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As a part of the society, man begins strictly when he really enters the society. Childhood, adolescence and even college, are just a member of the family, not a member of society.
Only after entering the workplace can I be an independent person in this society. Therefore, the performance after taking the job is the most important performance of a person in the society.
In the workplace, we should not only have professional knowledge and deal with various problems at work, but also pay attention to interpersonal relationships in daily work and life.
So for a lot of young white just entered the workplace, to learn a lot of things, absolutely not just in the student period to buy a few textbooks can be solved. Some people are excluded by colleagues, bullied by the boss, the more mixed worse, most of the workplace "three taboos".
Treat your colleagues as friends
Many of them will feel lonely when they first enter the workplace, so they need someone to be their friend. It's normal and common, but it's not desirable.
In the same unit or company, we are faced with fixed people who want to do well in their work and then get promoted.
However, there is a fixed number of promotions in each unit, so there will be conflicts of interests because of the competition between wolves and meat.
New people tend to get to know people who are chatty and seem extra warm, and treat them as trustworthy friends.
Not only at work, but also in life, they stick together and confide all their problems to each other without being defensive.
However, such honesty may turn out to be a weakness exposed in the competition between units later, and be taken advantage of by friends without realizing it.
There is no real friendship in the workplace, and most colleague relationships are established on the premise of mutual benefit, which conforms to the Economic Man Hypothesis in interpersonal communication.
The implication of this hypothesis is that human beings are economic animals and tend to pursue the maximization of their own interests. Therefore, the degree of intimacy between people is determined by how much benefit there is in the relationship, or how much reward the other person gives.
Two, delusional absolute fairness
A lot of new people in the workplace at the beginning of the workplace, still keep the idealization of the student days, think that as long as their efforts, there will be greater harvest.
After three or two years in the workplace, you realize that fairness doesn't exist in the workplace. Getting promoted and taken seriously in the workplace is a big science that can't be achieved only through hard work.
If you keep a fair view of things in the workplace, you will find that unpleasant things can happen all the time.
No matter how they do not understand, also can not solve the reality of the problem, it is better to relax, with a light attitude, to treat these unfair things, in order to let themselves better into the work, so as to meet their own opportunities and luck.
From the psychological analysis, we can know that people's emotions will affect the efficiency of a person to do things. If a person is stuck in a negative mood for a long time, it will be more difficult to get things done, and even become more and more negative.
If such a vicious circle is filled with work, you will lose many of your own opportunities, and the gap with your colleagues is getting bigger and bigger.
If we recognize the injustice in the workplace early, we will reduce the psychological gap in our daily work and reduce our expectations for ourselves.
So that they can better adjust their emotions, to deal with the actual problems in the work, increase their ability to deal with the work. The improvement of ability is the foundation of personal improvement in the workplace.
Often antagonize your boss
Xiao Li, a college student who has just graduated, recently met an unpleasant thing. The boss of the company told him to do a project planning, received the task of Xiao Li play their style in school, through access to the relevant information, finally finished to the boss.
Did not expect the boss is very dissatisfied, let him correct within the deadline, if not good to consider the deduction of next month's salary.
After returning home, Xiao Li thought more and more angry, that the boss is deliberately difficult for themselves, ready to the next day after the company and the boss theory.
What did not correct xiao Li sleep, then suddenly realized that the boss for their own and there is no good, must be some of their own do not conform to the idea of the boss.
So get up from the bed, looking for colleagues to the company before all kinds of planning data, according to the previous correction, the boss is very satisfied with the results, but also praised him.
The most important thing in the workplace is not to make friends, not to learn to flatter, the most important thing is to make yourself more successful in the workplace.
Learning to express their ideas according to the meaning of the leader, according to the preference of the leader, is a good job in the workplace