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            <title><![CDATA[I didn't understand "Three Horses".]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:55:18 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I recently watched the variety show "Ace vs Ace," which used the ten-year-old TV series "Ordinary World" as its backdrop. I hadn't watched the show before, but Mo Yan's name had stuck in my mind. "Three Horses" is a light classic novel by Mo Yan, and I opened it because of his name. The story isn't long; I finished it in about ten minutes on the subway! My first reaction: What was it about? I didn't understand! The writing is a bit dry, requiring careful reading and consideration of each word...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I recently watched the variety show "Ace vs Ace," which used the ten-year-old TV series "Ordinary World" as its backdrop. I hadn't watched the show before, but Mo Yan's name had stuck in my mind.</p><p>"Three Horses" is a light classic novel by Mo Yan, and I opened it because of his name. The story isn't long; I finished it in about ten minutes on the subway! My first reaction: What was it about? I didn't understand! The writing is a bit dry, requiring careful reading and consideration of each word, and also requiring an understanding of the story behind it! After reading several reviews of the novel and going back to reread it, I gradually started to grasp its meaning.</p><p>"A chestnut-colored foal, every single hair on its body the color of a ripe chestnut shell, a glossy purple," "A chestnut-colored mare, with glossy, smooth skin, girlish eyes and eyebrows, even its lips as bright red as May cherries," "A black draft horse, as large and powerful as a pine tree." These three horses were the spiritual sustenance of farmer Liu Qi. Because he wanted to buy horses, he couldn't afford to eat or drink, leading to the separation of his wife and children. Finally, with his three horses, he thought he could finally hold his head high!</p><p>However, the story's ending was not as he hoped, perhaps a consequence of the times. Three horses, two dead, one gone alone. "The yellow earth, the green rice, the black horse, gradually merged into one. People watched, but no one spoke..." The story contains many characters and many tales, forming a complex, dramatic, concise, and masterful narrative. Its rich content and profound meaning are beyond my literary ability to fully express... But I've been pondering: the horse was the farmer Liu Qi's spiritual anchor; the horse was in his spirit. And when the horse was gone in "an instant," his anchor vanished. What would his future hold? We all have our own spiritual anchors—perhaps a beloved career, a thoughtful gift, money in our wallets, or a beautiful dream... But when all this shatters, how can one escape the spiritual maze, bounce back, and find a bright future?</p><p>Perhaps it's a complete collapse, but I hope every day is sunny, that we find new anchors, because "with hope in our hearts, life has strength!"</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Spring night rain]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:54:01 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Brother, can you hear my voice? — This is a sound wave, imbued with deep affection, emanating from the heart of someone who loves you most from afar. Lately, people have been talking about "telepathy," and I both hope it's true and fear it's not. I think the hearts of lovers should be constantly connected, intimately intertwined. I remember an old woman telling me that long ago, a mother missed her son, so she bit her finger. The son, far away, felt a pain in his heart, knowing his mother was...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Brother, can you hear my voice? — This is a sound wave, imbued with deep affection, emanating from the heart of someone who loves you most from afar. Lately, people have been talking about "telepathy," and I both hope it's true and fear it's not. I think the hearts of lovers should be constantly connected, intimately intertwined.</p><p>I remember an old woman telling me that long ago, a mother missed her son, so she bit her finger. The son, far away, felt a pain in his heart, knowing his mother was thinking of him… Now, I've also bitten my finger, until it aches slightly.</p><p>I hope this signal has reached you, letting you know I'm thinking of you, so that on this mysterious rainy night, you too can sit quietly by the window, listening to your talkative sister tell you about the past, present, and future that have suddenly come to mind.