The skin, the delicate parchment of the soul, is not just a boundary but also a gateway. It is the surface of the brain, and to touch it is to awaken the essence of life. Each caress is like a whisper through the nervous system, reviving memories, dreams, and instincts. To touch the skin is not to skim the surface but to stir the deep layers of connection—to call forth the currents of life.

This sacred boundary, this shimmering threshold, is more important than we usually realize. Like air, like water, like sunlight, touch sustains us. Deprived of it, we do not just endure but wither. Newborns, denied loving touch, will slowly fade even if well-fed and kept warm. Children who are somewhat luckier but still lack true affection grow up with deficiencies, their development stunted by an emotional, not nutritional, famine. Adults are not immune either; without this primal nourishment, the mind weakens, and the spirit contracts.

There is a profound truth here, resonating like poetry: flesh touching flesh is not just connection but communion. Without it, we cannot grow. With it, we awaken—vibrant with each other, with ourselves, and with the universe singing in every cell of our skin. What stronger evidence could there be that we are beings of love and desire, born not just to exist but to flourish in the warmth of touch, in the electrochemical miracle of connection?

To touch and be touched is to remember that we are alive—marvelous, complex, and wondrous beings, carrying within us both the wild hunger of creation and the infinite grace of belonging. Reach out, with courage and gentleness, for in that touch lies the light of humanity.

human touch studies

emotional intelligence

Càng sống động với nhịp đập của khát khao, tâm trí càng trở nên rực rỡ—một bản giao hưởng tuyệt vời được dệt nên từ những hợp âm nguyên sơ của đam mê. Để sống trọn vẹn với sự gợi cảm là để sống trọn vẹn với sự sáng tạo, bởi tình dục không chỉ là một hành động, mà là một khát vọng—một sự tò mò không ngừng để khám phá những điều ẩn giấu bên trong. Đó không chỉ là sự hòa quyện của thân xác mà còn là hành trình tìm kiếm bí ẩn ẩn náu trong sự tồn tại của chính chúng ta.

Làn da, tấm giấy mỏng manh của tâm hồn, không chỉ là ranh giới mà còn là cánh cổng. Đó là bề mặt của não bộ, và chạm vào nó là đánh thức bản chất của sự sống. Mỗi cái vuốt ve như một lời thì thầm qua hệ thần kinh, làm sống dậy những ký ức, giấc mơ và bản năng. Chạm vào làn da không phải để lướt qua bề mặt mà là để khuấy động những tầng sâu thẳm của sự kết nối—để gọi về những dòng chảy của sự sống.

Ranh giới thiêng liêng này, ngưỡng cửa lấp lánh này, quan trọng hơn chúng ta thường nhận ra. Như không khí, như nước, như ánh mặt trời, sự chạm vào duy trì chúng ta. Khi bị tước đi, chúng ta không chỉ chịu đựng mà còn héo mòn. Những đứa trẻ sơ sinh, bị từ chối sự tiếp xúc đầy yêu thương, sẽ dần lụi tàn dù được nuôi no bụng và nằm trong chiếc nôi ấm áp. Những đứa trẻ có phần may mắn hơn nhưng vẫn thiếu đi sự âu yếm vuốt ve đúng nghĩa, sẽ lớn lên một cách khiếm khuyết, sự phát triển của chúng bị kìm hãm bởi nạn đói không phải từ thực phẩm mà từ cảm xúc. Người trưởng thành cũng không thoát khỏi điều này; thiếu vắng sự nuôi dưỡng nguyên sơ ấy, tâm trí sẽ suy yếu, và tinh thần sẽ co lại.

Có một sự thật sâu sắc ở đây, rung lên như thơ ca: da thịt chạm vào da thịt không chỉ là sự kết nối mà còn là một sự giao hòa. Không có nó, chúng ta không thể phát triển. Với nó, chúng ta tỉnh thức—sống động với nhau, với chính mình, và với vũ trụ đang ngân vang trong từng tế bào da thịt. Có bằng chứng nào mạnh mẽ hơn rằng chúng ta là những sinh vật của tình yêu và khát khao, sinh ra không chỉ để tồn tại mà còn để thăng hoa trong hơi ấm của sự chạm vào, trong phép màu điện hóa của sự kết nối?

