Chatting with a friend's father, he turned out to be a man who had not quarreled with his wife for more than 20 years. When asked how he did it, he said it was very simple: "as long as you can be careful in getting along with each other instead of scheming." I nodded and asked, "what's the difference between heart and mind?" I think his answer is wonderful. With heart, you are not afraid of being seen through by the other party, but with heart, you are not only afraid of being seen through by the other party, but once you are seen through by the other party, you will treat him sincerely in the future, and he will think you are using heart to him. With your heart, you can make the other party trust you for a lifetime; By scheming, you can only make the other party believe you for a while. Intention is to think with affection and love, and to deal with things with goodwill and sincerity as much as possible; Scheming is to play tricks by hiding and cheating. It is to hide and hide your thoughts and behaviors that are not beautiful and beautiful by saying and doing well. Heart and heart are always interlinked, and scheming and scheming are always mutually exclusive. The ancients said that people's hearts are flesh long. Only by working hard with each other can we achieve the connection between flesh and blood and share life and death. The ancients never said that people's hearts grow up by heart. Calculating each other by heart is the most terrible and hateful. Mutual intention is to pave the way and bridge between hearts; To plan with each other is to bury a trap between hearts. The separation between husband and wife often starts with one party's scheming. Those who make good use of their scheming will never enjoy the happiness of heart to heart, nor will they reach the realm of heart for heart. Being attentive in any case is not only the confidence of love, but also the persistence of love. In front of such people, the more scheming you use, the more you show your smallness and ugliness, and the more unpopular you are. Many people who like to play tricks think that playing tricks can show their intelligence and wisdom. In fact, it is the biggest stupidity and confusion. The highest and greatest wisdom is to be attentive in any case. After tasting these words over and over again, I think that not only between husband and wife, but also between friends, colleagues and collaborators, we should get along with each other based on the principle of "intentions, not scheming". This is the great wisdom of communication.

Chatting with a friend's father, he turned out to be a man who had not quarreled with his wife for more than 20 years. When asked how he did it, he said it was very simple: "as long as you can be careful in getting along with each other instead of scheming." I nodded and asked, "what's the difference between heart and mind?" I think his answer is wonderful. With heart, you are not afraid of being seen through by the other party, but with heart, you are not only afraid of being seen through by the other party, but once you are seen through by the other party, you will treat him sincerely in the future, and he will think you are using heart to him. With your heart, you can make the other party trust you for a lifetime; By scheming, you can only make the other party believe you for a while. Intention is to think with affection and love, and to deal with things with goodwill and sincerity as much as possible; Scheming is to play tricks by hiding and cheating. It is to hide and hide your thoughts and behaviors that are not beautiful and beautiful by saying and doing well. Heart and heart are always interlinked, and scheming and scheming are always mutually exclusive. The ancients said that people's hearts are flesh long. Only by working hard with each other can we achieve the connection between flesh and blood and share life and death. The ancients never said that people's hearts grow up by heart. Calculating each other by heart is the most terrible and hateful. Mutual intention is to pave the way and bridge between hearts; To plan with each other is to bury a trap between hearts. The separation between husband and wife often starts with one party's scheming. Those who make good use of their scheming will never enjoy the happiness of heart to heart, nor will they reach the realm of heart for heart. Being attentive in any case is not only the confidence of love, but also the persistence of love. In front of such people, the more scheming you use, the more you show your smallness and ugliness, and the more unpopular you are. Many people who like to play tricks think that playing tricks can show their intelligence and wisdom. In fact, it is the biggest stupidity and confusion. The highest and greatest wisdom is to be attentive in any case. After tasting these words over and over again, I think that not only between husband and wife, but also between friends, colleagues and collaborators, we should get along with each other based on the principle of "intentions, not scheming". This is the great wisdom of communication.