Marriage is a career that needs to be run for a lifetime. I believe that in today's era when everything is about "flash", it is not surprising. Just watching, it is sad. Is marriage deceived us, or we polluted the sanctity of marriage? People who shouted the slogan to look for "everlasting, forever" love and marriage, when you really encounter love and marriage, have you ever thought about how the real everlasting comes from? Is it just a pure yearning, not a dream you want to work hard to achieve?

Originally, as the saying goes: Love is easy to get along with. Talking about love and talking about love is a simple matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families. In the season of love, lovers are passionate and always try their best to show the good side, and they are also willing to beautify and tolerate each other, but after the real marriage, the tense nerves relax all of a sudden: we are husband and wife, we are our own people, we don’t need to I am always afraid of losing, so I can calmly be myself. As a result, each other's nature is gradually revealed. After the initial period of new marriage, both husband and wife will enter a period of running-in. A wise and mature person will accept this process peacefully, and work hard to get through this stage with one heart. The stability of marriage and love. On the other hand, when people with improper understanding of marriage and low psychological endurance enter the marriage run-in stage, they will begin to feel hopeless and feel that their marriage is different from what they expected. Underneath the negative thinking, the marriage will be disintegrated.

In addition to the running-in between husband and wife, marriage also involves getting along with each other's family members. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a problem since ancient times, not to mention the running-in of each other's family values ​​and values. It was always difficult at first, but who does not marry in China? Going through such a stage? Strangers always need time to get to know each other, learn to love each other, and find out how to get along. This process is long and requires a heart of acceptance and a positive attitude. If you give up when you encounter setbacks, marriage will fail. It will be as crisp as paper.

Problems in marriage have existed since ancient times. The reason why people in ancient times were able to overcome and persist was because people in the past paid attention to reputation. Divorce was an ugly thing. and tolerance. Furthermore, people in the past had few opportunities for contact between the opposite sex, which reduced the chances of entering marriage and extramarital affairs after divorce, thereby reducing the chance of half-heartedness.

In today's society, the openness of people's ideas and the freedom of emotions have invisibly made people lose their determination to stick to marriage, and also made marriages become fragile. But what about the most beautiful yearning in our hearts? Is that just a slogan? Even Jacky Cheung said in the interview, "When we quarrel, we will also talk about divorce, but it's just not calm and angry."

　　张爱玲说，“见了他，她变得很低很低，低到尘埃里，但她心里是欢喜的，从尘埃里开出花来。”这是张爱玲写给胡兰成的话，初时相遇的美好，化作言语亦是动听的。

　　你喜欢她，便是不由自主地喜欢上了，愿意为她做任何事情，只要她开心你都愿意去做。你是那么得欣喜于和她在一起的时光，甚至来不及去想和她有什么结果，因为你心里早已经决定，只要她一句“愿意”你就会二话不说地带着她去民政局。尽管我不知道这算不算爱，可我相信这是真的喜欢。

　　她说：“于千万人之中遇见你所遇见的人，于千万年之中，时间的无涯的荒野里，没有早一步，也没有晚一步，刚巧赶上了，那也没有别的话可说，惟有轻轻地问一声：‘噢，你也在这里吗？’”这似乎就是你和她的相遇，那么地平淡无奇，甚至最初都不曾心动，然而不知为何却迷恋上了和她在一起的感觉，亲切、温馨和熟悉。

　　于是开始在乎她的每一种情绪，关注她的每一个眼神，不管自己曾经多么的威严亦或冷漠，在她面前也都消散的无影无踪，变成了一个纯粹的孩子。于是，你看似无聊的问候时常出现在她的耳边，每一次开心的事情不由得想与她第一个分享，亦或是做一些无厘头的闹剧希望让她开心。你会在看似无意的一瞥间载满你整个眼神的爱意，温柔而如水，似乎要倾尽自己的心血；会在看似无意的一次碰触里充满你整个心田的欢喜，小心翼翼，似乎要铭记这一瞬间的美丽。这时候，你会发现好像已经完全不再是自己，仿佛为她放下了所有的骄傲，放低了自己的位置，似乎自己所有的一切都是为她的存在而存在，因她的精彩而精彩。如果说每个男人得到女人的方式不同，那么毫不质疑的，你从未曾想过去征服她，而只是想去呵护与相守……