Chạm vào và được chạm vào chính là để nhớ rằng chúng ta đang sống—những sinh thể kỳ diệu, rối ren và diệu kỳ, mang trong mình cả cơn đói hoang dại của sự sáng tạo lẫn ân sủng vô hạn của sự thuộc về. Hãy vươn tay ra, can đảm và dịu dàng, bởi trong sự chạm vào đó chính là tia sáng của nhân tính.

"You don't even like France, do you?"

"Then I like it now!" she replied, adding a laughing emoji.

I didn't know what to say. Well, we had broken up, so what was the point of lingering?

On the day I saw her off at the airport, I went to her side. The apartment I had left a year before still felt strangely familiar. She took Lắc - our cat - to France. That was also what connected us.

"Two weeks, I'll pick up Lắc for the weekend!" That was our rule.

I reminded her of everything, from the trivial stuff to clothes. Looking at me, she said:

"I'm not like I used to be."

At that moment, I was reminded that we had broken up a long time ago.

We occasionally keep in touch via Facebook.

About two years after our official breakup, I met someone new. The New Love had some similarities with her. Quiet, interesting. However, the New Love was sharper and more practical. This made our relationship balanced.

"I want to go abroad." - One time, the New Love was acting coy - "I haven't left the city in years."

"So where do you want to go?"

"To France."

"Didn't you say France was dirty?"

"Did I say that?"

The New Love furrowed her brows. For a moment, I felt guilty. No, that was what the old one said.

"Haha, my mistake then." - I said to brush it off.

That night, I checked my ex's Facebook again. In France, she took many pictures. She looked quite refreshed. Maybe she was happy.

In the middle of the night, I got up to drink beer. Sitting blankly on the chair, the New Love stood beside me, clearing her throat. Startled, I whispered:

"Did I wake you?"

"Yeah. How could I sleep when your ex is calling you in the middle of the night?"

The New Love joked, then sat opposite me, took out a cigarette, and lit it. Her slender legs were casually propped up on the table. The New Love looked so different from the gentle old love of the past.

"You knew I would guess."

"Easy to guess. But I don't blame you. You two were together for six years."

"So, are you upset?"

The New Love laughed loudly:

"Of course. But I have my own exes. Sometimes, you remind me of them."

"Yeah. We always love similar types without realizing it."

We both laughed. The New Love flicked her cigarette into the ashtray and said:

"That's life. We must move on."

"But how can you move on if you're still in pain?"

The New Love didn't answer immediately. She stood up, kissed my cheek. Before entering the bedroom, the New Love said:

"How can one forget? It will stay with you for life. But over time, it gets lighter. You'll get used to it."

The New Love and I continued our relationship. Later, we left the city to start anew in Da Lat. Our love was like many others, full of joy and arguments.

Occasionally, I still texted my ex. She often shared stories about France. I asked if she had found someone new. She said not yet.

Then one day, the ex confessed:

"You know what I hate being asked? What am I doing in France? I can't say it's a way for us to move on. Nor can I say I'm betting my future on studying abroad without knowing what life will be like."

I heard her voice through the microphone. At that moment, her voice was calm. I understood, we were in the middle of that journey. Between forgetting and remembering. Between moving on and looking back.

"Yeah." - I replied - "I also want to say we'll remember each other forever. But eventually, everything lightens up. You'll love someone new."

On the other end, she gave a faint laugh.

We ended the conversation. Outside, I saw the New Love picking mushrooms. After the rain, the ground was damp. The mushrooms were fresh.

"Let me."

I said. The New Love smiled. And together, we created new memories.

Ngày em nhận được học bổng ở nước ngoài, tôi có chút hụt hẫng. Tôi nhắn tin lại:

"Thì bây giờ em thích!" Em đáp, rồi để lại biểu tượng cười.

Tôi không biết nói gì. Cũng tốt, đã chia tay rồi, cứ dây dưa mãi thì bao giờ mới bước tiếp?

Ngày tiễn ra sân bay, tôi đến bên em. Căn hộ tôi đã rời đi 1 năm trước vẫn thân thuộc đến lạ. Em mang con Lắc - chú mèo của chúng tôi sang Pháp. Đó cũng là thứ kết nối tôi và em.

"Hai tuần, anh lại đón Lắc sang nhà cuối tuần nhé!" Đó là luật chúng tôi đặt ra.

Tôi nhắc nhở em mọi thứ, từ mấy thứ lặt vặt đến quần áo. Quay sang nhìn tôi, em bảo:

• Em đâu còn như ngày xưa.

Lúc ấy, tôi lại nhớ ra, rằng chúng tôi chia tay đã lâu rồi.

