Look at your history with a relieved attitude, put down the past and learn to heal yourself.

A while ago, there was a news that made people mixed up.

A blogger sent a video saying that his girlfriend was forcibly dragged away by his family because he couldn’t get 500000 bride price.

The video shows that the girl was pulled out of the house by her mother, dragged and beaten on the ground and stuffed into the car.

The blogger caught up and was beaten by the girl’s family.

He said he had been in love with his girlfriend for six years. In order to reassure his girlfriend’s family, he tried hard to buy a house and wrote his girlfriend’s name on the room book.

But I didn’t expect that when they were ready to start a family, they were still strongly opposed by their girlfriend’s family.

Unless he can give 500000 bride price, the woman’s parents can’t let the two get married.

As we all know, 500000 bride price is really a “sky high price” for an ordinary boy who works hard from rural to urban areas.

So why would the girl’s parents ask the lion for a high bride price that the man can’t afford?

Soon, an insider revealed that the girl had a brother who was about to get married, so the parents asked the girl’s boyfriend for 500000 bride price to marry his son.

Although the woman’s parents later denied this claim, saying that they wanted so many betrothal gifts, they just didn’t agree with the angry words deliberately said by the two people.

But netizens didn’t buy it, and angrily pointed out directly that no one would admit that they sold their daughter cruelly for their son’s future.

As outsiders, we don’t know what the facts are.

However, whatever the truth, there is no denying that:

There are too many girls in the world. It seems that they have been regarded by their parents as a cash cow for their brothers and brothers since they were born.

Compared with the boys in the family, they are not loved when they grow up.

In the long life to come, it’s easier to go through hardships and frustrations than others, and live bitterly and wrongly than others, because of the poison of the idea that the original family values boys over girls.

So, what happened to the girls who grew up in a son preference family?

Born in a son preference family

Ruined my marriage

Psychologist Susan fowlard once said:

“Parents’ persistent negative behaviors and emotional harm to their children in childhood will spread to the whole body and mind of their children like chemical toxins.

And the pain suffered by children will continue to deepen with growth, and even directly affect and dominate the future life. “

In other words, poisonous parents raise poisoned children.

Unfortunately, there are not a few “poisoned people” in this world who are cruelly destroyed by their parents.

My neighbor Xiao Wei is one of them.

Xiao Wei is the second in the family. She has a sister and a brother.

Since she was born, she was not treated by her parents because she was a girl. Originally, her parents wanted to give her away. Later, she didn’t find a home, so she had to stay.

After that, she became a poor person in the family whose father didn’t care and mother didn’t love.

All the fun and delicious food should be left to her brother. When she was in primary school, her grades were very good, but her parents thought it was expensive. When she was in the second grade, she let her drop out of school.

Even if his brother’s grades are poor and his family conditions are poor, his parents still try their best to provide him with schooling.

Xiaowei has been arranged by her parents to work since she was 13.

At that time, she worked in a carton factory and only had 200 yuan a month, but she had to play home for her brother to go to school.

This life lasted until she was marriageable.

Xiaowei is in love with a boy. When her parents know that, the first thing they value is not the character of the boy, but how many bride price he can give.

At that time, when the bride price in the village was generally only forty or fifty thousand, Xiao Wei’s parents asked for 120 thousand.

Because they planned to use the money to build a house for their son in their hometown, they ignored their daughter’s feelings and only thought about money.

The boy wanted to marry Xiao Wei, so his parents had to borrow everywhere and scrape up enough betrothal gifts to get married.

On her wedding day, Xiao Wei was so happy. On the one hand, she married the person she liked, on the other hand, she finally escaped from this terrible native family.

However, how can a person’s native family escape.

After marriage, Xiao Wei’s parents asked her for money for three days. Today, she lost her talking fee and asked her to pay for it. Tomorrow, she said that the electrical appliances at home were broken and asked her to pay for it.

But later she learned that every time her parents asked for money from her under various pretexts, they gave it to her brother.

Although Xiaowei collapsed in her heart, she couldn’t break off the relationship with her parents directly.

And what about Xiaowei’s husband?

At first, her husband thought that after all, she was her parents and it was common sense to give money, which showed that Xiaowei was kind and filial.

But for a long time and many times, he couldn’t watch it anymore. They kept arguing over these things.

Quarreled and finally divorced.

Sadly, Xiaowei’s parents are not distressed about her daughter after her divorce, but happy.

As if she had finally waited for a long-awaited good news, she excitedly told Xiao Wei: “it’s okay, you can remarry in the future.”.

However, this is not comfort, but they have their own small abacus in their hearts.

Because it was just the age when Xiao Wei’s brother married his daughter-in-law.

In that place, even if a girl marries for the second time, she also needs a bride price, and the bride price is almost the same as that of the first marriage.

Over the years, the bride price in my hometown has risen from the original forty-five thousand to about 200000.

So let alone how happy Xiaowei’s parents are, they can marry their daughter again and make a fortune for their son.

However, Xiao Wei dared not marry again.

She said:

“I know my blood sucking parents are bottomless.

I know that even if I enter marriage again, I will continue to divorce because of my unfortunate native family.

Maybe that’s all I can do in my life. “

When she said this, Xiao Wei’s face was full of despair, which really hurt people.

It’s hard to imagine that someone in this world has been dragged down because of their parents.

The native family values boys over girls

What impact will it have on marriage?

There is a saying: “in a patriarchal family, every time parents treat their daughter unfairly, it is like a sharp knife, which pierces into the girl’s heart. The resulting injury and pain are not for a while, but for a lifetime.”

Born in a patriarchal family, many times it is far more terrible and tragic than we think.

