I don't know when to start. I'm afraid that others will borrow money from me. No matter how much, whether I have it or not, I am more resistant to the feeling of being borrowed. This feeling is something that excludes moral friendship. Later, I watched a short film "borrowing money" on the Internet. After introspection, I found that borrowing money is not only a problem of money, but also a problem of people. The story of borrowing money This is a short film on the Internet, mainly about a story of borrowing money. Lao ye, the boss of an enterprise, has many so-called friends in business and life. As the saying goes, it is good to have many people and many friends. Lao Ye trusts and takes care of his friends. These friends greeted Lao ye with a smile and booed him. This makes Lao Ye feel that life is still very good, life is still very good, and friends are also very good. Until one day, one of his loyal secretaries signed Lao ye a project contract document and said a loyal word against his ears. "Mr. Ye, do you think about giving such a big project to other trustworthy people? I think these friends around you come for your money." Lao Ye's face changed as soon as he heard the Secretary's words. Lao Ye is a shrewd businessman. He knows it in his heart, but he is not willing to believe it. Since someone has proposed it to him, he wants to know the truth. So the secretary gave Lao Ye an idea - to borrow money. Lao Ye released the news that he had lost a lot of money in gambling, and the company was almost unable to run. So he went to borrow money from his friends who call him brothers on weekdays. He visited every family, borrowed money by phone, and even asked for debt from those who owe him money, but the result was the same. He didn't borrow a penny. As a result, employees have to resign, lovers have to break up, and friends have to avoid. He had to go home. Unexpectedly, his mother gave him years of savings. He was moved and filled with emotion. Borrow money once and get to know someone again. Are you in a situation where you can't borrow money? Have you ever borrowed money to meet others? Is it a matter of money or people who borrow money? Psychological significance of money There are several ancient Chinese sayings called "a gentleman loves money and takes it in a proper way", "a close brother knows how to settle accounts" and "it's easy to borrow and return, and it's not difficult to borrow again". It is clear and direct, but it also contains some principles. Money, economically speaking, is valuable. It is an equivalent exchange. You can use it to buy what you want. Sociologically speaking, money represents wealth and a certain social status. However, these are not the real explanation of "borrowing money", because money has its own psychological significance. Explain money from the perspective of psychology and find that money can not only cause people's positive emotions (freedom, love, security, etc.), but also cause negative emotions (distrust, failure, inadequacy, etc.). Therefore, for people, the psychosocial significance of money is far beyond its practical economic significance. "Gentlemen love money" shows that people pursue money, and what is the purpose of people's pursuit of money? It lies in the close psychological factors between people and money - purchasing power, sense of security, love and freedom. However, it is regrettable that people will have some performances such as hypocrisy, inconsistency and lying because of money, so it is not difficult to understand that they lie when borrowing money. Moreover, there is also an important relationship between people's attitude towards money and emotion. Compared with other aspects of life, money is second only to love and work. Therefore, in the process of interpersonal communication, people will be very open to themselves and others in terms of money, and have the habit of "close brothers and clear accounts". People often associate money with emotions, which are anxiety, depression, anger, helplessness, happiness, jealousy and so on. A psychological study on people's attitude towards money found that there are five key factors in people's psychological view of money:
Power and prestige, influence others with money, and regard money as a tool to measure success;
Save time and make a sound plan for the future economic situation;
Trust, maintain a skeptical and distrustful attitude towards things related to money;
Quality, I believe that money can be exchanged for relatively high-quality products and services;
Anxiety, money is not only a source of anxiety, but also a way to avoid anxiety. Therefore, generally speaking, people still pay more attention to their money. In this way, it is not difficult to understand the meaning of "it is easy to borrow and return, and it is not difficult to borrow again". I lend it to you on the basis of love. If you want to have money, please return it to me as soon as possible, because I am afraid of anxiety and need a sense of security in my heart. Attitude towards borrowing money First of all, look at Lao ye in the story of borrowing money. His false depression makes those who have a relationship with him stay away. Borrowing money is not only a matter of face, but also a matter of psychology. Like many people, Lao Ye won't find his parents at first, because he thinks he is always helped by such a friend. So brazenly looking for it one by one, the result is to hit the wall again and again, the heart is not the taste again and again, feeling the cold and warm of the world. Leaving aside the moral level, Lao Ye actually doesn't know much about the impact of money on people's psychology. The important feeling of money is security, because it can meet people's many psychological needs. He is in danger of bankruptcy. The first feeling is that I can repay the money I lent you? His situation gives people a sense of insecurity. Naturally, very few people are willing to borrow money. In addition, many people attach great importance to money, because they are more or less worried about lack of money at a certain stage, leaving a psychological shadow. In addition, now the lack of social integrity, people are in danger, and they have lost trust with each other. Lao ye can't borrow money. In this regard, the probability is very high. Because of borrowing money, Lao ye saw a lot of things and lost some things at the same time. So, how can we treat borrowing money with a correct attitude in our life? Many people have a lot of doubts because they don't borrow money, and they also have a series of troubles in their hearts. I have a good relationship with him. Why doesn't he lend it to me? Do you treat me as a friend? Don't you believe me? Then, I can't borrow it. I don't think this person is very good. I won't contact him again. Do you have such psychological changes? Borrow money. We need to treat it rationally, whether it's the borrower or the giver. If you can't borrow it, you're uncomfortable; You borrowed it. Others are uncomfortable. So how? First of all, we need to know, "it's love to borrow from you, but it's duty not to borrow.". If someone lends you money, be grateful because others don't owe you anything, so pay it back as soon as you have money. Make others trust you. If others don't lend you, and don't sigh about people's feelings or the state of the world, it's someone else's duty. Maybe it's inconvenient for him. Secondly, if others ask you to borrow money, you need to do what you can, according to the actual situation and your heart. If you have spare money and are willing to borrow it, borrow it. If you have spare money and don't want to, don't borrow it. Don't be bound by realistic morality. Don't make yourself and others feel bad. Moreover, money has a great impact on people in both practical and psychological sense. Between borrowing and returning, we should make it clear to each other and keep our word. Finally, I would like to remind you that money is closely related to people's emotions and emotions. Borrowing money has a great impact on the mood and emotion of both parties. So don't try to test or test the people around you by borrowing money, as your chances of suffering are very high. A gentleman's friend is as light as water. Don't lose anything else because of money. Maybe others can't borrow your money, but they help you elsewhere. You know, after all, this is a material society.