Chúng tôi thi thoảng liên lạc với nhau qua Facebook.

Được khoảng 2 năm từ khi chia tay chính thức, tôi quen người mới. Tình Mới có vài nét giống em. Trầm tính, thú vị. Tuy nhiên, Tình Mới sắc sảo và thực tế hơn. Điều đó khiến quan hệ của chúng tôi cân bằng.

• Em muốn đi nước ngoài. - Một lần, Tình Mới nhõng nhẽo - Mấy năm nay, em chẳng được rời khỏi thành phố.

• Thế em muốn đi đâu?

• Sang Pháp.

• Em bảo Pháp bẩn lắm còn gì?

• Em có nói thế à?

Tình Mới nhíu mày. Phút chốc, tôi chột dạ. Không, đó là người xưa nói.

• Haha, vậy anh nhầm. - Tôi nói cho qua chuyện.

Tối đó, tôi lại vào facebook người cũ. Ở Pháp, em chụp ảnh nhiều nơi. Trông người khá tươi mới. Có lẽ, em hạnh phúc.

Nửa đêm, tôi nhỏm người dậy, uống bia. Ngồi thẫn thờ trên ghế, Tình Mới đứng cạnh tôi, hắng giọng. Giật nảy, tôi hỏi khẽ:

• Anh làm em thức à?

• Ừ. Sao em ngủ được khi bồ cũ của anh gọi anh dậy nửa đêm?

Tình Mới nói đùa, rồi ngồi đối diện tôi, lấy bao thuốc, châm lửa. Đôi chân nuột nà của Tình Mới gác lên mặt bàn đầy bất cần. Trông Người Mới thật khác với Tình Cũ đầy dịu dàng năm xưa.

• Anh biết em sẽ đoán ra. - Tôi nhún vai.

• Dễ mà. Nhưng em không trách anh. Hai người quen 6 năm mà.

• Vậy là có buồn?

Tình Mới cười lớn:

• Tất nhiên. Nhưng em cũng có hội người yêu cũ. Đôi khi, anh cũng khiến em nhớ đến họ.

• Ừ. Chúng ta luôn yêu những kiểu người na ná nhau mà không hề biết.

Tôi và Tình Mới bật cười. Tình Mới thảy đọt thuốc vào gạt tàn rồi nói:

• Đời là thế. Phải đi tiếp thôi.

• Nhưng làm sao em bước tới nếu còn buồn khổ?

Tình Mới không đáp vội. Người Ấy đứng dậy, hôn lên má tôi. Trước khi bước vào phòng ngủ, Tình Mới nói:

• Sao mà quên được, nó sẽ theo anh suốt đời. Nhưng theo thời gian, nó nhẹ đi. Rồi anh sẽ quen thôi.

Tôi và Tình Mới tiếp tục yêu nhau. Sau này, chúng tôi rời đô thị, lập nghiệp ở Đà Lạt. Tình yêu của chúng tôi như bao người, đầy niềm vui và cũng lắm cãi vã.

Thi thoảng, tôi vẫn nhắn tin cho em - người cũ. Em cũng hay kể những chuyện ở Pháp. Tôi hỏi, em yêu ai chưa. Em bảo chưa.

Rồi một ngày, người cũ thổ lộ:

• Anh biết em ghét bị hỏi gì không? Rằng em sang Pháp làm gì? Em không thể nói rằng đó là cách tốt để em và anh tiếp tục đi tiếp. Em cũng không thể nói mình đặt cược tương lai vào một chuyến du học mà chẳng biết đời sẽ ra sao.

Tôi nghe em nói qua micro. Khi đó, giọng em bình tĩnh. Tôi hiểu, chúng tôi đang ở giữa đoạn đường đó. Giữa quên và nhớ. Giữa đi tiếp và ngoảnh lại.

• Ừ. - Tôi đáp - Anh cũng muốn nói mình sẽ nhớ nhau suốt đời. Nhưng rồi, mọi thứ nhẹ đi. Em sẽ yêu người mới thôi.

Đầu dây bên kia, em cười khẽ.

Chúng tôi kết thúc cuộc trò chuyện. Ra bên ngoài, tôi thấy Tình Mới đang hái nấm. Sau cơn mưa, mặt đất ẩm ướt. Nấm thật tươi.

• Để anh.

Tôi đáp. Tình Mới cười. Và chúng tôi cùng nhau tạo ra kỷ niệm mới.

