As the saying goes, "a tree needs skin, and a man needs face." It can be seen that the Chinese people attach great importance to "face". There may not be a lot of "human feelings" in life, but don't underestimate these "faces" that add up. Four years of the king of Han Dynasty. Han Xin calmed the state of Qi. Kuai Tong, a member of the state of Qi, knew that the victory or defeat of the world depended on Han Xin. He said to him, "your face is just a vassal: your back is a man of great wealth. At that time, the fate of King Liu and King Xiang was hanging in your hands. You might as well not help them and share the world with them. With your talents, many troops and a powerful state of Qi, the world will be yours in the future." Han Xin said, "the king of Han treated me with great kindness. He let me sit in his car, let me wear his clothes, and gave me his food. I heard that taking someone else's car should share the disaster of others, wearing someone else's clothes should consider their worries, eating someone else's food should swear to die to serve others, and I have deep feelings with the king of Han. How can I betray my faith for personal interests." Let's ignore that Liu Bang executed Han Xin later, but in terms of human sophistication, Liu Bang is very successful. He can make Han Xin feel guilty when he has a heart of betrayal and can't bear to do it. Being familiar with human relations, on the contrary, is to "do not do to others what you do not want". If you love face, don't hurt others' face; If you want respect, you can't ignore others. "Only state officials are allowed to set fire, and people are not allowed to light lights". Such things are not done by no one. Xiang Yu is one of them. Although he has the reputation of "overlord", he has only the habit of overlord and no style of king. He wanted to be king himself, but he didn't think that his brothers also wanted to be an official. When it was time to confer the title, the title seal was in his hand, and the edges and corners were worn, but he was still reluctant to issue it. Therefore, it is better to say that Xiang Yu lost to humanity than to Liu Bang. When you have a problem with your friend's behavior, when admonishing, you should also give your friend face. You always have to say, "you did something very well, and the effect and response were good". Then, you can use "yes", "but", "but" and so on to write articles. Everyone knows that the words behind these words are the real words to say, but the words in front must be said, because they are not lies or nonsense, but polite words to create a harmonious atmosphere. Straightforward language will sweep the face of the other party and make the other party resent you. Therefore, euphemism is indispensable. If you can't take good care of your friends and save their face, your friends will be embarrassed. Because everyone has to protect their face, such things often happen in social communication. Two people who argue often find a third party, such as you, to judge and ask you to give them a high score. At this time, in order to prevent your friendship from being hurt, you need to let them calm down their disputes and solve the problems. If you can't solve the actual problems, at least give both sides face and don't favor one over the other. This is "making things right". If it is used well, it can harmonize the atmosphere, contact feelings, eliminate misunderstandings, ease contradictions and calm down incidents. It is also conducive to dealing with embarrassment, breaking the deadlock and solving problems. Therefore, "getting round" is a social skill that people must have in interpersonal communication. Skillfully connect feelings. Find common ground. If you want two people who have deep prejudices against each other to get rid of the past, if your relatives suddenly meet someone who had a bad relationship in the past and you are present, if you participate in a negotiation as an attendant and are temporarily at an impasse... As a third party, all you need to do is contact the feelings of both sides. Try to find psychological similarities or issues of common interest between the two sides. Sometimes, a famous painting, a photo, a game of chess, a story, a joke, a proverb, a same or similar experience, and even a glass of wine and a cigarette may become topics of interest to both sides, and can become an opportunity to harmonize the atmosphere and break the deadlock. It can be seen that giving people enough face is the basis for laying a good pulse for themselves.

As the saying goes, "a tree needs skin, and a man needs face." It can be seen that the Chinese people attach great importance to "face". There may not be a lot of "human feelings" in life, but don't underestimate these "faces" that add up. Four years of the king of Han Dynasty. Han Xin calmed the state of Qi. Kuai Tong, a member of the state of Qi, knew that the victory or defeat of the world depended on Han Xin. He said to him, "your face is just a vassal: your back is a man of great wealth. At that time, the fate of King Liu and King Xiang was hanging in your hands. You might as well not help them and share the world with them. With your talents, many troops and a powerful state of Qi, the world will be yours in the future." Han Xin said, "the king of Han treated me with great kindness. He let me sit in his car, let me wear his clothes, and gave me his food. I heard that taking someone else's car should share the disaster of others, wearing someone else's clothes should consider their worries, eating someone else's food should swear to die to serve others, and I have deep feelings with the king of Han. How can I betray my faith for personal interests." Let's ignore that Liu Bang executed Han Xin later, but in terms of human sophistication, Liu Bang is very successful. He can make Han Xin feel guilty when he has a heart of betrayal and can't bear to do it. Being familiar with human relations, on the contrary, is to "do not do to others what you do not want". If you love face, don't hurt others' face; If you want respect, you can't ignore others. "Only state officials are allowed to set fire, and people are not allowed to light lights". Such things are not done by no one. Xiang Yu is one of them. Although he has the reputation of "overlord", he has only the habit of overlord and no style of king. He wanted to be king himself, but he didn't think that his brothers also wanted to be an official. When it was time to confer the title, the title seal was in his hand, and the edges and corners were worn, but he was still reluctant to issue it. Therefore, it is better to say that Xiang Yu lost to humanity than to Liu Bang. When you have a problem with your friend's behavior, when admonishing, you should also give your friend face. You always have to say, "you did something very well, and the effect and response were good". Then, you can use "yes", "but", "but" and so on to write articles. Everyone knows that the words behind these words are the real words to say, but the words in front must be said, because they are not lies or nonsense, but polite words to create a harmonious atmosphere. Straightforward language will sweep the face of the other party and make the other party resent you. Therefore, euphemism is indispensable. If you can't take good care of your friends and save their face, your friends will be embarrassed. Because everyone has to protect their face, such things often happen in social communication. Two people who argue often find a third party, such as you, to judge and ask you to give them a high score. At this time, in order to prevent your friendship from being hurt, you need to let them calm down their disputes and solve the problems. If you can't solve the actual problems, at least give both sides face and don't favor one over the other. This is "making things right". If it is used well, it can harmonize the atmosphere, contact feelings, eliminate misunderstandings, ease contradictions and calm down incidents. It is also conducive to dealing with embarrassment, breaking the deadlock and solving problems. Therefore, "getting round" is a social skill that people must have in interpersonal communication. Skillfully connect feelings. Find common ground. If you want two people who have deep prejudices against each other to get rid of the past, if your relatives suddenly meet someone who had a bad relationship in the past and you are present, if you participate in a negotiation as an attendant and are temporarily at an impasse... As a third party, all you need to do is contact the feelings of both sides. Try to find psychological similarities or issues of common interest between the two sides. Sometimes, a famous painting, a photo, a game of chess, a story, a joke, a proverb, a same or similar experience, and even a glass of wine and a cigarette may become topics of interest to both sides, and can become an opportunity to harmonize the atmosphere and break the deadlock. It can be seen that giving people enough face is the basis for laying a good pulse for themselves.