People often say that your future looks are hidden in your present efforts.

I like this sentence very much: There are never shortcuts in life. When others work silently for their dreams, it's just that you don't see it. A truly outstanding person has no time to fight with life.

Yes, truly excellent people never complain about life or make excuses for their laziness.

01 The person who likes to complain is that you are not cultivated enough

I went back to my hometown on the weekend and met Xiao Li, my middle school classmate I hadn’t seen for a long time. Without saying a word, Xiao Li began to complain to me about her husband, saying that her best friend’s husband had a luxury car and lived in a big house. Go out and play. And my husband only pays a little bit of dead wages every month, so he knows to save money, and he always bargains with the vegetable vendor boss when he buys vegetables.

Sometimes I would argue with people for a long time for a dollar, "You know what? Ah Xin, I'm really fed up." Seeing Xiao Li's disgusting expression on her husband's face, I smiled and said nothing.

Xiao Li's husband is an honest man. Apart from earning less money, he is really good to Xiao Li. I still remember when Xiaoli often said in our ears, how good her husband is to her, I wish everyone knew that she married a good husband. But now, less than two years after marriage, she began to dislike all kinds of things. In the face of Xiaoli's dislike, her husband just laughed and treated her as always.

In life, we often encounter some people with negative energy. As soon as we open our mouths, we complain about life. Even the people closest to us say it without reservation in front of outsiders. It seems that she is complaining about some trivial things in life, some details of her lover's life. Essentially, she was complaining about herself.

American spiritual teacher Will Bowen said in the book "A World Without Complaining": "The essence of complaining is actually to gain sympathy and attention, and to avoid doing what we dare not do".

A truly outstanding person never complains about life. Most people's complaints are because they are not good enough, and often your words will hide your cultivation.

02 Instead of complaining, it is better to change

When we envy others' good luck, we don't see him studying hard day and night in the library; we envy others' good figure, but we don't know that he sweats like rain in the gym.

I like actor Hu Ge very much. He became famous overnight at the age of 23. At the age of 24, he experienced a car accident, disfigurement, and rebirth. At the age of 25, he returned to the entertainment industry. Now, at the age of 33, he looks more mature and stable.

Hu Ge said: I was fortunate to be the first to find my life, but I watched another life gradually fade away; I thank God for protecting my eyes, but I couldn't claim my broken face while feeling the light.

However, the scar is not his defect, but a medal. Many people say that Li Xiaoyao is his peak and he can't go back.

He said that the skin that cannot be returned can be filled with thoughts.

I still remember that Mei Changsu in "Langya Bang" is actually Hu Ge's alter ego. He has experienced darkness, but he is still calm, clear and firm. Just as Mei Changsu said in the play: "Since I survived, I can't live in vain." Even if you are injured, you can walk out of a better life.

French writer Romain Rolland said: There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, still love life.

03 A truly excellent person has no time to tangle

Don't complain about how life is not good for you all day long. If you don't work hard, how can God bless you. On the road of life, speed is not important, what is important is endurance. A truly outstanding person has no time to struggle with choices, and can only rush forward desperately. Many things can only be understood after experience.

I really like the words of the spiritual writer Zhang Defen: There are only three things in the world: my business, his business, and God’s business. Those who complain about themselves should try to learn to accept themselves; those who complain about others should try to turn their complaints into requests; those who complain about God, please try to ask for your wishes by means of prayer.

In this way, your life will have an unimaginable change, and your life will be more beautiful and complete. I hope that by then, we will all be better versions of ourselves.

There is no one step earlier, nor one step later, just at that time, I happened to meet the best you.