Diogenes, the Cynic philosopher, was exiled from his hometown of Sinope because his father, a mint master, was accused of debasing the coinage. After his exile, he moved to Athens where he criticized many of the city's cultural conventions. He used his simple lifestyle and behavior to critique social values and institutions, which he saw as a form of "false moral currency."

Diogenes scorned the need for conventional shelter and comforts, which he believed corrupted people. Instead, he chose to sleep in a large ceramic jar and begged for food, even from inanimate statues, explaining that this prepared him for rejection. He believed that humans, with their excessive desires, have lost their simplicity and authenticity, and we could learn much from dogs, creatures that "never complicate the simple gifts of the gods." The term "Cynic" might derive from the Greek "kynikos," meaning "dog-like."

During a harsh winter, Diogenes was seen hugging bronze statues, bare-chested. A Spartan, witnessing this, asked, "Aren't you cold?" When Diogenes replied he was not, the Spartan responded, "Then what's admirable about what you're doing?"

Like the Cynics and Spartans before them, Stoics also valued hardship, albeit to a more moderate degree. Stoics argue that we should practice living in poverty or placing ourselves in difficult situations for several reasons:

1. To discover what we can live without and lessen our fear of losing these things. Seneca advised Lucilius in his letters: "Set aside a certain number of days, during which you shall be content with the scantiest and cheapest fare, wear the same clothes, and ask of yourself: 'Is this the condition that I feared?'"

2. To realize the simple pleasures from small things: a piece of bread, a bit of olive oil, a good night's sleep. These joys are just as fulfilling as lavish feasts and are easily attainable.

3. To reflect deeply on our true goals and focus on pursuing that ideal. Seneca wrote: "If you wish to turn yourself over to your mind, you must either become poor or like the poor. Training is useless if not accompanied by simplicity, and simplicity at its best is nothing other than voluntary poverty."

Here are six additional benefits of self-imposed hardship according to the Stoics:

• Appreciate and enjoy life: Valuing small things makes us cherish what we have.

• Break the chains of habit: Stepping out of comfort zones reveals hidden capabilities and reinforces inner freedom.

• Steadfast in adversity: Hardship is inevitable; prepare to face it.

• Master emotions: Pain largely comes from our perception, not the events themselves.

• Discipline: Hardship tests and builds Stoic resilience and willpower.

• Empathy and connection: Understanding others' difficulties expands compassion and connects us with less fortunate fates.

Moreover, self-imposed poverty or difficulty can offer practical benefits like weight loss, time, or money savings. Most importantly, these experiences forge a strong, resilient soul. Marcus Aurelius said, "Do not act as if you had ten thousand years to live. Death stands at your elbow." Seneca also affirmed, "Soldiers endure all kinds of hardships to conquer an enemy, so why hesitate to live austerely to liberate the mind from suffering?"

The mind - following its stubborn value system - always judges the consequences of an action (or series of actions), whether it's right or wrong, good or bad, should or should not. Like when a child hits another child, and you immediately get angry and scold them: "Why are you being so naughty, you shouldn't (aren't allowed to) do this!" But you don't take the time to be understanding, compassionate, and filled with love to truly find out what happened, about the so-called cause. Because consequences all have causes, and if there were no causes, they wouldn't have happened. But the human mind usually only judges the results; they are lazy, impatient, and impulsive, thus not willing to investigate thoroughly. To see, every process leading to a result has a reason behind it, and so, it's logical when it's happening according to the law we call cause and effect. But the mind is only focused on judging, condemning, and punishing. When you judge someone, it's also a way for the ego to think you're punishing them and they deserve it. But you don't realize that this judgment creates negative emotional consequences and an unhealthy mind for yourself. And so, when you condemn or punish, judge others, you are doing that to yourself.

Everything that happens has a cause, and therefore it's logical following the law of cause and effect. But when you see everything happening objectively, all having causes, it doesn't mean you just let things happen. If your child hits another, would you just be indifferent and let them continue hitting? It demands a serious awareness here. First, you see your child is feeling dissatisfied with the other child, and this dissatisfaction drives the behavior of hitting. Therefore, your mind no longer criticizes or condemns your child. Because you've seen the cause driving the process of creating the result, so it's unnecessary or unwise to blame a child when they are not even aware of the thoughts and behaviors they cling to are causing such undeserved consequences.

