More and more women are becoming more and more confused. Whether it is in the stage of passionate love or in the period of first marriage, how developed his language cells used to be: an hour ago he saw you eloquently talking about lovesickness, an hour later. Goodbye, you are still eloquently expressing your love... A leaf falls from your head, and he will be full of emotion and emotion like a poem; your innocuous "It's nice to have a home" sigh, he will be full of witty words Talking to you for hours... Now, what's going on? It has only been a few years since he was married, and he has become a "stuffy jar". Some people say: men are action animals. So, what is the meaning behind a man's silence? British sociologist Mark found after investigation that men speak half as much as women every day. But men also mostly use it in their circle of friends and at work, while chatting with their lover may take less than 15 minutes a day, and the amount of words used does not exceed 10%. In fact, men have many ways of being silent, each of which may be the beginning of a heart-to-heart dialogue. The premise is that you need to know what they really want to say, and then act accordingly. Use silence to protest ramble Women like to build and consolidate relationships through conversation, and at home, they like to show their leadership and express concern for men through rambles. Men don’t think so. No matter how well-spoken he is and how much he spit lotus flowers before marriage, men after marriage are more willing to directly state their specific wishes, such as “I want to go out to dinner with you tonight”, “I want to rest”, “I want to rest.” It's a meeting." However, women can't stand it anymore. The more men are like this, the more women have something to say. Many times, because of the chatter of women, the home is no different from the noisy sky outside. Men tend to be more rational than women at this time. In the face of women's rambles, he will not directly refute - it is undoubtedly dropping a bomb at home; he will not rudely scold - it will undoubtedly be a beast with half the effort. Many men are accustomed to choosing silence. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts and attitudes at the time, and on the other hand, they deliberately use silence to keep a distance from each other. Women will feel particularly hurt by this. In this regard, women often say "they have no feelings and are just cold-blooded", which is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their feelings and admiration attentively. The more a woman babbles, the farther a man will leave you. Although he is silent, a "protective wall" has been erected in his heart. Use silence to recuperate the mind and body Boys have received the "backbone" education of conquering the world, standing upright, and taking responsibility since childhood: when they become adults, no matter how helpless and tired, how difficult setbacks, how cruel blows, how heavy burdens, What a huge amount of pressure... They can't be like a woman who can vent through crying, wash away through tears, and relieve through talking. The only thing they can do is silence. Reflect in silence, recuperate in silence, gain momentum in silence, lick wounds in silence. Therefore, when a man comes home with heavy steps, when he sits on the sofa without saying a word, when he turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not be bossy, do nothing, think about things, or even talk to your ears. Maybe, he has just finished talking with a client and is exhausted, or he is facing the rubbish of his life and career, feeling hurt and tired. At this time, his silence was for recuperation, and he was reborn in silence. At this point, you might as well give him an hour to say "goodbye" to his day job, after which he may show surprising interest in any of your questions. Here is a special reminder, when a man is tired physically and mentally, if he is still interested in watching TV, then don't turn off the TV when he is watching the news broadcast, and then say with concern: "If you are tired, just rest early and watch What kind of TV?" It should be noted that most career-oriented men are more concerned about politics, and your "caring and caring" can only be counterproductive. But you can insert words of comfort in the right amount of breaks in commercials. Strategize with silence You will often find the man you are familiar with, talking and laughing, suddenly silent; the house is buzzing, but he is sitting on the sofa in a daze; you throw a string of words at him enthusiastically, but he is unaware . In fact, at this time, the silence and daze are just the appearance of the man. Maybe he is thinking of some strange ideas, or thinking about some strange questions, or something triggers his inspiration. When he entered a state of silent thinking, it was a state similar to "retreat practice". They don't want anyone to pull him out of his thinking state, let alone interrupt or disturb his "practice" in silence. If at this time, you can't help being curious, impulsive or caring, ask him this or that question, for example, what are you thinking about, tell me, and I will help you with your staff? Or do you have something to say? Did you hear my question? It's like making fun of yourself. In the eyes of men, all the caring, considerate, kind, and curious questions at this time are like buzzing flies, disturbing the tranquility. At this time, you might as well be a silent follower. And the relaxed atmosphere you provide at the right time will not only make his silence time greatly shortened, but will also make him grateful to you. Use silence to treasure privacy Sometimes, men will make up lies in emergency situations, and sometimes they will try their best to hide something, such as drinking a few bottles of beer the night before, having an affair during a business trip, just getting an extra bonus, etc. The idea of ​​men is that as long as they don't say it and women don't notice, everything will be very simple. And sometimes, a man's silence is another kind of concealment. He may think that a woman is too authoritarian, interfering with his freedom and rights, and she will even arrange his daily life authoritarian. Therefore, in order to prevent the woman from breaking the casserole and asking to the end and her transparent control and supervision of him, he chose silence. Without the pursuit of clues, his world would be much quieter. In the communication between husband and wife, if there are any taboo issues, then the emotional crisis of each other is a bit more likely. For example, when you repeatedly discuss with him the recent issues of sexual desire, lack of affection, loyalty, bonuses, etc., he is like a mirror in his heart, and he knows that if he talks too much, he will lose, but he also knows that he can't put this This kind of disgust was spoken out, and it couldn't be revealed in his expression, so he used silence to take precautions. Men are always careful and avoid exposing their weaknesses as much as possible, especially in crisis situations, men will be extremely self-closed. If the woman is nagging at this time, the man will be more angry. For sensitive topics such as past relationships and sex, men are often silent out of goodwill, because men also need a sense of security, hope to obtain protection, and dream of showing the most perfect self in front of women. Men need to pretend At the same time, male psychology researchers pointed out that the world of men is full of competition, which requires distance, masking and calculation. Men's survival faces cruel challenges unimaginable to women, and loneliness is inevitable. And women will feel that there must be many secrets hidden in men's hearts, so curiosity continues to push the depth of excavation. But to get a man to open his heart when he is silent, the first thing is to give him a sense of security that you will never take advantage of his weakness at any time. You can soothe him with that kind of fervor of a woman. You can also listen to him quietly, evaluate as objectively as possible, and work with him to find solutions. In fact, men always have a potential arrogance tendency, as long as he has enough audience, he will be very attractive, chatty, and full of interest. So, if you want to ease each other's freezing atmosphere, you might consider going to a bar or teahouse with him. Because there he can find the public that excites him. Either do something with others, such as asking someone to watch TV or go shopping. When he finds that his position that should belong to him is threatened, he will definitely come to you to break the deadlock.