi. Han Gaozu was angry and refused. After Zhang Liang hinted, he had an idea and changed his words to say, &quot;if you want to be sealed, you can seal it formally. Why do you want to be an agent!&quot; Therefore, he was appointed king of Qi, but Han Xin was killed. Sixth, people who have wasted all their previous efforts cannot succeed. Some people make many contributions, but they can&apos;t keep them. It&apos;s a pity that all the previous contributions are wasted because of other reasons. As the saying goes, &quot;when birds are exhausted, good bows are hidden; when cunning rabbits die, lackeys cook&quot;. Therefore, it is also an important lesson in life to be able to keep credit.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Manage your time reasonably]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 16 Jul 2022 15:19:57 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[There is a saying: Today&apos;s you are the result of your past habits; Today&apos;s habits will be your destiny tomorrow. Change all the habit patterns that make you unhappy / unsuccessful, and your destiny will change, The larger the field of habits, the more free and energetic life will be, and the greater the achievements will be. Sometimes success is not as difficult as you think. If you form a good habit every day and stick to it, maybe success is just around the corner. It&apos;s easy ...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There is a saying: Today&apos;s you are the result of your past habits; Today&apos;s habits will be your destiny tomorrow. Change all the habit patterns that make you unhappy / unsuccessful, and your destiny will change, The larger the field of habits, the more free and energetic life will be, and the greater the achievements will be. Sometimes success is not as difficult as you think. If you form a good habit every day and stick to it, maybe success is just around the corner. It&apos;s easy to form a good habit every day, but the difficulty is to stick to it. This is a combination of faith and perseverance, so it is not surprising that there are so few successful people. &quot;If a person wants to have great achievements, he must make some small achievements every day.&quot; The difference between the rich and the poor is not just about money. Here is a short story: a rich man gave a poor man a cow, and the poor man began to struggle with hope. But cattle have to eat grass and people have to eat. Life is hard. The poor sold the cattle, bought several sheep, ate one, and the rest was used to produce lambs. But the lamb didn&apos;t come out, and life was hard again. The poor sold their sheep and bought them into chickens. They wanted the chickens to lay eggs and earn money for a living, but the days did not change. Finally, the poor killed the chickens, and the poor&apos;s ideal completely collapsed. This is the habit of the poor. As for the rich, according to an investment expert, the secret of their success is: when you have no money, no matter how difficult it is, don&apos;t use investment and savings. Pressure will make you find new ways to make money and help you pay off your bills. This is a good habit. Character determines habits, and habits determine success. Some people say that one of the two fairest things God does to mankind is that everyone has only 24 hours a day. I remember when I was a child, I read the words &quot;an inch of time is an inch of gold, and an inch of gold can&apos;t buy an inch of time&quot;. Although we don&apos;t know how long the so-called &quot;an inch of time&quot; is, since time is compared with gold, its value is expensive. So how to make good use of it. (famous quotes of celebrities in the workplace) it is very necessary for individuals or collectives to manage their time well for 24 hours every day in order to maximize their effectiveness. Hurum w.smith, the founder of Franklin quest company, proposed ten natural laws of successful time and life management in his masterpiece the 10 natural laws of successful time and life management:</p><ol><li><p>Master the big and small things in life - Master life by mastering time.</p></li><li><p>Establish core values - core values are the basis of self realization and personal achievement.</p></li><li><p>Prioritize - when daily life reflects your core values, you can experience inner peace.</p></li><li><p>Set clear and feasible goals - in order to achieve important goals, you must stay away from comfort areas.</p></li><li><p>Plan daily work - good daily planning, ample time and high efficiency.</p></li><li><p>Examine the consistency between behavior and belief - behavior is the reflection of true belief.</p></li><li><p>Change behavior to meet requirements - when beliefs are consistent with facts, needs are naturally met.</p></li><li><p>Reopen the window of faith - change wrong ideas and overcome negative behaviors.</p></li><li><p>Based on personal value - self-esteem must come from the heart.</p></li><li><p>Achieve yourself in dedication - the more you pay, the more you gain. Whether a person has a clear goal every day, whether he has a reasonable time arrangement every day, rather than a messy and chaotic life, undoubtedly has an important impact on his distance from success. With the development of the times, the more people live in modern metropolis, the more hurried they are and the more tense they are. Everyone&apos;s time is like the paralyzed traffic condition on the highway. They are full of trivia that they should and have to do, but they can&apos;t find space for what they really want to do. &quot;Busy, blind and confused&quot; is a true portrayal of their life. Only by maintaining good living habits and having a clear concept of time management can we find a trace of ease in the rush of people.</p></li></ol>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[The degree of persistence determines the height of success]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 09 Jul 2022 11:03:04 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[The most wonderful and final speech of the great British Prime Minister Churchill was at a graduation ceremony at Cambridge University. At that time, there were tens of thousands of students sitting in the whole venue, all of whom were looking forward to the arrival of the great Churchill. Accompanied by his entourage, the respected Mr. Churchill arrived at the meeting on time and walked to the podium. Standing on the podium, Churchill took off his coat and handed it to his entourage. Then he...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The most wonderful and final speech of the great British Prime Minister Churchill was at a graduation ceremony at Cambridge University. At that time, there were tens of thousands of students sitting in the whole venue, all of whom were looking forward to the arrival of the great Churchill. Accompanied by his entourage, the respected Mr. Churchill arrived at the meeting on time and walked to the podium. Standing on the podium, Churchill took off his coat and handed it to his entourage. Then he took off his hat and silently stared at the audience. After a minute, he said, &quot;never give up!&quot; (never give up) Churchill put on his hat and coat and left the meeting. This made the whole venue silent, and a minute later, applause thundered. Never give up, never give up, never give up! Churchill made great contributions to British peace in his life. These great achievements are the result of Churchill&apos;s unremitting efforts and the best portrayal of his &quot;never give up&quot; spirit. Another classic example of &quot;never give up&quot; in the world is a new speech by Joe Gillard, the world&apos;s greatest salesman. When he was about to end his marketing career, he was invited by all walks of life to give a speech about the secret of becoming a marketing king. The scene was also full that day, and people were waiting eagerly and anxiously. When the curtain on the stage slowly opened, people were surprised to find a huge iron ball hanging in the center of the stage. Just wondering, I saw an old man walking to the iron ball in the warm cheers of the people. People looked at him in surprise, not knowing what he was going to do. At this moment, two staff members came up, carrying a big hammer and placing it on the stage. The old man said, &quot;please come to the stage with two strong young people.&quot; Many strong men stood up, and two of them had already run on the stage quickly. The old man asked them to use the big hammer to hit the hanging iron ball until it shook. A young man didn&apos;t think about it. He couldn&apos;t wait to pull out his posture, swing a hammer, and try his best to hit the hanging iron ball. There was only a harsh noise, but the iron ball hung there motionless. The refueling sound under the stage was loud, and he continued to smash one after another. The iron ball did not move, but he was panting, so he had to admit defeat. Another young man looked unconvinced, took the big hammer and smashed the iron ball loudly, but soon he was also defeated, shook his head and walked off the stage. The cries under the stage gradually disappeared, and people decided that the iron ball could not be shaken. At this time, without saying a word, the old man took out a small hammer from his coat pocket, and then seriously knocked on the huge iron ball, then paused, and then continued to knock with a small hammer. People&apos;s eyes widened, and they didn&apos;t know what the famous salesman wanted to do, but the old man repeatedly did this action, where he kept hitting the iron ball. In this way, ten minutes passed, and twenty minutes passed. The audience slowly lost patience and began to stir up. Some even began to curse Joe Gillard for delaying everyone&apos;s time. Joe Gillard didn&apos;t pay attention, and still worked hammer by hammer. He didn&apos;t seem to hear people complaining at all. In this way, the audience left angrily. The remaining people seemed to be tired, and the venue gradually quieted down. Just as Joe Gillard was about 40 minutes old, a woman sitting in the front row suddenly screamed, &quot;look, the ball is moving!&quot; The venue was suddenly silent, and people were absorbed in looking at the iron ball. Sure enough, the huge iron ball began to shake with a small amplitude. The old man was not affected and continued to stand there hammering. In this way, the big iron ball finally swung higher and higher with the efforts of the old man. It drove the iron chain to make a &quot;bang bang&quot; sound, and its great power strongly shook everyone present. Bursts of warm applause burst out at the venue. In the applause, the old man put the hammer into his coat pocket, turned around and said to everyone, &quot;on the way to growth, you don&apos;t have the patience to wait for success, so you have to face failure with lifelong patience.&quot; History and countless cases tell us that as long as we can persevere towards our goals and dreams, we will finally get the joy of success. Those who give up halfway can only taste impetuous confusion. How to never give up? It was suggested that there are two principles of never giving up. The first principle is: never give up! The second principle is that when you want to give up, look back at the first principle: never give up! The width of a person determines the height</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Effort is the attitude of life]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 04 Jul 2022 14:55:18 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[If you feel hard at this time, tell yourself: what is easy to go is downhill. Hold on, because you are going uphill. Go over it, and you will make progress. If you are complaining that fate doesn&apos;t care, enlighten yourself: life is an excuse for losers; Luck is the modest word of success. Fate is always in your own hands. Complaining is just a sign of cowardice; Hard work is the attitude of life. Know your way back, and the world is wide There are eight bitters in life, and all sentient ...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you feel hard at this time, tell yourself: what is easy to go is downhill. Hold on, because you are going uphill. Go over it, and you will make progress. If you are complaining that fate doesn&apos;t care, enlighten yourself: life is an excuse for losers; Luck is the modest word of success. Fate is always in your own hands. Complaining is just a sign of cowardice; Hard work is the attitude of life. Know your way back, and the world is wide There are eight bitters in life, and all sentient beings live in the world in order to taste all the bitterness and get a sweet taste. Prosperous 3000, but finally the dust settled, like the night took off the day&apos;s Pink decoration, quiet and peaceful. Time flashed by, and the gains and losses that I cared about and the success or failure that I cared about in those years all passed away. At any time, the other side is only one step away, and the world is wide. happy Escape is not necessarily the most difficult, loneliness is not necessarily unhappy, gain is not necessarily long, loss is not necessarily no longer there, and turning around is not necessarily the weakest. Don&apos;t rush to say that you have no choice. There are still roads around the dead end. If you can find a reason to be sad, you will find a reason to be happy. You can be happy to succeed, not happy after success. Those who know how to let go find ease, and those who know how to let go find freedom. Source of pain People who live a full life are easy to be happy. Happiness comes from feeling good every day. They are always worried about the risks of tomorrow and can&apos;t erase the shadow of yesterday. How can today&apos;s life be satisfactory? Always compare those that cannot be compared, always fantasize about those that cannot be achieved, how can today&apos;s mood be quiet? Anything unrealistic is the source of pain. Pain comes from not being full, and living a full life will not lead to wishful thinking. Try to live every day well, and our life will naturally be full of sunshine. Life is paradise everywhere If you are thirsty, water is heaven; If you are tired, the bed is heaven; If you fail, success is heaven; If you suffer, happiness is heaven. In fact, the heaven of life is not far away. If the desire is satisfied, it is heaven, and if it is not satisfied, it is hell; Take care of your desires. Life is paradise everywhere. pursuit Some people always wear a pair of big shoes that don&apos;t fit their feet and are tired of walking. A friend asked her why, and she said, &quot;all shoes are the same price, why don&apos;t you buy big ones?&quot;? In fact, in life, we often see such people who constantly pursue greatness. Driven by their inner greed, they completely do not measure up to their abilities, and as a result, they make themselves very tired. In fact, no matter what shoes you buy, fitting is the most important; No matter what you pursue, it must be enough. life There are always too many expectations in life, but always disappointed; There are always too many dreams, but they have always failed; There are always too many grievances, but there is nothing to do; There are always too many words, but no one can tell; Always want to escape, but have been fettered by reality. In life, there are few things that belong to us. We can&apos;t retain what we should go, and remember what we should forget. No one can take away what belongs to us. Learn to save, learn to delete, learn to clean up memory garbage regularly, and live a happy life. Read yourself Only those who understand themselves can truly understand the great book of life, because the author of this book is himself, and the reader is himself. Those who read only others and don&apos;t read themselves are doomed to succeed and are somewhat far away from themselves. Even if you are willing to read yourself occasionally, it may not be accurate. The living and real you, hiding behind success and failure, can only calm down and touch the collision with your heart!</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[What are we going to work for?]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 23 Jun 2022 18:19:45 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[If you read this article and read only half of it, you will say you have no time, which means you are already a "confused" person. If you finish reading this article, you feel that this article is only about the general truth, which shows that your life experience is not enough. You need to treasure this article, go out and touch the wall for a few years, come back after you have broken your head and blood, and read it again, you will lament your youth and ignorance. If you have read it and f...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you read this article and read only half of it, you will say you have no time, which means you are already a &quot;confused&quot; person. If you finish reading this article, you feel that this article is only about the general truth, which shows that your life experience is not enough. You need to treasure this article, go out and touch the wall for a few years, come back after you have broken your head and blood, and read it again, you will lament your youth and ignorance. If you have read it and find it very reasonable, then put it on the shelf, continue to walk into the crowded subway, and still think about your future with your yesterday&apos;s concept, your life will continue to repeat yesterday&apos;s situation. What are we going to work for? If you finish reading it, you think it is an article of advice written by an elder in his lifetime, which shows that you have a similar life experience. As long as you continue to work hard, it is not difficult to achieve great achievements. The difficult thing is whether you can share your life experience with others? Experience determines depth, and knowledge determines breadth. What is your life? 1、 About work and life I have an interesting observation. Most foreign companies are white-collar workers aged 25-35. There are few employees over 40. Foreign employees in their twenties and thirties are energetic, but managers around the age of 40 in foreign companies are very embarrassed. Most of the managers of foreign enterprises around the age of 40 I have seen have been job hopping, and most of them have finally jumped to private enterprises. The success of foreign employees is largely the success of the company, not the success of individuals. Siemens is indeed bigger than Gome, but it does not mean that Siemens&apos; Chinese managers are better than Gome&apos;s bosses, or even far worse. However, those who enter foreign enterprises often do not understand this very early and attribute 90% of their success to their own ability. In fact, changing the general manager of a foreign enterprise in China will not have any great impact on their performance. Well, here&apos;s the question. When these managers are in their 40s, their salary requirements become very high, but their talents are not so outstanding. As the boss of a foreign company, how would you choose? Some are energetic young people who want to stand out as long as they don&apos;t get a high salary. Some are. Why use you? From the above example, we can actually see our work track. In our twenties and thirties, the pressure of life is relatively small, our health is relatively good, the parents above are in good health, and there are no children below, so we don&apos;t have to pay the mortgage, and no children want to go to college. Being a small white-collar worker in a foreign enterprise is still very bright, and it&apos;s not enough to earn much. But people will eventually get married and have children. They will eventually grow old. At the age of 40, when their parents are old, they need to see a doctor, take medicine, have someone to take care of them, pay off their mortgage, live a basically decent life, and raise children... How much money they need to earn to spend at that time is important. Therefore, when we look at our work, we should take a long view. It doesn&apos;t mean that who is high and who is low at the moment. From this point of view, I don&apos;t agree to pay too much attention to the salary of the first job, and there is no need to compare the salary of the first job, which is very common among students who just leave the campus. A normal person has to work for about 35 years, which is like a marathon race. Unlike a real marathon race, there are no professional athletes in this race, and everyone has only one chance. You know, there are many people who can&apos;t even reach the finish line. Most people finally reach the finish line, and only a few people run across the finish line. Therefore, it doesn&apos;t make much sense to grab the leading position at the beginning. If you enter the top 500 companies when you first enter the society, you can probably get 3k-6k/ month salary. Some talents with special skills may get 8k/ month. The question is, how much will you get in five years? It is estimated that 5k-10k is great. Although the starting point is high, the growth rate is limited, and the young people behind are under increasing pressure to catch up. I asked one of my salesmen the other day. A newcomer has learned all these things in two years, but the salary required by the newcomer is only half of yours. What will you do then? Career is like a sports game, including preliminary, semi-final and final. At the preliminary round, everyone just entered the society, and most of them were people with average strength. At this time, if they work hard and seriously, they will soon be able to make people stand out. So some people became managers in their twenties, some people finally won the preliminary round later, and became managers in their thirties. Then comes the semi-finals. Those who can participate in the semi-finals will win the preliminary round. Everyone has some abilities, and there is no problem in intelligence. It is not easy to win at this time. It is not enough to rely on a little effort and seriousness. We should have a strong spirit of perseverance, know how to rely on the strength of the team, know how to win the hearts of the people, and have a long-term vision It seems that it is not easy to win the semi-finals, but it is not so difficult. Because the law of the world is to give people a little success while making them proud and complacent. People who have just won the preliminaries often don&apos;t know that they have won only the preliminaries. With a little success, most people will become complacent and think that they have understood everything and don&apos;t need to study hard. They will think that the reason why they can&apos;t go further is no longer their own reason. Although they are still difficult to deal with, they have no patience, no tolerant measurement, and no clear long-term vision. It is like an angry bullfight. Although it is fierce, it will eventually lose. Like a matador, the person who wins the semi-finals is not impatient and follows his own beat, slowly exhausting his opponent&apos;s patience and physical strength. After winning the semi-finals, he has become a great professional manager. He has become the general manager of small and medium-sized companies and the deputy general manager of large companies, and is in charge of tens of millions or even hundreds of millions of businesses every year. The final is coming. To be honest, I haven&apos;t won the final yet, so I can only guess the decisive factors of the final. At this time, the winning or losing may be just like what is written in the martial arts novel. Everyone is an expert and can only wait for the other party to make mistakes. It is impossible to defeat the opponent easily. In addition to doing everything, it also requires a little luck and time. The laws of the world still play a role. The people who win the semi-finals are not just complacent. They are often headstrong and do not listen to what others say. Some people become grumpy, moody and physically worse. Their biggest enemy is themselves. What they have to do in the finals is not to be defeated by themselves, waiting for others to be defeated by themselves. This is the same as the sports competition. In the final competition between experts, it depends on who makes fewer mistakes and wins the final. 