Instead of teaching children dogmas that only fill their minds with moral concepts, help the child experience what's happening inside them before, during, and after the behavior. "How did you feel before hitting your friend, how about during, and how now?" Doing so helps the child's consciousness return to itself, and see everything clearly. Meaning you're teaching them self-awareness, not filling their minds with a series of moral dogmas. Because profound change only happens when the child is willing to be aware of themselves. When they start being internally aware, positive change will happen naturally. Therefore, instead of teaching concepts, teach the child to experience the inner self practically and vividly. Teach them to feel, express those feelings objectively without any judgment. Such education would create a cognitive revolution for the whole world.

But our minds are taught to focus only on dogmas, on concepts, on what's called beautiful or ugly, good or not good, should or should not. Even those who have practiced in temples, keeping many precepts, many of them cannot resist going out, enjoying with money, or engaging in lustful behaviors. Because practice, as you call it, is the ability to quietly experience (without rejecting, opposing, or criticizing) what's truly happening. Because all that's happening in this world isn't really contradictory as you might think. They support each other, and all are opportunities for awareness. Even war isn't an issue, right? Yes, but it doesn't mean you support it, or try from the mind to oppose it. You understand why it happens. All external wars come from internal battles. When your mind fights for peace, you also create an external fight for that, and thus, all wars in this world are fought in the name of noble causes.

What you can do is help people be aware of themselves. That they have been slaves to dogmas, to concepts, to thoughts, to images, to emotions, to mental habits... They forget the important part, which is truly being aware of what they are doing. Truly being aware of what's happening in the mind, in the inner space, in words, and in behavior. To see objectively how they are driven and created externally and what consequences they leave behind.

When you teach a child that hitting a friend out of hate isn't really worth it, you must help them be aware of the consequences of clinging to negative thoughts that cause uncomfortable feelings inside them. Ask them, do you really want these hateful, uncomfortable feelings? Because our true consciousness never chooses suffering and likewise, it doesn't choose to cause suffering to others. And from then on, the child will not choose to listen to negative thoughts producing uncomfortable feelings. Help the child know how to choose (consciously choose) beautiful thoughts instead of negative ones, and help them experience that their nature is joy, not hatred or sorrow. But you'll see, our education system teaches people to think they are bad, evil, greedy, suffering is inevitable... We haven't taught children that joy is their nature. We rarely teach children to think positively, and direct those positive, peaceful thoughts inside to experience the readily available and infinite spiritual peace.

If you speak out about stopping wars, it must come from understanding, tolerance, and love. Because God doesn't blame or judge any of His children. He simply awakens them. So now, you must awaken yourself from the dogmas - the thought habits you've clung to for so long, to truly choose consciousness filled with love in everything happening, even the uncomfortable thoughts or feelings happening within you. Everything happening is to remind you that you are unconditional love.

THE THREE DISCIPLINES OF MARCUS AURELIUS

Why are we here? How should we live? How can we ensure we are doing the right thing? How can we protect ourselves from the stresses and pressures of everyday life? How should we deal with pain and misfortune? How can we live knowing that one day we will cease to exist?

All these questions can be addressed through the doctrine of Marcus Aurelius's Three Disciplines in his book "Meditations." Almost two thousand years since Marcus Aurelius penned them, "Meditations" remains one of the most profound and influential books for anyone seeking a meaningful life.

The Discipline of Perception requires us to maintain absolute objectivity in our thoughts: we view everything impartially, true to their nature.

We often label things as "good" or "bad" when in reality, they are neither. In other words, the issue doesn't lie with the events themselves but with the interpretation we place upon them. Therefore, our task is to strictly control our perception function, aiming to protect our minds from errors.

The Discipline of Action concerns our relationships with others.

Humans, according to Marcus Aurelius specifically and Stoics in general, are social animals. Marcus repeatedly states that we are made not for ourselves but for others, and our nature is fundamentally unselfish. In our relationships with others, we must work for the common good while treating each individual fairly and impartially.

The Discipline of Will, in a way, is the counterpart to the second discipline, the Discipline of Action. The Discipline of Action governs our approach to things within our control, what we do; the Discipline of Will governs our attitude toward things outside of our control, what happens to us (due to others or nature).

We control our own actions and are responsible for them. If we act wrongly, we severely harm ourselves (not others or the logos, which is important to emphasize). Conversely, things outside of our control cannot harm us. The wrong actions of a human agent (torture, theft, or other crimes) harm the perpetrator, not the victim. Natural events like fires, diseases, or death can only harm us if we choose to see them as harmful.

