I like Hou Dejian's song "I understand after 30". The song sings: "I understand after 30. Those who want to come will come sooner or later, and those who want to love will come later..." the lyrics of this song are very reasonable. I understand when I'm past my thirties that people will come sooner or later. For those who have experienced the vicissitudes of life, it is a kind of feeling of sadness, but for those who have experienced the vicissitudes of life, it is not a kind of feeling left in their hearts. Confucius sage said, forty without confusion. It can be seen that after 40, he has been in the world and has a clear mind. Do people really have to wait until 40 to see through the billowing world of mortals and the distractions in it? Maybe forty is a difficult time for people to mature. Only after stepping through this difficult time can they become more mature. Seriously, people begin to know the world and understand the world from the day they were born. It is really not until 40 that they gradually understand that life is like a cup of boiled water, and it is only plain and light that is true. In the boundless track of time and space, everything is relieved, what should come and go. Let everything be indifferent to the world in the artistic conception of Mingzhi, let everything be indifferent to the quiet and far-reaching artistic conception, light again, light again, light to silence When people reach 40, they are like the vigorous old clock hanging in the ancient temple, experiencing repeated impact. Confucius said, "forty don't confuse, fifty know the destiny". Bai Juyi said, "I'm thirty-nine years old and the sun is slanting at the end of the year." Du Fu said, "forty Ming Dynasty passed, and the sky soared and the twilight scene tilted." Only my mind, my spirit, my body and my knowledge belong to me. Read the vicissitudes of the years, but also enjoy the joy of harvest, pick up the memories left by that piece, and the days swim away in the casual time. I feel reluctant to part with my time, but I can't stop the passing time. Youth is enviable, but maturity is more lasting. Looking at women is no longer just like youth and beauty, but also pay more attention to maturity, serenity, nature and clarity; Pay more attention to women's mind, generosity, wisdom and kindness; Pay more attention to the connotation behind steady maturity and occasional tenderness. Men's emotions don't like to be controlled by women, especially by women who work hard at scheming. This not only loses self-esteem, but also distorts the soul. They need to communicate peacefully from heart to heart. There is no need to deliberately control the flow of high and low feelings, and there is no need to deliberately control the flow of high and low feelings. The sincere emotion of the world needs the tacit understanding of the soul, and even the spiritual exchange of letting nature take its course. The wife or husband has long seemed ordinary and even unbearable. But years have long fused each other. No matter how hard and intolerable it is, it is also a part of life. When we are together, we may not cherish it. If we separate, we will find it difficult to give up and leave. The meticulous care and doting of our children not only made us a burden, but also made our children unable to stand up for the backbone of life. When I was young, I was afraid of their suffering, suffering, wind and rain, and fear of them... There was too much fear. When they grow up, we still have to bear deep sorrow and pain for our original fear. Who's wrong? It's true that you can't see a rainbow without going through wind and rain! Family affection, friendship and even love, in fact, do not get a lot. In your spare time, think quietly about how many reliable friends and confidants you have lived for decades. Don't look at and distinguish friends from the perspective of their so-called status or official position. These so-called friends may be the most unreliable 'friends'! In addition to work, people have a broader living space. Work and position are not the only thing in life. As the saying goes: a confidant is enough in life. Maybe after thinking about it, I don't even have a confidant. How desolate my heart is. Should we often reflect on ourselves and treat others really? Be tolerant, magnanimous and benevolent. Change the truth for the truth. This is the essence of being human. Knowing that the alienation of family affection is the pain of cutting the skin, let the emotion of blood thicker than water be more kind and warm; The partner in love and marriage seems ordinary, but it can't give up in life. We should be more tolerant and concerned; Good friends in friendship appreciate each other, not use each other, and be more tolerant and considerate to each other; For the beloved confidant, more care and less greed. Life is short, happy, beautiful, fleeting; Bitter, bitter, entangled in the bottom of my heart. Understand, sober, also a little; Confused, confused, many, many, but always accompanied. Not everyone has the opportunity to enjoy some blessings. This enjoyment is the happiness of family members who accompany their parents, will enjoy the fragrant garden of peach blossoms, and preface the pleasures of family relations. After understanding this truth, they will go home more often and spend more time with their father. They will understand the loneliness in the hearts of the elderly, better understand the meaning of the ancient saying "filial piety is obedience", and feel the weight of the word "responsibility". In the whole life, you don't have to worry about more heterosexual confidants. That's the notes and wonderful chapters of your life. But to treat heterosexual confidants, we should be more caring, less greedy, more understanding and less demanding. To put emotion in a free space and treat others leniently is to treat yourself leniently; To be lenient to feelings is to be lenient to the soul. Let each other not have to bear the burden of feelings, and let the sunshine and warmth always shine and comfort the feelings of life. Friends are like fish in the water. Fish in deep water and shallow water will never walk together; Poor and rich, officials and people, grassroots and dignitaries can not become true friends, because they have different feelings about life. The key is their different hearts towards the world and nature. Even the rich and the rich, officials and officials, dignitaries and