Life is a chicken feather, someone can always find the feeling of being loved in trivial things.

Common images of idol drama:

A pair of lovers, after many misunderstandings and obstacles, finally come together, and then grow old together and have a happy family.

But the common picture in reality is:

Two people who were very sweet at the beginning, but let the love wear away after entering the marriage, and came to the step of separation.

Some people say that such love is too cruel.

Why do two people who love each other so much lose to life in the end?

Because someone’s love is no match for the chicken feather.

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A few days ago, there was a hot search on a topic of the hit drama “Dajiang Dahe 2”: Song Yunhui proposed divorce to Cheng Kaiyan.

In the play, their relationship has reached this stage. Netizens are basically divided into two groups:

Some people think Cheng Kaiyan is always paranoid. He’s too serious. Divorce is right;

The other part could not accept such a trend, felt wronged for Cheng Kaiyan and regretted their sweet love.

Some people may not have seen the play. When song Yunhui and Cheng Kaiyan are in love, they can be said to have turned everyone over.

Their meeting can be said to be an accident. In order to “attack” the scum man for his best friend, Frank Cheng Kaiyan scolded song Yunhui and threatened to “look down on you now and look down on you in the future”.

Later, it was found that there was only a misunderstanding, and the two began a sweet love.

From a careless girl, she became cautious, reserved and shy in front of song Yunhui.

When she was suddenly proposed by song Yunhui, she had no rings and roses, only the sentence “let’s get married”, which had moved her and replied to the word “promise”.

No one expected that such a pair of two people who finally got married became strangers to each other after marriage, and finally parted ways.

If their divorce is just because of Cheng Kaiyan’s suspicion and distrust, it may be a little one-sided. As song Yunhui’s career turned out to be better, Cheng Kaiyan asked him to use his position to arrange work for her family while suspecting his cheating colleagues.

Under the accumulation of all kinds of trifles, song Yunhui finally couldn’t bear it and filed for divorce.

It’s not that song Yunhui doesn’t love Cheng Kaiyan, and it’s not because he really cheated on others, but because the chicken feathers in that place broke their fantasy of a happy marriage.

It seems that in addition to love, there are all kinds of trivial things that can not be avoided in marriage, killing the determination to grow old together.

At that time, love was true, and the commitment to go for a lifetime also came from the heart.

It’s just that some people’s love can’t beat the accumulation of trifles.

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“Thank you for appearing in my life. It’s you who complete my life and make this miserable life dazzling!”

This is what a newly married couple said to each other at the wedding.

But after 14 years of marriage, it seems that time has completely wasted this sentence.

In romantic love dramas, the wedding is the perfect ending of the male and female protagonists, but in reality, the wedding is the beginning of a new life.

In the Korean drama “confessing couple”, the hostess, like most girls, felt that she was the happiest woman in the world on the wedding day. They took each other’s hand and made a commitment to love for life.

But later in their married life, they became people who disliked each other:

The husband dislikes his wife as a yellow faced woman and never cleans up and dresses himself;

The wife dislikes that her husband can’t earn any small money, and often socializes outside and doesn’t go home;

The husband bows to the leader and is beaten by the leader. He can only hide in the car for the night for fear that his wife will find out;

When the wife’s child is ill, she can’t contact her husband who is socializing outside. She can only deal with it anxiously alone…

Finally, on the 14th anniversary of their marriage, the wife received a picture of her husband holding another woman’s hand and standing at the door of the hotel, but she didn’t know that it was taken by him to cover for the leader.

So the two finally said to each other:

Meet you, my life has become a mess, we are too unfortunate.

This is probably the most sad result of a marriage. It’s not that you don’t love, but that you are defeated by life.

Once so want to accompany a lifetime of people, but now regret not to meet.

Once I was lucky to meet you, but now it has become an unfortunate beginning.

Is it because the child is ill and can’t contact each other? Is it because the husband is suspected of cheating? Or because two people dislike each other?

In fact, it’s just that countless chicken feathers make people feel tired.

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Some people say that if love is destined to disappear, then why enter marriage?

It can only be said that when you start a relationship, you will not escape the passage of time.

No marriage can escape a chicken feather, but those who can long-term love know how to add seasoning to their feelings.

Teacher Lu Qi said:

Every hot love period is the best period for a man to treat a woman in his life, because so many desires will only appear at that time, which cannot be repeated.

So as like as two peas, you can’t ask a person to keep the same behavior when he is in love or after many years of marriage.

Women are always struggling. Why don’t you love me as much as before?

But in fact, the other party may not be out of love, but he loves you in a different way after the hot love period.

A couple who have been married for ten years and are still very loving have shared their experience. When in love, men can be said to obey her, always be gentle and considerate to her, and don’t speak loudly. After marriage, they also began to quarrel. He no longer spoiled her as before, but his feelings didn’t fade at all.

She said:

Because I know that every time after a quarrel, he will always apologize to me and often give me a little surprise. Although he no longer says those greasy sweet words, I know he is loving me with action.

Therefore, it is not only those sweet words and greetings that are love.

Before marriage, you may express your love by telling each other “I love you” over and over again;

However, after marriage, all love and non love have long been included in every bit of life.

Who said that trivial things in that place would only kill love?

Some people can live those ordinary and trivial lives full of love.

Teacher Lu Qi said