</p><p>Brother, right now, a light spring rain is falling over our hometown. It's been raining for over two hours since eight o'clock. The village is already asleep; apart from the patter of the rain, there's no other sound. A refreshing breeze drifted in through the window, occasionally carrying a tiny raindrop onto my face. Brother, do you still remember my face? The face you once kissed.</p><p>People say I'm handsome, that my face is like a magnolia petal that never tans; you say I'm not ugly, that my face, like a magnolia petal, doesn't tan. Others say that to flatter me, but you say it because you love me.</p><p>Actually, my face tans very easily. If you saw me now, you would definitely cup my face in your hands and say, "Oh! My magnolia petal has turned into a rose petal!" You would definitely say that, you certainly would, because you love me…</p><p>In the blink of an eye, we've been married for two years. The third day of the third lunar month two years ago was our auspicious day. That day, a light drizzle fell from the sky, and the air was crisp and fragrant.</p><p>I didn't sleep a wink all night, and got out of bed at the crack of dawn. I didn't wash or change my clothes; instead, I took out all the seashells, conches, and pebbles you gave me and wiped them clean with a handkerchief. I stroked the smooth, sparkling pebbles, the iridescent seashells, and the strangely shaped conches, and I seemed to hear the laughter of the waves and see the golden beach before my eyes.</p><p>I know you are a soldier guarding an island, and you deeply love everything on the island. You felt that what you loved, I would surely love as well, so you sent me these treasures of the sea and the beach. Time and again, I've collected dozens of these precious items.</p><p>You've transformed me, a girl who had never seen the sea before, into a sea and island enthusiast. Whenever I see those wondrous and magnificent images and mysterious words in movies or books, my heart trembles, because seeing the sea and islands reminds me of you, breathing with the islands.</p><p>The treasures you gave me tell me every moment of the magnificent scenery and moving myths of their homeland. Every night, I need to stroke them to fall asleep, and they naturally enter my dreams. In my dreams, I follow them to a nameless island, sparkling like a diamond, nestled in a vast expanse of blue water…</p><p>Brother, ever since we reconciled, I've longed for you to come back… but you joined the army. When you left, I went to see you off. By the willow grove outside the village, you said to me, “Lanmei, wait for me, I'll be back in three years.”</p><p>I know you're on the right path, joining the army is a good thing, but my heart aches, and tears stream down my face uncontrollably. Looking around to make sure no one was there, you gently wiped my tears with your fingertips. I wanted to rush into your arms, but I didn't dare…</p><p>You left, you left along the winding country road. You didn't come back for three years, then four, and finally, five and a half years later you returned.</p><p>My brother, I've finally waited for you to come back. People say that soldiers who get promoted to officers marry other men, but you're different. You, a 26-year-old political instructor, married me on the third day after you returned.</p><p>Brother, I'm so grateful to you! Finding a husband is easy, but finding a soulmate is not, but I found one. I'm a member of the Communist Youth League, I don't believe in ghosts or gods. But I still thank God for giving me such a good son-in-law.</p><p>You said you should also thank God for giving you such a good wife. You said it's not easy for soldiers to find partners these past two years, especially for soldiers guarding an island. You said a pretty girl like me could easily find someone better than you. I quickly covered your mouth with my hand, not letting you say such things.</p><p>I told you I will love you forever, yes, forever! You said you will love me forever too, just like you will love that nameless island forever.</p><p>You put me after the island; you love the island more than me. If it were a person, I would be jealous. I didn't understand why you loved that deserted island in the middle of the sea so passionately.</p><p>I asked, "If both I and the island were to be lost, which would you save first?"</p><p>You said, "The island!"</p><p>I was angry. A living, breathing person couldn't compare to that rocky, barren island.</p><p>I cried, but you laughed.</p><p>You laughed and said, "Silly girl! The island is our motherland's territory. To love the island is to love our motherland; is someone who doesn't love their motherland worthy of your love?"</p><p>I smiled sheepishly, tears welling in my eyes.</p><p>That morning, just past nine o'clock, you came to pick me up on your bicycle. From afar, I could hear the ringing of your bell, its tinkling sound as cheerful as a babbling brook, as crisp as pearls falling onto a jade plate.