Avoidant Attachment used to be one of the three major Attachment types for adults, but on the Internet today we're seeing more and more Avoidant personalities who crave love but have an extreme fear of intimacy; They seem to have a heart of stone and will run away at the first sign of love, commonly known as "flirting and running".

Want to close, but scared to death, a yu before the two did not start the love is so the end. Whenever the person that likes begins to be close to oneself, the in the mind then rings alarm, in chaos and uneasiness, a rain is unbearable burden, slip away first for wonderful.

Recently, love has returned to the door. The object of this time is a friend that Yu has known for many years.

On the third day without contact, Ah Yu was also waiting for news when she was walking. Obviously she was very busy, and she would take out her mobile phone from her pocket and have a look at it -- "If Xiao Lin were there, how wonderful it would be!" Ah Yu was startled by the idea that suddenly came to her.

"Don't you like him? He is my best friend, I may lose him completely if I fall in love with him! A beginning means an end."

Ah Yu feel the magic spell in the heart to reproduce. As a child, Yu was left behind and could only see her parents during the Spring Festival.

Each time they get together, Yu can finally enjoy the joy of her little daughter rolling around in front of her parents. This kind of happiness is uneasy, because when you start to rely on intimacy, the day of separation will also come.

From the age of 4 to 12, Ah Yu experienced such separation every year. As soon as the Fifth day of the Spring Festival was over, her parents had to leave again with their luggage. Afraid of her parents' worries, She learned to smile and wave goodbye. When they were far away, Ah Yu sat alone at the top of the stairs with her broken heart in her hands and shed tears.

"The beginning of gathering is the beginning of leaving." She understood the meaning of that sentence better than anyone else.

Yu felt that her mood was also unconsciously affected, and her plan to "escape" was repeated again - she began to search online for guidance on "the bottom of the head".

Before she could find a way, the other party's message came: "RECENTLY I went back to my hometown. I took my parents for a physical check-up. I finally got free today."

Ah Yu was calm and happy, but then she was at a loss. "Does he like me? Or just passing the time? What if I dive in, it's too dangerous!"

Yu and each other are medical workers, one in the south city, one in the north city, many years ago on an academic seminar, two people know each other. After that, they discussed some academic issues from time to time. Over time, they found that they had a lot in common with each other and became regular online friends. They often encouraged each other by saying, "Practice the virtues of medicine and keep a disciplined mind."

Suddenly taking a step forward from being friends is on the evening of Spring Festival 2021. As the clock struck midnight, they exchanged "Happy New Year" messages on wechat, wishing each other better people. Perhaps the fireworks were too loud to sleep, and they began to talk about the future.

The male student said, "I want to be free in my heart and stay true to my original aspiration in medicine." Ah Yu's idea is similar. They both want to stay in school for the postgraduate examination. "I can stay in my favorite field and travel around during summer and winter vacations."

The boy has a dream of saloon car, want to experience the local customs of every place. Ah Yu also had some strange ideas: "Me too! I want to visit the markets all over the country. The morning markets are like a museum of local life."

"Oh, I'm a plant killer, so I'll have to study harder! I love a fat Shiba inu, but if you have a big yard, you can get one? But won't the Shiba be naughty enough to tread on your flowers?"

Chatting, they seem to automatically bring each other into the future of life, as if over the top, RAIN hurriedly brake.

If I wanted to escape for the first time, I was cut off for three days. The second time, the other person suddenly moved too close. The next day, Xiao Lin from time to time will share his sky to A rain, looking at the clear day, a rain cold reply.

Usually, when she was confused about her work and life, she would talk to her partner, who would help her to enligh10 her. But what about when the other person itself becomes a source of confusion? Ah Yu felt irritable again.

She realized that escaping was a cycle that, if left unaddressed, could result in missing everyone.

She thinks of a lot of moments, he just graduated rental was almost cheated, crying to send him information; The day I was admitted by my favorite employer, the first time I sent him the notice. Sad times, happy times, he seems to be there.

Ah Yu sent him a message: "Have you ever experienced this strange feeling in a relationship..." Yu wanted to show him the little girl squatting on the stone steps watching her parents leave.

The boy also talked about the things in his heart. When he was young, his parents divorced and left him one after another, so he developed an independent character.

"Ah Yu, what you observe and feel may become an inspiration to think about what you can do in the future to better lead to happiness."

"Ah Yu, the sense of security should lie in oneself. Learn to be yourself first."

Ah Yu seems to return to the childhood of the moss covered stairs, looking at the other party sent information, crying.

From that day on, the relationship between Ah Yu and the boy seemed to have a subtle change. Every word is answered and everything is settled.

The boy has always been independent, so he has a lot of pressure not to show it. Whenever discover clue, A yu also can enlighten him patiently.

They agreed to "fix" their bodies and minds together. Go to bed early and get up early, supervise each other, give appropriate conditioning plan according to each other's physical condition, also repair each other's mind.

But nothing seems to have changed. Most of their daily communication is about business matters.

Ah Yu sometimes thinks, does he like me? But then she thinks, "It's okay if you don't like it, let it be."

