May you and I all stand side by side with our beloved, let frost and snow cover our heads, and see the flowers falling and clouds rolling in front of the court.

Writer Henry James once said, “the best life is a gorgeous waste.”

So is good love.

A person who loves you knows “waste”.

If you know how to waste, you will understand the true meaning of love and marriage.

Know how to “waste” time

People who love you know how to waste time.

In the variety show goodbye to love, screenwriter Wang Qiuyu is extremely stingy with his husband and wife’s time.

Wang Qiuyu stipulates that couples must not spend more than half an hour together in a day, and they must make an appointment in advance.

One autumn, his wife joined the crew with Wang Qiuyu.

Coincidentally, not far from where they were filming, there was the glittering Taihu Lake. My wife wanted to see it.

So, during the break, his wife wanted Wang Qiuyu to accompany him to Taihu Lake.

Unexpectedly, Wang Qiuyu shouted:

“Have you made an appointment in advance? It takes more than 10 minutes to walk. Aren’t you wasting my time?”

The wife did not expect that such a trivial request attracted the husband’s abuse.

She couldn’t figure it out, so she replied:

“I will never go to Taihu Lake in my life.”

After the incident, the husband’s attitude remained unchanged as usual.

Finally, the disappointed wife chose to divorce.

I’ve read a particularly heartbreaking sentence: “can a person who doesn’t even want to give you time expect TA to give you love?”

On second thought, that’s true. Those who are not willing to give you time will never have time to love you.

Netizen @ Liu Jinhua once shared a story of her own.

Once, my husband was on a temporary business trip and was away from home for several months. Because they missed each other so much, the couple made an appointment to meet in the nearest city.

Just after discussion, Liu Jinhua immediately ran to the station and bought a car sleeper ticket. After wobbling for 11 hours, it was already 1 a.m. when he arrived at his destination.

When Liu Jinhua got off the bus, she saw her husband who had been waiting in front of the bus. She wondered why her husband, who had traveled farther, arrived first.

It turned out that in order to arrive early, my husband changed to motorcycle, ferry, taxi and subway all the way.

They wasted more than ten hours to meet. But they don’t feel hard, and the wasted time has become their sweetest memory.

Writer Lin Qingxuan said: “romance is actually a waste.

Waste time eating slowly, waste time drinking tea slowly, waste time walking slowly, waste time getting old slowly. “

Know how to “waste” money

People who love you know how to waste money.

Someone said: “in the emotional communication between men and women, waste is a kind of crazy romance. Whether a person loves you or not depends on whether he is willing to waste for you.”

After marriage, the burden of life gradually becomes heavy.

In the face of daily necessities, we can always save, but we forget that a dull life also needs a sense of ceremony.

In the five languages of love, there is such a story.

A couple, in their 10th wedding anniversary, the wife was full of joy and prepared to celebrate with her husband.

Early in the morning, after the husband went out, the wife secretly ran to the bakery and ordered the cake.

In the evening, when the husband came home and saw a large box of cakes on the table, he was puzzled.

At this time, the wife ran over and said happily, “today is our 10th wedding anniversary, so I bought a cake specially. I want to be with you…”

Before the wife finished speaking, the husband directly interrupted, “Why are you wasting so much? It’s not an important thing. I don’t like to eat cake because it’s so expensive. Why waste money to buy it.”

After complaining, the wife was full of grievances and couldn’t help complaining:

“You haven’t given me a gift on any important holiday since I got married for ten years. Today, I bought a cake with kindness, but you said I wasted it.” Then he cried and turned away.

It was supposed to be a sweet and romantic day, but they parted unhappily.

Material is a necessity of life, but some money needs to be “wasted”.

For example: flowers in festivals, gifts for birthdays, and dinner on anniversaries. Although these things will add extra cost, but more importantly, it can make the daily routine of trivial things more ceremonial.

“The best way to use money is to waste it on enriching personal experiences and feelings,” said the writer Matsuura mitaro

I think so. Many good things in life are worth “wasting”.

The so-called “waste” does not need to be extravagant or make a big fuss. Luxury is the heart, rare is the deep feeling.

The little money spent for love lights up our life and awakens our love.

Such “waste”, why not?

Understand the language of “waste”

People who love you have endless conversations with you.

Zhang Jiajia said: “the comfortable relationship between people is that they can talk at any time.”

I once read a short story about Lu Xun and his lover Xu Guangping.

When they were separated, writing became the only way for them to communicate. What do they talk about in the letter?

In the eyes of ordinary people, it must be some amazing content. For example, the turbulence of the current situation and the suffering of the people; Or poetry and songs, life and philosophy.

However, in their correspondence, they mostly talk about trivial things in life.

For example, Lu Xun wrote in his letter: “since yesterday, I have stopped eating green pepper and changed to pepper. I hereby hear it. Talk again.”

Xu Guangping replied: “can’t salt be added to light dishes? It’s not a way to eat more pepper. Is it bad to buy canned subsidies? There’s always a place to buy ham, can’t you make it to eat? Don’t save money!!!”

Similar conversations abound in their letters. These letters were later included in the book of two places and became their love letter album.

“Two books” may be too plain and simple, but in the days of mutual help, what each of us needs most is these trivial and ordinary nagging?

In the variety show “wonderful flowers”, the debate in one issue is: “do you still need to say the right nonsense“

The words of debater Yang qihan moved everyone present.

He said: “most of the time, we can’t talk because we don’t know how to talk and don’t dare to talk. I can only say that you have tried your best to work harder and drink more hot water. However