Everyone does something they know they aren’t going to get. But still, they make maximum effort, just to get it. They change themselves — they change their decisions — they change their happiness, even when they know they are not going to achieve it. That’s dedication.

But is it necessary? They might think it is. Maybe they believe it’s the right thing to do. But sometimes, it’s not. You can focus on yourself rather than something that’s pointless. It’s like counting waves in the sea — pretty, but useless.

Still, there are people who do it intentionally — who keep spending their time on something that doesn’t give anything back. Later, they realise they wasted their time for absolutely nothing. And when that happens, they will definitely regret it.

For example — a boy, young and unemployed, loved a girl. He proposed to her many times, but she kept rejecting him, saying she wasn’t interested. He still followed her, kept admiring her photos, stalking her socials, etc. He even rejected another girl who said she loved him. After four years, he proposed to the same girl again — just to get rejected again.

He went deep into depression. He kept thinking what he did wrong — only to realise that he was chasing the wrong one. Then he remembered the other girl — the one who had proposed to him — and felt ashamed for rejecting her. He called her to apologise, but by then she was already in love with someone else.

He realised what he had done and moved on. From this, you can understand that by chasing the wrong one, you can miss out on something truly beautiful — the one you actually deserve.

It’s better to find the one for you than the one you want.

— Meenakshi