1 Realize that it is my responsibility to make myself happy, not anyone else's.

2 Explore inward, stay absolutely honest with myself, and then figure out what I really want.

3 Be ruthless, go out of your way, and don't care about saving face for what you want.

Is every step quite difficult? Many people take each step in reverse.

1 Feeling that it is the responsibility of many other people to make me happy, not my own anyway.

2 Ignoring or hiding their own desires and feelings, self-neglect and self-deception in turn.

3 do not dare to pursue what they want, left and right, can not pull the face, by a lot of actually unimportant things bound by afraid to step.