In our daily life, we often encounter embarrassing and embarrassing situations for others. How to stand up and help others is a test of a person's ability to adapt. So, in the face of the embarrassment of others on different occasions, what are the more appropriate ways to clear the siege?
Find a suitable reason to give others a step down The powerful actor Sun Honglei has a nickname "Sun Dapao", which means that he is often open-mouthed in interviews with the media and keeps breaking the news. In February 2009, Zhu Yanping, director of "Thorn Tomb", wanted to invite Sun Honglei to film. When Sun Honglei learned that the heroine was Lin Chiling, he directly said, "I don't play against a 'vase' like Lin Chiling." I didn't expect this conversation. The content was "eavesdropped" and reported by reporters, causing an uproar in public opinion. Not coincidentally, in October 2009. Sun Honglei and Lin Chiling met at a film launch conference. A good person asked Sun Honglei in front of many people: "Didn't you say that Lin Chiling is a 'vase', and you also claimed that you would not cooperate with her, why did you break your promise so quickly?" How to respond. He was silent for a moment before he stuttered: "Have I broken my promise? What's the situation? I have to calm down first and sort out my emotions..." Then he said to himself: "I'm too panicked, this question!" After two or three seconds, Sun Honglei, who had regained his senses, said decisively, "I never said this before!" This caused a lot of laughter at the scene. When Sun Honglei was embarrassed, Lin Chiling, who was standing beside her, looked very calm. She said to the reporter, "I've heard this sentence!" This answer was obviously not given to Sun Honglei. It attracted the media's "bad intentions" booing, but I didn't expect Lin Chiling to keep a hand, it turned out that the burden was still behind: "I should have heard these words in a dream, these words were deliberately put into the mouth of Big Brother Sun, I think the best answer to this question is that the two of us are sitting together now!" Lin Zhiling made a decent clearance with a coquettish voice, which made everyone present smile knowingly. . As the saying goes: You have to forgive others and forgive them. Instead of aggressively holding onto Sun Honglei's "little braid", Lin Chiling kindly denied Sun Honglei's gaffe. A nice step was laid for Honglei Sun to get out of the embarrassment decently. This not only reflects the ability to adapt to changes, but also reflects the mind of accommodating people and things. In life, everyone has a situation of "making a fool of themselves" due to gaffes and mistakes. We might as well find a suitable reason to give others a step down and subtly let others come out of their embarrassment.
1. 2. Homeopathic association concept to break the deadlock of the scene At noon one day, old man Wang, who had just recovered from a serious illness, invited his neighbors to dinner at home, thanking them for their care when he was hospitalized with sudden high blood pressure. When it was time to eat, the hostess brought a plate. Inside are several sets of wine glasses and a large handful of chopsticks. Unfortunately, the old man Wang, who was lighting a cigarette for the guests with his back on his back, turned around and knocked over the plate. It is very taboo in rural areas to break cups and bowls when entertaining guests. The faces of the hostess and the hostess suddenly turned from sunny to cloudy. The guests were also at a loss, and the scene was very embarrassing. At this time. Neighbor Liu Cheng was anxious, and while helping pick up chopsticks, he said, "Hey, brother, it's a good thing, your family will have good luck from now on." Old Man Wang was unhappy, but he didn't like to attack the guests: "The cups are broken, is it a good thing?" Everyone thought Liu Cheng was joking and looked at him puzzled. Liu Cheng pointed to the debris on the ground and said, "Look, so many wine glasses have been broken. I have to wash the wine glasses again later. This is called sorrow (cup) to joy (wash) come." He touched the chopsticks on the ground: "Chopsticks fall everywhere, happy everywhere (chopsticks fall)! This indicates that my brother will recover from this serious illness and will always be healthy and happy in the future."
1. "Okay!" These words came out. The neighbors cheered loudly and gave Liu Cheng a thumbs up. The two masters immediately turned their worries into joy, and the banquet returned to a cheerful atmosphere. Accidentally made a taboo. The scene was really embarrassing. Liu Cheng followed the idea of fragments and chopsticks on the ground. From the "cup" of the wine glass to the "sorrow" of grief. From the "washing" of washing the cups to the "joy" of happy events, and from the falling of chopsticks to "happiness", turning bad things into good things is really natural and does not reveal any traces. In a specific social situation, sometimes a certain word or behavior has a specific meaning. In the face of embarrassing situations caused by inappropriate words and deeds, as a bystander, if you can associate and extend the situation and redefine the specific meaning of certain words and deeds, you can achieve very good results. 2. Change the direction of the topic and excuse the mistakes of others Zhang Xiaowei's unit has an unwritten rule that the phone must be turned off or set to vibrate during a meeting. one day. The unit held a cadre and staff meeting. Zhang Xiaowei took out his newly bought mobile phone, and after skillfully pressed a few keys, he put it in his pocket. However, when the leader is speaking. Zhang Xiaowei's cell phone rang suddenly. Immediately, the leader's speech was interrupted, and all the eyes of the venue turned to Zhang Xiaowei, who was embarrassed and a little overwhelmed. Director Liu of the office next to him was intent on helping Zhang Xiaowei out of the siege. He had an idea and deliberately asked loudly, "Xiao Zhang, you bought this phone new, right? Is it a copycat version?" Director Liu shouted so much on this occasion. Zhang Xiaowei didn't know what medicine he was selling in the gourd, and he was even more nervous, so he lowered his head and replied in a low voice: "Yes, I bought it newly." Director Liu smiled slightly, but still said loudly: "Oh, the new copycat mobile phone, No wonder it didn't make a vibration. It seems that your proficiency is also at the level of a copycat." The people present laughed, and the leaders on the stage nodded in agreement. Zhang Xiaowei breathed a sigh of relief and glanced at Director Liu gratefully. The venue is back to normal. Zhang Xiaowei forgot to set his phone to vibrate. This mistake made him feel embarrassed in front of everyone. Director Liu did not criticize Zhang Xiaowei along the lines of everyone's ideas, but changed the subject with a timely and appropriate joke: "Your phone is not set to vibrate, it is not that you forgot or did it on purpose, but that you have returned to the phone you just bought. Unfamiliar with the operation." The unforgivable mistake of "not setting the phone to vibrate according to the regulations" was successfully transferred to the forgivable mistake of "unfamiliar with the first use", which helped Zhang Xiaowei escape from the embarrassing atmosphere .
1. Xunzi said: "Giving people to nurture. It is more important than pearls and jade." In interpersonal communication. When faced with embarrassment or embarrassment for a variety of reasons, our best approach is not to stand by and to stand up. To "help" with kindness and wisdom, flexibly and subtly help others resolve embarrassment and embarrassment, so as to create a harmonious communication environment around us.