tsaml https://paragraph.com/@tsaml undefined Mon, 06 Jul 2026 19:55:40 GMT https://validator.w3.org/feed/docs/rss2.html https://github.com/jpmonette/feed en tsaml https://storage.googleapis.com/papyrus_images/e758ea40293dc25498727efafc6adb04.png https://paragraph.com/@tsaml All rights reserved <![CDATA[When we are infatuated with someone]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/0Gc0YipHOrX7E5hWxrxW 0Gc0YipHOrX7E5hWxrxW Tue, 20 Jan 2026 01:49:12 GMT When we are infatuated with someone, we may also love the other person excessively and ignore our own feelings and needs. Because you think he is your ideal and you definitely can't miss him. I once met a girl who said, "My boyfriend is willing to fight and risk his life for me. I love him very much and am willing to do anything for him!" I said to her, "A person who is good at or often uses violence to solve problems has such a personality. Now, he can fight for you against others. When conflicts arise between you two in the future, he may hit you. What attracts you now may make you suffer for him in the future."

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[First of all]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/first-of-all-3 KgP2FpVYCyngkr4p4NeC Tue, 13 Jan 2026 05:04:27 GMT First of all, one must know oneself. What needs and desires do I have? Why do I like this person? What about him attracts me? What psychological deficiencies of mine might this be due to? Knowing oneself enables one to pay more attention to one's own feelings and not easily become infatuated with the other person. Secondly, one must see the other person clearly and not idealize him. What kind of person is the real him? How does it feel when he interacts with me? What does he need? To what extent can I meet his needs? In a romantic relationship, one should love the real other person; in marriage, one should live with the real other person.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[To find a balance]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/to-find-a-balance-1 z5XUG2JGvDPaXiiQPA8c Mon, 05 Jan 2026 02:51:43 GMT To find a balance between loving oneself and loving others, in fact, it means maintaining a “dual - centered” approach: your feelings are very important, and my feelings are also very important. This requires our self - growth, understanding ourselves and seeing the other person clearly.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[This girl]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/this-girl-2 RFru0ahgN9Cp7pPAV06U Fri, 05 Dec 2025 05:45:10 GMT This girl lacks a sense of security and is particularly eager to be protected. When a man is willing to risk his all for her, it just happens to fill the void in her longing for love. She doesn't know the real him; this isn't love, but an infatuation.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[It's simple to distinguish]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/h2pwre1mkdc6uohf33jl h2PwRE1MkDc6uoHf33jL Wed, 03 Dec 2025 03:24:31 GMT It's simple to distinguish whether you love others excessively. Just check whether you are suppressing yourself and neglecting your own needs when being kind to others. For example, if your taste is clearly different from that of your boyfriend, yet you always only cook the dishes he likes, this is loving others excessively.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[If you love others excessively]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/r0iku1kbj9pwe0dewfjc R0iKU1kbJ9pWe0dEwFJc Tue, 02 Dec 2025 01:54:53 GMT If you love others excessively, you will stop caring about your own feelings. Everything they say is right, and you always put their needs first in everything you do. You rationalize your behavior and euphemistically call it "dedication". Over time, the other party may lose respect and love for you because of your lack of self - identity.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[The right - timed love]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/kbgqjn4vwhohwrmszyoh kbGQJN4vWhoHwrMsZYoH Fri, 28 Nov 2025 01:47:03 GMT The right - timed love, apart from being appropriate in terms of the time and progress of the relationship, also has a deeper meaning: one should find a balance between loving oneself and loving others. It is just like playing on a seesaw, where one needs to find a fulcrum that is acceptable and comfortable for both parties.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[Relationship Progress Management: Neither too long, too short, too frequent nor too fast in love is advisable.]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/vhlqd8pwzqhupbbmdn6q VHLqD8pwzQhupBBmDN6q Thu, 27 Nov 2025 02:03:10 GMT Relationship Progress Management: Neither too long, too short, too frequent nor too fast in love is advisable.

I have always believed that love is like cooking rice, where the heat control is crucial. If the time spent together is too short, the relationship will be undercooked like half-cooked rice; if it's too long, the relationship will get burnt like overcooked rice. A love that is just right is like seasonal fruits, which taste the best when they naturally ripen.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[I have always believed]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/i-have-always-believed-3 EBI3ktyiw0RCpfnuFbl4 Wed, 26 Nov 2025 02:04:03 GMT I have always believed that love is like cooking rice, where the heat control is crucial. If the time spent together is too short, the relationship will be undercooked like half-cooked rice; if it's too long, the relationship will get burnt like overcooked rice. A love that is just right is like seasonal fruits, which taste the best when they naturally ripen.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[I once met a girl]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/uonw3nkzyevcb9tiovgu Uonw3NkZyevCb9tiovgU Tue, 25 Nov 2025 01:52:39 GMT I once met a girl through the technique of striking up a conversation while traveling by bus, and she became my wife. At that time, I had just sat down on the long-distance bus, and she was sitting in the row in front of me. When she was about to buy the ticket, her wallet dropped to the ground. I picked it up for her and took the opportunity to start a conversation with her - it's better to speak up at the first moment of encounter, which will make the conversation seem more natural. If you follow and observe a girl silently for a long time before opening your mouth, she will surely suspect that you have ulterior motives.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[When we are infatuated with someone]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/1puctkhw6n81zk1fpdnh 1PUCTKHW6N81ZK1fpDNH Mon, 24 Nov 2025 04:19:30 GMT When we are infatuated with someone, we may also love the other person excessively and ignore our own feelings and needs. Because you think he is your ideal and you definitely can't miss him. I once met a girl who said, "My boyfriend is willing to fight and risk his life for me. I love him very much and am willing to do anything for him!" I said to her, "A person who is good at or often uses violence to solve problems has such a personality. Now, he can fight for you against others. When conflicts arise between you two in the future, he may hit you. What attracts you now may make you suffer for him in the future."

