Attempting to explain the human mind and emotional world with simple equations can lead to a superficial understanding. The human psyche is incredibly complex, filled with hidden aspects, various traps, and obstacles. Therefore, we contain more complexity within ourselves than we might realize. Some people don't deny this, while others close their eyes to their own complexities. However, they who are blind to certain aspects of themselves may also be blind to those aspects in others.

At this point, the ability to be curious and surprised is crucial for a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us. Wanting to learn more about ourselves, others, and life, and exploring new things, helps us grow and develop. For example, being surprised by something about ourselves and questioning why we feel a certain way or why we act one way instead of another. Also, recognizing how unique each person is and that general rules don’t always fit is part of this journey. The complexity of relationships and human nature demands that we remain open to new learning. In the midst of this uncertainty and complexity, it’s important to keep being curious despite fear.

However, sometimes the parts of reality that are difficult to accept, both objectively and subjectively, are mentally and emotionally pushed away, and the things that trigger them are excluded from our curiosity. Psychoanalyst Bion, in his paper "Attacks on Linking," explains that everything that could force a person to confront an uncomfortable reality is expelled from his/her psyche and manifested in other objects, both living and non-living. Intolerable traits, intense emotions, envy, destructiveness, hatred, and other mental functions are among the parts that are cast out. For example, some people might claim they have never felt jealousy or envy, or even told a lie. They may also believe they are naïve to others’ intentions or see others as constantly filled with envy and hatred. Others might speak of the complexity of their thoughts, saying they can’t think clearly. When interacting with such people, one might find himself/herself contemplating everything that needs to be considered.

According to Bion, pushing away certain parts of our psyche can lead to various issues such as learning difficulties, inability to dream, problems with attention, trouble understanding and connecting ideas, difficulty organizing thoughts, lack of interest in underlying causes, and a limited capacity for curiosity. Bion suggests that losing the drive to be curious, which is essential for learning, and rejecting the structure needed to express it, can hinder normal development. He also points out that while some people may complain about their distressing mental states, they might actually be engaging in behaviors that intentionally cause these conditions. Such individuals often show little interest in understanding the causes of their problems, fail to recognize their own role, or avoid examining the possible reasons, and instead, they blame others.

Such individuals often view the human psyche through simplistic equations and accept superficial explanations as their own truth. There are many stories and expert opinions about people who have suffered from narcissistic partners on social media. In these cases, one side is labeled as the victim while the other is deemed the perpetrator, and the victim's painful experiences are analyzed through various aspects of narcissism. This approach frames the relationship as a one-sided dynamic, where one person is the subject and the other is the object, like doer and done-to. However, understanding why the person remains in such a relationship is crucial for preventing similar situations in the future. This does not mean invalidating their pain, dismissing it, blaming them, or seeing them as unjustified.

As a result, this type of mental structure can lead to serious limitations in understanding oneself and one's environment and in personal development. While the desire to be curious and explore drives us to understand ourselves and others more deeply, the loss of this desire can hinder learning processes and lead individuals to ignore the chaos within their own inner world and others'. Preserving and expanding the capacity for curiosity allows a person to lead a more conscious, open, and understanding life, which in turn can open the door to more satisfying and meaningful relationships and a more fulfilling life.