dignitaries will not become true friends, because there are interests, differences, trade-offs, priorities and concerns, and they can be divided into three, six and nine grades. The heart of earthly interest disputes blinds the true feelings, so there will be no real friendship. Sincerely thank the person who is waiting for you all your life, because he is the harbor of your life; Smile at the person you once hated, because he makes you stronger; Sincerely thank the person who once loved, because he let you know love; Thank those who betray you, and you will not understand the world; For the person you once secretly liked, because when you like him, you also want him to be happy; We should get along well with a trustworthy person. We can't meet several sincere friends or true confidants in our life. Things in the world are complex and simple. If you are simple, the world is simple. To live smartly and brilliantly is to suffer. Everything has two or more sides. Sometimes it's hard to tell right and wrong. What you like is probably what others hate and despise. The world and nature do not develop or destroy as you wish. Happiness index, completely depends on the mentality. Years of delicacies and wine preparation do not necessarily bring comfort to the soul. Between coping and hypocrisy, the final result may be an increasingly empty soul. Complacency and despair are the tragedy of life, which is far better than plain water and wanton leisure. None of us can win the race against time. "Life is short" is not an empty word. For people in their 40s, they have a lot of feelings. Face everything calmly, live self-confidence, think what you should think and do what you should do, love yourself and others. No matter when and where, you should especially cherish fate. Whether it is a passer-by in your life or a long-term confidant, it is a wonderful memory of your life‘ There are few true friends in the crowd. Please don't care about this feeling '! Don't wait until there is nothing you can do to turn up the memory of lifelong regret and regret. The hard pursuit of life is for the endless greed of "insufficient human heart, snake swallowing elephant". Farmers want to go to the city, workers want to be cadres, cadres want to be promoted and want to get rich. After promotion and wealth, they will prosper, and then they want to dominate the world and respect themselves. In the endless pursuit, he forgot the ancient sayings of "greed is like fire, if not curbed, it will start a prairie fire" and "peace is blessing". Peace is a blessing, plain is true, disaster free is a rich man, disease-free is an immortal, peace and let nature take its course. Lao Tzu said, "man follows the earth, the earth follows the heaven, the heaven follows the Tao, and the Tao follows the nature." Let nature take its course and the Tao follows nature. Suddenly understand that since everything is so simple, let everything go with nature. There is a general balance between gain and loss in life. Gain and loss are common, sad and happy. The so-called good times and good times are just the reincarnation of life years when the mountains do not turn, the water does not turn, and the clouds do not turn. History can dim the shadow of the sword and the clang of the ancient horn. Life should also look down on fame and wealth. The desolate beacon border city tells the rise and fall of history, obliterates the life journey of the yellow dust ancient road, and deduces the decline and bloom of life. At this time, understanding is the perception of life, a free and easy mentality, an open-minded outlook on life, and a detached realm. On the road of life, just like this non-stop stream, the ignorant youth who has gone through the fantasy future has gone with the wind. Beyond the vigorous youth, the fantasy of 20 years old no longer exists. Having crossed the spring of standing at the height of the sun, the 30-year-old struggle has achieved little. Now, with steady steps, we are moving forward in the growth rings of the period of no doubt, with a solemn and stirring feeling. The staggering years are gradually going away from us, which makes people feel that time waits for no man. At this time, we understand how incisive the ancient saying "if the world is tired by tomorrow, spring and autumn will come, and the veteran will come". Think about the short decades of life, just like a clear stream flowing with spring every day. The trickle, through the hills and stone cliffs, will never turn back. It gently merges into rivers, lightly into lakes, and finally into the sea containing all rivers. In the twinkling of an eye, the road of life has gone through half. Looking back, the clouds block the way home. Life is like an arrow, and there is no chance to turn back. Life at the moment is like a climber climbing halfway. Without the attractive color of peony and the overflowing fragrance of rose, only the tasteless original wild flowers are in full bloom. At this time, it is a kind of calm state of mind to enjoy the scenery along the way, whether it is a decaying grass or a few hard stones. Although there is no morning glow all over the sky, there is also a pleasant wind and faint clouds The icing on the cake is something in the world, but nothing in the world. The quality of life depends entirely on your mentality. Many times, the delicacies and cups are intertwined with exchange and even deception. It is far less leisurely and carefree than "three or five confidants sit, light tea talk home". A good friend is so simple, and a gentleman's friend is so light as water. At this time, I have a deeper and more thorough understanding of being poor in front of the street and having distant relatives in the mountains. This is true in real life. Sister-in-law a Qing in Shajiabang has already sung: laugh when you meet, and then don't think about it. As soon as you leave, the tea will be cold With the passage of years, peace has begun to erode my spirit and annihilate my soul. I no longer have the passion and anger I had when I was young, but I have more reason and maturity, more responsibility and outlook. Slowly learn to be tolerant, understand to take a step back, and understand what contentment is. Now there is no romance and impulse in their twenties and thirties. They used to be whimsical in the southeast and northwest. Now they shut out spring, summer, autumn and winter. Some just look down at the flowers and look up at the clouds