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[First of all]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/first-of-all-2 DwNZDtaDz46AiX8LuImd Fri, 21 Nov 2025 02:08:30 GMT First of all, one must know oneself. What needs and desires do I have? Why do I like this person? What about him attracts me? What psychological deficiencies of mine might this be due to? Knowing oneself enables one to pay more attention to one's own feelings and not easily become infatuated with the other person. Secondly, one must see the other person clearly and not idealize him. What kind of person is the real him? How does it feel when he interacts with me? What does he need? To what extent can I meet his needs? In a romantic relationship, one should love the real other person; in marriage, one should live with the real other person.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[To find a balance]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/to-find-a-balance OEhKSOawm0pVdbiwgXbe Thu, 20 Nov 2025 02:29:12 GMT To find a balance between loving oneself and loving others, in fact, it means maintaining a “dual - centered” approach: your feelings are very important, and my feelings are also very important. This requires our self - growth, understanding ourselves and seeing the other person clearly.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[This girl]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/this-girl-1 l1r6Pl0mdPHCZkdfxQzI Wed, 19 Nov 2025 01:58:56 GMT This girl lacks a sense of security and is particularly eager to be protected. When a man is willing to risk his all for her, it just happens to fill the void in her longing for love. She doesn't know the real him; this isn't love, but an infatuation.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[It's simple to distinguish]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/sokbhqlgg6gd9gu5b8ve sOkBhqLgG6Gd9Gu5b8Ve Tue, 18 Nov 2025 02:35:41 GMT It's simple to distinguish whether you love others excessively. Just check whether you are suppressing yourself and neglecting your own needs when being kind to others. For example, if your taste is clearly different from that of your boyfriend, yet you always only cook the dishes he likes, this is loving others excessively.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[If you love others excessively]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/3psPOwcGLzHnaC1zZo42 3psPOwcGLzHnaC1zZo42 Mon, 17 Nov 2025 02:11:37 GMT If you love others excessively, you will stop caring about your own feelings. Everything they say is right, and you always put their needs first in everything you do. You rationalize your behavior and euphemistically call it "dedication". Over time, the other party may lose respect and love for you because of your lack of self - identity.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[The right - timed love]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/d3r2qnmyxg8d93dc6ru8 D3R2qnmYXg8D93dC6ru8 Fri, 14 Nov 2025 04:12:16 GMT The right - timed love, apart from being appropriate in terms of the time and progress of the relationship, also has a deeper meaning: one should find a balance between loving oneself and loving others. It is just like playing on a seesaw, where one needs to find a fulcrum that is acceptable and comfortable for both parties.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[Relationship Progress Management]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/relationship-progress-management-3 2gKPhA3NiApONc1u2pZU Wed, 12 Nov 2025 01:58:31 GMT Relationship Progress Management: Neither too long, too short, too frequent nor too fast in love is advisable.

I have always believed that love is like cooking rice, where the heat control is crucial. If the time spent together is too short, the relationship will be undercooked like half-cooked rice; if it's too long, the relationship will get burnt like overcooked rice. A love that is just right is like seasonal fruits, which taste the best when they naturally ripen.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[I have always believed]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/i-have-always-believed-2 FfITphygmNnx9XSBBtZZ Tue, 11 Nov 2025 02:05:38 GMT I have always believed that love is like cooking rice, where the heat control is crucial. If the time spent together is too short, the relationship will be undercooked like half-cooked rice; if it's too long, the relationship will get burnt like overcooked rice. A love that is just right is like seasonal fruits, which taste the best when they naturally ripen.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml) <![CDATA[I once met a girl]]> https://paragraph.com/@tsaml/yqzprhd5lbfgzhzekicc yQZpRhd5lbfgZHZeKiCc Mon, 10 Nov 2025 01:45:53 GMT I once met a girl through the technique of striking up a conversation while traveling by bus, and she became my wife. At that time, I had just sat down on the long-distance bus, and she was sitting in the row in front of me. When she was about to buy the ticket, her wallet dropped to the ground. I picked it up for her and took the opportunity to start a conversation with her - it's better to speak up at the first moment of encounter, which will make the conversation seem more natural. If you follow and observe a girl silently for a long time before opening your mouth, she will surely suspect that you have ulterior motives.

]]> tsaml@newsletter.paragraph.com (tsaml)