</p><p>You were wearing a brand-new military uniform, a red flower pinned to your chest. The light rain had soaked your polyester uniform, making the flower, the star, and the two flags appear even redder.</p><p>A fine layer of water droplets clung to your face, tanned dark by the sea breeze—I couldn't tell if they were sweat or raindrops. You smiled at me, you smiled at everyone, revealing a set of white teeth, the small canine tooth on your left gleaming brightly.</p><p>Other girls' weddings are always accompanied by a long procession of bicycles, but we only had two people on one bike. You carried me, and I sat on the blanket-padded back seat, secretly reaching out to wrap my arm around your waist, leaning against your broad back.</p><p>I felt your warmth intimately, my heart pounding like a deer. Your parents' home was a little over ten miles from ours, and you rode very, very slowly, frequently turning back to look at me.</p><p>The rain, though light, still got soaking after a while; strands of my bangs stuck to my forehead. My shoulders and the bulges of my chest were wet, and I felt a chill. I wanted to urge you to ride faster, but I was afraid of spoiling your fun. What's a little hardship compared to what you want?</p><p>You turned back to look at me, twisted the handlebars, and tumbled down into the ditch, bike and all. I lay on my back at the bottom, my pants, shirt, and the back of my head covered in mud. The little bundle I was carrying was scattered everywhere—pebbles, seashells, conches, eggs, all strewn about. How wonderful! Everyone else carries their bride to the kang (heated brick bed), but you've thrown me into the ditch.</p><p>Your hand was cut, bleeding, but you didn't seem to feel any pain. You quickly picked me up, turning me over and over, as if I were a mud doll that would shatter at the slightest touch.</p><p>I deliberately lowered my eyes, pretending to be unhappy. You clumsily apologized, repeatedly banging your head. Seeing your silly antics, I couldn't help but burst out laughing. We started picking up the scattered things. Beautiful seashells and pebbles were covered in yellow mud, which I wiped on my clothes. You stared in surprise. I said, "Since the clothes are dirty anyway, these treasures need to be clean." You agreed immediately, picked up a tiger shell, and started rubbing it on my back, making me feel uncomfortably itchy—you're so naughty!</p><p>After the fall, our mood improved even more, and our hearts drew closer.</p><p>The light rain flew towards us, brightening our eyes and sweetening our hearts. I really wanted to stay a little longer in this refreshing rain, and you guessed my thoughts perfectly. You said, "Lanlan, the road is muddy. To avoid falling into the ditch again, let's walk slowly. When we get home, I'll make you some ginger soup to keep you from catching a cold." I said, "I'll do anything you say."</p><p>You smiled, took the handlebars with one hand, and held my hand with the other, and we slowly walked forward. The path winds and twists, lined with rows of graceful willows, their buds half-open, their branches tinged with a tender, pale yellow.</p><p>Our village is a famous peach orchard; from afar, you can see a pinkish glow mingling with the intermittent, misty rain. Green willows, red peaches, fine rain, and the two of us—all intertwined harmoniously, inseparable, unbreakable…</p><p>You said our hometown was incredibly beautiful, like a vibrant watercolor painting; you said you'd paint a "Peach Blossoms in the Drizzle" for me. You're so talented, a poet and a painter; my love for you is almost superstitious.</p><p>The painting you gave me, "Misty Clouds over a Small Island," has captivated my heart. The gently rippling, rosy sea, the few strokes of colorful clouds where the water meets the sky, the white gulls with crimson wings circling above the island, the mysterious island shrouded in iridescent mist… Though I've never been to the island, I know it intimately, as well as I know you.</p><p>I had long ago snatched the framed copy of "Island in Mist" from my parents' house (my sister-in-law was quite unhappy, scolding me for being "outgoing as a girl grows up"), and hung it neatly on the wall of our bridal chamber. I framed our wedding photo within "Island in Mist."</p><p>My neighbor's second sister, who studies art, said it disrupted the harmony of the picture. I said, "You don't understand." She smiled and nodded, saying, "I understand. I appreciate it from an artistic perspective, while you embellish it with the heart of love. There's no contradiction at all."