2、 Root causes Are you happy at work? How is your job? Do you feel unhappy after working for a period of time? Do you feel like you&apos;re in the wrong business? Do you feel that you haven&apos;t received the treatment you deserve? Do you feel that work is like a mess? It is a pain to go to work every day? Do you really want to change your job? Do you think that the current company is not as good as originally thought? Do you feel that this job is not suitable for you because of the pressure of survival? Do you get what you want from your job? Are you happy every day? Have you ever wondered why you are not happy? Why are you angry? In fact, the root of your unhappiness is that you don&apos;t know what you want! You don&apos;t know what you want, so you don&apos;t know what to pursue. You don&apos;t know what to pursue, so you can&apos;t get anything. I always feel that the first thing to focus on in my career is myself. What do you want? Most people probably haven&apos;t thought about this problem. Their only idea is - I want a job, I want a good salary, I know everyone&apos;s desire for salary, but do you want to repeat the process of looking for a job every few years? Do you want to spend every year in this anxiety about work and salary? If you don&apos;t want to, think it over. Drink poison to quench thirst. You can&apos;t drink poison because you are thirsty. The more anxious you are, the more you feel you need a job, the more hungry you are, the more confused you are, and the more likely you are to fail. Your experience is getting worse and worse. People in the next job will frown at your resume. So the more you drink, the more thirsty you drink, and you fall into a vicious circle. Finally, I can only lament the injustice of the world or the untimely timing of life. I can only vent on the horizon and seek a little psychological balance in the resonance of the losers. Most people have survival pressure, and so do I. if there is survival pressure, there will be a lot of anxiety. Positive people will get motivation from anxiety, while negative people will lose their way because of anxiety. Everyone must make choices under pressure. This is the way of the world. Whether you like it or not. Generally, we deal with important things and urgent things. If we don&apos;t do important things, we will often do urgent things. For example, it is important to exercise and keep healthy, while it is urgent to see a doctor. If you do not exercise to keep healthy, you will often worry about illness. Another example is that fire prevention is an important thing, and fire fighting is an urgent thing. If you don&apos;t pay attention to fire prevention, you should always put out the fire. The same is true of looking for a job. It is important to think about what you really want. Looking for a job is an urgent thing. If you don&apos;t think about it well, you will often have to look for a job. Often, urgent things put a lot of pressure on people, forcing them to do it quickly. Relatively speaking, important things don&apos;t have that much pressure. Most people do things based on pressure. Under pressure, they always feel that they have to do urgent things first. As a result, they always go to the place to fight the fire and never stop. (many people&apos;s work is as busy and painful as a fire brigade, because they don&apos;t do important things well in their work.) For those friends who say that they live in dire straits and do not care about so many things in order to survive, the difficulty in finding a job today is that you didn&apos;t do important things at the beginning. It&apos;s the result, not the reason. If you are still anxious to find a job today and don&apos;t think about it, you may continue to suffer the painful result of looking for a job in the future. I always feel that the topic I want to talk about is a little heavy and needs a lot of thinking. It is far more boring than Tang Xiao&apos;s topic of fighting the armed police. However, there is no easy success in the world. Success has to pay a price. Please forget all the pressure of survival and think about what you want most in your life? So, the most important thing is to think about what you want first. 3、 What is a good job All people want face, and they also like to compare themselves. Even at work, they also like to compare themselves, whether it is what they want or not. People think that foreign companies are very good, but what is the good? Well, they are in a better office building. Is this what you want? They live in a better hotel on business. Is that what you want? Others will envy a job in a foreign company. Is this what you want? All that is for others. Why do you have to live so hard to show others? On the other hand, their salaries and benefits are average, and they are not particularly impressive. They have few opportunities for promotion, and it is difficult for them to be high-level managers. Although they hate working overtime often, they dare not not not to work overtime, because &quot;if you don&apos;t do it, you have to do it by others&quot;. In most cases, they will find a Taiwanese, Hong Kong or Singaporean to take care of you, and these people often have some inexplicable sense of superiority. Have you figured it out? Must the top 500 be good? Do you think about what you want or what others want to see when looking for a job? Most of my college classmates have gone to the United States. Even after graduation for so many years, some have recently gone abroad. Is it really so good to go abroad? Most of my college classmates are still struggling with their doctorates, postdoctors and visiting scholars. So far, only one of them is getting a formal teaching post in an American University. Is it difficult to be a professor in China? Several of my cousins have also gone abroad. Their parents are alone in China and no one takes care of them. Several times, people have fainted at home and no one knows. Is it really so glorious to go abroad? As someone said, &quot;a lot of things are like watching porn. People who watch porn feel very happy, but people who do it may not.&quot; People always want to find the best, but what is the best? Do you think it is the best one because you really know it, or because others say it is the best? Even if he is the best for others, must he be the best for you? For what you want, you should know best. The opinions of others are not so important. Many people are always influenced by other people&apos;s opinions, such as those of relatives, friends and colleagues... The question is, whose life are you going to live? A person&apos;s life is not a sequel to a parent&apos;s life, nor is it a prequel to a child&apos;s life, nor is it an outside story of a friend&apos;s life. Only you are responsible for your life, and others cannot and cannot bear this responsibility. The decision I made, at least in the end, I have nothing to regret. For most people with normal intelligence, there is no big right or wrong in their decisions. No matter what choice they make, they can try. For example, if you don&apos;t go to the school you went to and enter the current industry, you won&apos;t be able to live your life? Will fail? Not necessarily. I think a good job should be a job suitable for you. Specifically, it should be a job that can bring you what you want. Perhaps you should use this to measure whether your job is good or not, rather than the size and scale of the company, whether it is a foreign or state-owned enterprise, whether it is famous, or whether it is a listed company. A small company may not be a good company, and a job that makes more money may not be a good job. You still have to figure out what you want first. If you don&apos;t know what you want, you will never find a good job, because you will always only see what you can&apos;t get, and what you get is what you don&apos;t want. Maybe the best is already by your side, but you haven&apos;t learned to cherish it. People always focus on what they can&apos;t get, and ignore what they have already got.</p><p>4、 Ordinary people I have found that Chinese people&apos;s motivation is very different from that of foreign countries. China&apos;s motivation encourages people to make a big wish, live on hardships and taste gall, and become rich and valuable one day. However, foreign inspirations encourage people to face the real life bravely and the plight of ordinary people. Although the result is to become rich and expensive, the starting point is different. Relatively speaking, I think the latter is more realistic in operation, while the former needs 999 losers to build a successful story. We are all ordinary people. What ordinary people mean is that probability is very accurate. Therefore, we will not win 5million in the lottery, we will not become Bill Gates or Li Ka Shing, we will not fall down by plane, few of us will start a business successfully, 30% of us will divorce, and most of us will live beyond the age of 65 So please be realistic when you think about what you want. You say I want to be Li Ka Shing. Sorry, I can&apos;t help you. Being Bill Gates or Li Ka Shing depends on your life. Reading my article will never make you become them. Even if you become them, it is definitely not the credit of my article. But there is only one real emperor, and there are not many princes and generals. Setting a higher goal is good for people who like challenges, but for most ordinary people, it is easier to lose heart and give up. Looking back, Li Ka Shing is about 500000 times richer than you. Is he happier than you? Maybe. If you are half a million times happier than you, you must not. He is at most twice as happy as you, and may even be less happy than you. To find what you want is not to compete with others, but to be more and higher than who, and to be more ambitious than who. Although the goal of becoming Li Ka Shing is very ambitious, you don&apos;t necessarily get happiness from this goal and the process of pursuing it, and basically you can&apos;t do it. You must listen to your inner voice and look for something that really makes you happy. That&apos;s what you want. What you want, or we call it a goal, there is no difference between high and low goals. You don&apos;t need to be embarrassed because your goals are not as big as others. Reaching your goals is actually success. Success is big and small, but happiness is the same. We chase success, in fact, we chase the happiness brought by success, not success itself. On our career path, we are often blindfolded by the mentality of comparison, forgetting what we pursue and what makes us happier. There are a lot of news about getting rich overnight in society. These news will always set off a lot of ripples in our hearts. When there are many ripples, they will become a storm. The storm in our hearts will not make you get rich overnight except overturning the boat carrying your goals. &quot;The thief eats meat, but the thief is beaten.&quot; We ordinary people have neither the courage to be thieves nor the ruthless determination to be thieves. Although we envy eating meat, we are more afraid of being beaten. Occasionally, when we see a few thieves who haven&apos;t been beaten, we can&apos;t stand it, or think about it, or feel unfair. We really want to be thieves, but we don&apos;t dare. I still live the life of ordinary people. I want the happiness of ordinary people. At least, I can sleep at night. 5、 Job hopping and accumulation First of all, it should be explained that work is a matter of reason, so don&apos;t play with your personality at work. Some people in Tianya may think you have a personality and applaud you. The gas company and the telephone company won&apos;t exempt your bill because they think you have a personality. When you fire your boss handsomely, when you make a cool dig at the HR recruitment, the bill still needs to be paid, but you have less time to make money, and no one suffers except yourself. I am not against job hopping, but job hopping is by no means the solution to the problem, and the consequence of frequent job hopping is that people feel no loyalty and can not work at ease. Now many people look for jobs on the Internet. Many job search websites often give people some bad ideas. You should know that they are profit-making enterprises. Of course, from the perspective of their own profits, the more frequently people change jobs and look for jobs, the more prosperous their business is. Therefore, it is their job to encourage people to change jobs. So they will often tell you that your salary is less and your benefits are worse. It is &quot;salary express&quot; and &quot;praise the free and unrestrained soul&quot;. As for whether it will make you uneasy, whether you jump the slot to solve the problem, and whether you are happier, they can&apos;t control it. There must be a problem when you want to change jobs. Generally speaking, when a problem occurs, you can&apos;t avoid it. Many people change jobs because they are unhappy in one way or another. If this kind of unhappiness can&apos;t be solved in this company now, it can&apos;t be solved in the next company. You must believe that 90% of the time, your company is not so bad, and the company you think is good is not so good. As the besieged city said, &quot;people in the city desperately want to rush out, while people outside the city desperately want to rush in.&quot; Every company has its own problems. There is no company without problems. In a different environment, you don&apos;t know what problems you will encounter. Instead, it&apos;s better to solve the problems right now. Many problems may not be so difficult when you really want to solve them. Sometimes you think the problem can&apos;t be solved. In fact, it&apos;s just &quot;you think&quot;. The curve of life should be tortuous and upward. Sometimes we encounter low ebbs, but the general trend is always tortuous and upward, rather than always returning to the starting point like a pulse wave. I have seen many interviewers in their 30s. They have four or five work experiences, ranging from three years at most to one year at least. When they return to the starting point in their 30s, they start from a junior position, get a basic junior salary, and compete with young people in their 20s, Don&apos;t you think it&apos;s a little hard? Is this kind of life easy? Capital depends on accumulation. This accumulation includes interpersonal relationships, experience, contacts and public praise... If you change industries frequently, it means that years of accumulation have been wasted. Everything starts from scratch. If you change industries twice, you will only have less than 5 years of accumulation at the age of 35, while a person who has not changed industries has at least 10 years of accumulation. Who will have the advantage? After working for 2-3 years, many people feel that their work is not going well. It seems that they have reached a bottleneck. They feel bored and want to resign, or even change their industry. They feel that all their troubles can be put aside and it will be much better. In fact, doing so just allows you to start from scratch. At that time, the same difficulties as the original industry will still occur. If you survive, you will take a big step forward. You should know that everyone will go through this process. Everyone will encounter several bottlenecks in their career. If you survive but others don&apos;t, you will take the lead. The long-distance runner will know that it is easy at the beginning, but there will be the first discomfort soon, but after this period, he can run for a long time, and then he will encounter the second discomfort. After that, he can run for another period. In this way, the discomfort will become worse and worse until he can&apos;t continue. Most people can&apos;t hold on the first time. Some people can hold on to the second time. Although they can&apos;t hold on to the third time, there are few people here. This capital is enough for you to live a safe life. After twoorthree years of a job, most people will become proficient. At this time, they will often fall into constant repetition. Many people will feel tired. Some people will feel that they have understood everything, so they are too lazy to seek progress. Most of the time, job hopping is because I feel that I have lost interest and that I have finished the competition. In fact, the competition has just begun at this time. People who have worked for twoorthree years are far from enough in terms of customer relations, contacts, subordinates, relations with leaders, and fame in the industry. However, people who have made some achievements always feel good about themselves. Everyone feels that they have a very strong relationship with customers and that they have a very good reputation in the industry. In fact, it can be said for sure that it must not be. At this time, we still need to show the energy of the previous two years and work steadily. The accumulation has just begun. Do you know your customers well enough? Do you know what his biggest worry is? Do you know your boss well enough? Do you know what his biggest worry is? Do you know your men well enough? Do you know what his biggest worry is? If you don&apos;t know, why do you think you have accumulated enough? If you don&apos;t understand, how can you ask them to help you and do what you want them to do? If they don&apos;t do what you want them to do, how can you succeed? 