This is an interesting post! I didn’t know you were an aromantic, but I did know you were polyamorous. So was I when we met. I’m definitely one of those who would say “it’s not just about sex” (meaning casual sex) because multiple sexual partner for the purpose of more, varied sex I would categorize as swinging, another valid lifestyle choice. I wrote a blog post on that called “Poly vs. Amory” about a decade ago from my experience in the ATX poly community. As you likely remember, it wasn’t a good one.
It’s fascinating that someone can be aromantic in my perception, and even enviable, although I’m sure it comes with its own challenges as you alluded to with the fear of not being able to reciprocate. I also experience that intensity, but both sexual attraction and romantic feelings, and it has mostly caused me nothing but trouble. So much anxiety and pain and insecurities … and danger in some cases.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. I learned something new. As always, you’re a remarkable person and a continuing inspiration.
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This is an interesting post! I didn’t know you were an aromantic, but I did know you were polyamorous. So was I when we met. I’m definitely one of those who would say “it’s not just about sex” (meaning casual sex) because multiple sexual partner for the purpose of more, varied sex I would categorize as swinging, another valid lifestyle choice. I wrote a blog post on that called “Poly vs. Amory” about a decade ago from my experience in the ATX poly community. As you likely remember, it wasn’t a good one. It’s fascinating that someone can be aromantic in my perception, and even enviable, although I’m sure it comes with its own challenges as you alluded to with the fear of not being able to reciprocate. I also experience that intensity, but both sexual attraction and romantic feelings, and it has mostly caused me nothing but trouble. So much anxiety and pain and insecurities … and danger in some cases. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. I learned something new. As always, you’re a remarkable person and a continuing inspiration.