Only wish every girl can be well loved, gentle and firm.

01

Does it really love you to take you home to your parents?

Some people say that the most moving love words in the world are not that I love you, but that he says: I’ll take you home to see your parents.

There is a standard circulating on the Internet:

Whether a man loves you or not depends on whether he takes you home to see your parents.

Is this really the standard of love?

Two days ago, in teacher Lu Qi’s live studio, a fan shared her story with us.

She and her boyfriend only met in March this year. Although the boy is not very motivated in his work, he secretly asked for a lot of large gifts from her, borrowed a lot of money from her, and even urged her to have a child if she doesn’t want to have a child now.

But at the same time, the boys have always been very kind to her. They often tell jokes to make her happy, tolerate her occasional small emotions, and even don’t dislike eating the leftovers she can’t eat at all.

She thought this was love, but she vaguely felt something wrong. She didn’t know whether her boyfriend who would only provide emotional value would break up.

The biggest reason for her hesitation is that the other party took the initiative to take her to her parents.

“He took me to meet my parents. He must be responsible for our relationship. It’s rare for such a hard-working boy now. I’m really afraid of missing such a person who loves me.”

Many girls have had this illusion in love.

In fact, seeing his parents doesn’t prove that he loves you. Otherwise, if he is bad to you, you complain, can his parents break off the relationship with him?

Teacher Lu Qi said that in this era, love is defined by scum men. They define how romantic love should be, how many details love should have, and what love should do for girlfriend… Let all girls think that love should be like this.

But the only thing you don’t know is that he doesn’t love you so much, and his pleasure to you is only for purpose, either for beauty or money.

02

I once read a sentence on the Internet:

Only when you fall in love with a scum man can you feel in love.

Because you stare at a dress for more than 10 seconds, he knows to buy it and give it to you;

Because your tone is only a few degrees lower than usual, he will know that you are unhappy;

Because you have no sense of security, he knows to take you to meet relatives and friends at the beginning of the relationship;

……

Some people say that the scum man doesn’t have any problems except that he doesn’t have sincerity.

Their love is always too detailed. When they walk side by side with you, they should let you lean in. When they go out to eat, they will pull a chair for you. Although his departure makes you miserable in the end, you have really tasted the sweetness of love.

Therefore, many people go to rub their shoulders and palms, eager to try, and want to talk with slag man about a love “not for eternity, but for once”.

Some time ago, there was a very loud video in the tiktok.

A 26 year old girl in Tianjin was lovelorn for 9 days and lost 41 kilograms.

Someone wrote that: if you want a sweet love, slag man can also do it. When you are in love, you are vigorous and vigorous. After breaking up, you are extremely thin and have the best of both worlds.

I saw many girls in the comment area praying online: they want to fall in love with a scum man and lose 40 pounds.

After all, the experience of falling in love with slag man is really great, and even the after-sales service is so “perfect”.

This mood is like knowing that junk food is bad, but you still can’t control yourself to taste it.

But ask yourself, can you get away from scum man after love?

03

I have heard such a saying:

“Men treat feelings like tides. They come quickly and retreat quickly. Women treat feelings not warmly when they come. Once they invest, they sink deeper and deeper.”

When he chooses to turn around, everything you have is worthless in front of him.

Because men clearly know that love is not the whole of life.

My friend Xiaowen once fell deeply in such a relationship when he was in college.

Xiaowen is a very standard girl. She is beautiful and has good grades.

At that time, she was a senior and was preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination wholeheartedly.

At this time, she suddenly fell in love with a scum man who is famous in the whole school. Because the man usually changes his girlfriend no more than three months, and each girlfriend has a different style, so she was nicknamed “philatelic man”.

At first, when he pursued Xiaowen, Xiaowen refused.

But the boy is so considerate. Sometimes she doesn’t speak yet. With only one look in her eyes, the other party can understand her meaning.

She thought that if she missed him, she might never meet such a good person in her life.

And the boy said he was also preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination. The two people can study together and make progress together.

Then she went into it regardless.

When we persuaded her to have a heart, she didn’t know whether she was comforting us or herself.

“Good men are also easy to get bad. It’s impossible to say that one day the establishment will collapse, but the scum man can be distracted and the prodigal son will turn back.

Besides, he let me have a video chat with his parents that day. If he wasn’t sure, how could he easily introduce me to his parents? Besides, I will remind myself that I won’t fall too deep. Even if I am lovelorn, it’s no big deal. “

However, within three months, she was broken up.

Men often say that they are frustrated in love and proud in their career, but if they fall on women, they often lose their love and career.

That year, she failed in the postgraduate entrance examination and missed the school recruitment.

She didn’t regain her momentum as we expected, but quickly fell silent after graduation.

Therefore, do not overestimate your ability to control love and easily fall into a trap.

His once vowed, you think forever, will only end up as a bitter fruit for yourself to taste.

04

Teacher Lu Qi said:

Falling in love is not seeing a sea. You jump in with a “thump” and can’t even breathe. This is not falling in love, but throwing yourself into a river. You should learn to swim in the ocean of love.

Yes, love is beautiful. What you have to do is not to wait for the storm to pass and the waves to subside, but to brave the torrent and swim in it.

Finally, I wish every girl can be well loved, gentle and firm.