Are you feeling lonely because no one understands you? When you start living differently and transforming your life, some people won't like it. That's normal. You will lose friends. People you thought would always stand by you will start talking about you. They will call you crazy. They will call you boring. They will stop inviting you out.

It's similar to many of my students who, when they begin to share their professional expertise and views about their work on social media instead of just personal stories, start getting teased or judged. Friends might tease, "You've become so philosophical lately," making you feel embarrassed. Family might disagree with your choices, making you feel both worried and discouraged. Colleagues might engage in heated debates, making you doubt your abilities.

You might feel that no one understands or supports you, and many times you might want to give up.

In summary,

Personal transformation can bring a sense of loneliness. But if you can endure the short-term friction of loneliness, meaningful rewards are sure to come. You will start attracting new, dynamic people who share your vision and values into your world. People who are in tune with the energy you're emitting.

It's like daring to paint your nails red at 80, and no one around you mocks or judges you. You feel worthy and want to live your life, no matter how young or old you are. You meet new people and live in a place where no one is petty or busy judging others by appearances.

So yes, people might say you've changed... but that's precisely the point!

1. **Among the people I know, there's a young man who's very good at theory and paperwork. Every time we meet, he talks about a new project, very logically and persuasively, but he never actually starts working on it. It's all plans and projects, but no results are ever seen.**I don't like this young man and no longer hang out with him. I realized what I dislike is actually something I once did myself: talking about future projects and their feasibility without actually starting them. Ultimately, this comes from hating that trait in myself. This young man is just a mirror reflecting my own inner self, and that reflection is too clear, almost brutally direct.

2. **Today, in an MMO group, someone asked how to make 1 million VND per month for pocket money and extra income.**I read the comments and offered my opinions on three possible directions. Generally, these directions require persistence, hard work, and most importantly, TAKING ACTION.Just like how writing 1,000 analytical articles doesn't compare to actually executing a plan you've devised; all the theoretical fluff disappears, leaving only reality and results.Taking action is the simplest and shortest way to test if that direction is correct. It reminds me of myself 10-12 years ago, reading tech blogs and affiliate marketing for 2-3 years with no results.The results only came when I started doing the work: setting up a blog, writing articles, hiring SEO to target keywords for sales...

3. Similarly, there are people who analyze cases very well, and theoretically, they are correct. However, they still miss other factors:

• The market will change; if you adapt, so will your competitors.

• Emotions often outweigh logic.

• Each person is different, with different strengths. You can't apply a method that works for a good coder to someone who excels at content creation. This starts with understanding oneself: who am I, what am I good at, what are my weaknesses, what do I CHOOSE...

1. Ultimately, knowledge only has value when it's turned into action. Instead of indulging in the "illusion of knowledge," I choose to execute my plan to learn more about myself and to live true to myself.

The writer has met many people when their inward turning becomes strong, they often tend to want to be alone (a pure desire without mental struggle). It means that even though the body is sick, even though life's uncertainties happen, the soul is still comfortable with being alone, and is never miserable, never weak.

For women, they need to learn to be independent to free themselves from the thought that they need a strong shoulder. Saying that does not mean that they have to force themselves, but they need to free themselves from the false belief that they are the weaker sex. Women are often sensitive, often easily hurt, when immersing themselves in emotions triggers illusions that have become a habit within them. They often want to have the privileges of the weaker sex like men... need to take care of them, pamper them, must put them as a priority in the relationship, and by doing so, women often get angry, easily push themselves into a miserable situation, because life is never set up to satisfy that selfish desire.

During the years of being alone, there is a deep feeling that as long as the mind can be calm, can be fixed inside, then all the illusions, all the thoughts that arise when falling into difficult situations will not appear. And at this time, people will feel a calm, strong and open inner self instead of being immersed in a play of being a victim, or being pitiful. All the emotions that arise only come from the play of the mind, do not seek satisfaction there, be sober and look inside, feel the relaxation that is inherently an extremely great power. Take advantage of solitude, if the universe is giving you that reward, to go deep within, so as not to fall into complaining, into complaining, into the illusion of being a victim. One of the most important lessons of spiritual practice is not to complain. When we are attached to the image of ourselves as weaker, we often complain to others in order to gain some comfort, encouragement or attention from them. But inner strength can only be experienced when we are directly aware of pure reality, not when we seek temporary satisfaction from the mind.

