working the kava bar, you meet so many people, which is expected. while working i connect and make friends and add to my family, my tribe. the kava bar is a place many, including myself, call home. these are my people. what’s not expected is someone wondering in and causing a ruckus with your feelings.

He called asking if we were open and came in talking all about crypto and what he does. he told the same story over and over. everyone knew what he did, that he had money because of it and was looking to get any girls number. this guy is a piece of work. a few weeks later he talks about his girlfriend coming to visit over the holiday. events took a turn and they broke up. he was upset, mostly because of the change of events in his life.

i was interested in someone who really wasnt worth my time. but my time with him taught me to hold my boundaries, what i wont tolerate, and how to love myself before anyone else. we spent two months together. it was a lot of fun until every week was a heavy conversation about how i dont value our time together. which was really annoying because i literally spent every bit of my free time with him. i broke up with him after he caused 2 fights during the week my sister was admitted into the hospital. i realized i dont have the energy he needs and so i wasnt being fair to him.

the day i broke up with him, i was scheduled to meet crypto boy and some kratom brewers. hes decided to open a kava bar in miami with a poker dealer who frequents the kava bar i currently work at. i get to ride along too. im learning so much, trying to absorb as much as possible. these brewers are making carbonated kratom and kava, similar to kombucha, with clean ingredients. we want their product in our bar, its the best we’ve had by far.

after the meeting, crypto boy conned me into what turned out to be our first date. del mar, on 5th. oysters and beet salad, i was convinced to get the sea bass and he got the scallops, Greek yogurt and Turkish coffee mousse for desert. this lead to a ride i was not ready for. we went to nectar lab and fiddled with my old computer, setting me up for crypto success. as we parted was i made sure to tell him i didnt want a fuck boy or a boyfriend. i remember a text he sent me, something about being rusty at all this. i brushed it off, thinking no way was this guy about to ignore what i just said. but… every night since then was adventure after adventure. i love adventures.

i was guarded, until the last 2 weeks he was here. ive been hurt and needing to focus on myself. not to mention what i had learned about him with his last relationship. flag on the field, a red flag at that. we talk a lot about real life, the deeper things people don’t like to talk about and admit to. i like to talk about those kind of things. its what really matters anyway. you understand people better that way too. i let people know my story easily so they understand me. he and i connected that way, talking about his daughter, my childhood. we became great friends, i found myself looking for him to walk through the door.

i didnt care about my chores at home or what time i made it to bed, i wanted to be amongst his energy. one night we went up to millennium brewing company, to pick up kava and kratom seltzers. that weekend we were headed to miami to check locations and meet with potential partners, so we needed products for them to sample. stopped at my house for Rocko and to pick up a cooler for the seltzers. at the stop sign, he leaned over the center console and kissed me. right on the lips. surprise! not ready, didnt even kiss back. my face was red all the way until we parked in the back lot at kava. i was anxious and asked to try that kiss again. he smirked and leaned over again. it was a really good kiss. i felt his energy and desire for me rush through my body. shit. i like this guy. the one with the red flag on the field.

miami was really fun, i felt awkward and not sure what i was doing there. we checked into the Gabriel, went to dinner. when we were in the car, he held my hand. it was sweet. the poker dealer and the jewish interested investor sat in the back, sampling the products we’re considering. his driving… we almost died at least 5 times. we ate too much food at a korean bbq. pretty cool experience! a grill built in the table and the server brought meats and sides; we made our own food. s’mores feed our inner child for dessert. crypto boy got marshmallow on his hoodie, i couldnt help but giggle. we explored the kava bars in the area. not much for competition if we build there.

i didnt want to get out of bed the next morning, i wanted to spend the day cuddling. but we were off to meet with a potential advisor.