6、 Waiting This is a topic most disliked by impetuous people. I didn&apos;t want to talk about it because it would cause too many arguments, and I have no intention of arguing with people. But considering the long-term planning of my career, this is a topic that can&apos;t be avoided. I&apos;d better decide to write about it. Please leave if you don&apos;t like it. Not every time you cross a red light, you will be hit by a car. Not every criminal will be caught. Not every mistake will be punished. Not every corrupt official will be shot. Not every effort you make will be rewarded. Not every persistence you make will be seen. Not every effort you make will be justly rewarded. Not every kindness you make will be understood... This is the world. Well, the world is not good enough, but do you have the courage to overthrow the world? If not, do you have a better solution? There are many times when people need a little patience and confidence. Everyone always turns to several unfair things, and usually, the best way is to wait. There are many times we need to wait, need to endure loneliness, and wait for the moment that belongs to you. Chow Yun fat has waited, Andy Lau has waited, Stephen Chow has waited, Faye Wong has waited, and Zhang Yimou has waited... Have you ever seen their waiting and patience when you saw their success today? Have you ever seen the Golden Horse Award winner set up a stall on the street? Have you ever seen a group of people in the Deyun society say cross talk to an audience in the theater? Have you ever seen Stephen Chow&apos;s character without even a line? Every successful person has a period of depression. I can almost imagine how they drown their sorrows in alcohol. I can also imagine the embarrassment they struggle to survive. In the most brilliant and beautiful days of their life, they are eager for success, but they are empty handed, just like you now. There is no guarantee that they will succeed in the future, but their choice is to endure loneliness. If they always said that &quot;success belongs to the privileged class&quot;, what do you think they would do today? Once I didn&apos;t understand why some people should sit on my head when they are not more capable than me. Do they have to be my leader when they are older than me? Why do some lousy people make money without working hard? Why are people so easy to make money when the reform and opening-up was just carried out, but when it is our turn, everything should be normalized? One day, I suddenly thought that when I was still in school, they struggled in the society. They have struggled in the society for more than ten or twenty years. We are new here. I want some of them. I am not trying to be fair. I am trying to rob. Because I have to be in a hurry, because I can&apos;t help being lonely. Men in their twenties have no money or career, but they have vigorous desires. People will always encounter setbacks. People will always have low tides. People will always have times when they are not understood. People will always have times when they have to be humble. These times are precisely the most critical times in life, because everyone will encounter setbacks, and most people can&apos;t pass the threshold. If you can pass, you will succeed. At such a time, we need to wait patiently and confidently. We believe that life will not give you up and opportunities will come. At least, you are still young, you are not in prison, there is no disease that cannot be cured, and there is no debt that cannot be paid. There are far more unfortunate people than you. What are you afraid of? The road should be taken step by step. Although the step to the end is very exciting, most of the steps are ordinary or even boring, but without these steps, or unable to bear these ordinary and boring, you will not be able to usher in the last excitement. Adversity is where God helps you eliminate competitors. You know, you feel bad, and others feel bad. You can&apos;t hold on, and so can others. Don&apos;t tell others that you can&apos;t hold on. That can only give others the confidence to hold on. Let competitors look at your smiling face, lose confidence, and quit the game. Victory belongs to those who have patience. In the most desperate time, I will go to see the movie &quot;the pursuit of happiness&quot; and &quot;Jerry Maguire&quot; to cheer up my courage again, because no matter what time, we always have hope. When all the people leave, I don&apos;t lose hope, I don&apos;t give up. Sitting in the car after work every day, I like to hum invisible wings and look out the window. I know that I am waiting quietly for the moment that belongs to me.</p><p>7、 Enter the right industry and the right people In China, there are probably very few people who do their jobs in the end. However, there are still some things to pay attention to in their first job. Two things are particularly important. The first thing is to enter the industry, and the second thing is to communicate with people. The biggest impact of the first job on people is entering the industry. The modern division of labor has been very detailed. Basically, we can only become experts in one industry, and it is impossible to become experts in multiple industries. Many cases have also proved that even if a person is very successful in one industry, when he goes to another industry, it is often not the same thing, &quot;do you want to change the world, or do you want to sell soda for a lifetime?&quot; Steve Jobs invited John, President of Pepsi Cola? What Scully said when he joined apple, it turned out that John, who was very successful at Pepsi, had a mediocre performance at Apple. In fact, no industry is particularly good, and no industry is particularly poor. It may be reported that the average salary in that industry is relatively high, but what they did not say is that the average pressure in that industry is also relatively high. Once you enter a beautiful industry, you will find that many places are not so perfect, but they are invisible to outsiders. To tell the truth, I haven&apos;t made a fortune myself, so my suggestions are just suggestions for making people work happily, not how to make a fortune. We only discuss the situation of ordinary migrant workers. I think it doesn&apos;t matter what industry you choose. You can&apos;t just look at the present. For example, since the year before last, the state began to rectify the medical industry, many pharmaceutical companies could not continue to operate, and many pharmaceutical industry sales began to change careers. In fact, the recession in the pharmaceutical industry is aimed at all companies, not just one company. Everyone has a hard time. It&apos;s very uneconomical to run away at this time. Most regular pharmaceutical companies can support it even if they don&apos;t want to be new for twoorthree years. Most pharmaceutical sales can support it by relying on wages for twoorthree years. The state can&apos;t hold the pharmaceutical industry for ever, After twoorthree years, things will get better. At that time, everyone else ran away, but you didn&apos;t. life should be much better then. Sometimes I feel that my industry is no longer good. The problem is that an industry that is no longer good has become a good industry with fewer people. When everyone feels bad, it is often the best time. We all think that the financial industry is good. The threshold of the financial industry is high. How many people want to get into the financial industry, compete and motivate, and always be on guard after entering the financial industry. An oversight is crowded out by later people. The pressure is huge. How can we talk about happiness? It may not be a &quot;good&quot; job. Solar energy has not yet entered the stage of practical application, but seven companies related to solar energy in China have been listed on the New York Stock Exchange. Gome Suning Yongle is actually a trading enterprise and can also be listed. The profit of Lutai textile has increased by more than 50% for 10 consecutive years. One tea seller and one Hailan home selling clothes can be listed... In fact, it doesn&apos;t matter what industry to choose. The key is how to do it. Everything is done by people. The key is people. One thing to remember is that in this world, until the future we can foresee, successful people are always in the minority, rich people are always in the minority, and most people are ordinary, ordinary and less successful. Therefore, the practices and views of most people are often not those closest to success. So what most people say is good is not good, and what most people say is bad is not bad. When most people go to the stock market, it shows that the fall is only a matter of time. The more enthusiastic they are, the closer the fall is. When most people buy a house, the house price will not rise, but when the house price rises about the same, most people begin to buy a house. There will not be such a thing that makes everyone successful and rich. It has never happened in history and will not happen in the future. Some things will be lost at other times and places even if they are acquired by luck. At the beginning of their career, young people should pay special attention to doing the right thing. They should not let their life in the next few decades always be afraid, and it is not worth paying for their youth for a job. My company is a company that does not offer bribes. In the past, many people did not understand it, even their own employees did not understand it. But now, we are the largest enterprise in the industry, and customers are willing to deal with us. Especially when the country combats corruption, everyone knows our reputation of doing business without giving money, and dares to do business with us. Companies that dare to give money either fail or run away, or they can&apos;t sleep well every day. People still need to look at the long term. Most of the time, the seemingly nearest road is actually the farthest road. The seemingly farthest road is actually the nearest road. It means that you should be a good leader and teacher after you enter the industry. People who have just entered the society often have no experience in doing things and need to be taught by words and deeds. For a person&apos;s development, a good leader is very important. The so-called &quot;good&quot; standard is not that he asks you to work less and get more money, but the following three. First of all, a good leader should have a broad mind. If a leader loses his temper every day, it is almost certain that he is not a broad-minded person. A leader who does not lose his temper when he can lose his temper is mostly a very powerful leader. The biggest drawback of Chinese leaders is that they can&apos;t tolerate people who are more capable than themselves. Therefore, it can often be seen that leaders are very capable, with a group of mediocre people under them or a group of idle people under them. If you see such an environment, you&apos;d better not go. Secondly, leaders should be willing to think from the perspective of subordinates, which can be found from the interview. If the leader always thinks from his own perspective and hardly listens to what you say, it is dangerous. Considering problems from the perspective of subordinates does not mean that they agree with their opinions, but they must understand their positions and why they think so, and then they can convince you. Leaders who only care about what they think are often difficult to convince their subordinates. Third, leaders dare to take responsibility. If something goes wrong, they will push down the responsibility. If they have credit, they will take it from themselves. Such leaders should not follow. When choosing a leader, we should choose a leader who can resist at the critical moment and who can pay for the mistakes of his subordinates, because this is his responsibility as a leader. It&apos;s possible that you can&apos;t meet a good leader, because China&apos;s leaders often decide their heads by their buttocks. Because they sit in the leadership position, their words are more reasonable. This is a misunderstanding of the traditional concept of official standard. There may be a large number of such ignorant and incompetent leaders, but this is actually good for you. If you want to surpass him one day, do you want him to be smart or stupid? Relatively speaking, such leadership is not difficult to handle, but you should put your body down. Get to know more people and deal with people who are better than yourself. You can also find good teachers. Don&apos;t complain about the society and the boss with a group of equally depressed people. This won&apos;t help you, but will only make you more negative. Deal with people who are better than you, see what they think and do, learn from them, and deal with stronger people. 8、 Select The most thing we do every day is actually choice, so we have to mention this topic when talking about our career. I always believe that, to a large extent, what kind of people we will become is up to us. Every day, we are making various choices. I can not write this article, go to other people&apos;s Posts and pat the bricks. I can also write these words to help others and organize my own ideas. I can pay more attention to the format to make it easy for others to read, or write them in a pile, I can send it like this, or I can read it several times before sending it. You can choose to go to the interview without shaving, or you can choose to look in the mirror before going out... Every day, every moment, we make such decisions. We can be careless or spend more time thinking. Thousands of small choices add up to determine what kind of people we are in the end. In a sense, our future is not given by others, it is our own choice. Many people will say that my life is hard and I have no choice. If you think that &quot;going to Microsoft or IBM&quot;, &quot;going to Tsinghua or Peking University&quot;, &quot;being a vice president of sales or a factory director&quot; is a choice, you really have no choice. Most people have no choice. But every day you can choose whether to serve customers more attentively, be more patient with colleagues, do your work more carefully, understand the situation more clearly, and clarify the unclear problems... You can also choose whether to continue to persist in the pain, abandon your negative thoughts, and forgive a person&apos;s mistakes, Do you believe what I have written here, and do not make the same mistake again... Life gives you choices every day, and gives you the opportunity to change your life every day. You can choose to lie on the ground, or you can choose to stand up. You always have a choice. Some choices need to be accumulated. For example, farmers can choose to water their fields often or let heaven water their fields. It is true that if you water them today, the seedlings will not grow immediately today. But if you water them often, most of the seedlings will eventually grow. If you don&apos;t water them, the harvest will be very bad. Life gives you opportunities every day. He won&apos;t give you a pile of cash or give you a good job, but in fact, he is still giving you opportunities. My family is an ordinary family without any great social relations. My father was assigned to the frontier after graduating from university. There is only one road in that small county. In fact, their generation has more reason to complain than we do. They didn&apos;t get anything. When they were young, they didn&apos;t have to read books during the cultural revolution. They supported the frontier to jump in line and settle down. When they were old, they had to give young people a chance. He had every reason to sit there, like thousands of other young people, complaining about their untimely lives. However, ten years after he was assigned to the frontier, the state resumed recruiting postgraduates, and he returned to his original school. After graduation, he was assigned to a small unit in Anhui Province. Three years later, the country recruited doctoral students for the first time. He returned to his original school and became the first generation of doctoral students in China. At that time, he was older than I am now. Life did not give up on him, nor did he give up on life. After 10 years of waiting, he made his own choice. He didn&apos;t give up. He didn&apos;t break the pot. So when the time came, he changed his life. What kind of person you will eventually become depends on your small choices. What do you choose to believe? Who do you choose to make friends with? What do you choose to do? What do you choose to do We are faced with too many choices. Among these choices, the choice of ideology is far more important than the choice of objective conditions. For example, the choice of what to do is not so important, but how to do it. It doesn&apos;t matter who you choose to use, but how you choose to bring these talents. Most of the time, it doesn&apos;t matter to choose objective conditions. Most of the choices about objective conditions are right or wrong. What matters is how to choose. When a college student graduates, it doesn&apos;t matter whether he wants to go to Microsoft, sell pork, start a business, or practice games. As long as he doesn&apos;t break the law and harm others, what matters is how to do things well after he chooses. In addition to these, you can also choose the time and environment. For example, you can choose to put the biggest difficulties in your life at the time when you have the most physical strength and energy. You can also look at them step by step. Wait until you are 40 years old. Only when you are in your 40s, it is the most vulnerable time in your life. There are both old and young. If you encounter a career crisis at that time, it is really a very distressing thing. It&apos;s better to eat some bitterness in your 20s and 30s so that you can live calmly when you are vulnerable. You can choose to grow up in a greenhouse, or to hone in the wild. You can choose to work in the office with air-conditioning, or you can choose to meet your customers in the heat of 40 degrees. However, all these will eventually accumulate and guide you to the future you deserve. I dare not say that you have a choice in all things, but you have a choice in most things, but often you don&apos;t take it as a choice. If you take every choice seriously, you will have a better future.</p><p>9、 Choose a career Generally speaking, the choice of career is nothing more than sales, marketing, customer service, logistics, administration, personnel, finance, technology and management. An interesting phenomenon is that the largest number of CEOs in the top 500 are from sales, and the second largest number are from finance, which together account for more than 95%. In the modern IT industry, there are also those who have technical background and become the boss. However, in fact, later, they still engaged in a lot of sales and marketing work and performed well. Only then did the company succeed. Almost none of them became the boss of the company entirely based on their technical ability. There is a reason for this, because sales is a knowledge of dealing with people, while management is also a knowledge of dealing with people. There are many similarities between the two. Their common goal is to &quot;let others do a specific thing.&quot; Finance, on the other hand, is to understand the essence of business from the digital level and look at the essence of business from a macro perspective. It has the deepest understanding of whether a business can make money and whether it can operate normally. When the company was small, it was a sales leading company, while when the company was large, it was a financial leading company. The limitation of sales was that it only looked at the human feelings rather than the figures. The limitation of finance was that it only looked at the figures rather than the human feelings. At the early stage of the company, the operating cost was low, and the company could survive with orders. There were no conditions for negotiation with customers. Thank God others were willing to do business. At this time, orders and customers&apos; requirements prevailed. Of course, we should take into account human relations. After the company is large, everything should be standardized to avoid unnecessary risks caused by non-standard. At the same time, the operating costs also become higher. It is necessary to improve the profit margin and put the limited funds in the most productive places. For listed companies, shareholders do not care whether your customers have recently gone abroad or whether the province has been cracking down on them recently. When the time comes, they should show their performance, and if they can&apos;t, they should sell their shares. At this time, numbers are overwhelming. Two days ago, I heard someone say something very reasonable. At the beginning, we thought, &quot;what can we do?&quot;, When the company became bigger and bigger, we thought, &quot;what can&apos;t we do?