</p><p>Yes, that's indeed true. I did this purely out of love for you, love for everything connected to you. How I long to lean tightly on your shoulder, and melt into the misty glow of this little island with you…</p><p>Look at me, your silly little sister, so silly! Won't you laugh at me? Yes, you won't. You once told me, "Lanlan, my silly girl, loves to dream, loves to cry, and is still like an innocent child…" You love this silly side of me, don't you?</p><p>We got married on the third day of the third lunar month two years ago, and this year it's been a full two years. But we've only had twenty days together.</p><p>I remember after our wedding, the dreamlike days flew by like a shuttle. Before our honeymoon was over, with ten days of vacation left, you had to leave. You said a new batch of soldiers had just arrived on the island, and there was a lot of ideological work to do. You said there was a soldier from Sichuan who still had bedwetting problems, and you had to rush back to give him "mental therapy." You said it was time to plant new seedlings in the vegetable gardens on the island. You said you hadn't seen the island for twenty days, hadn't heard the roar of the waves for twenty days, and felt an emptiness in your heart…</p><p>You were leaving, and everyone at home was surprised, as were the neighbors. My parents said, "The island won't miss you…" The neighbors gossiped, "Is your wife not satisfactory…?" I couldn't say anything, just stared at you with teary eyes. I so wished you could stay a few more days, no, even just one more day…</p><p>You saw what I wanted to say in my eyes, and for a moment, you seemed to hesitate, a look of agonizing indecision on your face. I'm not that kind of fool; I don't want you to change your right decision because of me. The company needs you, the island needs you. Go if you want, just don't forget me.</p><p>You held my hand and said, "Thank you, dear sister…" I said, "Who needs your thanks…" As I spoke, strings of tears fell onto your hand… You left, and I couldn't go with you—our parents are old, and I need to take care of them.</p><p>And so, you left along the country path shaded by weeping willows. When you returned, the peach blossoms were in full bloom, like wispy, carefree clouds; when you left, the branches, with their uneven green leaves, were just beginning to bear fuzzy little peaches with long, trailing tails. Two years have passed since you left—two years is twenty-four months, a year is three hundred and sixty days! Last year, the peach blossoms bloomed like rosy clouds, but you didn't see them; this year, the peach blossoms bloom again like smoke and clouds, but you still didn't see them…</p><p>You left carrying two large bags of yellow soil from your hometown, refusing all the boiled eggs and roasted peanuts I had prepared for you. You said that soil was more precious than gold on the island, and that all the officers and soldiers returning home on leave brought soil back with them.</p><p>You left with the yellow soil from your hometown, the yellow soil I had packed myself; you left with my longing, the longing condensed in the yellow soil.</p><p>You sent me twenty-four letters, each one I read over and over again, kissing them repeatedly. These letters, carrying the salty scent of the sea, flown from the depths of the ocean, conveying the waves' longing for the land. Why do the waves leap tirelessly, waving their hands excitedly like children? I think it's their heartfelt lament, pouring out their yearning and love for the land.</p><p>Reading your letter, it's as if I'm sitting before you, listening to your gentle narration. Your two slender eyes blink intelligently, your sharply defined lips move softly.</p><p>You say that three days of fierce winds have just swept across the sea, and the ocean, now calm and serene, is exceptionally tranquil. Long waves stretch slowly across the surface, like a gentle breeze blowing through a May wheat field…</p><p>You say that when a storm rises at sea, the nameless island seems to tremble. In the depths of the ocean, it was as if thousands of wild horses were galloping, as if tens of thousands of horns were sounding, as if tens of thousands of cannons were booming; waves five or six meters high poured down on the island from all directions like cannon fire, or as if countless giant claws of monstrous beasts were tearing it apart...</p><p>You said that even in such terrible weather, you still led your comrades into battle, constantly adjusting the machine's knobs, searching the vast, high sea and sky with your electronically sharp eyes, your eyes fixed on the fluctuating curves and flickering dots on the screen. You knew that those needle-like bright spots, those awn-like silver lines, were sometimes echoes from reefs, sometimes passing ships; you were determined to capture those malevolent "sharks" from these ever-changing lines and dots.