Avoidant Attachment used to be one of the three major Attachment types for adults, but on the Internet today we're seeing more and more Avoidant personalities who crave love but have an extreme fear of intimacy; They seem to have a heart of stone and will run away at the first sign of love, commonly known as "flirting and running".

Want to close, but scared to death, a yu before the two did not start the love is so the end. Whenever the person that likes begins to be close to oneself, the in the mind then rings alarm, in chaos and uneasiness, a rain is unbearable burden, slip away first for wonderful.

Recently, love has returned to the door. The object of this time is a friend that Yu has known for many years.

On the third day without contact, Ah Yu was also waiting for news when she was walking. Obviously she was very busy, and she would take out her mobile phone from her pocket and have a look at it -- "If Xiao Lin were there, how wonderful it would be!" Ah Yu was startled by the idea that suddenly came to her.

"Don't you like him? He is my best friend, I may lose him completely if I fall in love with him! A beginning means an end."

Ah Yu feel the magic spell in the heart to reproduce. As a child, Yu was left behind and could only see her parents during the Spring Festival.

Each time they get together, Yu can finally enjoy the joy of her little daughter rolling around in front of her parents. This kind of happiness is uneasy, because when you start to rely on intimacy, the day of separation will also come.

From the age of 4 to 12, Ah Yu experienced such separation every year. As soon as the Fifth day of the Spring Festival was over, her parents had to leave again with their luggage. Afraid of her parents' worries, She learned to smile and wave goodbye. When they were far away, Ah Yu sat alone at the top of the stairs with her broken heart in her hands and shed tears.

"The beginning of gathering is the beginning of leaving." She understood the meaning of that sentence better than anyone else.

Yu felt that her mood was also unconsciously affected, and her plan to "escape" was repeated again - she began to search online for guidance on "the bottom of the head".

Before she could find a way, the other party's message came: "RECENTLY I went back to my hometown. I took my parents for a physical check-up. I finally got free today."

Ah Yu was calm and happy, but then she was at a loss. "Does he like me? Or just passing the time? What if I dive in, it's too dangerous!"

Yu and each other are medical workers, one in the south city, one in the north city, many years ago on an academic seminar, two people know each other. After that, they discussed some academic issues from time to time. Over time, they found that they had a lot in common with each other and became regular online friends. They often encouraged each other by saying, "Practice the virtues of medicine and keep a disciplined mind."

Suddenly taking a step forward from being friends is on the evening of Spring Festival 2021. As the clock struck midnight, they exchanged "Happy New Year" messages on wechat, wishing each other better people. Perhaps the fireworks were too loud to sleep, and they began to talk about the future.

The male student said, "I want to be free in my heart and stay true to my original aspiration in medicine." Ah Yu's idea is similar. They both want to stay in school for the postgraduate examination. "I can stay in my favorite field and travel around during summer and winter vacations."

The boy has a dream of saloon car, want to experience the local customs of every place. Ah Yu also had some strange ideas: "Me too! I want to visit the markets all over the country. The morning markets are like a museum of local life."

"Oh, I'm a plant killer, so I'll have to study harder! I love a fat Shiba inu, but if you have a big yard, you can get one? But won't the Shiba be naughty enough to tread on your flowers?"

Chatting, they seem to automatically bring each other into the future of life, as if over the top, RAIN hurriedly brake.

If I wanted to escape for the first time, I was cut off for three days. The second time, the other person suddenly moved too close. The next day, Xiao Lin from time to time will share his sky to A rain, looking at the clear day, a rain cold reply.

Usually, when she was confused about her work and life, she would talk to her partner, who would help her to enligh10 her. But what about when the other person itself becomes a source of confusion? Ah Yu felt irritable again.

She realized that escaping was a cycle that, if left unaddressed, could result in missing everyone.

She thinks of a lot of moments, he just graduated rental was almost cheated, crying to send him information; The day I was admitted by my favorite employer, the first time I sent him the notice. Sad times, happy times, he seems to be there.

Ah Yu sent him a message: "Have you ever experienced this strange feeling in a relationship..." Yu wanted to show him the little girl squatting on the stone steps watching her parents leave.

The boy also talked about the things in his heart. When he was young, his parents divorced and left him one after another, so he developed an independent character.

"Ah Yu, what you observe and feel may become an inspiration to think about what you can do in the future to better lead to happiness."

"Ah Yu, the sense of security should lie in oneself. Learn to be yourself first."

Ah Yu seems to return to the childhood of the moss covered stairs, looking at the other party sent information, crying.

From that day on, the relationship between Ah Yu and the boy seemed to have a subtle change. Every word is answered and everything is settled.

The boy has always been independent, so he has a lot of pressure not to show it. Whenever discover clue, A yu also can enlighten him patiently.

They agreed to "fix" their bodies and minds together. Go to bed early and get up early, supervise each other, give appropriate conditioning plan according to each other's physical condition, also repair each other's mind.

But nothing seems to have changed. Most of their daily communication is about business matters.

Ah Yu sometimes thinks, does he like me? But then she thinks, "It's okay if you don't like it, let it be."