&quot; Many people feel that why leaders are so conservative in their work is neither good nor bad. They miss a lot of opportunities. Most of the time, it is because you are still young and you think about &quot;what you can do&quot;. As a leader of the company, there are many aspects to consider. He is more concerned about &quot;what you can&apos;t do&quot;. I&apos;m not advocating that everyone should do sales or finance. What kind of career you choose has something to do with what kind of life you choose. Some people like to go home on time after work, read books and listen to music, which is also good, but it&apos;s not suitable to find a sales job, otherwise they will torture themselves. Some people like to be in the limelight and become the center of a group of people. If they choose to do financial work, they will probably do it soon, because most bosses don&apos;t like being too active in finance and talking too much about finance. First think about what kind of life you want to lead, and then decide what kind of career you want to find. There are a lot of unhappiness, which actually comes from dissatisfaction, but dissatisfaction. Most of the time, it comes from restlessness, which is because you don&apos;t know what you want. If you don&apos;t know what you want, you want everything and get nothing. I think we still work because of life, not because of work. Life is the most important thing, and work is only a part of life. I always feel that all aspects of life affect each other. If life itself is a mess, work will not go smoothly. Therefore, we should have entertainment, socialize, exercise, and have a harmonious family... The most important thing is to be happy. My two salesmen came to me for a chat and were full of bitterness. I asked them, two years ago, you had nothing, your salary was not high, you had no customer relations, no career achievements, and you were on the edge of being opened. Now you are much better than then. Why are you even more unhappy now? If the better you do, the less happy you are, why do you still work? First of all, people should make themselves happy and have a better attitude. This change from the heart will make you more patient, confident, temperament and tolerant... Otherwise, look at you in the mirror. Are you satisfied? Some people will say that it&apos;s easy for you to say that I work overtime every day. If I don&apos;t, my boss will fire me. I&apos;m so tired every day. How can I have time for entertainment, social networking and exercise? That&apos;s because people set goals too high. If you&apos;re still on the edge of being fired by your boss, of course you can&apos;t set goals too high. Do you still want to play golf every day? You don&apos;t have time to go to the gym for exercise, but it&apos;s OK to take more steps when you go to and from work. When there are stairs, you can take the stairs instead of the elevator, right? Can I wring my neck and pull my shoulders to do push ups during office hours? Who stipulates that you must spend 2 hours a day at the gym for exercise? You don&apos;t have time to socialize. It&apos;s OK to take an outing once a month. It&apos;s OK to take part in some music classes and painting classes at the weekend. Can you try to meet some peers and find opportunities to communicate with them? It is always difficult at the beginning, but taking this step will lead to a virtuous circle. However, if you work very hard every day and spend the rest of your time chewing the bitterness, you will only fall into a vicious circle and make life worse.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[The story of five steamed buns. I didn't know you were out]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 16 Jun 2022 15:05:39 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[The first steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer&apos;s house and found that the farmer had nothing. He was moved to tears and couldn&apos;t get up on his knees. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, a...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The first steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer&apos;s house and found that the farmer had nothing. He was moved to tears and couldn&apos;t get up on his knees. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescuer went to the farmer&apos;s house and found that there were many delicious food in the farmer&apos;s house. Gratitude was quickly replaced by anger. He raised his sword and killed the farmer, because he found that the farmer had so much left to him. Thinking 1: the same behavior will get the opposite result - you will be grateful for what you get; When you see what you don&apos;t get, you will hate. Thinking 2: what saves people&apos;s lives is the steamed bread and water provided by farmers, which has nothing to do with what farmers own. But realistic education pays more attention to the generosity of farmers when they have nothing, which means more noble. This has not naturally changed the standards and expectations in people&apos;s minds. In fact, love exists at every point of life. It is so common that everyone can offer love instead of expecting a person like farmer a to appear. Everyone is his own savior. Everyone can help the people around him as much as he can. Thinking 3: gratitude or hatred are often determined by some details rather than essence. In essence, in both cases a and B, the results should be grateful. But only normal and rational people can maintain the same gratitude mentality in both cases. Thinking 4: can there be another mentality besides gratitude and hatred? The second steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. But later, it was discovered that the rescued man was a wanted corrupt official. As a result, many people hated the farmer and thought that he helped the tyranny. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. But later, it was discovered that the rescued man was a kind man who had helped others many times. Therefore, many people praised the farmer for doing a great merit. Thinking 1: when rescuing people in difficulty depends on their identity, everyone will decide who should be saved and who should not be saved according to their own standards. As a result, many people would rather do one thing more than one thing less, and they would not save anyone. Thinking 2: if people can respect farmers in both cases, their love may thrive. On the contrary, under the influence of snobbery and wariness, love will be lost. The third steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer pointed to another farmer&apos;s home and said, &quot;look, that&apos;s the man who gave bread and water to save people. Go and ask him.&quot; The hungry man walked hard to the farmer&apos;s door. The farmer opened the door and said sorry, &quot;I have nothing to eat.&quot; Therefore, the whole village hated the farmer, and no one accused the farmer who never helped others. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer pointed to another farmer&apos;s home and said, &quot;look, that&apos;s the man who gave bread and water to save people. Go and ask him.&quot; The hungry man walked hard to the farmer&apos;s door. The farmer opened the door and said, &quot;I only have half a steamed bun.&quot; Therefore, the whole village despised the farmer, and no one accused the farmer who never helped others. Thinking 1: for those who are caring, people&apos;s standards will be raised involuntarily. Thinking 2: for selfish people, people keep their expectations to a minimum, so they won&apos;t be disappointed. Thinking 3: Super morality is a powerful force to expel love until all people close their doors when facing the hungry. The fourth steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer&apos;s house and found that there was nothing in the farmer&apos;s house. Moved to tears, unable to kneel. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. At the same time, he did not ask good or evil for any behavior of the farmer, and fully supported him. The farmer lost his mirror and thought he was right. Later, he went bankrupt because of a big mistake. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer&apos;s house and found that there was nothing in the farmer&apos;s house. Moved to tears, unable to kneel. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. However, as for the behavior of farmers, they support their good and speak frankly about their mistakes. Farmers work hard and make continuous improvement, gradually prosper and show love. Thinking 1: different ways of gratitude will lead to different results. Thinking 2: normal thinking should be maintained at all times. Speaking frankly and criticizing is often a better way. Thinking 3: actually, after eating steamed bread and drinking a bowl of water, turning around and leaving is also a kind of gratitude. Most of the time, people who help others are just doing it with a peaceful and grateful heart, and do not deliberately hope to be praised or rewarded. The fifth steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. Every time the villagers saw the farmer, they praised him and did a good deed. Later, even in the event of something beyond his ability, the farmer took the initiative to help. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer&apos;s house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. Some people suspect the farmer to show off, and even suspect that the hungry man is played by the farmer himself. As a result, the farmer would hide away from those who asked for help, fearing that he would be vilified again. Thinking 1: praise or slander will often affect the behavior of some people, and the behavior of some people who are not mature enough. Thinking 2: if you pray for a consistent evaluation of a certain behavior, you will only get possessed. Thinking 3: people who run away from slander can only be cowards forever. Thinking 4: a farmer should quickly forget the steamed bread and the bowl of water, and forget what people say. He should calmly do his own things and be a happy farmer.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[How to be an early riser]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 06 Jun 2022 15:56:30 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[What do the most successful people have in common? They all get up very early and make full use of the morning time. Say why: Getting up early gives you plenty of time to think before a busy day begins. Simply put, the morning time belongs to you. Before others take up your time and attention, prioritize the things you need to deal with that day and make progress. This will give you unprecedented control over each day. Of course, it is extremely difficult to get up early, which is precisely w...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What do the most successful people have in common? They all get up very early and make full use of the morning time. Say why: Getting up early gives you plenty of time to think before a busy day begins. Simply put, the morning time belongs to you. Before others take up your time and attention, prioritize the things you need to deal with that day and make progress. This will give you unprecedented control over each day. Of course, it is extremely difficult to get up early, which is precisely why early birds have a competitive advantage over others. When others press the snooze button, they are ready for the new day. Give a few examples of the super successful early bird. Richard Branson, founder of virgin airlines, woke up at 5:45 a.m., even on his own private island. Before starting the day&apos;s work, he made full use of his morning time to exercise and eat breakfast. Michelle Obama, the first lady of the United States, gets up at 4:30 a.m. every day to start exercising, while her children are still asleep. Tim Cook, CEO of apple, gets up at 3:45 a.m. every day, handles email, goes to the gym for exercise, and trots to Starbucks before going to the office. Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks, gets up at 4:30 to exercise. He usually rides with his wife. Of course, in order to face the new day, coffee is indispensable. Disney CEO Bob Iger also gets up at 4:30 a.m., reads newspapers, does sports, listens to music, answers emails, and even watches TV. Anna Wintour, the editor in chief of vogue, gets up at 5:45 in the morning to play tennis for an hour, and then starts the day&apos;s work. Jeff Immelt, CEO of Ge, gets up at 5:30 and reads newspapers while doing heart exercises. Can you find commonalities among these super successful people? Everyone&apos;s morning activities include the very important element of morning exercise. In addition to helping the overall health and shaping, some studies have shown that 20 minutes of moderate exercise can produce positive psychological and emotional factors, and can last for 12 hours! This means that these business leaders will be clearer and more efficient, and these are the direct benefits of morning exercise. The time for exercise also allows them to focus on Problems and think about countermeasures without being disturbed. Therefore, when they enter the office, they can quickly enter the state. Morning exercise is good for efficient use of time. In addition to getting up early and exercising, several other good morning habits are recommended to help you spend your day more efficiently:</p><ol><li><p>Drink 16 ounces of water when you wake up - to help you hydrate after 7 or 8 hours of sleep;</p></li><li><p>Make your bed: making your bed every morning is closely related to your efficiency throughout the day;</p></li><li><p>Eat a healthy breakfast: replenish energy for your body to better meet the challenges of the day (such as eating some high-energy fruits and vegetables);</p></li><li><p>Drink 1-2 cups of coffee: coffee has been proved to be helpful to health. Use it to wake up your morning;</p></li><li><p>Read the news: use quiet time to understand what is happening in the world around you;</p></li><li><p>Set priorities for each day: determine what is most important and think about how to take action. All of the above can help you move in the direction of success - before your busy day begins - in whatever form. Being a morning person is not only applicable to those senior management, but everyone will benefit from these good habits. Are you thinking that this is impossible because you just need more sleep? Experts said that if you want to endure the pain of getting up early, you must go to bed early the night before. These suggestions and success stories helped motivate me to get up early, especially when I was thinking about &quot;sleeping a little longer&quot;; I hope they can also inspire you to make the efficient morning your mysterious weapon!</p></li></ol>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Try "only do one thing in your life", and then talk about success]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 01 Jun 2022 16:10:35 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[In the half year of exchange study in Taiwan, I often went to a red bean cake stall next to my dormitory to buy snacks. The one I love to go to is run by three men: Grandpa, dad and son. Grandpa was responsible for turning the outer ring to maintain its crisp but not burnt taste. Dad stirred and made different fillings: cream, taro and red beans. His son was in his prime, and spread the fillings evenly with a heavy wooden spoon. I bought a lot. When I lined up, I began to observe their moveme...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the half year of exchange study in Taiwan, I often went to a red bean cake stall next to my dormitory to buy snacks. The one I love to go to is run by three men: Grandpa, dad and son. Grandpa was responsible for turning the outer ring to maintain its crisp but not burnt taste. Dad stirred and made different fillings: cream, taro and red beans. His son was in his prime, and spread the fillings evenly with a heavy wooden spoon. I bought a lot. When I lined up, I began to observe their movement coordination, language communication and even eye contact. Without a word of nonsense, they can finish the whole manufacturing process smoothly. This seemingly natural tacit understanding is actually difficult. The store has existed for 50 years since Grandpa set up a stall to sell red bean cakes. My father took over grandpa&apos;s craft and passed it on to his son imperceptibly. After I became friends with them from customers, I asked, would I feel bored? Will you feel that your ambition has not been paid if you melt your whole life into this sweet food? Nah. The young man who did things neatly answered simply. You see, so many people like my red bean cake. The young man looked at me, Answer in a slightly funny tone: &quot;At first, I did. I felt that what my father and father taught me was very unfashionable. Why should everyone else be playing skateboarding and rock, and I was making red bean cakes. But later, I found that such a simple craft actually had a lot of know-how and key points, and it also took a lot of effort. At that time, I realized that it was not easy to climb the peak of every industry. Making the best red bean cakes, like being the best engineer, required great expertise Note to be successful. You smell it. It smells so sweet. How can I give up? &quot; After returning from the exchange study, I saw a course on western modern literary trends. I saw the course introduction to cultivate students&apos; superficial understanding of Western art history, so that students can perceive, appreciate and even create beauty. How to listen and how to relax, I chose it. The teacher is an old man over half a hundred years old. He teaches all the obscure courses. But his class completely surprised me. Most of the teachers with white hair bowed as soon as they came to the stage to thank us for our presence, then turned around and drew a coordinate line on the blackboard without saying a word, marking several important time nodes and representatives of modern literature and art. He combed the context of literature and art all the way, from Gauguin to Picasso, from Germany to Cezanne, lifelike and detailed, and calmed the bottom batch of teenagers who were holding their mobile phones to brush their microblogs. When he spoke quietly about Monet&apos;s lifelong attachment to flowers and water, I suddenly realized that it was spring outside the window. I am always grateful to meet these patient people. When I first went to college, I often skipped classes, read novels in professional classes, watched movies in elective classes, and had an all night before the final exam, which is the highest respect for this course. But unlike the female students in my dorm, she takes scientific research as her goal, which makes us ashamed. On weekdays, she is very quiet. When we discuss current affairs and exchange &quot;Sanlian Life Weekly&quot;, she buried herself in reading most of her professional works and was completely indifferent to a series of fashionable words. In the literary history class, I sang and talked with my teacher. Turning around, I saw her reciting the memorabilia of the Republic of China silently. Six months ago, she won a national scholarship and went to the United States to exchange studies. Even the ending left for me was speechless: four people clinked glasses in the dormitory, we drank beer, and she fooled around with tea. At an age when everyone is trying to be special, I can easily judge that she is bored. But at the moment, I somehow think she is very cool. In an environment where the whole class was anxious about graduation and their future, but had to pretend to be careless, she chose to live honestly. At an age when we were actively performing, she chose self denial. This kind of abstemious and placid living method seems to be cooler than the indifference encouraged by hormones. She made it clear that she only wanted to be a top student, and she did become a top student. I admit that I have been counselled. I no longer use the idle tone to prove my cool. Some people are born to be able to stand on one foot, but I can&apos;t. I need two feet firmly on the ground to stand firm. Although I counselled, my father was very cool. On the afternoon of new year&apos;s Eve, we were downstairs preparing to cook vegetables and chatting with our relatives. He was upstairs alone, translating a classic example of the competition. There was a table with three missing ones. My mother asked me to urge him to come down and make up the count. I ran to find him. Dad hid in a stack of materials and behind a heavy dictionary. Dad is getting old and his hairline is getting higher and higher. But the attentive dad is so cool. I ran to him, bent down and asked him: can you make room for me and I&apos;ll read the book with you?</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Make your time more valuable. There are 8 routines]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2022 15:26:23 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Do you have the feeling that there is not enough time! After reading so many time management articles, I still have unfinished work and unfinished business. I&apos;m not willing to break one minute in half. Why doesn&apos;t it work? Because most time management articles are about how to use efficiency tools, how to be more executive, how to reduce procrastination, and how to improve self-control. You can really use them to solve the most pressing surface needs of the moment. However, after ma...