</p><p>You said that in a sudden typhoon, the cement tiles on the newspaper office vanished, and the heavy steel frame collapsed like a paper kite. Two soldiers on duty were trapped inside the building. You kicked open the window, jumped in, and rescued them, narrowly escaping being crushed by a falling concrete component…</p><p>Seeing this, my heart leaped into my throat. I was so worried about you! Brother, please be careful, God bless you…</p><p>In your letter, you asked me to gather jujube seeds from the ditch and collect rehmannia root from the fields. You said you wanted to use them to treat the young soldier from Sichuan who had just turned eighteen and was suffering from bedwetting. You said he was tormented by this embarrassing condition, burdened by mental stress, and even had some unhealthy thoughts. You patiently worked on his mindset, and you made three requests of the comrades in the company: first, to care for Xiao Ding; second, to help Xiao Ding; and third, not to discriminate against Xiao Ding.</p><p>You let Xiao Ding move into your dormitory, and you put an alarm clock under your pillow to wake him up three times every night to relieve himself. You took him for morning runs to improve his physical condition; you told him stories of Paul to strengthen his will. You told me that Xiao Ding's illness was improving.</p><p>You told me again that after taking the herbs I gathered, Xiao Ding was completely cured. You sent me a photo of Xiao Ding; his slender eyes and curved eyebrows made him look just like your younger brother. He was smiling at me in the photo, and looking at my hands, covered in small scars from the thorns of the jujube trees, my heart felt as sweet as honey…</p><p>The summer before last, you said you harvested a 100-pound winter melon from the vegetable garden on the island, as big as the stone roller used in our hometown's threshing ground. Last autumn, you said you went crabbing with the soldiers and got your finger pinched by a crab claw. This spring, you said that while patrolling the beach, you picked up…</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Sandalwood Punishment]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:52:54 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[Observe the people around you carefully; those who get angry easily are rarely wise, and their lives are mostly a mess.]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:51:24 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Mo Yan's story of his cousin Ning Saiye in "The Late-Blooming Man" is deeply memorable. Ning Saiye is arrogant and unrealistic, always blaming external factors for his failures: complaining about his parents' lack of money, his unfulfilled potential, and the injustice of fate. Fueled by alcohol, he smashes his glass in public, pointing at his father and yelling, "Physiologically you are my father, psychologically you are my enemy!" He is immersed in his own fantasies, believing his work "The ...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mo Yan's story of his cousin Ning Saiye in "The Late-Blooming Man" is deeply memorable. Ning Saiye is arrogant and unrealistic, always blaming external factors for his failures: complaining about his parents' lack of money, his unfulfilled potential, and the injustice of fate. Fueled by alcohol, he smashes his glass in public, pointing at his father and yelling, "Physiologically you are my father, psychologically you are my enemy!" He is immersed in his own fantasies, believing his work "The Black and White Donkey" surpasses Mo Yan's novels, a masterpiece, blaming Mo Yan for not publishing it, accusing his cousin of secretly ostracizing him, and placing all the blame on Mo Yan. After failing his college entrance exams, he lacks ability but possesses a fiery temper. Mo Yan introduces him to jobs such as washing bottles at a winery, selling goods at a supply and marketing cooperative, and writing reports at a forging equipment factory, but he doesn't stay in any of these jobs long and becomes dissatisfied with them. He said, "The bottle is sparkling clean, but my heart is getting dirtier and dirtier. I resent, I hate, I grieve, I'm furious. I wish I could turn into a raging fire and burn this filthy world to ruins..." His parents are seventy years old, doing hard labor and eating cornbread, while he's sponging off them. His parents gave him life and raised him, and his cousin Mo Yan helped him, yet he repays kindness with resentment, arguing with everyone and everything, full of hostility, becoming a slave to negative energy. It can be said that Ning Saiye's "impotent rage" created his tragic life. Upon closer reflection, there are quite a few