01 I believe most people, like me, have read a lot of inspirational words about Jedi counterattack and adversity in books or hot articles in their circle of friends. For example, a middle-aged woman suffered from her husband's cheating, so she endured humiliation and planned a life drama of self-growth. One day, she took off her apron and made a stunning appearance, then smiled and photographed a divorce agreement. For example, Xiaobai in the office was often isolated by colleagues and bullied by leaders, so an electric shock generally awakened all the struggling cells in the body, learned to recharge and practiced internal skills hard, and finally successfully counterattacked one day, becoming the perfect benchmark for the new generation of youth. For another example, after years of spare tire, the 180 pound fat girl was finally looked at by the male God once in a while, but she was still unable to resist the goddess. She inadvertently looked back and smiled, so she decided to die and later, and finally came back one day with her small waist curled. In the male god's stunned and confused expression, she lifted her lips and left a sentence, "I'm sorry, I don't love you anymore." These stories sound inspirational and intense, so that the losers can automatically complete the role substitution in an instant, as if they have unconsciously grown the aura of the protagonist. With the arrival of tomorrow, there is surging passion and majestic hope. But the next day, when you open your eyes, you will find that life is still the same, the number of bank cards has not increased, and the atmosphere in the office is still so strange. The person you love doesn't love you anyway. No matter how passionate and ambitious you were the night before, when the sun rises again and everything returns to its original state, you still can't become that radiant Superman. 02 There is a law in this world called Pareto's law, commonly known as the 28 law. This law has been widely used in the workplace, success studies and other fields, and I believe that in the avenue of life, the 28 law will always exist. For example, you have read all the stories about the successful counter attack of 20% of the warriors in the world, but you still have an 80% chance of living a miserable life. The fact is very cruel. Many times, we must admit our ordinary, admit our ordinary, and admit that our life is likely to be unhappy. The story is always just a story. In our world, only ourselves are the protagonists. Those true and false counter attack stories can warm your heart overnight, but they can't warm the fate of this life. Therefore, I never easily believe in counter attack, nor do I think I really have that earth shaking ability. When encountering difficulties, I believe that the greatest protection I can give myself is to keep myself from deformation. It is said that the greatest virtue of life is nothing more than not forgetting one's form when one is satisfied and not deforming when one is frustrated, and the most difficult and valuable of the two is not forgetting one's form when one is satisfied. But I have different views. I think it is the most difficult for most people to be frustrated without deformation, because our life has always been full of frustration and frustration, but there has never been complacency. Nine times out of ten people are unhappy in their life. Looking around, it seems that all the people around us have difficulties. Some people are ill and have no money to cure, some have broken families and no branches to rely on, some have few gains in the workplace for many years, some have rough relationships, and marriage is not easy. But have you ever carefully observed how everyone faces life? Do people who are experiencing trouble and pain frown every day? The answer is No. You will see that although it is difficult and difficult, most people are facing it with a smile. Whether the smile is forced or from the heart, everyone is trying his best to be himself. Even if they don't have the power to change their plight, they are still kind and willing to understand. 03 For every ordinary person, keeping frustrated and not deformed is more realistic, reliable and closer to human fireworks than counter attacking life. Many years ago, there was a classmate who dropped out of school at a young age and went out to work. He finally saved some savings and married a beautiful woman. Unexpectedly, after only half a month of marriage, the bride went shopping in the city with her family wealth and never returned. Even her parents disappeared without a trace. The classmate is a simple and honest man. He went out to look for a few months, but he was disheartened and didn't get any results. But life still has to go on, no matter how many ups and downs we have to live. Simple people have a simple philosophy of life. The students borrowed money to buy a second-hand van and began to rent it locally. They went back and forth on dozens of miles of mountain roads every day and tried their best to earn money to support their family. When there were not many guests, he drove his parents out of the mountain to relax. Although the days were as plain as water, they gradually became laughing. He is the most ordinary rural guy with low culture and limited knowledge. He doesn't have enough ability to counter attack life when encountering hardships, and doesn't know how to turn around magnificently. The best choice he can do is to continue to be kind, continue to be filial, continue to earn money to support his family and continue to live a good life. Not every frustrated person can suddenly have the power to fight against the famine of life in difficulties. Such a legend only exists in novels and movies. Even if there is a successful counter attack example, it only belongs to 20% of that life. For ordinary us, nothing is more precious than being frustrated and not deformed. 04 Don't think it's easy to keep yourself when you're frustrated. There are many people who can't recover after encountering ups and downs around us. After the students were cheated by the bride, similar bridge sections appeared in the local area, but unfortunately, the same bridge section did not have the same ending. The boy in another story was cheated out of his family wealth and soon became angry. He was jailed for stealing cables, and the elderly parents outside the high wall became more desolate for the rest of his life. Confucius said in the Analects of Confucius · constitutional questions, "it is difficult to be poor without resentment, and it is easy to be rich without pride". From the perspective of poverty and wealth, I would like to extend it to mean that it is very difficult to keep sober in difficult times of life and not complain about others, but it is very easy not to be frivolous and complacent when things are going well. After all, when a person's starting point is high and everything goes well, he is more willing to be tolerant and easier to be open-minded. But if you open your eyes every day, you will have all kinds of narrow-minded entanglements, all kinds of difficulties and bitterness, but you can be kind to others and smile into every meal, flower and tree of life. What a simple mind and strong restraint can you achieve. Although we are just ordinary people, we all have extraordinary stories. Compared with those who don't know the true and false life counter attack and gorgeous turn, our self-defense and self preservation are the most extraordinary and advanced inspirations. One day, the world will gain some precious because of our non deformation. One day, we will proudly say that although we don't have many opportunities to try whether we will forget ourselves when we are proud, at least we haven't changed when we are frustrated. There are so many broken people in the world, but you and I don't. how proud and inspirational it is.