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Do you have the feeling that there is not enough time! After reading so many time management articles, I still have unfinished work and unfinished business. I&apos;m not willing to break one minute in half. Why doesn&apos;t it work? Because most time management articles are about how to use efficiency tools, how to be more executive, how to reduce procrastination, and how to improve self-control. You can really use them to solve the most pressing surface needs of the moment. However, after mastering them, you will still feel the shortcomings. It&apos;s like working overtime until you can&apos;t afford it. A cup of coffee or strong tea can quickly replenish your spirit, but what you really need is to fall into bed and sleep. It&apos;s not enough to just think about how to do 24 hours a day as quickly as possible. That&apos;s just a rudimentary way to manage your time. You also need an unusual way to manage your time. Good goods are not kept privately. They are all spread out to you. 1、 Cloning time: sell 1 time to n In the TV series journey to the west, Monkey King can pull out three life-saving hairs from the back of his head, bite his teeth, endure pain, blow his immortal breath, and shout &quot;change&quot;. A bunch of little macaques like monkey king jump out. This may be the earliest &quot;cloning technology&quot; seen in literary works. In terms of time management, if we can clone multiple copies of one time, isn&apos;t it a simple way to make more time? How many copies of a time is cloned, and your unit time value is multiplied by how many times. In the Internet age, time cloning technology has been realized, which is not the patent of the ox man. Because Internet products are easy to copy and the marginal cost is almost zero, ordinary people can also easily achieve it. From another perspective, this is to create a product that can replicate and spread in different time and space. For example, in the popular &quot;get&quot; column, Himalayan audio course and micro class sharing on various platforms, speakers only need to publish content in one time, and tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands of subscribers will receive knowledge products respectively. If the speakers give one-on-one lectures to the readers, they can circle the earth several times. Some people say that I can&apos;t do such a thing as recording lessons. I won&apos;t give lectures. So, words are always OK? Writing articles is just a way to turn one time into many. Wan Weigang, a famous popular science writer, knows this well. In his book &quot;never thought of it&quot;, he said that he was surprised to find: I spent an hour writing this essay Since nearly 400 people subscribed to this blog through Google reading, as long as you read this article for more than 10 seconds, I dare say you won. He compared the writing time of the article with the total time of others reading the article, and more obviously felt the pleasure of selling a piece of writing time into n pieces. 2、 Integrated value: make one thing n values On huama street in Lijiang, Yunnan, almost every restaurant sells salmon. Many tourists to Lijiang will stop by. The highlight of these restaurants is &quot;eat more than one fish&quot;: fry the fish skin, boil the fish bones into soup, and make salmon sashimi from the fish meat - create a variety of tricks. The same is true of time management. Try to make the completion of one thing drive multiple outputs. With the total length of time unchanged, the quality of life is still higher. Stay at home moms often ask, &quot;how do we achieve economic independence?&quot; Ask this question. This is because full-time mothers devote themselves to taking care of their children, &quot;so busy that they almost don&apos;t have time to go to the bathroom&quot;, but they still hope to earn income on their own. Its subtext is: &quot;how can I make money while taking a baby?&quot; For these mothers, since bringing up children is a must and takes up a lot of time, wouldn&apos;t it solve the problem by adding economic value to it? For example, while taking care of the baby, I also studied: How to take good-looking photos of your baby with your mobile phone, how to insist on making complementary food your baby likes, how to read picture books vividly for your child, how to cultivate your child with positive discipline tools, etc. Then teach your expertise to parents in need in the form of paid courses. Some new employees in the workplace are facing the tasks assigned by the company and frown: &quot;give me so much money and want me to do so many worthless jobs. Bah!&quot; On the other hand, he was also distressed that he could not spare time to enroll in classes to learn new abilities. As everyone knows, the thorny task at present is not only to fulfill the requirements of the boss, but also to exercise their own abilities. In this way, a task has the dual value of &quot;working for the boss&quot; and &quot;working for yourself&quot;, and it is pleasant and broad to work. The value of a thing is like a piece of music. Only if the main melody is too boring, the multi play will not be monotonous. According to my observation, many &quot;great gods&quot; are good at the results of anything, not sticking to a single dimension, but expanding to multiple values. This is why I especially advocate thinking about &quot;why&quot; before doing something. If you can say a lot of &quot;why do it&quot; for a task that is about to start, you have given this thing multiple values, which is equivalent to earning a lot of time. 3、 Attaching importance to essence: tracing the source and cornerstone Many years ago, I hired a master to teach me how to learn bamboo flute. I spent a long time learning long notes, vibrato, flower tongue, etc. it was so boring that I couldn&apos;t be any more boring. At that time, I didn&apos;t understand why I didn&apos;t directly play the music by the teaching staff as soon as I came up, even the popular music of a dream of Red Mansions, which was not very difficult. Later, I finally knew that this was a slow as fast process. When doing things or learning new things, if we can grasp the source and cornerstone, understand first, get through the blocking, and speed up later, we will greatly save time in the future. The basic skills taught by the teacher are equivalent to the foundation before building the house. If the foundation is unstable, the house may fall down in the future. After learning these contents well, the songs to be contacted in the future are just combinations and deformations, and they will be started soon. We can&apos;t see any significant effect in a short time. When we reach a certain stage, we have a solid foundation. The &quot;one&quot; learned earlier can be used as &quot;ten&quot;. Progress is amazing. It&apos;s like a compound interest curve. The front section is flat, and then it rushes up to the sky. If you don&apos;t catch the bottom routine, you will only be tired to death. The source and cornerstone are more important and basic parts. What content belongs to this category? In doing things, it is the common skills to achieve tasks and the core part of a task. The common skills to achieve tasks are the foundation on which to rely, such as project management, objective management, action management, etc. The core part of the task is the &quot;most difficult bone&quot; of the task, such as the idea of writing an article. In cognition, it is &quot;meta law&quot; and &quot;mode of thinking&quot;. &quot;Meta law&quot; is the law that governs the laws in various fields of daily life, such as the &quot;28 principles&quot; and &quot;compound interest&quot;. &quot;Thinking mode&quot; is a general classical routine that can be used in thinking, such as &quot;golden thinking circle&quot;. In learning, it is &quot;meta knowledge&quot; and a specific concept. &quot;Meta knowledge&quot; is knowledge about knowledge. For example, to master learning methods, &quot;brain neuroscience and cognitive science&quot; are meta knowledge. A specific concept is a clear guide to action. Only when it is clear can we start without being blinded. For example, if the word &quot;deliberate practice&quot; can clearly explain its meaning, it is easy to make an effect. 4、 One call to all: the effect of &quot;one call to all&quot; Not long ago, a big guy released a course. In a short time, online friends rushed around to tell each other, brushed the screen in the circle of friends, and created the first phenomenal product this year. At that moment, the big guy didn&apos;t need much effort to make many people willing to spend their time and money to help him promote. This is equivalent to using other people&apos;s resources to help you earn time. It has infinite power. This &quot;one call, one hundred responses&quot; is brought about by influence. Creating influence is a very advanced way of time management. In some units, the leadership position is not only under great pressure, but also difficult for families to take care of, and there is not a big gap with ordinary employees in terms of salary, but many people are still willing to fight for this position. In addition to pursuing a sense of value, another reason is influence. When a leader has hidden resources, he can spend his subordinates&apos; resources to do things, such as their time, expertise and contacts. All at once, his life has expanded a lot of possibilities. You would say that it is impossible for all ordinary people to be leaders. It is useless for me to create influence. And so on. Influence does not have to be used in the workplace, but also in the family. For example, parenting, if you have influence on children, and children are willing to cooperate with their parents to implement good habits when they are ignorant, as parents, you must spend less time in the future. Of course, you save your own time to do what you love. How to get the effect of one call for all? The book &quot;influence&quot; provides six weapons: reciprocity, love, consistent commitment, social identity, authority and scarcity, which can be selected and used arbitrarily. 5、 Proper authorization: let professional people do professional things Before the lunar new year, every household needs to clean the inside and outside, such as the range hood and the glass with the windows facing outward. Sometimes they linger for a long time, and only have back pain and leg cramps. If the housekeeper comes to the door and sends out professional tools, it will be cleaner and shinier than if you sweat for 2 hours. And the two hours you spend on it may enable you to read a book that changes your life. Which do you think is more cost-effective? Some businessmen turn like a top every day, but you can still see perfect articles, interesting interactions and beautiful typesetting from their personal official account. It is not difficult for you to reason that he must have some time management tricks. Yes, the article can be original, but you don&apos;t have to do it yourself—— They are people who know how to delegate. In life and work, you don&apos;t have to do everything yourself. Letting go is a new start. Now that the Internet is so developed, the efficiency of connecting to resources is hundreds of times higher than before. It&apos;s easy to find professionals in a certain field (such as housekeeping, errands, taxi software, etc.), so won&apos;t it save you time? Put the time you squeeze into more important things, and the value of the harvest will shine. Some tasks seem impossible to outsource, but in fact there are ways. Because a task can certainly cut out the core part and some non core mechanical operation parts. The core part must be completed by you. You can choose to complete the rest of the non core part by yourself. You can trust people and let professional people do professional things. 6、 Paid learning: paid learning takes fewer detours Now, taking part in a classic large-scale training can cost thousands of yuan every twoorthree days, which may cost a new employee a month&apos;s salary. I can&apos;t afford to think about it. However, if you urgently need some high-quality courses, you can save several years after learning them. Do you think it is worth thousands of yuan? This is the so-called &quot;spending money to buy time&quot; - time is not renewable, and money is OK. When I was just married, I was promoted to the &quot;Minister of finance&quot; of my family. I began to study investment anxiously and painstakingly, and even began to learn financial statements from 0. In the end, I found that the best investment for young people is to invest in themselves first - to pay for learning knowledge. More worthy of investment than any financial product is the young you. If you are not a full-time investor, the rate of return of investing in yourself is definitely better than facing the K line all day. Because the skills learned are irreversible, but the money earned from investment may be devalued. If the so-called investment is just speculation, every minute will leave you with nothing, and the time invested before will come to naught. For paid learning, learners attach great importance to it because of the payment of tuition fees. The teachers who teach are generally more attentive, and the knowledge transmitted is relatively complete and systematic. When encountering difficulties, teachers often gently click, and you will suddenly realize that with less time investment, you can also reap rich fruits. Of course, it does not mean that free resources are worthless, but because in the era of information explosion, it takes a lot of time to filter and sort out the knowledge of the system. What if you can&apos;t afford the training? There is still a way! Some trainings are often practical courses extracted from one book or several books. In China, a non fiction paper book costs as little as twenty or thirty yuan, and as much as fifty or sixty yuan. Such a little effort can reap the author&apos;s research achievements for several years or even decades. What a bargain! If you read e-books, you will save more. In the Internet age, there are other forms of paid learning, such as the rise of various knowledge payment platforms. It is easy for you to find professionals who need to consult. Under their guidance, you should avoid detours and avoid falling into the pit. Isn&apos;t that spending money to buy time? 7、 Keep an eye on the goal: throw time at the long-term goal When I first learned to ride a bicycle when I was a child, I always liked to look down and see how I stepped on it. The adult said, &quot;how can I learn this? You should look forward and look away to grasp the balance!&quot; The same is true of time management. Urgent matters of work and life are like gourds that are pushed into the water and then float up. There are always gourds that can not be pressed. Except for industries that are very agile in responding to changes, these &quot;gourds&quot; are often caused by our failure to make a plan in advance. For example, you didn&apos;t speculate in advance what kind of ability and quality you need in a certain period of time, didn&apos;t speculate that there might be risks at a certain point, and made plans to deal with emergencies, etc. Until time approached, it was a mess. You can play as much chess as you can see. If every once in a while, we can set goals for things that may need attention in the future, make good plans, and lay out in advance, when the future comes, everything will be stable and orderly, without anxiety or worry. To allocate today&apos;s time to things that can create more time for tomorrow is the so-called &quot;living in the future&quot;. What is more unparalleled is that the pattern of seeing has crossed the length of individual life and is viewed from the time dimension of human groups. For example, to create a new cause of great value to the society, and write a masterpiece that has never been done before and will never come again. This time management is so powerful that the time obtained by oneself transcends the limitations of individuals and has been handed down through the long river of history.</p><p>8、 Build pipeline: build your pipeline system Nowadays, if you want to use water in the city, you just need to turn the tap. You know, China&apos;s tap water industry was born in 1908 at the end of the Qing Dynasty. Before that, when there was no tap water system, people could only get water by drinking water near the well or walking a long way. Generally, each person could only carry two barrels each time. Once you get sick one day, you can&apos;t go out to fetch water. At that time, it was physical work to drink water. Drinking more than you can see the efficiency. Now, even if you feel unwell and can&apos;t go out one day, it still doesn&apos;t affect your use of water - you rely on the tap water pipe and drink more than you look at the system. Just spell efficiency, your water consumption is certainly more than that of the system. The same is true of time management. It is only an expedient to compete with others for efficiency in doing things. After all, there are only 24 hours a day, so it is not cost-effective. Even if the boss buys your time, you can only sell it 24 hours a day. Yes, just a little time. A more advanced approach is to build a system based on doing things, even if it seems to run slowly for the time being. When it grows up slowly and can run continuously, it is the time to give full play to its power. Everyone would do this. They would finish things beautifully and quietly. When the system appeared, everyone exclaimed: &quot;Oh! It is so!&quot; Those who work hard will never be able to work systematically. Once the system works, it can still exist without you. Even if you are not there, your income will still fall into your pocket automatically, which will not affect the quality of life. Isn&apos;t it a very effective time management that you spend all your time at your disposal, drinking tea, basking in the sun, doing things you love, and &quot;wasting&quot; your time on beautiful things? There are 8 different time management methods shared above. Has any one touched your heart? Many people often say that time itself cannot be managed. However, you can get more freedom in the future by changing your behavior and practicing some ideas. The lyrics always sing &quot;I bet my youth on tomorrow&quot;. It&apos;s quite right to think about it.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[You must be strong enough to make the world more fair]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 21 May 2022 15:37:54 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[one At the beginning of the year, he wrote an article entitled "how can young people improve their horizons and get rid of their thinking limitations?" At that time, I thought that compared with the breadth of a person&apos;s view of the world, "Horizon" should be the depth of our view of the world. At that time, I called this ability "vision", but now, I prefer to summarize it with "cognition". A few days ago, I read Cai Leilei&apos;s "cognitive breakthrough". The book contains a total of 33...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>one At the beginning of the year, he wrote an article entitled &quot;how can young people improve their horizons and get rid of their thinking limitations?&quot; At that time, I thought that compared with the breadth of a person&apos;s view of the world, &quot;Horizon&quot; should be the depth of our view of the world. At that time, I called this ability &quot;vision&quot;, but now, I prefer to summarize it with &quot;cognition&quot;. A few days ago, I read Cai Leilei&apos;s &quot;cognitive breakthrough&quot;. The book contains a total of 33 facts that subvert cognition. Each one brightens people&apos;s eyes. After reading this book, I feel a sudden sense of pleasure. Just like a lost man walking in the thick fog, he suddenly spies a little light, which makes people happy. Recently, I may be under too much pressure and write a little decadent articles. The occasional roast and talk can help us shake off a lot of pressure and continue to fight easily; But in the long run, we must look down on the present from a cognitive height and clarify this complex society from the source. two Friends familiar with ah Jiu know that I have recommended the book &quot;the road few people take&quot; more than once. There is a saying in the book: life is full of hardships. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths in the world. Its greatness lies in that once we figure it out, we can realize the transcendence of life. As long as we know that life is difficult, as long as we really understand and accept this, we will no longer be bitter about the suffering of life. When we see the essence and accept something mentally, we are more calm about the problems we are facing, so as to avoid excessive anxiety. If Scott&apos;s &quot;the road few people take&quot; belongs to the macro level, Cai Leilei&apos;s &quot;cognitive breakthrough&quot; is more micro and practical, which helps me understand the suspicious groups encountered in reality more clearly. three Some people say that 80% of a person&apos;s troubles come from lack of money, which is enough to pierce the heart, but recently, it is the news that the aunt of the pancake stand earns 3W every month. It turned out that the aunt who seemed to have a rough and insignificant quality of life was several times higher than my salary. Many people joked that they were going to resign to sell pancakes, and many people became more and more anxious and wanted to get rich overnight. As for making money, I have always believed that the &quot;truth&quot; is that the higher the ability, the more wealth you have. Is this concept wrong? At present, I think it is still correct, but there is still some distance from the truth. In cognitive breakthrough, teacher Cai said a noun: &quot;threshold&quot;. There is a threshold for everything and every job. Even if it seems relatively simple to sweep the floor and clean the table, there is a threshold, but it still needs you to move freely. However, too many people reach such a threshold, so its labor value is low. Therefore, if we want to improve the value of our labor, it is a shortcut to raise our threshold compared with long-term efforts to polish. The well-known slash youth, in essence, is such a process. four Last weekend, I took part in the offline activities of the action group and met the male god Peng Xiaoliu. Little six brother is a typical slash young man. He graduated from an ordinary three books college. His job is as a programmer. In order to better communicate with customers, he began to draw a mind map and is good at reading and opening books. At present, the number of fans of simple books ranks first. He has published two books, which sell well. However, it took less than two years. We often say that a good combination will produce the effect of 1 + 1 &gt; 2. The slash youth, I think, is an investment of 0.5 + 0.5 &gt; 1. Coding, mind mapping, reading and writing, the sixth brother dare not say that he is in the forefront in these fields. However, the sixth brother is an outstanding person who can open books and explain his views in a simple and understandable way in the way of mind mapping. Each of these skills, understood from the perspective of making money, is essentially a threshold. When these different thresholds are superimposed, a large threshold will be formed. At this time, the market supply will decrease rapidly, and our personal unit labor value will naturally rise. Making money depends on ability, but how to build your core ability to make money can be quickly built by raising the threshold. Making money depends on ability, but how to build your core ability can be quickly constructed by raising the threshold. five Looking back, is the term &quot;threshold&quot; difficult to understand? The answer is clearly no. A lot of cognition is actually a little transparent, but it is precisely because of the limitations of personal experience, environment and cognitive level that it is difficult for us to understand many principles. At this time, reading, proper experience and learning from others&apos; experiences and lessons are good ways for us to overtake in curves. Sometimes, there is a shortcut to success, and such a shortcut is not whether you work hard enough, but the level of cognition and the thoroughness of thinking about the essence of things. six Recently, all schools are busy with comprehensive evaluation, and many people shout unfair. Little a is one of them. She sent a circle of friends: &quot;in the past year, I gave up community activities, gave up ineffective social networking, and spent more of my spare time on study. My grade is the second in the class, but the comprehensive evaluation is not even the first prize. They are all crowded by students who never study and only flatter. Is this the so-called fairness? Ha ha. &quot; Hard work pays off. Until now, I still think it is true, but hard work may not achieve the return you expect. This friend must be a hard-working student, but he may also be a person with low cognition. Generally, people with low cognition prefer to do one hammer business. They think that a person is good. No matter what the other party does, it is perfect. Even if they cheat, it is still for the courage of true love. And hate a person, even if the other party does well, it is wrong. Even if he admits his point of view in his heart, he will say a few words of refutation. From the heart, there are many unfair places. However, don&apos;t be blinded by anger. Sometimes, you may not see the efforts of others. When you are reviewing your textbooks carefully, he may spend some time to participate in social practice. As you said, he is flattering the teacher and doing some errands. However, since they are willing to win the first prize, abiding by its rules is the premise. Generally speaking, there are scores of social services and collective activities in the comprehensive evaluation. They may just know the rules better than you. seven The subtitle of the book is very attractive, &quot;being an understanding person in complex times&quot;. When I saw this title, I thought of a painting. The whole painting is divided into three spaces. In each space, there is a person standing with books of different thickness under their feet, At the bottom of the painting is a small garden full of sunshine and flowers; In the middle of the painting is darkness and chaos, covered with dark clouds and very depressed; At the top of the painting is the sunrise, full of vitality. It is not difficult to understand the original meaning of this painting. The emphasis is on the value of reading. Similarly, like reading, when our cognition is constantly upgraded, the world in our eyes will be more fair and beautiful. Although those bad things still exist, at that time, we have the ability to accept them calmly and face them positively. The book says: all cognition starts from knowing ourselves. Only when we have a clear understanding of our various behaviors and a clear sense of boundaries about our limitations can we open our hearts to accept better things. On the road to cognition, we are all beginners. We will work together every day to meet a better ourselves.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Success is to achieve small goals one by one]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 16 May 2022 14:51:53 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[one That year, my best friend Xiaomei was ambitious and vowed to get an accountant&apos;s certificate within one year. I know Xiaomei worked very hard and just got her accounting certificate, but she didn&apos;t study accounting and changed her profession on the way. She also crammed for the accounting certificate temporarily and passed by rote. But the accountant and the accounting certificate are not at the same level, and it is not easy to pass at one time. I suggest she apply for two cour...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>one That year, my best friend Xiaomei was ambitious and vowed to get an accountant&apos;s certificate within one year. I know Xiaomei worked very hard and just got her accounting certificate, but she didn&apos;t study accounting and changed her profession on the way. She also crammed for the accounting certificate temporarily and passed by rote. But the accountant and the accounting certificate are not at the same level, and it is not easy to pass at one time. I suggest she apply for two courses first, and then report the rest the next year. It&apos;s OK to pass within two years. Xiaomei was very angry and said that I despised her. I can&apos;t pour cold water on her to quench her burning enthusiasm. Sure enough, she applied for all the courses of accountants at one time and concentrated on reading at home. However, her foundation was too weak and she didn&apos;t understand too many knowledge points. She wanted to pass all the courses at one time. She felt that she couldn&apos;t attend all the courses. She was very worried. She stayed up late reading at night, resulting in no spirit to read in the daytime. The benefit of forced reading will not be high. As a result, after the exam, they failed in every way. The next year, my best friend changed her strategy, first reported two courses that felt easy, focused on fire learning to ensure one pass, and the second annual report left one with great difficulty. Finally, the best friend successfully obtained the accountant certificate within two years. You can&apos;t be a fat man in one bite, but fat people come out in one bite. Success cannot be achieved step by step, but success is achieved step by step. Every time a small goal is achieved, it will be a small step closer to success. Countless small goals will be achieved, and the realization of the big goal is just around the corner. two I have a literary friend, Xiao Xue. When I first came into contact with new media writing, I envy the 100000 plus explosive articles written by others. I wish my own articles could explode the circle of friends overnight. So she spent the whole night studying explosive articles and carefully read more than a dozen articles about brushing explosive circles of friends. She felt that it was nothing more than story plus truth and chicken soup. It was very easy. She spent half an hour looking for a topic. After half an hour of conception, she began to tap the keyboard, make up stories, reason, sprinkle chicken soup, and finish it at one go. She felt very happy in her heart. Submission, waiting for the editor&apos;s reply, looking forward to the scene of the article exploding the circle of friends. One day, two days, three days... A few days later, the contribution was like a stone sinking into the sea. Didn&apos;t the editor see her contribution? So I looked for the next contributor and finally waited for an editor who replied: The title of the article can&apos;t attract readers to open, the story has traces of fabrication, and the end is too preaching. Now the cultural level of readers is very high... It is suggested to read more and accumulate more step by step. Slap... Slap in the face, she felt raw pain. After learning from the bitter experience, she chose to carefully disassemble the explosive text, learn routines and skills, read carefully, accumulate materials, and write from the trumpet first. I have to write three articles every week, revise them repeatedly, and publish them on the trumpet after six months. After the improvement of the level, he began to write for large-scale writers. Now there are frequent articles with a monthly income of tens of thousands. He has become a big fan of new media writing. Goals can be ambitious, but we can&apos;t go to heaven step by step. To achieve the big goal, we must first decompose it into countless practical and feasible small goals, and constantly achieve it and surpass it, so as to achieve success step by step! three In the late 19th century, two young people in the United States, white and Jack, followed people who dreamed of becoming rich overnight and came to the west to look for gold. White hopes to quickly develop a big gold mine and live a millionaire&apos;s life. Therefore, he bought a large number of gold mining tools and recruited hundreds of workers to prepare for a big fight. Jack did different things. He only bought some simple tools and recruited two companions to wash the gold sand left by others. The two people had great differences in ideas, so they had to go their separate ways and do their own things. Two years later, when they met again, white still didn&apos;t find a big gold mine, but the funds were almost spent, but he was not discouraged. He believed that the longer he waited, the greater the harvest would be. In addition to &quot;picking up waste&quot; every day, jack also set a small goal to mine a certain amount of gold sand every month. By this time, Jack had accumulated a lot of money. He lent white some money, which white was very grateful. A few years later, when the two met again, Jack was already rich and the owner of a gold mine, while white could only live by working. White was ashamed to face his old friends. If the goal is too big and can not be achieved for a long time, it will make people at a loss and lose the driving force to move forward. According to the big goal, set a series of small goals to achieve one by one. The joy of success will encourage people to work harder to achieve the big goal. four In psychology, there is a famous apple picking Theory: a person eager for success should always strive to pick those &quot;apples&quot; - goals that need to jump up. However, if the apple looks out of reach, it must be redefined to give itself an apple that can be picked. Only by accumulating their own strength can they continue to pick those higher and higher apples. Small goals make big goals more visible and easier to achieve. A small step makes a thousand miles; If you don&apos;t accumulate small streams, you can&apos;t form rivers and seas. Lenin said that if we want to move towards the big goal, we must start from the small goal. Success is the accumulation of countless small goals.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[What happened to the first person in the dormitory?]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 12 May 2022 14:12:56 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[one A few days ago, my friend Lin Fei chatted with me on wechat. She sent a picture of her pay slip and said excitedly: "Can you imagine my salary now? I was so angry that I trembled." I carefully enlarged the photo and saw the column of paid in salary, which impressively said: 2530.5 yuan. Lin Fei resigned from Shanghai and returned to her hometown. She is graduating from 985 university with a monthly salary of 10000. Even in the eyes of outsiders, this job is brilliant, but it is good for n...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>one A few days ago, my friend Lin Fei chatted with me on wechat. She sent a picture of her pay slip and said excitedly: &quot;Can you imagine my salary now? I was so angry that I trembled.&quot; I carefully enlarged the photo and saw the column of paid in salary, which impressively said: 2530.5 yuan. Lin Fei resigned from Shanghai and returned to her hometown. She is graduating from 985 university with a monthly salary of 10000. Even in the eyes of outsiders, this job is brilliant, but it is good for nothing in the eyes of parents back home. They always call Lin Fei: &quot;it&apos;s too hard for girls to work outside alone. It&apos;s better to come back early and find a stable job.&quot; She also said that some of her elders had entrusted her with a position in a state-owned enterprise. Lin Fei wavered. After all, she was fed up with the crowded subway, high-intensity work and wandering life. Therefore, she resigned and returned to her hometown. Now she has received a stable salary of 2500 yuan. She said regretfully, as if she saw her future life: Do nothing in the unit every day, eat and die; Marry an honest man of the same age and have a child at the same age; The belly is gradually filled with fat, and the face is gradually covered with wrinkles Lin Fei&apos;s experience makes me sigh: It turns out that all the easy roads are downhill. If a person always lowers his standards and pursues comfort, his life can only cross the lower deserve. The low allocation is making Chinese young people more and more mediocre. two On the subway, I heard two college looking couples chatting one by one. &quot;When did you sleep last night?&quot; &quot;It&apos;s 2 o&apos;clock. I brushed Tiktok in bed. I didn&apos;t pay attention. I brushed it for 3 hours.&quot; &quot;I didn&apos;t go to bed until about 2 o&apos;clock. I formed a team to eat chicken with my roommate.&quot; The boy yawned for days, and the obvious eye bags and dark circles under his eyes exposed the fact that he slept late. The girl also leaned listlessly against the handrail and stared at the mobile phone screen. Contemporary young people may have long been used to the life of low matching: Brush the sense of existence in wechat movement, find love in online novels, and achieve King glory in the game; His face waxed yellow to the cold light screen of mobile phones and computers, and he wasted his life in Tiktok day after day; The online story comes soon. The name of wanghong is like a treasure, but I forget how long I haven&apos;t seen a classic film or a paper book; For the status quo, but refused to step out, did not have the courage to change themselves; Everything is hot for three minutes, confused and drifting with the tide all day long; Always limit yourself and kill your potential. In this way, you are beautiful in the virtual world, but there are chicken feathers in real life. Writer Li Shanglong said: &quot;just like a person who sleeps at home every day, he never knows that people on the treadmill also have another kind of happiness.&quot; People who indulge in virtual pleasure every day and live in a muddle will never know how happy it is to try their best in study and work. three How cool is it to go all out to live a high profile life? C Luo, 34, recently posted a lovely video on INS. Wearing a white T-shirt and sweatpants, he ran and danced, demonstrating his fitness routine. Years seemed to leave no trace on his body. His body age was more like 24 years old, and his body fat rate was no more than 7%. In order to maintain a high standard for a long time, c Luo in life is extremely self disciplined. He maintains high-intensity training three days a week and four hours each time. The training always comes in advance and leaves at the latest; Go to bed before 11 o&apos;clock every night, ensure at least 10 hours of sleep at night, and refuse to go to bed late and nightclubs; The diet is strictly controlled. The food we eat is low sugar and low fat. We eat boiled chicken in white water all year round and hardly drink alcohol. Control of desire, determination and perseverance have helped him become the top player. On the contrary, how used Chinese young people are to low match, just look at the young generation of football players. Some media once ridiculed the national football team&apos;s figure as a white cut chicken, with fat on the stomach and no trace of training. One thing has caused great controversy on the Internet before: after the national football team practiced overseas, the diet at the dinner was exposed. Not only high calorie hot pot, but also beer, coke and red wine These drinks, known as athletes&apos; killers, were enjoyed by our team members. The lack of self-discipline in diet and relaxation in training make them unable to have strong muscles and super physical fitness like c Luo. As a professional player, it is not only a professional day, but also a professional game. However, players who are used to low allocation smoke, drink, get tattoos and don&apos;t control their diet. They have the same salary as their skills, but they don&apos;t have the same results. The habit of low allocation will only make the road of life narrower and darker, and eventually mediocre. four I know there is such a question: what happened to the first person in each dormitory? The host Zheng Lin answered the example of her roommate. &quot;College roommates have insisted on getting up early, running, reading early and eating breakfast for four years, so as to occupy the front row position for others in our dormitory. The self-control is super strong, and our whole professional people sincerely admire it. Even the counselor knows that she gets up early. Later, he entered the 985 of the top three majors from the second school. Because of his outstanding performance, he studied directly in the graduate school. He fell in love and got married while he was a doctor&apos;s senior brother. After graduation, they went to the same key university to teach and educate people and continue scientific research. Housing has also been landed, and even future children can jump out of the pressure of major provinces in the college entrance examination. It can be seen from the dribs and drabs in the circle of friends that both of them cherish each other. They have broken their own broad road step by step by relying on their diligence and progress in school. Both families belong to the most common rural areas. In the engagement and marriage photos, both parties and parents smile with simple and happy faces. It should be the most real and reliable person I have ever seen who has changed his fate. &quot; The upward road is not crowded. Congestion is because most people choose comfort. If a person always prevaricates himself with an attitude of accommodation, he will only get over the lower allocation in the end. On the contrary, if a person always strives for perfection and hangs his life, he will eventually rewrite his own destiny. Read this passage: When you recite the words, Alaska cod are jumping out of the water. When you do math, seagulls on the other side of the Pacific flutter over the city. When you study at night, the night sky on the polar circle is scattered and colorful. But don&apos;t worry, young man. When you make steady efforts for your future: The scenery you feel you will never see, the people you feel you will never meet in your life, are coming to you step by step. I can&apos;t imagine many beautiful things happening on this planet, so I try my best. The entry says: getting used to low matching will only let you continue to live a life you don&apos;t want. And do your best, you can see a different world. Encourage each other.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Losing is a kind of wisdom in life]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 07 May 2022 11:10:46 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA["Loss is blessing" is a wise saying handed down by Zheng Banqiao. After a long time of washing and tempering, it is still respected by many wise men and has become their way of doing things in this era of impetuous noise and constant disputes, We have to say that "loss is happiness" is the wisdom of surpassing the times. However, the current social situation is, after all, a cross flow of material desires and a worship of money. People are smarter than one. Who is more capable of pursuing adv...