people like this in reality. You might as well observe the people around you; those who get angry at the drop of a hat are not wise, and their lives are mostly a mess. 01 The most useless thing in the world is getting angry. Maugham said, "If a person gets angry because of the stupidity of others, then he will live in perpetual, continuous anger for the rest of his life." I wholeheartedly agree. When a series of anger becomes an emotional debt that cannot be repaid, a person will pay the price for his stupidity and suffer the consequences. A couple of days ago, I saw a chilling GIF. A van rammed a man lying in front of it straight into an iron gate. After investigation, I learned that the two people inside were a young couple arguing. The argument escalated, and the wife slammed the door and left. The husband, trying to stop her from driving away, spread his arms to block the car, and they remained locked in a stalemate. Even after the wife started the car, the husband didn't leave. Then, the wife said something that enraged him, and he began violently pounding on the windshield. At the same time, the car suddenly accelerated, and with a loud crash, the husband was thrown from the car, hitting his head on the ground and dying instantly. After being taken to the police station, the wife kept muttering, "If only I hadn't been so angry..." One can get angry countless times, but life is only once. Remember, the two most useless things in the world are anger and complaining. Anger only exacerbates conflict, and complaining only adds to trouble; they are utterly pointless and only add fuel to the fire. Countless cases in life have served as stark reminders: arguing with strangers harms both body and mind; getting angry with family hurts the heart and damages relationships; and holding grudges against oneself can shorten lifespan and even lead to death. As writer Liu Na said, "Emotions are a gun; when we pull the trigger of our emotions, the muzzle is actually pointed at ourselves." The phrase "I'm so angry I could die" may not be a casual remark, but rather a chilling joke from hell. On November 10th, two men in Jiangsu, Zhang and Wang, collided at an intersection while riding electric bikes. Fortunately, both were traveling at low speeds and braked in time, resulting in damage to the bikes but no injuries to either rider. What should have been a cause for celebration turned into a heated argument over liability, attracting onlookers and prompting attempts to mediate. Zhang calmed down, thinking it wasn't a big deal, and prepared to leave. At that moment, something completely unexpected happened. Wang turned deathly pale, began to sway, collapsed, and lost consciousness. Sadly, even the speeding ambulance couldn't save him; he died. It turns out that Mr. Wang suffered from high blood pressure and heart disease, but he failed to control his emotions, and an argument became the triggering factor for his death. This makes one reflect: sometimes, a person's most dangerous enemy is not the worst person in their eyes, but themselves when their emotions are out of control. There's an interesting saying: "If yelling could solve everything, then donkeys would rule the world." Whether it's a big or small matter, calming down and handling it is the best solution. People with a "low ignition point" explode at the slightest provocation, ultimately only hurting themselves and others. 02 In life: It's better to be ambitious than angry, better to turn things around than to turn hostile. In life, things can't always go as planned; favorable and unfavorable circumstances always alternate. Truly great people often understand that they shouldn't be arrogant in good times, dejected in leisure, worried in adversity, or give up in desperate situations. As Dickens said, "A sound emotional state is more powerful than a hundred kinds of wisdom." Emperor Huizong of the Song Dynasty loved calligraphy and painting. One day, while traveling incognito, he saw someone selling donkey paintings on the street and immediately asked his entourage: "Who in the world paints the best donkeys?" The attendant couldn't answer immediately, so he inquired around. Most of the people he asked said there was a painter named Zhu who specialized in painting donkeys. This painter was named Zhu Ziming, but he was actually skilled in landscape painting. However, because of his great fame, many of his peers were jealous of him and spread rumors to belittle him, calling him a "donkey painter." The rumors spread until the people truly believed that Zhu Ziming painted donkeys, and eventually even the emperor believed it. So, when Zhu Ziming received the imperial decree to enter the palace and paint a donkey for the emperor, he was truly bewildered. An ordinary