What if children don’t like school
Some parents said during consultation that their children are unwilling to go to school and are willing to stay at home after finding an excuse recently. Some are afraid of study and examination after the beginning of school because the final examination result of last semester is not ideal; Some have been severely criticized by teachers, afraid of classmates’ jokes, and are unwilling to enter the classroom; Some are greedy for playing, just want to play games and watch TV at home, but don’t want to go to school; There are also some people who don’t handle their interpersonal relationship with their classmates well, are unhappy at school, are very depressed and don’t want to see their classmates. How can parents help their children go to school willingly?
Parents should adjust their children’s psychological state from the following aspects:
Pay attention to analyze whether the child’s learning ability is underdeveloped
Academic performance is secondary. When children’s test scores are not ideal, we should pay attention to helping children analyze whether there are deficiencies in the development of learning ability. Learning ability is reflected in skills such as calculation, reading and writing, as well as attention, movement speed and seriousness. Some children often copy wrong numbers. When reading, many words, few words and serial, the radicals of writing are reversed, the eyes are sour when reading, and they don’t like homework. At this time, parents should pay attention to whether their children have the problem of insufficient development of learning ability. In addition, problems closely related to learning ability include inattention in class, love to do small movements, distraction, procrastination in homework, playing while writing, poor consciousness, carelessness, emotional instability, etc. If you find that your child has such a problem, don’t punish your child because of his learning attitude. You should consult a psychologist and take scientific correction methods. When children are good at learning and their grades go up, they like to go to school.
Pay attention to cultivating children’s good learning habits, stimulate and protect children’s learning motivation
Children’s learning motivation is very important, but if children are often satirized, denied and frustrated, children’s self-confidence will gradually disappear, their interest in learning will decrease, and they will gradually feel tired of learning. All children are born to love learning. Parents should give more guidance and encourage children when they encounter difficulties. Don’t beat and scold, and don’t take the place of others. In particular, the affirmation of teachers is particularly important. Some parents like to read with their children, so their children have great dependence. They can’t learn without their parents’ attention. Some parents like to check their children’s homework and tell them what’s wrong. When no one checks their children in the exam, they will lose everything. Some parents like to sharpen pencils and tidy up schoolbags for their children, and don’t let their children do housework. Children won’t cherish their parents’ work. Their living ability is very poor, and they often lose things at school. If children have no control over their lives, no matter how well parents take care of them, they will be tired.
Pay attention to training children’s coordination
The training of body movement coordination ability is very important to the development of learning ability. Parents pay more attention to their children’s “learning”, but ignore their children’s “playing”. Some children can play the piano and draw, but can’t jump rope; Some children like reading, but their sports are poor. As everyone knows, the development of children’s physical movement coordination ability is closely related to attention, movement speed, reasoning ability and abstract thinking ability. For example, some children lack crawling training in infancy and do not train their sports coordination ability and practical ability in time when they grow up. After school, they have problems such as tardy homework, poor consciousness, poor reasoning test scores and unstable academic scores. Their grades begin to decline in the third grade, and then they are bored with learning and have no interest in learning. In fact, as long as children have enough “play” in sports and labor, they naturally want to learn.
Pay attention to cultivating children’s healthy mood and character
Some children have high IQ and good academic performance, but they are introverted, withdrawn, timid, not gregarious, capricious, retreat, low self-esteem, etc. parents feel that their children are honest, don’t make trouble, and very good. However, such a character will be difficult to meet the needs of modern life in the future, won’t communicate with others, won’t deal with contradictions, dare not face competition, and serious psychological diseases will appear. The key to children’s psychological problems lies in early stage, treatment and treatment
The best period for adjustment is also in the early stage. A person’s character does not take shape until he is 25, so early cultivation is very important.
If the child shows signs of psychological problems, seek the help of a psychologist in time
Some parents find that their children can’t sit still, hyperactivity, poor balance ability, poor consciousness, slow development of language ability, learning ability disorder, emotional instability and other problems when they go to kindergarten. However, parents always think that their children are small and naughty, and it’s OK to grow up. As a result, after they go to primary school, they find that many of their children’s behaviors don’t meet the requirements of the school, and it’s ineffective to punish and scold their children. In fact, parents should consult a psychologist as soon as possible and do some necessary psychological examination and targeted psychological correction.