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&quot;Loss is blessing&quot; is a wise saying handed down by Zheng Banqiao. After a long time of washing and tempering, it is still respected by many wise men and has become their way of doing things in this era of impetuous noise and constant disputes, We have to say that &quot;loss is happiness&quot; is the wisdom of surpassing the times. However, the current social situation is, after all, a cross flow of material desires and a worship of money. People are smarter than one. Who is more capable of pursuing advantages and avoiding disadvantages, and who will &quot;suffer losses&quot;? Who would think that &quot;losing&quot; is a kind of &quot;blessing&quot;? Who still plays the role of &quot;fool&quot; for &quot;loss is blessing&quot;? In fact, fools are often more blessed. People who have read Forrest Gump may be more likely to understand the meaning of the word &quot;loss is happiness&quot;. An honest and simple person who has always been at a disadvantage is more likely to succeed than those who are smart and capable. Losing naturally means giving up and sacrifice, but when you lose something, you will also get something else. There is such a brain teaser: what is the last thing you want to eat but can often eat? The answer is &quot;suffer&quot;. In almost everyone&apos;s consciousness, we can&apos;t afford to lose. What&apos;s wrong with it? Someone once said such a philosophical and thought-provoking saying, &quot;the two words of blessing and disaster are half the same, and the other half is different, that is, the two words are implicated in each other&quot;. In real life, there are always some people who only think about being cheap to others, but ignore whether it is beneficial to themselves; Sometimes if you can&apos;t be cheap, others will have to suffer their own losses. Therefore, I hope you don&apos;t be afraid of being cheap. If you are &quot;cheap&quot;, others will &quot;benefit&quot; yourself. Why not? But you must remember that sometimes being eager to succeed can backfire. Shi Chong was a famous rich man in the Jin Dynasty. He was an official to Wei Wei, and his wealth was invincible. A senior official named sun Xiu was very jealous of Shi Chong&apos;s wealth. He took the opportunity to ask Shi Chong to contribute some wealth several times, but Shi Chong pretended to be deaf and ignored it deliberately. Sun Xiu was very angry. Shi Chong has a concubine, Lvzhu, who is very beautiful. Sun Xiu asks Shi Chong for Lvzhu, but Shi Chong can&apos;t give up his love and flatly refuses. Sun Xiu is even more jealous of Shi Chong. Later, Sima Yun, king of Huainan, committed a crime. Sun Xiu took charge of the case and took the opportunity to frame Shi Chong and Sima Yun for making a riot together. He prosecuted Ouyang Jian, Shi Chong&apos;s nephew, and others and put them in prison. Shi Chong sighed: &quot;those guys are interested in my property!&quot; The executor then asked him, &quot;if you know so, why didn&apos;t you give them away as early as possible?&quot; Shi Chong was speechless. Soon, Shi Chong was ruled by the law, and all his family property was stolen. You can&apos;t lose, you&apos;ll end up with a big loss. On the contrary, those who can gain and lose can always find opportunities to soar in unhappiness. Not all cheapness is worth celebrating, not all luck is worth being happy, a person who can&apos;t suffer a loss, Will lose more resources in haggling, gain small profits and lose big profits. On the contrary, if you can suffer losses, you will gain the character image of &quot;enduring humiliation and bearing heavy burdens, being able to bend and stretch&quot;, and you will have the capital of &quot;accumulating thick and thin hair&quot; in the precipitation.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[A friend is not how many people you know, but someone who helps you in time of crisis]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2022 15:35:26 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[It doesn&apos;t mean that anyone who has talked to you, had dinner and exchanged phone calls can be called your friend. In fact, many people you know in social occasions can only be regarded as general friends, not real friends. Maybe you will regard them as friends, but they may not regard you as friends, because everyone has everyone&apos;s communication circle. People at different levels are difficult to become true friends. It is the so-called gathering of birds of a feather and grouping ...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It doesn&apos;t mean that anyone who has talked to you, had dinner and exchanged phone calls can be called your friend. In fact, many people you know in social occasions can only be regarded as general friends, not real friends. Maybe you will regard them as friends, but they may not regard you as friends, because everyone has everyone&apos;s communication circle. People at different levels are difficult to become true friends. It is the so-called gathering of birds of a feather and grouping of people. In social occasions, people give you business cards and chat with you speculatively. In fact, they are all out of politeness in communication, or it is a social routine for them. Those who leave a phone call with you will only call you when they need you to realize their interests. It&apos;s like going to the three treasures hall without anything. They usually don&apos;t call and care about your current situation. Once they call, they must ask for you. Obviously, this kind of friend is not worth making. Because true friendship is based on deep friendship, not on interests. The friends who really deserve your deep friendship should be the kind of people who provide carbon in the snow, not the icing on the cake. The world has never lacked the icing on the cake, but the carbon in the snow. When you are successful and brilliant, everyone is a friend, who will treat you as a friend, who will help you and support you, but the one who still sticks to you when you are poor is a true friend. If a person can make a few friends in his life, then his life is worth it. This kind of friend will help you, support you and comfort you when you fall, instead of falling into a well and pushing the wall down. And such friends are often those who are loyal, responsible and generous. You don&apos;t have to be afraid that he will be driven by interests one day, calculate you behind your back and betray you. Such friends often trust you and your ability, so even if you fall to the bottom, they won&apos;t fall into the well, because they believe you have the ability to make a comeback. At the same time, they also trust your personality, so when they encounter difficulties, they will basically think of you first, because they know you will not stand idly by. This kind of friend will believe that you are a potential stock, so he won&apos;t look down on you when you are still inferior. Even if you are still bad, he will do his best to help you grow and succeed. But such friends are often very excellent people. They have very wise observation. If you don&apos;t have any quality that makes him admire. If you approach him just to make use of him, they can get along well with you, but they won&apos;t treat you as a true friend or help you in their heart. Remember that what kind of aura will attract what kind of people, what kind of people you are, what kind of people you will meet and enter what kind of circle. Only by making yourself excellent can you make those excellent true friends.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[On making friends: eight friends, nine no friends]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 05 May 2022 14:03:33 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Zeng Guofan has great insight into the way of making friends. He has written 12 maxims, which basically summarizes his way of making friends in the world. Zeng Guofan believes that making friends is expensive and generous "Promoting honesty and integrity, grievances with macro, selflessness and suspicion". "Don&apos;t take advantage of others in everything. Don&apos;t take people&apos;s money lightly.". Brainstorm and listen without losing your hearing. "The method of observing people is base...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Zeng Guofan has great insight into the way of making friends. He has written 12 maxims, which basically summarizes his way of making friends in the world. Zeng Guofan believes that making friends is expensive and generous &quot;Promoting honesty and integrity, grievances with macro, selflessness and suspicion&quot;. &quot;Don&apos;t take advantage of others in everything. Don&apos;t take people&apos;s money lightly.&quot;. Brainstorm and listen without losing your hearing. &quot;The method of observing people is based on integrity without official atmosphere, more organization and less big words&quot;. VIII. Delivery: First, we should fight the winner. Learning from their advantages, learning from each other, improving themselves and making such friends are of great benefit to life. Second, it should be handed over to Desheng. Peace of mind, always praise others. Third, make fun of people. Open-minded, positive attitude towards life, and such people often come and go, can increase the infinite joy of life. Fourth, we should pay those who suffer losses in everything. Anyone who would rather suffer losses and sacrifice his own interests in everything will be a gentleman. Fifth, be frank. &quot;It&apos;s rare to have a straight friend&quot;. Those who can be outspoken tend to be sincere and pragmatic. In times of trouble, such people are often still around you. Sixth, we should pay those with lofty aspirations. For example, those who take the public examination twice at the same time, students in the youth cadre class, students in the overseas class, etc. 7. Those who want to &quot;pay benefits in the face of adversity&quot;. When others are in trouble, it is best to give a helping hand. 8. Be considerate. People who can understand, be considerate and considerate can be called appropriate friends. IX. non payment: First, do not make friends with people with different aspirations. Those who have different aspirations do not need to be forced to cooperate. Things reluctantly cannot last long. Second, we should avoid those who are good at flattery and commit excessive adultery. Third, do not pay gratitude and resentment, reverse, all asexual. This kind of person is impersonal. He is an enemy today and a confidant tomorrow. He is capricious and can&apos;t make friends. Fourth, do not make people who are not filial to their elders and fraternal to their brothers. Fifth, do not make circuitous people. Pedantic people are stubborn and uncivilized. If they disagree, they will break up rashly and be hated. Sixth, don&apos;t hand over the person who falls into a well and blames others when others are sad. Seventh, do not make friends with people who take advantage, especially do not have economic exchanges. Eighth, don&apos;t make friends with people who are arrogant, mean, grumpy and light hearted. Nine is not to make ungrateful people. Make friends with villains There are three things that a scholar should not fight: he should not fight for fame with a gentleman, he should not fight for profit with a villain, and he should not fight for dexterity with heaven and earth. Do not join the villain&apos;s party for fear of disaster; Treat villains with leniency and guard against villains with strictness; Don&apos;t forget your kindness and don&apos;t end your resentment; Know your kindness and try to avoid resentment; Resentment against people is called a disaster. Don&apos;t forget great kindness with small grievances.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Are you afraid of meeting acquaintances]]></title>
            <link>https://paragraph.com/@0x5e15389b4947cdcdc2bfdecfc18dcfd8a4e766fe/are-you-afraid-of-meeting-acquaintances</link>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 01 May 2022 14:02:34 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I often encounter a problem, that is, in a near invisible distance, some "Acquaintances" wear stiff clothes and don&apos;t see you, holding their heads up or lowering their heads. You know he (she) has definitely seen you. You are ready to say hello, but he (she) refuses to accept. This makes me feel that a considerable number of Chinese people are afraid to meet acquaintances. Maybe it&apos;s really painful for many people to say hello to acquaintances. This "acquaintance" refers not to a ve...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I often encounter a problem, that is, in a near invisible distance, some &quot;Acquaintances&quot; wear stiff clothes and don&apos;t see you, holding their heads up or lowering their heads. You know he (she) has definitely seen you. You are ready to say hello, but he (she) refuses to accept. This makes me feel that a considerable number of Chinese people are afraid to meet acquaintances. Maybe it&apos;s really painful for many people to say hello to acquaintances. This &quot;acquaintance&quot; refers not to a very familiar person with a good relationship, but between semi familiar and unfamiliar. Greeting is actually equivalent to social intercourse. When you meet someone, it&apos;s OK to smile. If you don&apos;t know me at the beginning of a sentence, it&apos;s OK to smile at each other. But in many cases, when you look into his or her eyes, he or she suddenly turns his or her face away, or seems to look at you, but his or her eyes are loose, unfocused and wandering, so that you can&apos;t confirm whether he or she has seen you. The plan of suspicious soldiers makes you at a loss. Foreigners think it&apos;s impolite for others to look away when they see you and not communicate with them. It&apos;s an insult to others. Don&apos;t the Chinese think so? If someone gives you this treatment, you must be very uncomfortable. The difference is that foreigners can&apos;t be rude in any case, while the Chinese believe that this kind of rudeness can be accepted by both sides. &quot;They are all Chinese. What should we pay attention to?&quot;. In fact, I have personally experienced that strangers in foreign countries will smile. Several years ago, in the crowded railway station in Zhenjiang City, a white man and woman came to the opposite side. I sideways gave them a way. When I passed by, the foreign girl gave me a sweet smile. For so many years, I have also made way for the Chinese people, but I have never received a thank-you. It seems that I am an obstacle in the way. If I don&apos;t get out of the way and step on it, I will die. Of course, I&apos;ve never smiled at anyone who gave way! Unwilling to say hello to acquaintances, I think there are few people who are deliberately rude. Most of them can&apos;t bear the psychological burden of that smile. The Chinese people have had enough of trying to smile when they don&apos;t want to laugh. The Chinese people have painfully paid too much flattery and flattery. They are a little afraid of this smile. There is also inner anxiety, unwilling to meet people, and suffering from being found. Everyone said that China&apos;s apartment houses are old and dead, and they don&apos;t communicate with each other. People living next door don&apos;t say hello. It seems to be human indifference and social retrogression. In fact, it is the strong motivation of self-protection and seeking peace. It is also the sprout of territorial consciousness. In the past, the courtyard and tube shaped building seemed to be more intimate than now, but it was common for two neighbors to fight over a coal ball. These are trivial, the judiciary can hardly be expected, and individual people can hardly do anything about the infringement of the outside world. Therefore, after the emergence of unit houses, the vast majority of people chose to draw a line with their neighbors, and self-protection came first. Chinese people&apos;s fear of acquaintances is actually an act of self-protection. At this time, we should ask a question, what makes Chinese people wear this heavy shell and are willing to live so tired?</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA["Contacts" come out of trouble]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 28 Apr 2022 14:08:31 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[We often hear the proverb given to us by the previous generation: "don&apos;t bother others if you have nothing." Many kind-hearted people handle everything by themselves and never love to ask others for help. They think it&apos;s wrong to trouble others. However, the network of such "good people" is often thin. Because when we don&apos;t need the help of others, we lack the reason to establish a relationship. At one party, at more than 10 p.m., I saw that Mr. Wang couldn&apos;t take the subw...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We often hear the proverb given to us by the previous generation: &quot;don&apos;t bother others if you have nothing.&quot; Many kind-hearted people handle everything by themselves and never love to ask others for help. They think it&apos;s wrong to trouble others. However, the network of such &quot;good people&quot; is often thin. Because when we don&apos;t need the help of others, we lack the reason to establish a relationship. At one party, at more than 10 p.m., I saw that Mr. Wang couldn&apos;t take the subway, so I told him I might as well drive him. He said, &quot;you&apos;re a little far away. Don&apos;t bother you.&quot; I said, &quot;you know, good relationships are caused by mutual trouble.&quot; As soon as he heard this, he was immediately relieved and carelessly sat in my car: &quot;OK, take me to Chengde.&quot; So, we became mutual &quot;trouble&quot; friends. This view is not from the self, but from another expert. It is called the &quot;Franklin effect&quot; because of an anecdote from Franklin, the father of the United States: On one occasion, he wanted to work with a congressman in Pennsylvania State Court, but the congressman was a tough, hard hearted man. If you were Franklin, what would you do? See what the senator needs? Find a middleman? Or do you have a fight with him? Franklin used another trick. Knowing that there was an out of print rare book in the congressman&apos;s private collection, he asked the congressman if he could lend him the book for two days. The congressman agreed, and what happened next was as Franklin described: &quot;when we met again, he spoke to me (he had never done this before) and was very polite. Later, he showed me that he was willing to serve me at any time.&quot; Franklin attributed his success in borrowing books to a simple principle: &quot;those who have helped you once will be more willing to help you again than those you have helped.&quot; In other words, to make someone like you, ask him to do you a favor. The reason for the Franklin effect is also easy to understand. People are willing to help the people they like. When they ask for help, you are giving them a hint: &quot;I&apos;m the one you like.&quot; So the other party was hypnotized. You two become little partners However, when seeing this exciting news, some friends will think: it turns out that if you trouble others, you can make contacts? That would be great. I want to buy a car and borrow more than 100000 people. I can not only drive a good car, but also make contacts and save a lot of money. It&apos;s really killing three birds with one stone. This is a very wrong idea. If you throw this trouble out, it&apos;s really a trouble. Others won&apos;t become friends with you because of this busy. Their response was, &quot;don&apos;t stop the medicine.&quot; Therefore, we need to know what kind of help we can ask others for. First of all, this busy will not cause real trouble to the other party. Otherwise, the opponent will immediately establish defense: what do you want from me? Secondly, try not to involve interests such as money. Contacts are more personal feelings. Once the interests that can be calculated carefully are involved, they will become the relationship between labor and capital, employment and purchase. Even if there is a real interest, it&apos;s best not to regard this kind of help as a connection, but as a contract. Finally, we must pay it back in time. The core action of interpersonal relationship is &quot;communication&quot;. In Fortress Besieged, it is said that the best way to fall in love is to &quot;borrow a book&quot;, because if you borrow it, you will return it. In this way, there will be &quot;communication&quot;, and it will be ambiguous if you come and go. The same goes for networking: if you trouble a friend once, you borrow a favor. You always have to pay it back. When you pay it back next time, the relationship will be closer.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Don't go to acquaintances for things you can solve by yourself]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 26 Apr 2022 16:48:28 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[01 When I was in primary school, my family needed a sum of money for changing houses. In order to save the interest on bank loans, my parents tried to borrow money from several acquaintances, including one of whom, his son, was my classmate. The male classmate preached "her family owes my family money" in class every three to five times. Although my grades are better and taller than him, I always feel inferior in front of him. When I went home to talk to my parents about it, they just comfort...