person, encountering such a bizarre situation, would inevitably get angry, blaming his peers for spreading rumors and framing him, feeling that the emperor's actions were an insult to his dignity. But Zhu Ziming not only didn't get angry, but before entering the palace, he diligently studied how to paint donkeys. After entering the palace, he painted hundreds of donkeys, deeply impressing the emperor. From then on, he truly became the best donkey painter in the land. In his later years, Zhu Ziming reflected on his experience painting donkeys and remarked, "If I hadn't been angry back then, I would not only have angered the emperor and brought disaster upon myself, but I would also have lost the opportunity to perform in the palace. Therefore, I want to thank those who slandered and spread rumors; it was their insults and criticisms that made me a better person." In life, we always encounter all sorts of people and troubles. No matter how well you do, there will always be people who dislike you and try to trip you up. If you hold grudges and become enemies with others, you'll fall right into their trap and lose completely. When faced with problems, just solve them. The biggest difference between the strong and the weak is that the weak are trapped in their emotions, going around in circles, like trying to cut water with a knife—the water flows on, and drinking to drown sorrows only makes them worse. The strong live in their work, stunning everyone, remaining steadfast despite countless trials and tribulations. I strongly agree with this line from "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist": "No one can make you unhappy; you choose to be unhappy." If a person cares too much about the opinions and evaluations of others, they are choosing to be their own enemy. When you put yourself in an adversarial position, it becomes difficult to walk your own path and live a good life. Alfred Adler, the founder of individual psychology, had a famous theory of "separation of tasks." Everything can be divided into "your own task" and "someone else's task." We cannot control others' tasks, so we shouldn't get caught up in emotional turmoil because of others. We only need to focus on what we are responsible for. How others perceive you is their task; taking on someone else's task will only cause you pain. The worst thing is to only grow older and wrinkled, without gaining wisdom and magnanimity. Always remember: it's better to strive than to be angry, and it's better to turn things around than to turn against someone. Invest your time in your mind and improve your perspective; only then can you find contentment in your own spiritual world, remaining steadfast despite external turmoil. 03 When you're in a bad mood, remember these three points and you'll win. As Mr. Nan Huaijin said in "The Analects of Confucius," "The superior person has ability but no temper; the average person has ability and temper; the inferior person has no ability but temper." Losing your temper is instinct; controlling your temper is skill. The most remarkable ability a person can possess is not fame or fortune, but emotional stability. A truly emotionally stable person can use every conflict and challenge as a mirror to examine themselves, drawing out its sharpness to correct their own shortcomings. When you're in a bad mood, remember these three points and you'll win: 1. Live in the present, don't worry about the past, and don't fear the future. Many people are plagued by negative emotions, whether depressed or anxious, because they haven't lived in the present. They're constantly dwelling on each today, regretting yesterday, fearing tomorrow, and living in constant anxiety. Over time, life becomes bleak and chaotic, and the heart is filled with worries and turmoil. There's a passage in Zeng Guofan's collected works that deeply inspires me: "When you should be reading, read; your mind should not be preoccupied with receiving guests. When you should be receiving guests, receive guests; your mind should not be preoccupied with reading. If you are preoccupied with either, it becomes selfish." This means that you shouldn't be thinking about one thing while doing another; otherwise, you'll do neither well and only become more agitated. Adding too much can sometimes backfire; subtracting is better than accumulating. The most important thing to get rid of is useless emotions, streamline complex goals, stay away from people who drain your energy, live in the present, and win in the future. Zeng Guofan's 16-character motto for managing emotions is: "Accept things as they come, don't anticipate the future, don't be distracted by the present, and don't dwell on the past." Fortune and misfortune are interdependent; gain and loss are all predestined. Letting go brings complete freedom. 