The lesson I learned is that when I started studying, I often wrote a list of things to learn, the result was confusion, not knowing which lesson to start with first, leading to a situation where I didn’t finish one lesson but then jumped to another => extremely poor efficiency.

Doing one thing at a time helps to focus more, giving me the motivation to continue doing other things when I have finished task number 1.

- Tip 2: No phones and “Distraction sheet” in the classroom.

Don’t blame the phones, blame us for being addicted to social media.

Leave your phones and food out of the classroom, just have some water.

Start studying/working for 25-30 minutes (use a timer, this is the average time each person can concentrate)

Put the “Distraction sheet” next to it: while studying or working, if there is a distraction (having to hold the phone to text, call or go out to get something to eat), write those distractions on the paper. Put it aside and continue working.

When the 25-30 minutes are up, go out and comfortably do the distractions for a maximum of 15-20 minutes.

Return to the desk and continue the 25-minute cycle. If you do it continuously, you will gradually practice 4 cycles => 1 hour but extremely productive.

Effectiveness: Practice concentration by creating your own rules and motivating yourself, forcing yourself into a framework. Just go through 25 minutes of intense concentration once, you will automatically be conscious of doing it many times in the future.

- Tip 3: Make sure your study tools are complete. 

Computers, internet, books, pens, study tools, work tools, etc. must be complete, sharp, usable, and within reach. Don't let the pen run out of ink or the internet drop discourage you and lead to loss of concentration and giving up.

- Tip 4: Use your phone to record the entire learning process in time-lapse. The phone is a tool to remind yourself “focus, you are being watched”, and moreover, reviewing the entire learning process is also very interesting, we will not want to pick up the phone, turn off the camera and scroll through social networks, we are recording. So just focus.

- Tip 5: Use 1 minute to prepare mentally before starting a study session

Set a 1-minute countdown timer

Take a deep breath, exhale through your mouth, do this continuously for 10 times

Look at the piece of paper and write down the only thing you need to do in this study session

After 1 minute, start studying right away.

Effectiveness: There will be many times when we feel uninspired to study or work, this countdown timer prevents us from being distracted and procrastinating, not really starting, and sends a signal to the brain when the 60s are about to run out to wind up the spirit => start.

Drying fermented rice in Hung Yen, Vietnam 🇻🇳

Making coracle boat in Phu Yen, Vietnam 🇻🇳

**Economy:**The economy of Phú Yên focuses on agriculture, fishing and aquaculture, industry, and services, especially tourism. The province is gradually exploiting its potential for sea tourism with numerous resort and entertainment projects under development.

**Culture and History:**Phú Yên has a long history with a diverse culture reflected in historical relics, traditional festivals, and folk arts. From ancient temples to unique festivals like the Cầu Ngư Festival and the Ô Loan Lagoon Festival, Phú Yên’s culture is a harmonious blend of tradition and modernity.

**Tourism:**Phú Yên is increasingly attracting tourists with its natural beauty and unique landscapes. Some famous tourist spots include:

• Xuân Đài Bay: A beautiful bay with romantic landscapes and clear blue waters, ideal for sightseeing and water sports.

• Mũi Điện/Đại Lãnh: The easternmost point of Vietnam, where the first sunrise on the mainland is observed.

• Gành Đá Dĩa: A natural masterpiece with hexagonal rock columns stacked upon each other, creating a unique and majestic scene.

• Ô Loan Lagoon: A brackish water lagoon famous for its rich seafood, especially oysters.

• Núi Nhạn (Nhạn Mountain): With a temple at its peak, it is a symbol of Tuy Hòa city, offering panoramic views of the city and the beautiful Tuy Hòa beach.

• **Cuisine:**Phú Yên's cuisine is diverse and rich, reflecting the diversity of Vietnam's culinary culture. Some famous dishes that visitors should not miss when in Phú Yên include 'bánh canh hẹ', 'bánh xèo tôm nhảy', 'gỏi cá mai', and especially 'cơm gà Tuy Hòa' (Tuy Hòa chicken rice).

  **Transportation:**Phú Yên has a convenient transportation system with National Highway 1A running through it, and Tuy Hòa Airport connecting to major cities in the country. The North-South railway also passes through the province, facilitating movement and economic development.

  In recent years, Phú Yên has been gradually asserting its position on the Vietnamese tourism map. With continuous investment and development, Phú Yên promises to become one of the top destinations for both domestic and international tourists.