It’s for women

Look at your history with a relieved attitude, put down the past and learn to heal yourself.

A while ago, there was a news that made people mixed up.

A blogger sent a video saying that his girlfriend was forcibly dragged away by his family because he couldn’t get 500000 bride price.

The video shows that the girl was pulled out of the house by her mother, dragged and beaten on the ground and stuffed into the car.

The blogger caught up and was beaten by the girl’s family.

He said he had been in love with his girlfriend for six years. In order to reassure his girlfriend’s family, he tried hard to buy a house and wrote his girlfriend’s name on the room book.

But I didn’t expect that when they were ready to start a family, they were still strongly opposed by their girlfriend’s family.

Unless he can give 500000 bride price, the woman’s parents can’t let the two get married.

As we all know, 500000 bride price is really a “sky high price” for an ordinary boy who works hard from rural to urban areas.

So why would the girl’s parents ask the lion for a high bride price that the man can’t afford?

Soon, an insider revealed that the girl had a brother who was about to get married, so the parents asked the girl’s boyfriend for 500000 bride price to marry his son.

Although the woman’s parents later denied this claim, saying that they wanted so many betrothal gifts, they just didn’t agree with the angry words deliberately said by the two people.

But netizens didn’t buy it, and angrily pointed out directly that no one would admit that they sold their daughter cruelly for their son’s future.

As outsiders, we don’t know what the facts are.

However, whatever the truth, there is no denying that:

There are too many girls in the world. It seems that they have been regarded by their parents as a cash cow for their brothers and brothers since they were born.

Compared with the boys in the family, they are not loved when they grow up.

In the long life to come, it’s easier to go through hardships and frustrations than others, and live bitterly and wrongly than others, because of the poison of the idea that the original family values boys over girls.

So, what happened to the girls who grew up in a son preference family?

Born in a son preference family

Ruined my marriage

Psychologist Susan fowlard once said:

“Parents’ persistent negative behaviors and emotional harm to their children in childhood will spread to the whole body and mind of their children like chemical toxins.

And the pain suffered by children will continue to deepen with growth, and even directly affect and dominate the future life. “

In other words, poisonous parents raise poisoned children.

Unfortunately, there are not a few “poisoned people” in this world who are cruelly destroyed by their parents.

My neighbor Xiao Wei is one of them.

Xiao Wei is the second in the family. She has a sister and a brother.

Since she was born, she was not treated by her parents because she was a girl. Originally, her parents wanted to give her away. Later, she didn’t find a home, so she had to stay.

After that, she became a poor person in the family whose father didn’t care and mother didn’t love.

All the fun and delicious food should be left to her brother. When she was in primary school, her grades were very good, but her parents thought it was expensive. When she was in the second grade, she let her drop out of school.

Even if his brother’s grades are poor and his family conditions are poor, his parents still try their best to provide him with schooling.

Xiaowei has been arranged by her parents to work since she was 13.

At that time, she worked in a carton factory and only had 200 yuan a month, but she had to play home for her brother to go to school.

This life lasted until she was marriageable.

Xiaowei is in love with a boy. When her parents know that, the first thing they value is not the character of the boy, but how many bride price he can give.

At that time, when the bride price in the village was generally only forty or fifty thousand, Xiao Wei’s parents asked for 120 thousand.

Because they planned to use the money to build a house for their son in their hometown, they ignored their daughter’s feelings and only thought about money.

The boy wanted to marry Xiao Wei, so his parents had to borrow everywhere and scrape up enough betrothal gifts to get married.

On her wedding day, Xiao Wei was so happy. On the one hand, she married the person she liked, on the other hand, she finally escaped from this terrible native family.

However, how can a person’s native family escape.

After marriage, Xiao Wei’s parents asked her for money for three days. Today, she lost her talking fee and asked her to pay for it. Tomorrow, she said that the electrical appliances at home were broken and asked her to pay for it.

But later she learned that every time her parents asked for money from her under various pretexts, they gave it to her brother.

Although Xiaowei collapsed in her heart, she couldn’t break off the relationship with her parents directly.

And what about Xiaowei’s husband?

At first, her husband thought that after all, she was her parents and it was common sense to give money, which showed that Xiaowei was kind and filial.

But for a long time and many times, he couldn’t watch it anymore. They kept arguing over these things.

Quarreled and finally divorced.

Sadly, Xiaowei’s parents are not distressed about her daughter after her divorce, but happy.

As if she had finally waited for a long-awaited good news, she excitedly told Xiao Wei: “it’s okay, you can remarry in the future.”.

However, this is not comfort, but they have their own small abacus in their hearts.

Because it was just the age when Xiao Wei’s brother married his daughter-in-law.

In that place, even if a girl marries for the second time, she also needs a bride price, and the bride price is almost the same as that of the first marriage.

Over the years, the bride price in my hometown has risen from the original forty-five thousand to about 200000.

So let alone how happy Xiaowei’s parents are, they can marry their daughter again and make a fortune for their son.

However, Xiao Wei dared not marry again.

She said:

“I know my blood sucking parents are bottomless.

I know that even if I enter marriage again, I will continue to divorce because of my unfortunate native family.

Maybe that’s all I can do in my life. “

When she said this, Xiao Wei’s face was full of despair, which really hurt people.

It’s hard to imagine that someone in this world has been dragged down because of their parents.

The native family values boys over girls

What impact will it have on marriage?

There is a saying: “in a patriarchal family, every time parents treat their daughter unfairly, it is like a sharp knife, which pierces into the girl’s heart. The resulting injury and pain are not for a while, but for a lifetime.”

Born in a patriarchal family, many times it is far more terrible and tragic than we think.

It’s for women