2. Stay away from the "emotional black hole" and hold onto your emotional key. A psychological analysis suggests that a person's capacity to hold emotions is like a graduated container. You put stones in, then sand, and finally water until the container is full. In the container of emotions, there are positive and negative emotions. Once the balance is broken, you fall into an "emotional black hole." The first type of emotional black hole is the "lost key mode." In this mode, people entrust the key to their happiness to others, and become restless once they lose it. The solution is to keep the key to happiness within yourself, not to be afraid of loneliness, not to depend on others, and to be free to read, shop, watch movies, eat, etc., even alone. The second type is the "creditor mode," where people believe that they must repay others for their efforts. The solution is to avoid holding others hostage, regardless of the relationship, and to do good deeds with the intention of making yourself happy. The third type is the "parasitic mode," where people are too concerned about others' opinions and even lose themselves. The solution is to respect your own feelings, face your own needs, and face everything bravely and confidently without fear of others' opinions. 3. Improve cognition and cultivate problem-solving skills. Different levels of cognition lead to different perspectives on problems; different emotional levels lead to different problem-solving efficiency. If you only see the surface of a problem and lack your own thinking, you are easily led astray by others and eventually fall into a vicious cycle of using emotions to fight problems. Extreme or highly volatile emotions can cloud our judgment, causing our thinking to become inactive and chaotic. Therefore, only when we are at peace can we clear our minds and see a way out. Luo Zhenyu once said in an interview, "In our lives, there are no so-called emotions, only what problems have occurred and how to solve them." Those who achieve great things have long since silenced their emotions, cutting off the "culprits" that disturb their inner peace at their source. Change your perception, tame your emotions, let reason control the reins of your feelings, and cultivate your problem-solving abilities. Read more good books to break down narrow-mindedness and enrich your mind; make more beneficial friends to break down prejudice and embrace differences. Finally, here are nine ways to calm down: 1. Talk it out 2. Avoidance 3. Exercise 4. Entertainment 5. Think positively 6. Find a method that suits you 7. Empathy 8. Letting go 9. Elevating your mindset. May you, in the days to come, subdue your delusions, tame the tiger of emotions, live a relaxed and comfortable life, and live with composure and freedom. Click the "heart" at the end of the article to encourage each other!</p>]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Thanks to the trials of life]]></title>
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            <description><![CDATA[In the journey of life, the worst situation is often not poverty or misfortune, but the loss of spirit and pursuit; emptiness of the soul is fatal. Our mindset is our true master; what kind of mindset we have determines what kind of life we ​​lead. The road of life is never smooth sailing; it is often filled with torment and setbacks. We must dare to face hardship and trials, establish strong beliefs, and gain the motivation to fight for our lives. A brilliant life is forged in adversity; set...]]></description>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the journey of life, the worst situation is often not poverty or misfortune, but the loss of spirit and pursuit; emptiness of the soul is fatal. Our mindset is our true master; what kind of mindset we have determines what kind of life we ​​lead. The road of life is never smooth sailing; it is often filled with torment and setbacks. We must dare to face hardship and trials, establish strong beliefs, and gain the motivation to fight for our lives. A brilliant life is forged in adversity; setbacks are a person's touchstone, and many setbacks are often a good beginning. Don't give up your choices because of pain. So-called successful people are simply those who have put in more effort than others. A person's success is not accidental; it is achieved by treading on countless failures and pains. Others only see the superficial glory; only they know the bloodstained marks left by thorns on the road to success. Be grateful for life's trials; there is no need to choose between life's joys and sorrows.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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