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>01 When I was in primary school, my family needed a sum of money for changing houses. In order to save the interest on bank loans, my parents tried to borrow money from several acquaintances, including one of whom, his son, was my classmate. The male classmate preached &quot;her family owes my family money&quot; in class every three to five times. Although my grades are better and taller than him, I always feel inferior in front of him. When I went home to talk to my parents about it, they just comforted me that boys are naughty and have a good heart. It&apos;s good if you didn&apos;t hear it. Mother works in the hospital. Occasionally, someone asks her to help, and the other party will be polite. Only this acquaintance who we owe him money. When his family was hospitalized in the hospital where my mother worked, they bothered my mother and didn&apos;t feel sorry. It seemed that they took it for granted. Who let our family owe him money. Later, I asked my mother, how expensive is the bank interest? How expensive is it to owe so much? She said, in fact, it&apos;s not very expensive. You shouldn&apos;t have saved this money at the beginning. Human kindness is much more expensive than interest. 02 In the graduation season, one of my college classmates participated in the campus recruitment of a state-owned enterprise. In fact, he is very excellent, and it is not difficult to get an offer, but when he is about to release the list, his parents are worried that he will not pass the exam. His parents tried every means to help him find acquaintances. Finally, they found a staff member of the personnel department of the unit and sent gifts to his home with large and small packages and red envelopes. In fact, this recruitment is very fair and transparent. The score has been released, but it has not been announced yet. The students&apos; score is very high and the employment is stable. In the end, the students were hired successfully, completely on their own, but they were privately criticized by the people around them for a long time, saying &quot;he is a related household&quot;. 03 Xuemei went to Beijing for internship in the summer vacation. The house has not been found yet. She originally planned to find it through a rental agency. Xuemei&apos;s mother said that she had an acquaintance in Beijing and didn&apos;t have to spend the wronged money of the agency. This acquaintance is just an old classmate of her mother in high school and has nothing to do with the rental industry. However, under her mother&apos;s &quot;Contact feelings&quot;, the rental affairs of her younger sister are entrusted to her aunt. When Xuemei went to Beijing, she had a lot of luggage and brought a lot of specialties to her aunt. The house that her aunt helped her with was an idle house of her aunt&apos;s friend. &quot;It was almost rented out. I specially asked him to leave it to you.&quot;. This small house is not too close to the unit, the environment is not very good, and the price is not too cheap. It is a house that will be rejected if you follow the intermediary to see the house. Xuemei was a little embarrassed. She asked her mother in private. Her mother said, &quot;let&apos;s rent what we have deliberately bothered others to find and left for us.&quot;. Xuemei had to rent the house she didn&apos;t like very much, and there was no room for bargaining. 04 Because the original relationship between the customer and his acquaintances has become &quot;trading first&quot;, the original relationship between the customer and his acquaintances has become &quot;trading first&quot;. Even if I didn&apos;t help, as long as I opened my mouth, I owed this favor, and even was criticized for a long time. Neither the principle nor the price is suitable to talk about in front of acquaintances. In order to save money, trouble and time, we find too many acquaintances. We always forget that what we save is a small profit and a small benefit, and what we owe is boundless human kindness. Don&apos;t go to acquaintances for things you can solve by yourself.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Do you know how to control the distance between good friends?]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 21 Apr 2022 15:04:34 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[one Two close people always unconsciously want to interfere with each other. And think they are good for each other. Although you are sincere, you can&apos;t interfere in each other&apos;s life. In the past, every time I went shopping with my good friend Xinxin, Xinxin always liked to buy a lot of things. But every time she bought it back, she rarely used it, and it was basically abandoned there (I think so). So every time the two of us go shopping together, I basically talk about what she wa...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>one Two close people always unconsciously want to interfere with each other. And think they are good for each other. Although you are sincere, you can&apos;t interfere in each other&apos;s life. In the past, every time I went shopping with my good friend Xinxin, Xinxin always liked to buy a lot of things. But every time she bought it back, she rarely used it, and it was basically abandoned there (I think so). So every time the two of us go shopping together, I basically talk about what she wants to buy for a long time, telling her what she doesn&apos;t need to buy at all. Every time at the beginning, she insisted on what she meant and had to pay when she picked up those things. And I always dragged her and reasoned to her again and again, hoping that she wouldn&apos;t have to buy things I thought were useless. Sometimes she will listen to me, sometimes she will tell me impatiently: she wants to buy, not spend my money, why am I so wordy. I was angry as soon as I heard it, because I thought I was good for her in my heart. I thought she always bought and spent money on some useless things, but she didn&apos;t pay attention to her own diet. She often spent the money before she began to eat something without nutrition. And I always think we are good friends. I have the responsibility to urge her to take good care of her body, so I always do something wordy and thankless. Then for a long time, my heart was not looking for me to go shopping. Once I met her on the street, I asked her: why don&apos;t you ask me out recently. Xinxin said: she doesn&apos;t want to go shopping every time. I always talk about it for a long time, interfering with her and not letting her buy anything. So she asked someone else to go with her. After listening to me, I still deflated my mouth and thought she didn&apos;t understand my kindness. two Until later, when I like to buy and spend money indiscriminately, my friend Xiaomei is in the same state as before. Basically, she can find a good reason in advance and tell me that you can&apos;t buy this thing because you don&apos;t need it very much. At first, I could accept her kind advice. It&apos;s been a long time. I&apos;m the same as my heart. I don&apos;t want to go out with Xiaomei when I go shopping. I&apos;m afraid that every time I want to buy something, I&apos;m convinced by the reason given by Xiaomei, and finally I don&apos;t buy it. I&apos;m not very happy that I didn&apos;t buy it. But I think Xiaomei is right. I may like it, but it&apos;s not practical. &quot;Don&apos;t waste money on useless things.&quot; Xiaomei&apos;s words echoed in her ears. Later, I have awakened and love beauty. I like to buy some jewelry or decorations. It&apos;s not practical, but it&apos;s nice. So I want to buy it several times. Xiaomei doesn&apos;t think it&apos;s necessary. Finally, I told her not to interfere in my decision. I know what I like best. I know in my heart that these things are actually of no special use, but I like them. It&apos;s enough for me to like them. After a period of time, Xiaomei didn&apos;t pay much attention to me. Maybe she thought I didn&apos;t know her kindness. Just like I treated my heart before. At this time, I realized how overbearing and selfish I was before. Under the banner of being good for each other, interfere with each other&apos;s freedom and constantly force others to do things they don&apos;t want to do. They also think they are each other&apos;s friends, so they constantly urge each other. In fact, I didn&apos;t recognize my identity at all. Friends also need to respect each other and not interfere with each other&apos;s wishes. three I think of a particularly overbearing person among the people I know. She thinks what she doesn&apos;t need is what others don&apos;t need. Also as a good friend to interfere with the choice of friends, friends do not listen to her, but also constantly ridicule friends. A is the person I met when I first came out for an internship. She and I are colleagues. We all live in the dormitory of the company, but she and I are not in the same dormitory. Three people live in a&apos;s dormitory. A and a&apos;s friend B and a colleague C sleep in one bed. It&apos;s very hot in summer. B thinks it&apos;s too hot for the three to sleep together. He suggested to buy a bed to sleep. A said as soon as he heard it: what kind of bed to buy? It&apos;s a waste of money. Can&apos;t you sleep with a board on the ground? B said: how can I sleep with boards? Besides, it&apos;s inconvenient to put boards in the room. I can buy a bed at my own expense. A: you&apos;re really rich. Then you buy a bed and sleep in the living room. B tell me later: how can you sleep in the living room? There&apos;s no fan or air conditioner. Besides, we&apos;re not the only people living in the dormitory. It&apos;s not good for others to come in and see us. A also said to sleep on the board. Who will sleep on the board. B said with a deep sigh. After that, the matter was settled. It is worth mentioning that a and B are good friends who grew up when they were young. However, B is so angry with a every time, but because he knows that the other party is that kind of person, he is reluctant to spend money, always wants to save money, and has no other bad thoughts, he has endured it all the time. four Then a and B had a big quarrel in the company. It doesn&apos;t count, because only a has been training B, and B silently packed his things without saying a word. I gossiped and asked other colleagues what was going on. It turned out that B had been on the night shift recently. She always didn&apos;t keep warm when cooking with the electric rice cooker in their dormitory. Her electric rice cooker was broken, so when she had to eat after work, she found that those things were cold. So she told a to buy a new one. A thinks it&apos;s a waste of money. There&apos;s no need to spend money. Now this one can be used first. And B didn&apos;t listen to her. He bought a new one from the Internet and sent it to the company. As soon as B opened the package, a directly ridiculed: you are so rich. Obviously, there is a new one in the dormitory. Now that you have bought a new one, the dormitory is still short of a gas stove. You can buy it together, and you can also buy a range hood. Anyway, you have to buy a new one. Just buy a full set. B angrily, he wrapped up the newly opened rice cooker again and returned it directly. In the process, she didn&apos;t say a word and didn&apos;t look at a. After several days, I asked B: don&apos;t you think a always interferes with you and restricts you to do things? B said helplessly: no way, a&apos;s character is like that. Always want to save money, do not want to spend money indiscriminately. Maybe she doesn&apos;t want me to buy a new one, so she&apos;ll be embarrassed to use my handlebar without paying. After all, her family condition is not good, she has no living expenses. But although I understand her attitude, I am sometimes very angry. I didn&apos;t want to eat something cold in the middle of the night, so I bought a new one. But that&apos;s all she can do if she doesn&apos;t support it. A always uses what she thinks is right and good on me, regardless of my wishes and thoughts. Maybe two people are too familiar and want to interfere and control each other. Her behavior once made me want to escape, but as soon as I remember, she had no other friends around her, only me, and I held back. B is undoubtedly kind. She can&apos;t bear to give up her friends, and can&apos;t stand the interference of her friends. Finally, she can only torture herself. And I think the reason why a doesn&apos;t have other friends is undoubtedly not because she doesn&apos;t grasp the boundaries between her friends. She doesn&apos;t understand that although she is a good friend, she should also have a distance. Not good friends can interfere in each other&apos;s life, not good friends can choose instead of friends, not good friends can force each other to listen to their own opinions. In the past, I didn&apos;t know how to grasp the distance between friends until I read the passage in the book &quot;the shadow stealer&quot;: you can&apos;t interfere in other people&apos;s lives like this, even for the good of each other. This is his life, and he alone can decide his life. I suddenly realized how annoying I was before. I wantonly interfered in my friend&apos;s decision and didn&apos;t respect my friend&apos;s choice, so I let my friend stay away from me. We can&apos;t interfere in each other&apos;s life in the name of a good friend and for her good intentions. We should have the freedom to grow up with each other and respect each other better.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Do you have the habit of holding the door?]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 19 Apr 2022 15:22:48 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I remember when I first went to the United States, I felt that the people there seemed to be special gentlemen. Before I went to the door, someone smiled and opened the door for me. I think this may be the reason why Westerners pay attention to "women first", so they went straight through it with satisfaction. For a period of time, I especially enjoyed this "treatment". Slowly I found that the rule was not so, but "latecomers first". Where there is a door in a public place, you will always se...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I remember when I first went to the United States, I felt that the people there seemed to be special gentlemen. Before I went to the door, someone smiled and opened the door for me. I think this may be the reason why Westerners pay attention to &quot;women first&quot;, so they went straight through it with satisfaction. For a period of time, I especially enjoyed this &quot;treatment&quot;. Slowly I found that the rule was not so, but &quot;latecomers first&quot;. Where there is a door in a public place, you will always see such a situation: the person walking in front should look back after opening the door to see if there is anyone in the back. He / she will hold the door to let the people behind in, and when the people behind go in, they always say &quot;thank you&quot; to the person holding the door and then help him / her. I went to the children&apos;s school and paid special attention to observation. I helped the door to the pupils behind me and found that none of them didn&apos;t say &quot;thank you&quot;. No matter in front of the school or the store, few people go in and throw the door away. This reminds me of something Lang Xianping said a few years ago. He always wondered why one of his younger students was better than him. There is a sour smell in his words. Once, when the younger brother of the MIT professor went to Hong Kong to give a speech, Lang &quot;stared&quot; at him. A group of people went out to dinner and passed a small door. Lang said, &quot;people like me who don&apos;t have any savvy step out of the door and go out.&quot; His younger brother instinctively stepped back and let everyone else pass before he passed. Only this time did Lang realize that his younger brother &quot;mixed&quot; better than him. It turns out that there is another criterion for selecting talents in the United States, that is, &quot;we must be a good person&quot;, and those who are so persistent and grow in like him are not &quot;good people&quot;. In our view, it is a small matter, while others regard it as a big matter. If you don&apos;t hold the door, people will feel strange at first, and then judge that you lack basic politeness and education, let alone elegant manners. People in some countries don&apos;t like it when they see that we don&apos;t hold the door, and they can&apos;t stand you going straight through like no one else. Others hold the door for fear that the door will hit your face, instead of opening a green passage for you. Another detail is that when you meet someone holding the door for you, although there are still a few steps, you should speed up the pace and don&apos;t walk slowly. Then you have to help until the guests flock in, or someone takes over the baton halfway, and then slowly let go. Only then can you complete a set of basic standard actions of &quot;transmission of love&quot;. For more than ten years in the United States, almost without exception, the old Americans held the door to let me walk through, and I had to hold the door to let a person walk behind. I learned this simple door holding action for a long time, because we never learned to hold the door from childhood to adulthood. Germany is also a door holding country. Some people say that the natural quality of German people is higher than that of Chinese people. In fact, it is not necessarily so. The real reason is that after the founding of the Federal Republic of Germany, the government formulated a set of rules to make the people consciously improve their quality. If there is a law in Germany, if you accidentally hit someone when closing the door, you have to make unconditional compensation and help people heal. These Regulations are very specific and highly operational. As time goes by, these good behaviors will become habits and the society will become civilized. When I mentioned this topic to the senior management of the enterprise, a student shared his personal experience with you. One day at work, he poured into the elevator. At this time, a man with a bad old man&apos;s appearance ran towards the elevator in the distance, panting and booing. At this time, the people in the elevator pressed the floor button respectively. Somehow, his eyes fixed on the old man and moved with compassion. At that time, he held the elevator door with his hand and waited for the old man to come. Into the elevator, the old man asked him what he did and what his name was, and then he followed the crowd into the office. A quarter of an hour later, the telephone rang and asked him to go to the chairman&apos;s office. He went in and had a look. Oh, isn&apos;t that the bad old man sitting on the chair? He was unexpectedly told that he was promoted today. The chairman told him how many times he had come to the company, and today he finally met the &quot;right person&quot;. A pupil said that in her life, there is a person who loves her, that is her grandmother. What moved her most was not that grandma bought delicious food, good-looking clothes or cooked a sumptuous meal for her, but that she looked like an insignificant action - holding the door. Slowly, the child began to learn to hold the door for his grandmother. Sometimes children&apos;s interpretation of love is often very simple. Our school education cultivates students into knowledgeable people, but not necessarily educated and educated. This makes our elites who have received quality education for many years often appear unfit in international business occasions, and there is no equal sign between knowledge, culture and cultivation. Some people say that the Chinese lack politeness, while others say it&apos;s just a habit problem. These statements are not wrong. However, if you think deeply, maybe there is a problem of &quot;face&quot;. I don&apos;t owe him. Why should I give such a big face to hold the door and provide convenience to the strangers behind? It&apos;s the job of the hotel waiter to pull the door and wait for people. There has been an old saying in China since ancient times: &quot;it is convenient to be with others and convenient to yourself&quot;. I&apos;m afraid it&apos;s still the simplest way and not annoying to say so. If our boss can reward employees in time like the chairman, then other employees of the company will actively follow suit; If the boss can use his authority to form an internal system, your employees will consciously convey love to the society; If the boss can help the door for women and subordinates (or his wife), it will make the people respect, and they will sprout the little girl&apos;s gratitude and respect for her grandmother. If you see people supporting each other in an enterprise, there are many gentlemen and ladies with positive door style and harmonious interpersonal relationship. Are you used to holding the door? If you can do it because it is small, you are worthy of being a &quot;good man&quot;. Please remember to teach it to the child.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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