Depression and procrastination are common struggles that many of us face in our daily lives. Understanding the underlying causes can provide valuable insights into why these issues occur and how we can address them. Darien Leader, a well-known psychoanalyst, sheds light on the connection between our self-image and these pervasive problems. Leader explains that the most obvious triggers of depressive states in everyday life are often linked to questioning our self-image and experiencing loss. When our ideal image of being lovable is damaged, it undermines our self-confidence.

This impact becomes particularly pronounced when we begin to notice signs that the image we held of ourselves is no longer valid. For instance, failing in an area where we once saw ourselves as successful can lead to the realization that our self-perception might not be as accurate as we thought. This shift not only fosters depression but also generates significant anxiety, as the loss of our perceived self-image creates a profound sense of instability and insecurity. As we grapple with uncertainty about our self-image and abilities, it becomes deeply unsettling.

Procrastination can also stem from various internal conflicts, which manifest in everyday behaviors. For example, consider someone who needs to prepare documents for an important trip but delays until the last minute, or a person who forgets to bring his ID to a crucial exam. These instances of procrastination and forgetfulness are not merely about poor time management but are deeply rooted in internal struggles. The person may have a strong desire to go on the trip, yet an emotional attachment to his current place can make leaving feel challenging. Similarly, procrastination and forgetfulness related to the exam can serve various purposes, including avoiding the pressure of performance, fear of failure, or even the fear of success. Such actions, though they may appear trivial, are often mechanisms to cope with deeper issues related to loss and the fear of change.

Procrastination is also a way for some people—especially who has a strong desire for self-sufficiency and denies the need for others—to unconsciously desire to receive the support they do not consciously seek or cannot obtain. By delaying important tasks and responsibilities, they make themselves in need of care. They are not aware of this, but deep down, they feel a sense of deprivation and a desire for care. When anger cannot be directed towards the one who deprives them in early years of past, it turns inward and leads to something ultimately unproductive, like procrastination.

Consider, someone who procrastinates taking her important medications. The person might set aside or forget to take her medicine, despite knowing it is crucial for her health. Over time, this habit can lead to serious consequences. Initially, she might miss a dose here and there, not noticing any immediate effects. However, as she continues to delay or forget, her condition could worsen. This could lead to complications such as increased symptoms, the development of new health issues, or even hospitalization. This form of procrastination reflects a deeper emotional struggle, where people might unconsciously be seeking care or attention that they do not explicitly ask for, ultimately putting their health at risk. There is something destructive about that. It is like a version of anger turned inward.

Recognizing the deeper emotional triggers behind procrastination can help us develop better coping strategies. By addressing the underlying issues of self-image and unmet needs, we can work towards a healthier and more productive life. Understanding these dynamics not only helps in personal growth but also fosters empathy towards others facing similar challenges.