What version of you makes you feel the most happy, safe, strong and at peace?

That’s the version you should constantly put your energy on being.

You will enjoy your experience as YOU will be much more this way, I promise 🥰.

You’re done getting the bottom of the barrel and poor treatment from those who’re supposed to be friends and loved ones, but somehow you keep encountering the same experiences.

The same cycle of disappointment from people and you’re thinking “maybe I should just stop being kind, maybe then it will change. Then I’ll stop feeling disappointed all the time.”

Well, my darling, yes. You should change something, but it’s not being kind, caring and loving — the very thing that makes you you in your core.

It is the way you look at situations with people and it’s about using the right approach to ensure your interest is considered and your peace is protected in the future with those same people.

Now change is not always the easiest thing to bring in a situation, especially if you’re the “I don’t want to offend anyone” type, but truth is somebody, somewhere will always be offended.

Setting clear, strong boundaries is vital and holding accountable those you give permission to your space and access to your heart is a necessity! Or else you’ll be frustrated, unfulfilled and fragmented soul trying to get by — managing relationships when your aim is to have joy, peace and harmony.

So you MUST set your foot down.

The art is to know when and how, having balance so that your joy, harmony and peace is preserved and prospers indeed.

There are diverse ways people woud “advise” to go about it. I often see something along the lines of matching their energy, something I don’t stand for because if you experienced it, and you have seen its ugliness, why would you stoop down to the level of such poor character/personality and mirror it?

It will make you just the same like them. So no, don’t match energies.

Instead, build a structure around the gift that you are, with all the love, care, loyalty, companionship etc. you have to give so that you can: enjoy being your lovely authentic self, around the right people — those who pour back into you and reciprocate your efforts — instead of being occupied with misaligned friends/connections that distract you from the love and joy you deserve to experience too, as one that so freely gives it.

Amazing right? Once I realized this is thanked God because it started to make sense, He gave me confidence and I go through life a secure, resilient and joyous woman.

I took the key points of what I learned in various experiences into a framework so that if you currently struggle with misaligned connections, disappointment in relationships and people pleasing you can use the same strategy to build resilience and the skill to shift your friendships/relationship experiences to the place you need it to be to have joy and be fulfilled.

Also, I said “it has to be simple”, so I purposefully made it easy to follow. In the private protect your spark mastermind I run you through the keys to success in 5 one-on-one meetings, so you too can know what your next steps should be to position yourself to have the experience of inner joy and aligned relationships.

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You may not have it all figured out, yet.

There still may be a journey ahead of you to discover, but all your experiences

the hurt,

the betrayals,

the confusion,

the joy,

the surrendering to the school of Life and the school of the Spirit,

the lessons,

it all shaped you into the vibrant and amazing person you are today.

You are learning.

You are growing.

You are understanding.

You are maturing.

You are living.

And this is why you should never feel embarrassed to “start over” or to start afresh.

All your life experiences give you the wisdom to function at your highest potential.

So next time you feel to slow down and restart:

feel secure and happy knowing that you are evolving into the best version of yourself yet.