Can you clearly recognize yourself in love and know what you really need

Love, break up, fall in love again, break up again.

How long do we have to look for from happiness to depression and then to rejuvenation?

Liao Yimei said:

“In our life, it is not rare to meet love and sex. What is rare is to meet understanding.”

So, how many times do we have to fall in love to meet the person who really knows you?

Did you marry your first love?

I had some insomnia the night before yesterday and inadvertently opened the night chat live room on the music platform.

The voice of the female anchor is very good, and it is well suited to the topic she is talking about. Love is indeed a topic that women can never get around.

I read the reply and most people said “no”.

The reply from one of the listeners made me feel very interesting:

“First love is for remembering. If love and marriage are just that person from beginning to end, I was born to be a man. It’s too bad ~”

Although I think it’s a bit exaggerated to link it with being born, I agree with the word “loss”.

In my opinion, we should actually fall in love several times in our life, not only to meet the right people, but also to find and understand ourselves in love.

Who can guarantee that your first love must be the right person? The world is changing every day, and we are constantly changing. How can you ensure that it remains the same?

We are in love, but at the same time we are waiting.

Wait for what? He may be waiting for the right person in front of him, but he may be waiting for the right person to appear.

There is a lyric in “late marriage”. I think it’s a special theme——

“I never wanted to be single, but I had a hunch that I would marry later. I’m waiting for the only soul in the world.”

Although many people think it’s romantic to be able to stay with their first love all their life, how many people can stick to it in the end?

At least, none of the couples I met are the first lovers. However, as long as they can share white heads, they are the most faithful heroes in love.

However, if your first love happens to be that Mr right, you must be the darling of God. I bless you.

I don’t know if you have ever thought about a question, “why do you regret that a certain love once ended without illness?”

Deep in love, do we only see the lover in front of us, but forget to look at ourselves more?

Last month, a good friend of mine sent me a message saying that my boyfriend who had been in peace talks for three years broke up because they felt that they were becoming more and more strange to each other.

When they first fell in love, I always saw her sweet hair in the circle of friends. Every time I saw it, I thought love was a good thing. It made the girl look happy and full in front of me (not to talk about their show of love ~)

Sometimes, friends will send some insights from love and share some of their love plans on Weibo. It can be seen from many sharing that the two people have a more rational judgment on tolerance and change.

However, after a long time, no matter how loving lovers are, they will inevitably have bumps. So I will also notice from her sharing that they have bad times with each other.

Not long ago, a friend’s microblog caught my attention——

“Compromise after compromise, let us not have a complete story, nor a proper ending. We still love each other, but now choose to go back to the beginning and find ourselves.”

This sentence gave me a hunch that they were about to break up, and then they did.

The friend said: I don’t know why two people suddenly become very strange one day. Obviously, he is still him and I am still me. He is the most determined person in all my love, but…… Now I don’t know if I can meet someone more right than him.

At the end of the chat, I asked her if she believed in love. I thought she would say ‘no’. But she thought for a long time and said, “although it’s difficult, I still believe it, because the beauty in love can’t be denied.”

But she decided to love herself first. She said that love should not be painful. We should all be brave to try and make mistakes in love in order to grow up.

Don’t treat every love as the last

It has been discussed for a long time whether we should have reservations when we are in love.

Some people say that if two people love each other, they should have no reservation and give everything.

Those who disagree will say: unreserved love is consuming their vitality. Once they lose each other, they lose everything.

In fact, unreserved love is a big bet. If you are ready to pay all your money, you should also think about what you will bear after losing it?

There is such a sentence in the film “old friends of mountains and rivers”:

“Everyone can only walk with you for a while. You should be ready for him to leave at any time.”

It’s just a matter of time to leave, maybe a month, maybe a year, maybe ten days, or the last moment of your life.

Don’t take every love as the last. The shelf life of love is too short, but the shelf life of love can last into the long future.

All, you can pay all for love, but you don’t have no reservation for a love.

Because the person who is really right will not give up all of himself just for one love. He will devote his life to loving your future.

In fact, having said so much, I haven’t defined the amount of love for a long time, because there is no template for love, and there is no formula to tell you how many times you have to talk to meet the right person.

It depends on whether you can clearly recognize yourself and what you really need in love.

Love needs skills, while love needs management. When you master both skills and management, the right people may already be around you.