In addition to the urgency of growing old, today’s era is also changing the face of love.
Producer: Binbin Youli
What is adult love like?
In addition to the sense of urgency brought by age growth, today’s background is also changing the face of love.
We always resist the fast pace, but we have to integrate into it and try to find some hope in pessimism.
Talking about mature love, I think of a very interesting film released last year - “love myth”.
Lao Bai, the hero in the film, integrates all the complexities of middle-aged life. He is divorced from his ex-wife. His son is in adolescence and has two or three old friends. His career is not warm.
Daily life is repetitive and monotonous, like washed and faded old sheets.
But at this age, he fell in love with another mature and beautiful woman, Miss Li, at first sight.
Seeing Lao Bai’s pursuit of Miss Li, you will find that the cause of love is so simple at any age:
Just for a moment, you feel connected with someone, that’s all.
At any age, people in love are so cute.
Lao Bai would dance happily because Miss Li praised his circle of friends. He chased Miss Li’s house just to give her a book and even pick up her children from school.
However, when Lao Bai got along with Miss Li for some time, he took a dangerous step - inviting Miss Li to move in with his children.
And this proposal, in exchange for Miss Li’s decisive refusal, the relationship between the two people has dropped to the freezing point.
Isn’t miss li excited? In fact, she is excited and tangled.
Even she said, “when I was young, I ate this set best.”
But at this age, she has too many concerns. So between her doubt and belief in love, she can only walk and see step by step with fear.
When the progress is suddenly accelerated and the pressure surges, she will immediately turn around and retreat.
This is more like contemporary love, because we have heard, seen and experienced too many “failure cases”. We are always full of vigilance. We quickly pull away when we disagree, and there seems to be no room for turning around.
After all, adults are best at pouring cold water on themselves. Even if they see hope, they will personally extinguish it and remind themselves not to have illusions.
Lao Bai and Miss Li kept an awkward distance from each other.
Until once, a friend of Lao Bai told a true and false love story at the dinner table, and Miss Li was also present.
The next morning after finishing the story, Lao Bai’s friend died with the memory of that love.
This matter makes everyone start to rethink. Is there really such a romantic extreme in the world that you can read the love of your life at a glance?
I don’t know if she was affected by this. After the funeral, Miss Li took the initiative to invite Lao Bai out and planned to face the relationship again.
Some people say that love myth is also “love anesthetic”. It allows people to get rid of fatigue and disappointment for a short time, and even choose to believe in love again through that impulse.
Although every adult knows how extravagant perfect love is, every sincere feeling is an opportunity for ordinary life to lead to excellence.
Maybe it’s unrealistic to let go of all your concerns, but it’s the bravest place to be willing to try again for that heart.
The fruit of love grows out of such belief and acceptance.
In fact, there are many people around us. Even if we meet the excellent people we like, we also lack the ability to really love.
In our world today, don’t be afraid of love or marriage. Anyone, both men and women, should learn to love and learn to love from love.
“Perfect standard” is the killer of love.
Maybe everyone has run through a lot of muddy water and stepped on a lot of thunder in love.
But in fact, the biggest love minefield is that we often fall in love with the trading mode of “ideal love” today.
So remember, don’t close yourself or criticize others too much, but learn to accept and tolerate the people you like, so that you can have the courage to take a step in love.
I hope everyone who believes in love can bump into the expected love.