I like this sentence very much: There are never shortcuts in life. When others work silently for their dreams, it's just that you don't see it. A truly outstanding person has no time to fight with life.

Yes, truly excellent people never complain about life or make excuses for their laziness.

01 The person who likes to complain is that you are not cultivated enough

I went back to my hometown on the weekend and met Xiao Li, my middle school classmate I hadn’t seen for a long time. Without saying a word, Xiao Li began to complain to me about her husband, saying that her best friend’s husband had a luxury car and lived in a big house. Go out and play. And my husband only pays a little bit of dead wages every month, so he knows to save money, and he always bargains with the vegetable vendor boss when he buys vegetables.

Sometimes I would argue with people for a long time for a dollar, "You know what? Ah Xin, I'm really fed up." Seeing Xiao Li's disgusting expression on her husband's face, I smiled and said nothing.

Xiao Li's husband is an honest man. Apart from earning less money, he is really good to Xiao Li. I still remember when Xiaoli often said in our ears, how good her husband is to her, I wish everyone knew that she married a good husband. But now, less than two years after marriage, she began to dislike all kinds of things. In the face of Xiaoli's dislike, her husband just laughed and treated her as always.

In life, we often encounter some people with negative energy. As soon as we open our mouths, we complain about life. Even the people closest to us say it without reservation in front of outsiders. It seems that she is complaining about some trivial things in life, some details of her lover's life. Essentially, she was complaining about herself.

American spiritual teacher Will Bowen said in the book "A World Without Complaining": "The essence of complaining is actually to gain sympathy and attention, and to avoid doing what we dare not do".

A truly outstanding person never complains about life. Most people's complaints are because they are not good enough, and often your words will hide your cultivation.

02 Instead of complaining, it is better to change

When we envy others' good luck, we don't see him studying hard day and night in the library; we envy others' good figure, but we don't know that he sweats like rain in the gym.

I like actor Hu Ge very much. He became famous overnight at the age of 23. At the age of 24, he experienced a car accident, disfigurement, and rebirth. At the age of 25, he returned to the entertainment industry. Now, at the age of 33, he looks more mature and stable.

Hu Ge said: I was fortunate to be the first to find my life, but I watched another life gradually fade away; I thank God for protecting my eyes, but I couldn't claim my broken face while feeling the light.

However, the scar is not his defect, but a medal. Many people say that Li Xiaoyao is his peak and he can't go back.

He said that the skin that cannot be returned can be filled with thoughts.

I still remember that Mei Changsu in "Langya Bang" is actually Hu Ge's alter ego. He has experienced darkness, but he is still calm, clear and firm. Just as Mei Changsu said in the play: "Since I survived, I can't live in vain." Even if you are injured, you can walk out of a better life.

French writer Romain Rolland said: There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, still love life.

03 A truly excellent person has no time to tangle

Don't complain about how life is not good for you all day long. If you don't work hard, how can God bless you. On the road of life, speed is not important, what is important is endurance. A truly outstanding person has no time to struggle with choices, and can only rush forward desperately. Many things can only be understood after experience.

I really like the words of the spiritual writer Zhang Defen: There are only three things in the world: my business, his business, and God’s business. Those who complain about themselves should try to learn to accept themselves; those who complain about others should try to turn their complaints into requests; those who complain about God, please try to ask for your wishes by means of prayer.

In this way, your life will have an unimaginable change, and your life will be more beautiful and complete. I hope that by then, we will all be better versions of ourselves.

There is no one step earlier, nor one step later, just at that time, I happened to meet the best you.

Because of you, even tears are sweet;

Because of you, I can resist no matter how difficult it is;

Because of you, the sun is shining every day;

Because of you, I can overcome any difficulties with ease;

Because of you, I live happily every day;

Because of you, the future is no longer just a dream;

Because of you, my heart is always stable;

Because of you, all setbacks have become strength;

Because of you, there is always a warm home in my heart;

Because of you, I can always find a shoulder to lean on;

Because of you, I am always very happy;

Because of you, I can sleep peacefully at night;

Because of you, the world becomes bright and quiet.

Because of you, I am willing to wait year after year;

Because of you, I don't care about poverty or wealth;

Because of you, I am not afraid of how difficult it is now;

Because it is you, willing to accept the pain of separation;

Because it is you, I am willing to accompany you left and right forever;

Because it's you, I especially care about your mood;

Because it's you, I don't want to see you frowning and upset;

Because of you, I am happy for a few days with your phone call;

Because it's you, you greet me a lot warmer;

Because of you, you care about me a lot more warmly;

Because of you, your ideal has become my ideal;

Because it's you, I don't want to see your pain;

Because it's you, I feel distressed when I hear your drunken voice;

Because of you, I have strengthened all my beliefs;

Because of you, you will feel that happiness is right in front of you;

Because of you, all the sacrifices are worth it;

Because it is you, I am willing to accompany you to the heaven and the earth;

Because of you, you will be happy forever in the future.

　　世上最痛苦的事之一，不是落单，而是身边有一圈人，让你感觉自己孤身一人。

　　有时候，爱你的人近在咫尺，而让你柔情深陷、牵肠挂肚的却是另一个人。你因他落泪、因他感伤，为他付出所有也在所不惜。你以为这便是爱情，得不到的，总是最好的，而咫尺的温暖，却不懂得珍惜。爱，本来就是一件百转千回的事，但愿某一日你能幡然醒悟，怜惜眼前人。

　　一个人最好的样子就是平静一点，哪怕一个人生活，穿越一个又一个城市，走过一个又一条街道，仰望一片又一片天空，见证一次又一次别离。然后在别人质疑你的时候，你可以问心无愧地对自己说，虽然每一步都走的很慢，但是我不曾退缩过。 　　 　　喜欢一个人是种感觉，不喜欢一个人却是事实。事实容易解释，感觉却难以言喻。

　　在这个世界上，没有人真正可以对另一个人的伤痛感同身受。你万箭穿心，你痛不欲生，也仅仅是你一个人的事，别人也许会同情，也许会嗟叹，但永远不会清楚你伤口究竟溃烂到何种境地。

　　距离，产生的不是美，而是诠释了不堪一击的爱情。

　　我们如何相爱，唯有我们自己知道，是不可以拿来标榜和炫耀的，如果爱仅是一种形式，我们会在无形中忽略它的质地。情至深则爱无言，情至切则爱无声。因为有爱，我们不畏惧生命的漫长，不担心落日后的暗夜。轰轰烈烈难以长久，细水长流难以坚守，但有了相濡以沫的支持和理解，一切都会迎刃而解。

　　如果有一天，当你跟你爱的人发生争执，你就让他（她）赢，这时他（她）又赢到什么？得到什么？所谓的输，你又输掉了什么？失去什么？其实，争执在很多时候，没有留下任何输赢，却失去了很多本应珍惜的感情。

　　原来只要分开了的人，无论原来多么熟悉，也会慢慢变得疏远。

　　不要等到了一个笑容，才面露慈善；不要等被爱了，才去爱；不要等到寂寞了，才明白朋友的价值；不要等到一份最好的工作，才要开始工作；不要等拥有许多，才开始分享；不要等别人受伤了，才乞求原谅；不要等分开了，才想到挽回。不要等待，因为，你不知道等待需要花费多少的时间。

　　爱情，像长不大的孩子，一旦一段爱情被称为成熟，事实上它已经不是爱情，而是由时间定位的一种习惯。爱情，又像是一颗萌芽的种子，经历风风雨雨变成了果实。没有最初的感动，没有最初的朦胧，没有最初的难舍难分，它以一种叫拥有的形式推远了那份珍贵。